A man with addictions is not a good bet, whether that be drugs, alcohol, gambling. They tend to relapse, and need to bottom out before they admit a problem. They also lie and manipulate. Not a ride you want to be along for.

A man with a history of violence and anger problems. Big red flag. Life is full of challenges and frustrations. You do not want to end up a punching bag or worse.

A man who is very jealous and controlling. Someone who wants to know where you are every minute of the day and who you are with. May seem flattering at first, but it gets worse and worse with time.

A man with a history of womanizing or cheating. Leopards don’t change their spots.

A man who is unkind to others. Cold, cruel, careless. Watch how he interacts with his family, with children, his coworkers, neighbours, pets. Does he have empathy? Is he warm? Does he have a good heart?

A man who is intolerant. Does he have a lot of prejudices? Does he hate various groups, religions, races? Someone who is tolerant and accepting makes a much better life partner.

A man who has no sense of humour, and can’t laugh at himself and the world. My husband and I have been through so much over the last 30 years, and it really does help that we laugh at the same things. We’ve been at the point of collapse from stress, and we look at each other, and burst into giggles. When things look bleak, a laugh can be a lifesaver.

A man who wants an entirely different life than you. You should want similar things. If you want children and he doesn’t….not good. If his dream is to live in a cabin in Alaska and you dream of a condo in New York, not good. You will end up resenting each other.

A man with very different values. Is he moral? Does he lie, cheat others, steal? You want to be able to trust your husband and be proud of him. You don’t want to find out he is involved in underhanded business deals, cheating family members, taking advantage of people.

A man who doesn’t try his best, and is irresponsible. Life will throw lots of curve balls. You want a husband who will give everything his best effort and not be a shirker. Things might not work out, but you know he really tried.

A man whose words don’t match his actions. Listen to what he does, not what he says. If his mouth is saying I love you, and his actions say something else, you know the truth.

A man who is overly attached to his family. When you marry, there has to be compromise that honours both families. Your marriage and new family have to come first. If his family is mistreating you, he has to intervene on your part.

A man who is not responsible with money. It’s a major reason why couples split up. You need to agree on how money will be handled. Debt, irresponsible spending, inability to pay bills…will kill your marriage.

A man who does not want you to pursue your education, a good career, hobbies and pastimes. A man who loves you will want you to be happy and fulfilled and be the best you can be. He should encourage and support your dreams. I ended up being the major breadwinner at our house when unexpected health issues and other events took place. We were fortunate I was able to do that! You never know what might happen.

A man who is overly concerned with external appearances. Does he spend a lot of time trying to put on a show for others? Complain over your weight, clothing, hairstyle, make up ? Spend hours preening? Want luxury items just so he can impress others?

A man who brags. A confident man doesn’t need to brag or endlessly talk about himself. He knows his own worth. Confident people are modest and humble. There is nothing more attractive than a good man who is humble about it.

A man who betrays confidences. You need a partner who is discreet, and knows when to keep his mouth shut, and keep private things private. Can you trust him if you tell him something in confidence?

There are probably more, but that’s off the top of my head.

copied from quora
https://www.quora.com/What-types-of-people-will-not-become-good-husbands

This would have made more sense if you had ITEMIZED your points or make them bold.

xpac01:
This would have made more sense if you had ITEMIZED your points or make them bold.

So the paragraphs were not enough? In as much as the message was passed, it's OK. Everything must not trend on nairaland na

Obinnau:
So the paragraphs were not enough? In as much as the message was passed, it's OK. Everything must not trend on nairaland na

Bold is used for a call to attention esp when you want points to be remembered easily. But good one though

Obinnau:
So the paragraphs were not enough? In as much as the message was passed, it's OK. Everything must not trend on nairaland na

No body is talking about trend here Sir.

I believe you dropped the thread to get people here informed, so won't be bad if you make it more readable and comprehensible for your audience...

Is there any guy out there not addicted to one thing or the other?

better marry spirit because all men have the tendencies in all what you listed. you are trying to create a perfect man, but what you listed is a man that do not exist on planet earth.

tolanibae:
Is there any guy out there not addicted to one thing or the other?

Addiction is a weakness. Too much of anything is bad. Even religion.