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Re: My Husband Is Gay! by HighChief4(m): 1:21am On Sep 20, 2010
@OP
Just go to hospital first and check yourself, its a really sad situation, me think you should not go back to his gay a.r.s.e
Re: My Husband Is Gay! by Nobody: 1:37am On Sep 20, 2010
High_Chief:

@OP
Just go to hospital first and check yourself, its a really sad situation, me think you should not go back to his gay a.r.s.e
Are you assuming that every gay person has HIV/AIDs?
Re: My Husband Is Gay! by Tosinville(m): 2:12am On Sep 20, 2010
Poster,

ur heterosexual husband suddenly turn to gay? I think u need to check yourself maybe you're so selfish most especially about s3x and many more.

**Tosinville shakes head in swahili**
Re: My Husband Is Gay! by Seun(m): 2:13am On Sep 20, 2010
your heterosexual husband suddenly turn to gay?

He didn't suddenly turn gay.  He has always been gay.
Re: My Husband Is Gay! by TewMuch: 2:29am On Sep 20, 2010
Chai, I feel bad for you oh.What a way to find out.It is very true that no matter how long you date, it is when you are under one roof, bound by law that people show their true colors.Am sure you are a young couple.Just count your blessings and leave.Someone with such a preference can put you at risk. Get yourself tested first, and pack your load out! We know in Naija you can't chase a man out of his house.Call your family and his, and tell them what is going on.File for a divorce and leave as fast as your legs can carry you.There are other heterosexual men that deserve you out there.This time, look before you leap and avoid selfish people.This guy was just plain wicked and selfish making you get into something like this.
Re: My Husband Is Gay! by Tinksh(f): 3:59am On Sep 20, 2010
omega25red:

poster

a thing like this happened to you and you still have the time to post on NL? shocked
you shouldn't have left the house because he should leave. he is the one doing wrong here by cheating on you. go get yourself a good divorce lawyer (depending on where you are ) and make sure he pays for your childs up bringing.

Absolutely agree!! Seconded!!
Re: My Husband Is Gay! by Nobody: 6:32am On Sep 20, 2010
Ileke-IdI:

Are you assuming that every gay person has HIV/AIDs?
Not entirely but anyone could have std. (BTW I was gonna post the same thing he posted that's why I'm
answering for him)

@poster, I seriously do not want to be you right now.

Good luck dear.
Re: My Husband Is Gay! by Nobody: 8:20am On Sep 20, 2010
If you both're christians den 'for better for worse' go by dat. Advocate of divorce, does yr bible teaches u dat? Honestly, if they REALLY COURTED, she'll know b4 they married.
Re: My Husband Is Gay! by HighChief4(m): 1:01pm On Sep 20, 2010
Ileke-IdI:

Are you assuming that every gay person has HIV/AIDs?
So you must confirm the status of the person b4 u go for a test? And you think AIDS/HIV is the only terminal STDs one can get? SMH
Re: My Husband Is Gay! by chibenwa(m): 1:35pm On Sep 20, 2010
too bad
Re: My Husband Is Gay! by tshepiso(f): 2:00pm On Sep 20, 2010
shocked this your husband needs strong prayer!it is not his fault its the evil spirit!!!!!!!
Re: My Husband Is Gay! by omega25red(m): 3:10pm On Sep 20, 2010
stevetboy9:

If you both're christians den 'for better for worse' go by dat. Advocate of divorce, does yr bible teaches u dat? Honestly, if they REALLY COURTED, she'll know b4 they married.
sigh's undecided ^^^ seriously?? this is your response to the issue. Having your beliefs are cool but come on think more logically (no disrespect)
Re: My Husband Is Gay! by Nobody: 3:27pm On Sep 20, 2010
^ think more logically as how? I mean i dont kno wat is wrong wit wat i've written, Pls tell me
Re: My Husband Is Gay! by ethereal(f): 9:34pm On Sep 20, 2010
@all:i'm realy greatful 4 all ur heartfelt response.dis d 1st time i'm letng dis out.truth is i cant even bring myslf to mention his name or start a divorce process.cos marriage is smthing else were i come 4rm.(eastern part of nigeria).i ve moved to a dif.city very far 4rm him changed my fone number & everyother necesary change.jst told my pple dat i cnt live wt him anymore & wuld apreciate if dey dnt press further to knw y.d sigth stil n my head & honestly speakng wat if hm & his decide to eliminate me & ve d child cos obviously i'm begining to feel i was marid to gve dm children.4 dat i ve made a statement (police)n abj & n my new place.sychological efect on me is wat i fear most & i pray my son dnt ve d trait.i'm realy greatful 4 al u comments.
Re: My Husband Is Gay! by manny4life(m): 11:58am On Sep 21, 2010
@OP sorry to hear your plight. If he was already making out with his best friend, oh sister he's been doing that doing joint for a minute behind closed doors. I'm caught in between with this one so just follow your heart it will be alright.
Re: My Husband Is Gay! by Gemma11: 12:02pm On Sep 21, 2010
I want details.

What exactly were they doing? grin
What did he have to say for himself when he was caught?
What did the friend say?
Up until that time how had the relationship being?
Please don't leave us hanging,

SPILL away!
Re: My Husband Is Gay! by ifyalways(f): 12:05pm On Sep 21, 2010
ethereal:

@all:i'm realy greatful 4 all your heartfelt response.dis d 1st time i'm letng dis out.truth is i cant even bring myslf to mention his name or start a divorce process.cos marriage is smthing else were i come 4rm.(eastern part of nigeria).i ve moved to a dif.city very far 4rm him changed my fone number & everyother necesary change.jst told my pple dat i cnt live wt him anymore & wuld apreciate if dey dnt press further to knw y.d sigth stil n my head & honestly speakng wat if  hm & his decide to eliminate me & ve d child cos obviously i'm begining to feel i was marid to gve dm children.4 dat i ve made a statement (police)n abj & n my new place.sychological efect on me is wat i fear most & i pray my son dnt ve d trait.i'm realy greatful 4 al u comments.
Good for you.
However,are u very sure u did not have any idea that ur husband was gay b4 u married him?did u just notice/know he is gay or u knew all along and felt u could change him?
I also happen to know a quite popular musician in the East who everyone knows to be gay and warned the wife b4 marriage but she went ahead and married the guy hoping she wud make him straight over-night.Now,after a son and few years of marriage,she has come to know that u cant turn a b.utthole to an a.sshole.
Once again,Goodluck and all the best.
Re: My Husband Is Gay! by Billsmith: 12:09pm On Sep 21, 2010
Sorry madam. Just pray for him. I think he need deliverance
Re: My Husband Is Gay! by orangemen: 12:17pm On Sep 21, 2010
@madam poster,
with due respect ma, pls come over the shock and go back to ur responsibilities.
if your husband is under any form of influence, ur prayers and partnership will help him out.
on the other hand, i find it difficult to reconcile what a man will be looking for in a dry born of his fellow men not even with how women position and reposition themselves while making love. the sweetness of having a woman all over u and both moaning and groaming in the sweetness of it all.
madam, look back and see how u have been playing ur roles while on bed with him? why not get more information on how to make him cry in joy? go equip urself with bedmatics and wine him like never before.
women are annointed in love making and if you are sourrendering to a man or loosing ur husband to an ordinary man, i don't think u will have my vote on that.
my dear, pls go back and work on this man, u have a lot to do here via ur bed abilities. do not try shying away from ur responsibilities. he is ur husband accordin g to u and u have the sole responsibilities of satifying all his sexual needs and not samson. making him to see reasons and begin to think like me and believe in all standards that women are the sweetest thing a woman can enjoy.
Re: My Husband Is Gay! by manny4life(m): 12:38pm On Sep 21, 2010
ifyalways:

Good for you.
However,are u very sure u did not have any idea that your husband was gay b4 u married him?did u just notice/know he is gay or u knew all along and felt u could change him?
I also happen to know a quite popular musician in the East who everyone knows to be gay and warned the wife b4 marriage but she went ahead and married the guy hoping she wud make him straight over-night.Now,after a son and few years of marriage,she has come to know that u cant turn a b.utthole to an a.sshole.
Once again,Goodluck and all the best.

Dude have you heard of "down low"? The dude was keeping it down low obviously he's still in the closet. It would only take a sniffing wife to figure it out, and if he's discreet, some never do, a handful might be getting the feeling now that's if the husband goes deeper and begins to act weird or something terrible happens before the wife know that husband is gay. Many men even have grown up kids, still their wives don't know so if she doesn't know, then she doesn't. Besides all of you clamoring for deliverance, how can deliverance him him of homosexuality.
Re: My Husband Is Gay! by Echidime(m): 12:46pm On Sep 21, 2010
Are you sure you did not contribute to his been GAY? Were you giving him maximum sexual satisfaction? Check yourself and know where you went wrong.

ASk yourself,was he gay before you married him? if yes means you did not know him well before marriage,if you do you could have found it out then. Is it after your wedding that he became gay? find out
Re: My Husband Is Gay! by Shinatu: 1:04pm On Sep 21, 2010
Echidime:

Are you sure you did not contribute to his been GAY? Were you giving him maximum sexual satisfaction? Check yourself and know where you went wrong.

ASk yourself,was he gay before you married him? if yes means you did not know him well before marriage,if you do you could have found it out then. Is it after your wedding that he became gay? find out


@Echidime,

As many people have tried to say on this thread in one way or the other; no woman can give a gay man maximum sexual satisfaction.

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Re: My Husband Is Gay! by mrofficial(m): 1:14pm On Sep 21, 2010
Gay own too bad. E no be like lesbo own.
Re: My Husband Is Gay! by semid4lyfe(m): 1:36pm On Sep 21, 2010
Funnily enough, I used to know a gay guy back in UNI. Dude started off by asking me when we first met if I attended "so so" school and that I look like someone he knew back in his Sec Schl. From there, we became "hi & hello" friends and dude was always so happy & excited when he saw me (by then I don dey suspect wetin im be cos in my mind, I was always like. . .why this one go dey smile & happy like se I be im long lost wife) which wasn't often cos although we were in the same faculty, we weren't in the same department and hence only took 2 or 3 courses together. The guy go carry me go chop and im go pay for evry.  Anyway it took almost a year for the guy to pick up courage and make a pass at me which I rebuffed of course grin grin

To cut a long story short, we graduated, went our seperate ways and didn't meet again until last year at the Banker's game and he introduced me to his wife and son. I was shocked to say the least but the wife was all smiles and seemed very happy.

I was even thinking perhaps, this my friend was the hussie of the OP until she mentioned she's from the Eastern part of Nigeria cos I know the wife is Yoruba.

Hmmm. . .koko be se many women are married to men who swing both ways.

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Re: My Husband Is Gay! by Nobody: 1:44pm On Sep 21, 2010
semid4lyfe:

Funnily enough, I used to know a gay guy back in UNI. Dude started off by asking me if I attended "so so" school and that I look like someone he knew back in his Sec Schl. From there[b], we became "hi & hello" friends and dude was always so happy & excited when he saw me[/b] (by then I don dey suspect wetin im be cos in my mind, I was always like. . .why this one go dey smile & happy like se I'm be im long lost wife) which wasn't often cos although we were in the same faculty, we weren't in the same department and hence only took 2 or 3 courses together. The guy go carry me go chop and im go pay for evry. Anyway it took almost a year for the guy to pick up courage and make a pass at me which I rebuffed of course grin grin

To cut a long story short, we graduated, went our seperate ways and didn't meet again until last year at the Banker's game and he introduced me to his wife and son. I was shocked to say the least but the wife was all smiles and seemed very happy.

I was even thinking perhaps, this my friend was the hussie of the OP until she mentioned she's from the Eastern part of Nigeria cos I know the wife is Yoruba.

Hmmm. . .koko be se many women are married to men who swing both ways.
grin grin grin

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Re: My Husband Is Gay! by mackogu(m): 2:57pm On Sep 21, 2010
What on earth r u still doing with him?
Re: My Husband Is Gay! by Yorisb: 3:00pm On Sep 21, 2010
@@@OP

Nothing wey man no go hear 4 NL. . . shocked shocked
Re: My Husband Is Gay! by Iyineda(m): 3:08pm On Sep 21, 2010
@poster
Its a good thing naw

Atleast its better than if your husband is a serial killer or r@pist!

Yeah, I guess that settles it then. . . [size=4pt]quelle conne ma parole[/size]
Re: My Husband Is Gay! by crusufixo(m): 3:42pm On Sep 21, 2010
I must say, this is very unfortunate. But hey, he is your husband. In my opinion, I would say its your duty to seek help for him ( That is , if he is ready to seek help ). Even if he not ready to seek help, try to convince him. Every marriage has its ups and downs, skeletons in wardrobes, and crosses, and this is certainly yours. Yes, it wont be easy, but give it your very best shot ( for the sake of your son ). Most importantly, pray about it. All the best
Re: My Husband Is Gay! by ifyalways(f): 3:43pm On Sep 21, 2010
manny4life:

Dude have you heard of "down low"? The dude was keeping it down low obviously he's still in the closet. It would only take a sniffing wife to figure it out, and if he's discreet, some never do, a handful might be getting the feeling now that's if the husband goes deeper and begins to act weird or something terrible happens before the wife know that husband is gay. Many men even have grown up kids, still their wives don't know so if she doesn't know, then she doesn't. Besides all of you clamoring for deliverance, how can deliverance him him of homosexuality.
Girl,did u read what i said or u just quoted for quoting sake  undecided
Re: My Husband Is Gay! by Ranoscky(m): 4:13pm On Sep 21, 2010
One of doz things in life!

Carry am go 'Sapelle', make dem flog am pigeon (bird) for head, com baff am with 'Sapelle Water' !!!

Him no go fukk dry born nyash again!
Re: My Husband Is Gay! by Nobody: 4:24pm On Sep 21, 2010
Madam! wait a minute! this your husband's best friend Samson is he in the navy currently serving in lagos but was formerly in PH?

Why am asking is bc my former gf got married to a samson tht serves in the navy and she has been complaining that her husband seem to be gay!

Madam pls reply!

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