EMCHIZ:
What if you build the house before getting married?

bukatyne:


What makes the law unfair to men?

bukatyne:


You obviously do not understand marriage.

Daeylar:
The fact that nairaland men are so against these laws which are basically child support laws made to take care of the kids not the wife just shows that they are terrible human beings
Being angry because the judge has to force them to take care of their kids and pass rulings to make sure that they cannot maltreat their children because of any useless feelings they have about their ex-wife is just pathetic and shows they are not worthy of procreating with

GraGra247:


Ok, then teach me. Cos the level of senseless selfishness of some of you women defies logic.

All you women and feminists advocate for is for the women to get everything the man worked for his entire life with his sweat and blood.

Until then nobody understands anything before the eyes of people like you.

I don't blame any of you women. I blame the idioitic morons that change the laws to make men slaves to you people.

But trust me it won't last because men will wake to the reality one day.

tunjilana:
....If it was about child support...the judge could have ordered the man to pay a defined amount towards upkeep, fees, accomodation and all for yhe children...while he retains his assets...

vioment:
Oyo state is quickly dusting every state in Nigeria in becoming the most progressive state in Nigeria even ahead of Lagos;

I am not a fan of half and half, but if you blow when you dey with your wife or vice versa, when things sour, e good to share am. Fair play.




Oyo is single handedly putting nigeria on the level with progressive countries like ghana, kenya, etc. When Oyo state integrate and master forensics, oyo go just be clear cut america of nigeria.

crafteck:


How many wife's hell out financially, how much have you helped your husband or bf with b4?

VULCAN:
Some people feel that progress is blindly copying others.

A mature mind would question what is the final outcome of the actions of another before sheepishly following.

There are much better ways of securing a soon to be ex-wife's financial state than gifting her property without recognising that each case should be handled on its own merit.

orion7:
what of people with 3 wives

What of Atiku with four wives?
if he divorces one, she would take half of all his properties!
The other three are like: Wait o, we cannot be left with nothing since Atiku himself is entitled to the remaining half ...because our own divorce is going to follow suit.

I even hear that his four wives refused to vote for him because they overheard that the Nigga was going to marry a 5th wife to commemorate his election!

Xisnin:

That won't be a problem.
You can always sign a prenup to dictate possible divorce sharing formula before marriage.
But I guess many people MEN are too blinded by "love" STUPID to take that route.

dominique:


Lots of women out there myself inclusive. Because we don't broadcast it it whoever cares to listen, you think men are solely responsible for their wives upkeep. There's hardly a home where the wife doesn't bring something to the table.

When my dad was building his house, it was my mum that took charge of the home expenses including our school fees (apart from contributing a third of what was used to buy the land). Likewise myself and my sisters. When my husband was offsetting the loan he used in completing his house, I didn't mind bearing the family expenses. My sisters contributed immensely towards their husbands' building projects. I can bet there are thousands of women out there doing this but are not making noise about it. Perhaps the ones around you don't help out their husband financially, that's why it's strange to you.

tunjilana:
....If it was about child support...the judge could have ordered the man to pay a defined amount towards upkeep, fees, accomodation and all for yhe children...while he retains his assets...

pansophist:


The law is unfair to men because forfeiting his assets in the event of divorce is a punitive measure, especially when it is not reciprocated if the woman is the property owner. I am not conversant with the scope and directive of the Nigerian customary law, albeit, the court's decision implies that women are the sole guardian of the children, automatically rewarded custody of the kids, and the man's usefulness is to provide resources only.

Furthermore, the decision didn't come with an exceptional clause that could make the man retain his property if he initiated the divorce. For example, unfaithfulness, domestic violence, and child abuse are acceptable reasons for divorce. A man divorcing his wife on these grounds should not suffer punitive measures of losing his property.

slimfit1:
So because a woman didn't wake up to go to work doesn't mean she is not doing or contributing. The judge made the right judgement. So if she too goes to work who is going to look after the children.

Women too do homework, the time you use to watch movies on Youtube use it to do research lazy women.

My mother went to open a shop where she sells things. My mother actually made me what I am today. She used her brain an didn't wait for my father for anything. She is a strong woman.

ICEMAN:
Every country that has practiced this have all experienced the same thing. From US,UK,Australia and more. Men stop marrying and more women become single. It also influences men to look to other neighboring countries where these laws do not apply. Nigerian women are not prepared for the backlash from these kind of laws. It is not advisable for Nigeria.

correctguy0900:
Long overdue.

This is it in a modern society today. Where u expect the woman to pack her children to?

dominique:


Lots of women out there myself inclusive. Because we don't broadcast it it whoever cares to listen, you think men are solely responsible for their wives upkeep. There's hardly a home where the wife doesn't bring something to the table.

When my dad was building his house, it was my mum that took charge of the home expenses including our school fees (apart from contributing a third of what was used to buy the land). Likewise myself and my sisters. When my husband was offsetting the loan he used in completing his house, I didn't mind bearing the family expenses. My sisters contributed immensely towards their husbands' building projects. I can bet there are thousands of women out there doing this but are not making noise about it. Perhaps the ones around you don't help out their husband financially, that's why it's strange to you.

PresidoAtikuGcf:
God please make Biafra a reality in Jesus name Amen. Cos with the way Buhari almajiri and Tinubu almajiri are going there is no remedy for the country. A country where illiterates and dirty skull miners rule over the intelligent and innovative all because of their uncontrolled population is sickening and I don't know what to do.

bukatyne:


That can only happen before marriage which means the man still remains the sole owner of the home.

Alright... Thanks

Daboomb:


Haaha, I see! Noise kwa?
Your family has a history of "low quality" men who cannot stand on their two feet (even if you use their third leg to prop them up) and always depend on their wife for survival.
I suggest you train your male children to be 'real men' instead of becoming some asswipe dad and husband like you had.

I have dashed my wife a new Jeep in the past, as a birthday gift just from the blues. the only thing she saw was the keyfob presented to her. Please go and divorce that your useless husband who cannot build a house except by community effort, and collect your contribution sharp sharp before he married another one that would divide the whole thing into four quarters

Daboomb:


There are Creches, Nannies and house helps whose job is to look after children where both parents are working.
Both Husband and wife simply contribute equally to the payment for such services.
Women should; stop using the children as an EXCUSE to be lazy or a WEAPON of revenge.

Everybody does Home Work, you hear.
Any work you do at home, is called homework.
When your Dad fixes a broken Water Heater or Kettle or the Washing machine, etc, does your Mum handover money to him, for such work done (or dont you know how much a "job man" will collect for such job)...or is it not just to smile at him and say welldone?
Does start stop him from going to his place of work the next day?

Kudos to your Mum for being a strong woman and as for that your WEAK Dad, thunder fire the lazy bastard.

dominique:


I am raising my son to be an upright citizen and earn his money the legit way and not be ashamed to take soft loans to fund his project. No shame in getting assistance from his wife as well if she's willing. Is that not better than going into drugs or fraud so as not to come off as "weak or broke"?

Marriage is about partnership and cooperation, it's either you're not mature to know this or you're just plain daft. Go and find out how much it takes to deck and roof two one storey buildings at the same time and try and figure out how many legit income earners can afford such at a go without getting some help. Either your father has never bought a cup of sand before in his life or he has never had to build a duplex and a apartment complex of four flats at the same time, so neither him nor you will never know the cost implications of building such structures. That your mother was a selfish, inconsiderate leech that couldn't buy ordinary pant unless your father dropped the money doesn't mean all women are like that.

I am raising my son to respect women (what your parents clearly failed to do) and my daughter to be independent and not to think she came into this world to feed off a man. No shame in assisting your spouse financially, with chores or whatnot

dominique:


Lots of women out there myself inclusive. Because we don't broadcast it it whoever cares to listen, you think men are solely responsible for their wives upkeep. There's hardly a home where the wife doesn't bring something to the table.

When my dad was building his house, it was my mum that took charge of the home expenses including our school fees (apart from contributing a third of what was used to buy the land). Likewise myself and my sisters. When my husband was offsetting the loan he used in completing his house, I didn't mind bearing the family expenses. My sisters contributed immensely towards their husbands' building projects. I can bet there are thousands of women out there doing this but are not making noise about it. Perhaps the ones around you don't help out their husband financially, that's why it's strange to you.

Daboomb:


Haaha, I see! Noise kwa?
Your family has a history of "low quality" men who cannot stand on their two feet (even if you use their third leg to prop them up) and always depend on their wife for survival.
I suggest you train your male children to be 'real men' instead of becoming some asswipe dad and husband like you had.

I have dashed my wife a new Jeep in the past, as a birthday gift just from the blues. the only thing she saw was the keyfob presented to her. Please go and divorce that your useless husband who cannot build a house except by community effort, and collect your contribution sharp sharp before he married another one that would divide the whole thing into four quarters

uzziwise:
What if its the woman's House?