Ajengogo:
We have been married for almost 10 years now, with 5 kids. The last child is over 2 years old. My wife used to indulge me with sex a lot. And I enjoyed every bit of it. Sometimes I indulge her a lot too. I do sometimes resist it. Same with her too. Such has been our sex life so far; which has been good enough.

However, I started noticing a lot of reluctance in her each time I approach her for sex more than a year ago now. And it is getting worse these days. Each time I demand an explanation from her, she either complains of tiredness, headache or that she is seeing her period. The surprising thing to me now is that each time I touch her breast she cringes like a person that just stepped on naked electrical wire. Not to even mention several weird nightmares I experience each time I force my way, which even against my personal principles and ethics.

Note that I don't do sex like on a daily basis. Once or twice in a week is ok for me

Our sex life is dying. I don't know what becomes of this marriage without sex. And I do really love her. Any good suggestions will be appreciated

that why Muslim marry 4 wife's,Islam is d best.

Ajengogo:
We have been married for almost 10 years now, with 5 kids. The last child is over 2 years old. My wife used to indulge me with sex a lot. And I enjoyed every bit of it. Sometimes I indulge her a lot too. I do sometimes resist it. Same with her too. Such has been our sex life so far; which has been good enough.

However, I started noticing a lot of reluctance in her each time I approach her for sex more than a year ago now. And it is getting worse these days. Each time I demand an explanation from her, she either complains of tiredness, headache or that she is seeing her period. The surprising thing to me now is that each time I touch her breast she cringes like a person that just stepped on naked electrical wire. Not to even mention several weird nightmares I experience each time I force my way, which even against my personal principles and ethics.

Note that I don't do sex like on a daily basis. Once or twice in a week is ok for me

Our sex life is dying. I don't know what becomes of this marriage without sex. And I do really love her. Any good suggestions will be appreciated

She is in love with someone else..if you monitor you will find out the truth..I said so because you said each time you touch her breast she cringes..I believe that's her weak point and most sensitive part so it can't be touched by someone she doesn't love..it happens to me that's how I got to know.

cococandy:
Is that why you are afraid?

Is that why you are derailing my post, trying to shift attention away from lesbianism and lesbians your primary constituency?

ogawisdom:


Some of you are kids talking as if your life depends on sex, what happens when she gives birth and u must abstain for 3 months for her to heal properly.

Guess u will die ndi mmadu self

Why should my take 3 months to heal

Nature has a way of regulating these things.

When a woman is menstruating, there will be no sexxx. At times, it will take longer for the man to desire her again.

When she gives birth, you won't like to touch her anytime soon as the sight of those post natal discharge will repel you.

Your wife is starving you. Chikena!

sandra50:

She is in love with someone else..if you monitor you will find out the truth..I said so because you said each time you touch her breast she cringes..I believe that's her weak point and most sensitive part so it can't be touched by someone she doesn't love..it happens to me that's how I got to know.

And she is in love with another woman who sucks that breast with reckless abandon!

yvelchstores:
Small children on this platform who are so fast to conclude that a respectable married woman is cheating on her husband, fear God and watch what you say.
Op, ask the woman what her problem is. There will be an underlying issue.

Even if there is an underlying issue is it to deny her husband sex?

Katier00:
She is approaching menopause

Now told you can't have sex again?

ogawisdom:
Sex twice a week is excessive for couple married for over 10 years. Just focus on her companionship and Target twice a month.

It's not all about sex

abegi parkwell

Forcing your way some times may be the main reason for the cringing.

Family planning and getting help may be a way out. Also are you providing for the family or your wife is hussling as much as you.

ifyalways:


After 10 years of marriage? yes it is.
Other things count eg companionship,cuddling, shared interests eg sports, discussions about long term retirement plans in bed , body warmth and shared jokes in bed.

@OP, Your youngest child is just 2. Poor woman is scared of another pregnancy plus she might be honestly tired with all the children and housekeeping.
Go with her for family planning.
Take her out on a romantic date or just pay for and send her to a spa .
Her libido is decreasing, you'd have to do more tlc, help around the house more and do more than just jumping on her if you want to get your groove on.
Stop forcing her abeg.

This is that op's wife. See as she dey talk.

dododawa1:
that why Muslim marry 4 wife's,Islam is d best.

Because of sex?

Ajengogo:
We have been married for almost 10 years now, with 5 kids. The last child is over 2 years old. My wife used to indulge me with sex a lot. And I enjoyed every bit of it. Sometimes I indulge her a lot too. I do sometimes resist it. Same with her too. Such has been our sex life so far; which has been good enough.

However, I started noticing a lot of reluctance in her each time I approach her for sex more than a year ago now. And it is getting worse these days. Each time I demand an explanation from her, she either complains of tiredness, headache or that she is seeing her period. The surprising thing to me now is that each time I touch her breast she cringes like a person that just stepped on naked electrical wire. Not to even mention several weird nightmares I experience each time I force my way, which even against my personal principles and ethics.

Note that I don't do sex like on a daily basis. Once or twice in a week is ok for me

Our sex life is dying. I don't know what becomes of this marriage without sex. And I do really love her. Any good suggestions will be appreciated

You just casually admitted to raping your wife though. This says a whole lot about you.

Oyindidi:
Because of sex?

NO,with d write up,d woman is tired of sex, while d man is still active,marry second wife will have been better than visiting ASHAWO house or FIGHTING with each other.

DateMynd44:
force yourself on her.
If she resist panel beat her body to stupor, u paid for her bride price so u can do whatever you want with her

This type of childish comment makes this forum tiring.
must you talk?

Mjones77:
ok this is what you should do, buy her something you know she likes or take her out to have fun somewhere away from the kids jst the two of you. make sure you don't mention anything to her about the sex but jst ensure she have a greet time with you. then when you are back home and about to sleep talk to her about it am sure she will open up to you on what the problem is. however if the situation persist after trying this she might be seeing someone else.

That is the last thing any man in his situation should do.
If anyone is in need of gifts, dinners and night outs, then it's him. He's the one in need of intimacy from a wife who is emotionally and physically unavailable. Never indulge bad behavior. Like @Viergeachar rightly stated, treats and benefits should only serve as a reward for good behavior, not as an incentive. You don't starve a decent man of sex and expect the best of him. To the male folks on here, let your damn voices be heard. Be it in marriage or your relationships, your needs matter just as much as hers. It should never be subservient to hers, throw your toys out the pram if you have to, but never settle for less.

Andrez123:
She's sleeping with another man.

Stop saying things ignorantly. what do you know about a woman?
you are not supposed to be commenting on issues like this cos you are still a kid

Your wife is in deep trouble because you mindset is so shallow. You really think men are the only ones working and providing for families.That poor woman maybe working, taking care of the 5 children and house chores all by herself.

apelike1:


Help in the house when he got work to do, comes back from work to feed his family, pays for the house bill, child's welfare and even the wife's welfare. And you expect him to do some house work

With this kind of mentality you and your type deserve a madman who will take care of your body by panel beating it to stupor

Useless women!

Icon79:
First question, how old is your wife? If she's 50 or younger (and healthy), then she's definitely getting it from someone else. If she's over 50 then it's probably the early stages of menopause.


O pari

Stop saying things ignorantly. what do you know about a woman?
you are not supposed to be commenting on issues like this cos you are still a kid

Hahahaha.. This is serious.. Papa Felicia comes to mind.. Eya, sorry.age also contributes too

9jawear:
My brother she has been replaced by someone else, its called the swap programme. Your wife is somewhere sleeping with another man, you are living with an impostor.

Stop saying things ignorantly. what do you know about a woman?
you are not supposed to be commenting on issues like this cos you are still a kid

Are u serious?

apelike1:
Mr Man!

Your wife is receiving another's man dicck!

if you can't do a DNA test on your children I advised you divorce your wife! I repeat divorce your so called wife.

Zoharariel:
Married for just 10years & with only 5 kids? Is that an excuse? I know women who don born 6 & 7 pikins wey still dey collect steady preeks from outside.

The spirit of my ancestors from Nibiru is telling me that your wife is collecting an alternative banana outside.

Each time you touch her breast, she cringes?

Chaiii! Yahoo Boys don reprogram & adjust the frequency & wavelength of the sensual circuits of your wife's body, thereby rendering her sexual antenna unreceptive to your electromagnetic sexual waves being transmitted through your testosterone signal.

You can't trust these Nigerian women even if they're vomiting holyghost fire through their nostrils like a locomotive train.

If I were you, I would immediately hire 2 female Private Investigators to monitor & be following her about for a month.

If dem no catch am with atleast 3 guys for 3 different hotels, then NIMROD is not my ancestor.

You should be president!

Gruvychuky:

Stop saying things ignorantly. what do you know about a woman?
you are not supposed to be commenting on issues like this cos you are still a kid

Based on the information he provided, a woman doesn't move from one extreme to another with her other half emotionally and sexually, it's either he's telling us some half truth or she's emotionally out of the relationship which means she's now interested in another man. I would say the same if the op was a woman. I would tell her that her man is sleeping with another woman.

power done change hand or will i say Toto done change owner

Buharimustgo:


Even if there is an underlying issue is it to deny her husband sex?

She's probably not doing it intentionally, she needs help, either emotional or medical
When you get married, you will understand.

Ajengogo:
We have been married for almost 10 years now, with 5 kids. The last child is over 2 years old. My wife used to indulge me with sex a lot. And I enjoyed every bit of it. Sometimes I indulge her a lot too. I do sometimes resist it. Same with her too. Such has been our sex life so far; which has been good enough.

However, I started noticing a lot of reluctance in her each time I approach her for sex more than a year ago now. And it is getting worse these days. Each time I demand an explanation from her, she either complains of tiredness, headache or that she is seeing her period. The surprising thing to me now is that each time I touch her breast she cringes like a person that just stepped on naked electrical wire. Not to even mention several weird nightmares I experience each time I force my way, which even against my personal principles and ethics.

Note that I don't do sex like on a daily basis. Once or twice in a week is ok for me

Our sex life is dying. I don't know what becomes of this marriage without sex. And I do really love her. Any good suggestions will be appreciated

Check if she's fuvcking someone outside or it might even be ur neighbour never can tell. Women i don't trust them. Na dem like sex pass na dem the thing dey sweet pass how come she come dey starve you for sex nau. Pls watch her very well. Don't say i did not tell you.

Andrez123:
Based on the information he provided, a woman doesn't move from one extreme to another with her other half emotionally and sexually, it's either he's telling us some half truth or she's emotionally out of the relationship which means she's now interested in another man. I would say the same if the op was a woman. I would tell her that her man is sleeping with another woman.

mind the way you talk about someone else's wife.
I'm a woman, I can relate well with what the woman is going through.
imagine 5children in 10years shuuuu.

sisisioge:




Thanks.

You are welcome dear, hope everything is fine with you or is there anyone looking for your troubles? don't hasitate to let me know

Is ur wife on any family planning?like implanon,sometimes it does that too,either she looses interest or the opposite.Also can be as a result to tiredness from the house chores and the stress of the children.let her take Kunu,dates and coconut mil mixed together it works wonders.

Once or twice a week is fair enough. Some men don't even do it 2ce a month. Talk to her to know what really the problem is. Maybe she doesn't want to hurt your feelings with her truth.

dododawa1:
NO,with d write up,d woman is tired of sex, while d man is still active,marry second wife will have been better than visiting ASHAWO house or FIGHTING with each other.

I get now, no be everybody get strength to marry 2 wives

Oyindidi:
I get now, no be everybody get strength to marry 2 wives

life is choice,dear.