No amount of court action can erase the babies marks. what has happend has happened. She only needs ways of getting off the marks. I know of some pple whose marks fade away. And on the idea of abandoning her child, thats stupid. No matter the amount of tribal marks the child exhibits,shes still the mother. i wonder what the baby looks like now . probably Lagbaja

OMG! Lol I kno U told us not to laugh but I jus gottta lmao, Anyways sha I can't stand tribal marks.

Woah, that is wickedness itself. It was hard not to laugh sha, but if this is true then it is very serious oh.
You guys need to live in Warri to know the havoc that tribal marks can cause. They are a dead give-away for the opposing tribe and 'person no go fit cover face dey waka for road na". Normally my Istekiri friends will just hide at home that period, even to go church na problem!
Imagine the child in so much pain. I would advise that the mother go collect her child before they'll do something worse. That child needs the mothers care more than ever now.

lol
i've been laughing for the past 30 minute now trying to catch my breath
wow this story is too funny that theres nothing i can say
lol

marks shows manliness and is a sign of strength and proudness. support our culture peeps

inprecise:

marks shows manliness and is a sign of strength and proudness. support our culture peeps

how many marks have u got?

lol, dat's d right question babaibadan

Let’s not be so quick to condemn the mother for fleeing to Lagos. She probably needed to clear head, plan a strategy, and then fetch her war implements/torture apparatus with which to hurt her mother-in-law, and maybe her husband too.

Seriously, I think the child should undergo surgery. Tribal marks are often superficial(depends on the type she gave him), and would simply take stitches to close (if done early). Besides, younger kids have undergone more complicated surgery, and come out alright.

Ok. I think even if u want to give ur child a tribal mark atleast it should be really light.At least dont give your child a tribal mark that will make him/her look lik a Yoruba when their Igbos. lol (My opinion)

such major decisions should be left to the parents to make. i hate when grandparents interfere. she had no right to do that. why mutilate an innocent child. tribal marks used to be used in the old days to easily identify people from your village or clan. do we still need it now in 2007? im spitting mad right now and i dont even know the couple. what rot?

in the same vein, im currently growing my baby's hair. its quite bushy and my mom threatened to cut it when i go to work. if she trys it she'll know that butter is not the food of a monkey. i'll get mad for ordinary hair talk less of tribal marks. if you dont let them know where you stand from the get go about even the littlest issues next thing you know they'll be performing major operations on your child without asking you.

omigod, i would freak out if a family member did that to my child. thats just wrong! why do mothers/grandmothers think they have a right to do anything to their grandkids without consent? they should be asking for permission and the mother of the child should give them boundaries what they can/cannot do. 

spoilt:

. if she trys it she'll know that butter is not the food of a monkey.

Hehehe!! Butter is not the food of a monkey?? Oh goodness, Spoilt, mind yahself o! 

You made me laugh so much today, that everyone was wondering what was tickling my ribs!

laudate:

Hehehe!! Butter is not the food of a monkey?? Oh goodness, Spoilt, mind yahself o!

You made me laugh so much today, that everyone was wondering what was tickling my ribs!

sorry there was no better way i could butress my point.
i know how it is.sometimes when im on nairaland, i laugh so much my colleagues think ive lost it.

Before she married the Lawyer did she not know their culture,

Tradition and values? Did they not date? Did the Husband have

the same Marks on him? There is no need going overboard about

this as the deed has been done. I particularly hate the damn thing with a

passion but I will not subject my little boy to skin surgery. If he feels up to it

when he is older then it is decision to make.

But if you ask me I will tell you that the husband deserved to be flogged and

not the mother In-law. You know why, because me think the husband was aware

of what the mother was going to do to that baby but refrain from telling the wife

about it.

Oh gosh! Just read this thread again and couldn't help laughing, this thread's old but still cracks ma ribs.

abi o. imagine what the poor child will have to go through when he/she grows up. na so so names people go dey call am, like meow, tiger, cat etc (assuming the child has the oyo type tribal marks  )
i had a friend who has tribal marks and the rubbish she went through in school ehn?  i for curse her family for doing that to her face, but alas, the whole family has tribal marks, from mother, father to all the shidrens o!

and imagine when the child comes abroad, omigod, that will be an entirely different experience. oyinbo go tease you die.

i ve this friend since high skool. she has one-one on her cheeks and the ila has green color and she has a very very light complexion. all the teasing and humiliation thru out high skool.

i thank my papa God that i ve no such things.

nairaland, u people are good in forming stories from no where

This story is not even funny to me at all. I can't imagine anybody(including my husband) mutilating my child in the name of stupid tradition. Oyo people are so fond of tribal marks irrespective of the time we live in. Who marries a girl will cat claws on her face these days?

Surgery may help but not in all cases, like someone said, the younger, the better. If that mother in law can drag her fat behind to America and witness what many of my Yoruba folks with tribal marks are going through in this society and the way people stare at them like they are from "planet jungle" especially the women, she'll forever regret her actions. Even some yoruba men make fun of their own women that has those stupid marks.


I can't imagine why we can't let go some traditions that has nothing but misery to offer. Someone here said it looks cool, well good for him/her but i'll advise him/ her not to enforce it on his/her children and let them decide to do it on themselves as adults.

Tell your friend to suspend that car, big house etc and take that boy abroad for plastic surgery. It costs about $3k in California. Imagine that boy growing up to look like the picture below in this 21st century? I'm already losing it on that mother in law and may need someone here to hold me back.

If my mother / mother-in-law, father, father-in-law branded my child, I'd disown them.

They'd no longer have anything to do with me or my family after that.
Who the hell gives them the right to brand a child?

nini i must say, dis story is very touching, i didn't find it funny at all. However there is still remedy for your friend's son.
I happen to be a victim of the tribal mark and i know ow humilating it can be,however i have a great personality and nobody dares laugh at me because i have accepted the fact that life continues regadless of any defect you have,and i beleive that pple will take you the way you portray yourself.Although my tribal marks are just 2 the long straight ones, and i have managed to make them fade out,you can harley see them.
i have been using bio oil and cocoa butter palmers,it makes the mark fade out,i beleive if ur friend tries this on her son,it's gonna work cos he's still a baby, what i'm not sure about is if bio oil can be used on a baby's skin,but cocoa butter will surely work. Let me know if it works Good luck

tribal marks? the modern term is 'facial tattoos'

wtf? terrible. in this age and time?

pikin na pikin
ucan't stop loving a child because of tribalmarks

FBS:

wtf? terrible. in this age and time?

@ FBS. Actually the post is about 3 years therefore the incident happened in the ancient past.

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Kaestro:

@ FBS. Actually the post is about 3 years therefore the incident happened in the ancient past.

you are laughing? its not funny. Why would any sane person do that. be it 3 years ago or 10?
Can someone please file a court case? This is child abuse of some sort.

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If this mother did not inscribe marks on her own son and for whatever reasons feels the grandchild deserves it then we may be looking at a delibrate act towards breaking the marriage of her son.She might have done it out of sheer contempt for the wife. Perhaps revenge for something either the son or daughter in-law did.

Na wa o it is part of the RE-BRANDING that is going on.