Mariangeles:
She handled it the way she thought was best for her and her husband.

The easy way, or the hard way...there must be a way!

Saffi:
Why are you asking your brothers wife to cook for you if she’s not offering it to you first? Can she come to you and ask you for money whenever she likes? You people really don’t understand courtesy when going to other people’s houses or just in general. There’s nothing wrong with your brothers wife preparing food for you, but don’t be asking her to prepare food most times you go there, especially if she’s not offering it to you first. She might not say anything out loud, but deep down she doesn’t like it. Respect yourself please. If you want a personal chef go and get married.

publicenemy:


God bless you brother. Just what I was about to say. The only reason a woman can have any say or power in my house is if we struggled together to achieve wealth. That woman can wield power in my house and I GI just dey pamper her but still she can't mess with my friends. But if God blesses me with wealth and riches before I meet my wife, thunder fire her if she try that kind nonsense with my friend. Friends wen we don hustle under rain and sun together....

Meeeen the kind beat wen I go beat her before I kick her out of my house ehn! Television go carry am. Thunder fire her papa.

Psoul:


Ur wife will not mess with ur friends if they know how to respect themselves.

Whether u made ur wealth together with ur wife or made it all alone, you should learn to give room for ur wife's opinion. This makes the woman have more respect for u.

scaramucci:
Women need to understand that there is a reason for us sticking together as niggas. Our niggas are the ones who sort out our shit.

nkwuocha:


Naaaa!Only a weak man think like you do, trust me.I don't keep friends, as i see no need to.My success today is attributed majorly to less friends i keep.I drink with them in bars and thats where it ends.They dont need to address my wife the way they feel, just as i wont disrespect even their side chicks.A friend in need is a friend indeed does not apply when he comes to my marital home unannounced then have the effrontery to disrespect my wife.Its only a foolish and stupid man thinks the value of his friends supercedes the sanity of his wife/family.Learn this;

Freddy Heineken:
There are two ways a man can be rich in this world, he can have a lot of money, or he can have a lot of friends. But he cannot have both.

nkwuocha:


Naaaa!Only a weak man think like you do, trust me.I don't keep friends, as i see no need to.My success today is attributed majorly to less friends i keep.I drink with them in bars and thats where it ends.They dont need to address my wife the way they feel, just as i wont disrespect even their side chicks.A friend in need is a friend indeed does not apply when he comes to my marital home unannounced then have the effrontery to disrespect my wife.Its only a foolish and stupid man thinks the value of his friends supercedes the sanity of his wife/family.Learn this;

Freddy Heineken:
There are two ways a man can be rich in this world, he can have a lot of money, or he can have a lot of friends. But he cannot have both.

adanny01:


Probably you aint married.

If i tell my wife that a certain friend is coming, she goes to the market and cooks the best she can.

She must serve food in the best china available in the house. That's how to treat guest.

Infact, i want them to come tomorrow again as far as I can afford it, let them keep coming. What are friends for?

nkwuocha:


They don't need to address my wife the way they feel, just as i won't disrespect even their side chicks. A friend in need is a friend indeed does not apply when he comes to my marital home unannounced then have the effrontery to disrespect my wife. Its only a foolish and stupid man who thinks the value of his friends supersedes the sanity of his wife/family.

adanny01:


Am sure you are not married.

Have you heard of the word "influence" before. A wife can be at home and have a husband's friend with so much influence over her husband but the friend and wife have never met. That is men for you.

Just because you are the wife, mother of the children and feel like the mans entire priority or atleast the no 1 priority is you but are not. You are painting a black and white picture but life is colourful and in 4D.

You are putting yourself up for disappointment. A man knows his priority, do not tell him to choose you as his priority. Priorities change and should be dynamic.

If i ask you as a wife, what is your no 1 priority. Will you say the kids (wrong), the hubby (wrong), house keeping (wrong), work (wrong). What exactly, is your priority? The entire responsibility you have as a wife is the priority. Than mans priority is not his wife, it is his entire responsibility to his family.

A family includes friends and relatives.
Whenn friends and relatives are happy with you, your husband is happy with you for making him proud. When you poison his friends, trust me, it will come around when your husband realizes he is being fenced off. When you have problems at home, you may need those friends to bail you out.

Lastly, when you want to compare yourself to his friends in terms of priority, you have brought yourself at the same level with them competing for attention. When you know and claim that you are the priority, you have conquered your insecurities and no one will wrestle you for that secure position hold.

Omudia11:
@ the bolded, you are the most stupid person in all of nairaland history. Such level of stupidity should come with a badge so sane people can avoid you like the plague that you are.

OCEANMORGAN:



He needs help.

MissRaine69:

There was also option 3
Adult way.

Mariangeles:
What way is the "adult" way ??
Talking??
What if she did and he never listened ??
She probably gave hints, and he refused to take them

You have your way, she has her way, everybody have their way of doing things .

Saffi:
Please these guys are not married. Let them get married first, their whole tune will change. Silly young boys. They think marriage is synonymous to nollywood movies, it is well.

Omudia11:
@ the bolded, you are the most stupid person in all of nairaland history. Such level of stupidity should come with a badge so sane people can avoid you like the plague that you are.

Shibaraba:
Husband is weak.....
You can't mess with my nigga o
Nigga wey we don dey street all this days and we probably hustle hard together for you to have a comfortable home you come do am like that
Ill deal with her codedly

My advice for mister husband
Woman wey fit do this one to your friend no go look twice before she lace your food with poison if you do am anything

Japa fast fast.

Omudia11:
@ the bolded, you are the most stupid person in all of nairaland history. Such level of stupidity should come with a badge so sane people can avoid you like the plague that you are.

adanny01:


Even though I agree that some people can be over reaching, I don't agree that she should torture a man because of food especially one that she didn't provide.

Secondly, an Amariya for that matter, she may not have an idea how long they came off with their relationship. She has no idea what her husband benefited or would benefit from this guy in the future. Her hubby didn't marry her to choose his friends or take control his life. If she treats her husbands friend like this, how would she treat her MIL if she was over reaching too?

I have this bosom friend, very nice and accommodating. His older brother and several cousins and friends including me lived in an apartment he rented. I had my own home and family in another town. I had no need to get a second apartment since we hustle together. Everything was fine until he got married. I assure you, none of his friends or relatives waited around for the bride. He is a people's guy but lives a boring life right now. He begs me to come to his house but I just cant.

The reason we stay far from his home now are numerous. Just before the marriage when she visits, she doesn't want him hanging out with us thinking we are bad influence. She has no idea that my friend learned self control from me, he used to pass out almost every time he drinks depending on me to get home. One day coming back from town, together with her, his bro and me, I told him i want to hang out before going home, my friend says, "bae, we will head to SDK (our spot), make some food and please, we will drop u at the junction so u take okada home (3mins walk)" she says, "baby, mu je gida mana (no baby, lets go home)" "he says no" she says "wato bazaka ji magana na ba ko (so you will not listen to me at all)". I was shocked that this girl would say that in the presence of his older bro and I, making it sound like he is choosing me over her. This was a girl my friend met on facebook 6 months prior, he showed me her FB pics asking me if she is good, i encouraged him. I drove him to her place on valentines day for their first meeting. In less than a year they were married and his friends and relatives are now competing with her for his loyalty.

One of the problems i had was my friend didnt know how to check his wife and she couldn't check him either. Say my friend is buying Suya for 1k and there are 5 people in the house. He buys 2 wraps of N500 each, one portion he takes to his babe in the room and the other he drops it for the boys and himself. Later the babe chop she no fit finish, the left over is brought out for the boys. Knowing that half the portion is in the room, i will not eat the suya at all cause i dont eat left overs and deserve some respect. I prefer her serve me even if its 2 pieces, she can eat the rest but never to bring out left overs from the room. I grew up from a house that when my father buys something, my mum shares portions for every one who is interested. If this girl cannot correct her hubbys wrong, infact she is worst than him.

Even though we are still very good friends, we only meet outside so that his family affair would not interfere with our relationship. The result is that we spend much more time outside than home with our wives. We were university classmates and roomates and have helped one another throughout our lives for almost 20years now. Meanwhile, a woman he met 2yrs ago has changed both our lives forever.

The funny thing is that whatever is wrong with their marriage, he still comes to me for advice. I think wives should be careful of their husbands friends cause i could pay back her kindness.

publicenemy:


God bless you brother. Just what I was about to say. The only reason a woman can have any say or power in my house is if we struggled together to achieve wealth. That woman can wield power in my house and I GI just dey pamper her but still she can't mess with my friends. But if God blesses me with wealth and riches before I meet my wife, thunder fire her if she try that kind nonsense with my friend. Friends wen we don hustle under rain and sun together....

Meeeen the kind beat wen I go beat her before I kick her out of my house ehn! Television go carry am. Thunder fire her papa.

Noblefirstlady:

I more surprised than you are at the bolded I never knew they have added friends to family too

UjuJoan2:
This is the height of passive aggressiveness . .. You almost killed someone, when you could have gently confronted the issue.

Not nice!

Jaqenhghar:

Why you no marry your nigga then?

OCEANMORGAN:




But in this case you involve your wife in the decision making, she will be happy to do it because you both discuss and agreed to it, the person visiting never had any decision to make except when you ask for his choice of what to eat. Thanks to the owner of the comment I am quoting below, it is the answer you need.

Noblefirstlady:

I more surprised than you are at the bolded I never knew they have added friends to family too

bukatyne:


Leave the men that don't understand that disrespect of the wife is disrespect to them.

Donjazzy12:

And you probably believe that having money is better than having friends. I pity that woman who consents to marry you, cos one day you will sell her for money!

BUXOMEBONY:
Newly weds are supposed to be left alone to bond very well.No matter who you are to them,just stay away ,they don't need your interference or visitation for at least 6 months,if they come to greet you before then,fine but don't go there.Greet them over the phone, WhatsApp is there pls