Sandrazima:
The culture of women cooking and doing house chores was created at a time when women didn't work and just stayed at home all day as their husbands brought home food and money. Now that women also bring home money why should they be the ones to cook and do chores?

Why should a woman go to work, get home in the evening and still be the one to cook and clean the house while her husband who did the same amount of work as she just sits and relaxes? I think men should also cook and do house work.

Foodforthought:

If you understand English, you will notice I did not disagree with your opinion, neither did I stop you from sharing it. I said that everyone can say what they want, and do what they want. But our opinions are better reflected in our own choices. If it works for you and your husband, do it. Likewise men who don't allow that for their wives have the right to do so, don't criminalise it. What is a man looking for in marriage?. They can as well impregnate one woman, visit brothels all their lives. pay child care....and then do their own chores in their own houses. What does a woman add to a man? But then it is your type that will still come and tag them irresponsible. To your tent, O Israel.

fykes:

Herein lays the matter for u- you are not married...why not till u are ready, then u will know that work or money or any other thing u think u have can't compare to keeping a good man happy

LilMissFavvy:
You did not disagree with my opinion, yet you were spelling out who and who should advice married people, mothers, etc, on a forum, you are kidding yourself, not me. Check around you will see proffessional counsellors who are single. Let me also advice you, just as you were trying to advice me. When you want to marry, make sure you search for a girl who is okay with your archaic views and ideologies. A woman who you can enslave as you wish, otherwise you may have your egostic ass kicked out. If you read some views up there, I ain't gonna mention any moniker, you will see real men who love and assist their wives with chores, so free me with my opinion.

Foodforthought:

Instead of you to be humble and learn you are trying to fight gender war. I'm archaic because I refuse to trade my culture for western influence? Who even told you husbands don't do chores? How many marriages did you use in your so- called real men research. A man should share cooking duties with you and you are comfortable with it? Is it a woman that clears lawn, fills gas, drives the kids to school, pays their fees, pays bills, etc? Or is that the accepted norm where you come from? Do you think it's all men that want wives to do their laundry? There are no JOBS in marriage. There are only unconditional sacrifices without regarding what the other person does to equal your own. Those are the tenets of teenage romance and relationships, not marriage. Modern indeed, you need a marriage counsellor to advise you, what happened to your elders and your parents? Where I come from, a woman wouldn't even let a man near her kitchen. So a man providing more( naturally) for his home, should also take turns with his wife equally to cook and wash plates and change diapers, and back baby? He can do so once in a while but SHARING it. Stop throwing insults....the problem is you don't know anything about marriage. It's either that or you are simply untrained.

LilMissFavvy:
Keep your stupid cultures and traditions to yourself and stick to it. If not for western culture that came to erode so many babaric African cultures, I wonder if you would be alive, or have a phone to hold and type trash, what's your intelligent Quotient to dare talk about western culture? What have you contributed to Africa or the world? I don't give a phuck about your culture, I don't know the hole you live in, where you don't see that women pay children's fees, drive kids to and fro school, pay for rent, build houses, etc, what should I learn from your kind? Slavery, foolish ego and pride? Shut the phuck up, keep your dumbo views to yourself. What is filling gas? I almost laughed out.Not all elders have successful marriages, neither do all of them judge with fairness, so if you run from one elder to another, seeking for counsel, then you are simply doomed.

Foodforthought:

All this you typed and you still did not make sense. This is why you women are difficult to argue with. Tantrums, emotions, you can't lock it up and argue straight. The way you're blabbing and foaming...you might even start crying if we continue this argument. So let me leave you to your demons...they're clearly bigger than I imagined. You are simply untrained, and not capable of intelligent reasoning. I shouldn't have bothered.
Honestly,ma, your problem big pass me. Marriage is not for you abeg. Don't even bother.

UyaiIncomparabl:
This is so spot on, OP. Don't mind these misogynists. Their double standards are just so nauseating. All that I know is, I won't kill myself to please a man neither will I tear my skull because I want to show support in the home. This is why women should set standards for themselves. I'm very attracted to homely and family oriented guys, for me, if he can't cook or do basic chores and even match my sanity or atleast help to maintain the cleanliness around the home, then I'm just so getting outy!

Don't marry men who will see chores as a taboo because society says their gender is kingly and then we should treat them like eggs, sorry, you don jam one chance. They will always say 'you can't tell a man to do chores'.. How so stupid that sounds! It's also same way you can't tell a woman to provide. You all will expect us to share bills, do all the chores, be submissive 100%, do not counter your opinions, cheat and tell us that 'Men are polygamous in nature' and expect us to carry on like our lives revolves around you all.

Blurdy misogynists and sexists!
Take away kids and money from the table, and see that you all really have nothing to offer.
Where did they even evolve from? I wonder.
Until women start voicing out, these sexists will not give us peace!

emmaodet:


And pls, where is it written that a man should be the one providing, spending on woman, chasing and wooing women? Where?

funmisticqueen2:
the bible duh!

emmaodet:


And is it not the same bible that stipulates woman's role?

LilMissFavvy:
It's an African belief, a backward outdated kind of lifestyle. House chores and cooking is supposed to be shared by couples in this modern era, if both are working class. Gradually, the tables will turn, probably in few decades time.

Sandrazima:
The culture of women cooking and doing house chores was created at a time when women didn't work and just stayed at home all day as their husbands brought home food and money. Now that women also bring home money why should they be the ones to cook and do chores?

Why should a woman go to work, get home in the evening and still be the one to cook and clean the house while her husband who did the same amount of work as she just sits and relaxes? I think men should also cook and do house work.

Sandrazima:


I'm not married yet. I'm just of the opinion that if I get married my husband should also cook and do chores and not just me.

Sandrazima:


How is cooking and doing chores my job? Where is it written that it's solely a woman's job to cook and do chores?

Adonko:
This is my opinion on this there are some things designed by nature that cannot just be changed overnight.

Let me relate this with this nature given example :

When you set a goal post at each end of a football pitch and you bring in teenagers who are of the age to kick football on the pitch and you throw a ball at the middle automatically you will see some running to the back to defend, some will argue with others concerning who will take charge as the goal keeper and others will just want to be in the midfield and others just love to strike the ball..these positions they are clamouring for was provided to them by nature.
Nobody choose it for them.
The truth is you can't cheat nature by default after returning from an outing or a farm by a man and a woman and they both look tiring you will still see the woman tending towards the kitchen .

If you don't have this instincts am sorry you are neither a man nor a woman .

Ryan03:
Abeg stop all these shiloh story, i am a guy yet i Dont allow my girlfriend do all the work, and i'm sure i'll not allow my wife do same. My girlfriend work and once in a while, she cooks for me, i also cook when i am free and i know she will be closing late from work cause i have her house key. Thats the same way i want my marriage to be, the girl is right

LilMissFavvy:
Keep your stupid cultures and traditions to yourself and stick to it. If not for western culture that came to erode so many babaric African cultures, I wonder if you would be alive, or have a phone to hold and type trash, what's your intelligent Quotient to dare talk about western culture? What have you contributed to Africa or the world? I don't give a phuck about your culture, I don't know the hole you live in, where you don't see that women pay children's fees, drive kids to and fro school, pay for rent, build houses, etc, what should I learn from your kind? Slavery, foolish ego and pride? Shut the phuck up, keep your dumbo views to yourself. What is filling gas? I almost laughed out.Not all elders have successful marriages, neither do all of them judge with fairness, so if you run from one elder to another, seeking for counsel, then you are simply doomed.

LilMissFavvy:
are you done? ''women'' smh. You think every woman is the wimp you are enslaving in the name of dating? You think you know women! Oga-sir, Listen, and listen good, never try to rigmarole everyone into buying your ideas, cultures and beliefs. You made absolutely no sense, I read other contributions, and saw some good ideas. You quoted me first and began the insults. The best answer for a dumbo, is silence, so it's best I ignore your kind.

Foodforthought:

Good ideas, bad ideas. If you like ignore, if you like reply. It's your business. I'm a happy person, I don't come to explain my frustrations on Nairaland. But let me join your already exasperated guardians and elders to advise you:
Madam, go and marry.

boiz2men:
you will find love my dear

ZIMDRILL:


its not outdated belief my dear

your circumstances determine the roles whether you call it culture or tradition remember half of the world expect the man to look after his wife in general it means providing, while she manages the provisions, in that sense the men go out work while she manages the house and kids, he bring out food etc directly eg he went to fish or works 9-8

now things have changed as in law (women rights &equal pay etc ) , working environments support women but it still hasnt taken away the women roles of cooking for her family and neither has it stopped men to work becoz the wife is working too

then poverty or the economy has forced many women to go out and work becoz what the man brings is nolonger enough there are not sticking to the old type tradition just being a housewife and let husband bring in food at the table

bad economy and poverty nothing about roles in the house

Tallesty1:
OK....


You can achieve what you want in few easy steps.



1. Make your money. Lots of it


2. Build your own house.


3. Get your own car.


4. Ask for a man's hand in marriage.


5. Collect list and do the traditional marriage and wedding.




He will never complain of doing all the chores

Sandrazima:


I'm not married yet. I'm just of the opinion that if I get married my husband should also cook and do chores and not just me.

LilMissFavvy:
Oops.....I tot most guys here are always harsh and raw, dats why am always ever ready to attack. It's like few good ones dey o ......tanx. I wish you same.

UyaiIncomparabl:


God save you say you no even dey close to me, the kind blow wey I for land you for that your mouth wey dey run like bike so ehn, Oboy you go reset to default.

boiz2men:


There was so much hate in your posts. I have found love for God is LOVE