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What Would You Do? by MissRaine69(f): 4:18pm On Apr 19, 2019
Scenario:
A man gets a job abroad three months after the woman he was engaged to broke off the engagement and married someone else.
The man who is a doctor got a post in England everything seemed to be going well. A year later he met this girl, he told her he was not looking for a serious relationship she was ok with that ( initially).

Two months into their situation the woman started to drop hints that she wanted more than just meeting up and was pressuring the guy to get her pregnant. He refused. She then told him her immigration status was precarious and she had been living in the UK illegally. In the third month the woman was served with a deportation notice.
Initially the guy felt sorry for her, and wanted to help so he paid for her to leave the UK voluntarily rather than be deported. The plan was he would try to help her return.

He travelled to Nigeria to help only to realise that he had been deceived about how bad her immigration situation was. She had multiple deportations as well as and numerous immigration violations. He tried to get her back to the UK twice but both applications where declined.

He then told the woman that he could do no more. They had only known each other for three months and he was not ready to wife anyone. So he told her it was over.

The woman got very angry as she believed that if she left the UK voluntarily he would travel to Nigeria to marry her and she would be able to return. Now her people have gone to visit the man’s family and insist that the guy marry the woman or there will not know any peace. The woman is “refusing” to accept that the relationship is over and constantly sends threatening messages to the guy or asks friends so spy on him to make sure he is not with someone
.
He has met someone and is serious about this girl but the woman in Nigeria refuses to accept this and states she will have this other woman killed if she travels to Nigeria.
The woman’s family and some of the guys family are urging him to just marry her so that there is peace. He has refused.

What are your thoughts regarding this? Does the woman have a genuine claim? Is the guy being fair?

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Re: What Would You Do? by iTearHerToto: 4:25pm On Apr 19, 2019
Is the guy owing her



Nonsense and hungry souls angry

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Re: What Would You Do? by Nobody: 4:26pm On Apr 19, 2019
She should have been honest with the man from the beginning, she should have told him the whole truth about her immigration.
To me, the guy owes her NOTHING and shouldn't marry her. She should be happy he saved her the shame of deportation.



BTW, her entitlement issues no be here o

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Re: What Would You Do? by MissRaine69(f): 4:35pm On Apr 19, 2019
MariaLavina:
She should have been honest with the man from the beginning, she should have told him the whole truth about her immigration.
To me, the guy owes her NOTHING and shouldn't marry her. She should be happy he saved her the shame of deportation.



BTW, her entitlement issues no be here o
My dear SOME of our women have issues with honesty.
I have sat with couples who are struggling with fertility. The woman would have written “ I have never been pregnant or given birth” yet her pelvis tells me she has has been pregnant 4 times with 2 full term deliveries!
She will deny it in my face.

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Re: What Would You Do? by Nobody: 4:53pm On Apr 19, 2019
MissRaine69:

My dear SOME of our women have issues with honesty.
I have sat with couples who are struggling with fertility. The woman would have written “ I have never been pregnant or given birth” yet her pelvis tells me she has has been pregnant 4 times with 2 full term deliveries!
She will deny it in my face.
shocked shocked shocked Are you for real? Maybe her spirit had the babies not her cheesy

Show her proofs and shut her up, you can't have one play on your intelligence that way.
Re: What Would You Do? by MissRaine69(f): 5:10pm On Apr 19, 2019
MariaLavina:
shocked shocked shocked Are you for real? Maybe her spirit had the babies not her cheesy

Show her proofs and shut her up, you can't have one play on your intelligence that way.
A woman’s body does not lie. I can tell how many kids someone had & how many deliveries via your pelvis.
That’s one of the reasons I closed my clinic in Lagos. I got tired of the lies and the deceit. You want my help and you cannot be honest with me especially about your medical history.

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Re: What Would You Do? by anthonyuncle(m): 5:15pm On Apr 19, 2019
da man is over fair! her bad history ain't his fault. he should report her and her people to da police and other helpful authorities
Re: What Would You Do? by luvyaself95(m): 5:38pm On Apr 19, 2019
Nawa Oh The woman is an ingrate and Hungry Souls
Re: What Would You Do? by LordKO(m): 5:59pm On Apr 19, 2019
She's an opportunist - a typical small-minded person - and, as such, she doesn't deserve more thoughtfulness in particular and marriage in general from the man.

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Re: What Would You Do? by Biglittlelois(f): 6:02pm On Apr 19, 2019
How people can be obsessed with another human being is just beyond me, where is her pride and self esteem? If a man is no more interested in you anymore, move the fvck on undecided

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Re: What Would You Do? by Nobody: 6:08pm On Apr 19, 2019
How did she know the man's family? I thought their relationship was casual lol
Re: What Would You Do? by tivta(m): 6:10pm On Apr 19, 2019
anthonyuncle:
da man is over fair!
her bad history ain't his fault.
he should report her and her people to da police and other helpful authorities

I agree
Stupid girl
Re: What Would You Do? by MissRaine69(f): 6:35pm On Apr 19, 2019
Dudeweedlmao:
How did she know the man's family? I thought their relationship was casual lol
Got the details from his phone

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Re: What Would You Do? by MrBrownJay1(m): 9:13pm On Apr 19, 2019
this woman AND her family are insane... and this man should stay away from her.

also, he should let his new gf know about it all IN DETAILS

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Re: What Would You Do? by dkidd: 9:22pm On Apr 19, 2019
That woman is evil.. He should lock them up and get them to sign some sort of surety letter that would restrain them and hold them accountable should anything happen to him or his new lady based on their threats.. Is it by force to marry?

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Re: What Would You Do? by flokii: 9:24pm On Apr 19, 2019
Watch before you leap.. the lady wanted to take advantage of him and he fell for it foolishly

What's the assurance that she won't leave him or get him into trouble if he ever decides to marry her and take her back there
Re: What Would You Do? by MissRaine69(f): 9:37pm On Apr 19, 2019
MrBrownJay1:
this woman AND her family are insane... and this man should stay away from her.

also, he should let his new gf know about it all IN DETAILS
She is aware and is now concerned.No one what’s to marry into a family with strife in the background

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Re: What Would You Do? by MrBrownJay1(m): 9:56pm On Apr 19, 2019
MissRaine69:

She is aware and is now concerned.No one what’s to marry into a family with strife in the background

i can understand why she would be concerned, but then again she can protect herself for any potential threats.... but the idea is to never live life out of fear.

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Re: What Would You Do? by anochuko01(m): 10:17pm On Apr 19, 2019
I fit'nt read all these...
Re: What Would You Do? by bellong: 1:43am On Apr 20, 2019
If you know the man in question, tell him to report the threats to the Nigeria Police force and Department of State Security. The woman and her family will be compelled to sign an undertaking of safety for his family and new girlfriend.

Threats, either verbal or written is an offence against the Nigeria criminal code. It attracts a jail term if guilty of threat. Threat is an accessory to other violence including murder.

He shouldn't joke or downplay the threat. Every member of the woman's family should sign the undertaking and also get a restraining order against her.

He doesn't owe her anything. He is not responsible for her illegal status. If he advised her to leave before deportation doesn't mean he owes her anything. It was an advice she chose to follow. If he collapsed under the pressure to marry her, it doesn't mean that the home affairs will grant the lady visa. Being married to someone doesn't guarantee automatic visa. She will still be considered a national security threat to the country.

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Re: What Would You Do? by after7: 7:32am On Apr 20, 2019
MissRaine69:

My dear SOME of our women have issues with honesty.
I have sat with couples who are struggling with fertility. The woman would have written “ I have never been pregnant or given birth” yet her pelvis tells me she has has been pregnant 4 times with 2 full term deliveries!
She will deny it in my face.

I have been wondering about the issue of women and fertility. How come we are having many fertility clinics springing up? Do you have data on how many women are looking for fruit of the womb? I hope it's not as a result of women slaying in their younger days
Re: What Would You Do? by MissRaine69(f): 10:16am On Apr 20, 2019
after7:


I have been wondering about the issue of women and fertility. How come we are having many fertility clinics springing up? Do you have data on how many women are looking for fruit of the womb? I hope it's not as a result of women slaying in their younger days
It’s not a regulated industry in Nigeria as many are actually run by people who are not specialists in that field. How would I collect data regarding this matter when I had contact with a very small fraction of women?
A lot of the cases had nothing to do with “slaying”
Some had untreated chlamydia
Lied about their age and had actually reached menopause
Had remarried and were desperate to bear the new husband a child
FGM was also a huge issue

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Re: What Would You Do? by y3mi(m): 11:22am On Apr 20, 2019
What are your thoughts regarding this? Does the woman have a genuine claim? Is the guy being fair?
NO! Her claim is SPURIOUS! What strangle hold does that lovelorned b1tch have on that man ? Her embitterness can't be faulted on that man unless there's a missing piece to this puzzle we don't know
Re: What Would You Do? by Wizywiz(m): 12:57pm On Apr 20, 2019
MissRaine69:

It’s not a regulated industry in Nigeria as many are actually run by people who are not specialists in that field. How would I collect data regarding this matter when I had contact with a very small fraction of women?
A lot of the cases had nothing to do with “slaying”
Some had untreated chlamydia
Lied about their age and had actually reached menopause
Had remarried and were desperate to bear the new husband a child
FGM was also a huge issue
hmmmm...
Re: What Would You Do? by drmikeadams(m): 1:01pm On Apr 20, 2019
MissRaine69:
Scenario:
A man gets a job abroad three months after the woman he was engaged to broke off the engagement and married someone else.
The man who is a doctor got a post in England everything seemed to be going well. A year later he met this girl, he told her he was not looking for a serious relationship she was ok with that ( initially).

Two months into their situation the woman started to drop hints that she wanted more than just meeting up and was pressuring the guy to get her pregnant. He refused. She then told him her immigration status was precarious and she had been living in the UK illegally. In the third month the woman was served with a deportation notice.
Initially the guy felt sorry for her, and wanted to help so he paid for her to leave the UK voluntarily rather than be deported. The plan was he would try to help her return.

He travelled to Nigeria to help only to realise that he had been deceived about how bad her immigration situation was. She had multiple deportations as well as and numerous immigration violations. He tried to get her back to the UK twice but both applications where declined.

He then told the woman that he could do no more. They had only known each other for three months and he was not ready to wife anyone. So he told her it was over.

The woman got very angry as she believed that if she left the UK voluntarily he would travel to Nigeria to marry her and she would be able to return. Now her people have gone to visit the man’s family and insist that the guy marry the woman or there will not know any peace. The woman is “refusing” to accept that the relationship is over and constantly sends threatening messages to the guy or asks friends so spy on him to make sure he is not with someone
.
He has met someone and is serious about this girl but the woman in Nigeria refuses to accept this and states she will have this other woman killed if she travels to Nigeria.
The woman’s family and some of the guys family are urging him to just marry her so that there is peace. He has refused.

What are your thoughts regarding this? Does the woman have a genuine claim? Is the guy being fair?
if jesus tell u to marry her charley no gree oo..change fone;change location ,,go low key wit ur new gf..
Re: What Would You Do? by zexy2030(m): 1:15pm On Apr 20, 2019
he is the man let him decide.
Re: What Would You Do? by MissRaine69(f): 3:21pm On Apr 20, 2019
zexy2030:
he is the man let him decide.
Your contribution has been life changing.

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Re: What Would You Do? by Fidelismaria: 3:44pm On Apr 20, 2019
I wonder why women get so hyped and agitated about marriage

Like is that all you're for

Tufiakwa
Re: What Would You Do? by MissRaine69(f): 6:24pm On Apr 20, 2019
Fidelismaria:
I wonder why women get so hyped and agitated about marriage

Like is that all you're for

Tufiakwa
Some women kill in the name of marriage
Re: What Would You Do? by Hardrive(m): 6:51pm On Apr 20, 2019
The man is in a terrible situation. He came across a woman with a perfectionist attribute. My suggestion might be too radical, but the woman will not stop until she possibly kills him. He should protect his family by getting them a gun.
Re: What Would You Do? by MissRaine69(f): 8:13pm On Apr 20, 2019
Hardrive:
The man is in a terrible situation. He came across a woman with a perfectionist attribute. My suggestion might be too radical, but the woman will not stop until she possibly kills him. He should protect his family by getting them a gun.
Perfectionist or dangerously desperate? Desperate people tend to be difficult to reason with.
English Gun laws are not like American gun laws. You cannot just own a gun in England. In Nigeria it’s a different conversation altogether.

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Re: What Would You Do? by zexy2030(m): 4:41pm On Apr 21, 2019
MissRaine69:
Your contribution has been life changing.
it's my pleasure..

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