Quinolone:
Listen brother, she is using you for the attention you give her. Right now, she holds the power in the relationship, and you can't have that now can you

What to do -

1: Don't get angry at her, its not worth it

2: Talk to other girls and have sex with them, if she gets angry, don't say anything,other than you have needs and you need to do something about them

3: If she threatens to leave or is angry or jealous, let her leave, this is a power move, and its extremely manipulative

4: When she sees that you don't care less, she would come back, this time, you have the power and can set the rules

Note: Don't rub it in her face that you are seeing other girls, it will only make you look childish

Remember a relationship is a two way thing, if you want to be intimate with her and she doesn't want that, you're free to go, and so is she, you guys simply don't fufuil each other's needs


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crispyJ:

Bro it's no big deal.
My first relationship lasted for 2yrs plus, we only held hands and the worst she did was peck kiss my hands or we side hugged, although it was my first relationship and i vowed to myself not to have sex before marriage.
Same thing now have dating another girl since last year February, at worst we side hug or hold hands while working, funny part she makes sure i don't even go as far as having any other girls contact on my phone, she goes through my contact every time we meet, and because of me she stopped to chat with the boys in her class, best part is we have this telepathic feelings for each other right now..

CyberWolf:
Is she a virgin? I hope you goes through her phone too? .. Stay woke bro, women ain’t loyal

stanliwise:
you should have asked if she was cheating on OP and not if she is a virgin.
you didn't ask if OP is a virgin. sexism and African na like 5&6. All of una wan marry virgin yet una no be virgin.... SMH

CyberWolf:
the person I quoted is not the OP .. learn how to mind your business.

badadvice:
I will advise you dont end the relationship.
Instead, shower her with enough gifts, expensive gifts like a phone, large sum of money, car, land, etc, and wait patiently till she finally sees how much you love her and agrees to give you the cookie.
Patience while providing for all or almost all her financial needs is the key!!

BobbyJayAms:
my papa no be dangote or adelleke.

PrinceBBlack:
Dont end it... make it reciropcal... dont involve finances with her too.

stanliwise:
It doesn't change anything atleast what I said fit perfectly in the context.
And BTW I have all the right to quote you anyday and any time I see fit else seun would have deactivated quote for your post.

badadvice:
I will advise you dont end the relationship.
Instead, shower her with enough gifts, expensive gifts like a phone, large sum of money, car, land, etc, and wait patiently till she finally sees how much you love her and agrees to give you the cookie.
Patience while providing for all or almost all her financial needs is the key!!

badadvice:
I will advise you dont end the relationship.
Instead, shower her with enough gifts, expensive gifts like a phone, large sum of money, car, land, etc, and wait patiently till she finally sees how much you love her and agrees to give you the cookie.
Patience while providing for all or almost all her financial needs is the key!!

Prezdo:
Guy relationship nor be joke. You wan form holy holy give her? Tight your face and let her know say you nor fit cope again. Finally bro I advice you to work on her intelligence as a sharp guy and collect Your Own share of the national cake. Last last one mumu fit dey press her remote for one side. Be wise, your own joy and happiness come first....

CyberWolf:
Go fvck yourself ..

OneCorner:
Don’t end it, she’s a virtuous woman

ozoebuka1:
Bros create whatsapp group joor, you are full of wisdom

adekalumichael:
Relationship is not meant for selfish interest;sex is one of such.
Why you still stick to her is because she has not given in to your pressure for sex.
Even when you talk with other girls, you still uphold her to a high esteem. Once you have sex with someone you never married to, aside that it's a sin, you won't value her anymore.

adekalumichael:
Relationship is not meant for selfish interest;sex is one of such.
Why you still stick to her is because she has not given in to your pressure for sex.
Even when you talk with other girls, you still uphold her to a high esteem. Once you have sex with someone you never married to, aside that it's a sin, you won't value her anymore.

crispyJ:

Bro it's no big deal.
My first relationship lasted for 2yrs plus, we only held hands and the worst she did was peck kiss my hands or we side hugged, although it was my first relationship and i vowed to myself not to have sex before marriage.
Same thing now have dating another girl since last year February, at worst we side hug or hold hands while working, funny part she makes sure i don't even go as far as having any other girls contact on my phone, she goes through my contact every time we meet, and because of me she stopped to chat with the boys in her class, best part is we have this telepathic feelings for each other right now..

Quinolone:
Listen brother, she is using you for the attention you give her. Right now, she holds the power in the relationship, and you can't have that now can you

What to do -

1: Don't get angry at her, its not worth it

2: Talk to other girls and have sex with them, if she gets angry, don't say anything,other than you have needs and you need to do something about them

3: If she threatens to leave or is angry or jealous, let her leave, this is a power move, and its extremely manipulative

4: When she sees that you don't care less, she would come back, this time, you have the power and can set the rules

Note: Don't rub it in her face that you are seeing other girls, it will only make you look childish

Remember a relationship is a two way thing, if you want to be intimate with her and she doesn't want that, you're free to go, and so is she, you guys simply don't fufuil each other's needs


if you want more advice, follow me

XTHRONE:


No sir, it is not after sex it is about the woman character as time move on, once a woman have sex with a man, she talks to him the way she wants with the mindset she already know him after all I ve seen everything in him. , it is when she start displaying pugnacious attitude that is when a man start losing respect for such woman, if she respects him, he will reciprocate accept he is a fool.Respect is reciprocal.

Quinolone:
Listen brother, she is using you for the attention you give her. Right now, she holds the power in the relationship, and you can't have that now can you

What to do -

1: Don't get angry at her, its not worth it

2: Talk to other girls and have sex with them, if she gets angry, don't say anything,other than you have needs and you need to do something about them

3: If she threatens to leave or is angry or jealous, let her leave, this is a power move, and its extremely manipulative

4: When she sees that you don't care less, she would come back, this time, you have the power and can set the rules

Note: Don't rub it in her face that you are seeing other girls, it will only make you look childish

Remember a relationship is a two way thing, if you want to be intimate with her and she doesn't want that, you're free to go, and so is she, you guys simply don't fufuil each other's needs


if you want more advice, follow me

stanliwise:
The old lies we men have used to deceive ourselves for long is the same lies you're preaching here. A typical African man wants to marry a virgin but does not want to be a virgin himself.... period.

crispyJ:

Bro it's no big deal.
My first relationship lasted for 2yrs plus, we only held hands and the worst she did was peck kiss my hands or we side hugged, although it was my first relationship and i vowed to myself not to have sex before marriage.
Same thing now have dating another girl since last year February, at worst we side hug or hold hands while working, funny part she makes sure i don't even go as far as having any other girls contact on my phone, she goes through my contact every time we meet, and because of me she stopped to chat with the boys in her class, best part is we have this telepathic feelings for each other right now..

XTHRONE:


Have you asked your self why they say, the beauty of a woman is her character, if that is her beauty will you discard a beautiful stuff, virginity is also a beauty because it takes discipline and character to be a virgin unlike a hoe ask your self why people divorce in Marriages , it all boil down to one thing, Character ...your actitude determines your altitude. I tell you, if you marry a virgin and after wards she start talking to you like you are no body, bro u will be forced to react accept u ate a sissy. A man want respect, a woman want care, remove this two in a rtship, that rtship is dead and buried.

stanliwise:
keep consoling yourself with a woman character and don't face the reality of life, in few decades the right of a woman would rise in the society so much that the ability to discard women in a marriage will come with a big price.
A woman indeed need to be respectful and posses a character to submit to the leadership of a man. But it will be a big mistake to think that any man wouldn't discard you because of your good character. Men globally out my small year on earth, I have come to notice they don't have a favorite mode of behavior infact some bad ones treat a good woman too badly in marriage that at some point it makes me pity the female gender. when it comes to Africa especially most men are just too power to do and undo because they are backed up by the society.
My advice to all women out their is to be strong as much as they live with the complexity of men and societal values of marriage they should expect anything from a marriage.

XTHRONE:


We are now saying same thing, why would a man beat his wife, and why would a reasonable woman keep staying with such man, is it until he kills her , is that time it will be done on her that she is staying with a dog, I said it earlier a woman need care, is beating a woman the way to care for her, I think not, most women that stays in abusive marriages stay either because of shame or the fear of how to Carter for herself and her kids, marriage is meant to be enjoyed not endured. Am not consoling my self, am telling you the truth, I have seen a guy promise to a girl after sexing her.No rule is permanent though, but character is everything in life.talk no more of equal right of women with men to happen in future,alas it is happening now, yes it is in high gear in America,I mean feminism and co, but guess what, America have the highest rate of divorce.

Daeylar:
Please next time, before wasting the space on my mentions, ask yourself if you really, (and I mean REALLY) have anything worthwhile to say.
What was the point of this post now?
It isn't personal as well. I just can't be on a dear level with people who think emotional abuse and manipulation is a normal and accepted part of a relationship.
That level of dysfunction is not for me.

I can't tell you to have a nice night when you were literally wishing for op to basically give someone terrible nights.

You know what.
I wish you what you wished op's girl
Bye bye
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stanliwise:
I didn't mention beating in my post and when I say men are being bad in marriage I mean men becomes unfaithful and some go to extent to do it in their wife matrimonal bed. Many of the past marriage lasted because women were afraid of being stigmatized in the society. people are used to generally thinking it was the womans fault each time a marriage do not work. In the past it was generally believe that if you last long in marriage it was because of good character and because of this women had to suppress their voice and freedom to appear to public eye that they were well behave in marriage with all manner of men with all manner of unspeakable characters.

what I see here is since you believe this, you in the future could act as you have said, no problem and maybe you know some who did it but please please dont generalise it. I am a man too just like you.
Character of a women has never been the ingredients for we men to respect women. it has been successful in holding marriage in Africa, but we men all know Greed is the major factor, not just been satisfied with the one you have. I have been with many of my friends with good wives but cheating and disrespect was just a product of their selfish fantasy and for the lucky ones who have wife with bad character, it becomes an easy plot for them.
yeah you're right in some cases as I seen women with extremely bad character not fitting for marriage at all.

XTHRONE:


I ve modified it ,Is still character bro, some men have nasty character which may be born out of heart break, disappointment, experiences in the past , or how badly they were raised ,so they do transfer of aggression to an innocent or a non innocent woman. many women are crying in their marriages , they don't want to leave the abusive marriage because of fear and stigmatization, rather they stay put fighting and enduring bull crap. i am not an advocate of divorce, all i know is life is short, marriage is made to be enjoyed, if you leave an failed marriage find out the reason why it failed, if it from you as a woman change, if it is from the man, when u meet the next man, look for those trait, if u see any trace of it run. gone are the days of arrangee marriages.