There was a topic raised to why most Nigerian guys wait too long to get married. My conclusion was that money and not being ready is the main issue. Now, ladies, are those two factors an issue for you in terms of getting married or waiting for the broke to get his shit together?

I know some Nigerian couples in Portland that have had traditional marriage back home but have not had wedding here. It's clear that they don't have the money to do it or that they are not ready for the drama.

Some guys want to be in control, some want to be richer that the lady. That's not the case these days. Most of the couples that I know, their wives makes more money than they do.

Where are the single ladies?

well it depends, if he is actually serious about getting married to me but is just worried about his financial state then ya we would stick it out together and work on building our own life, but if he is just bullshitting then there are many fishes in the sea.

Good points.

He has 6 months to get it together. And then after that, if he's still broke there needs to be a long talk about what plans of action will go into place. gotta keep it moving, shawty.
What's love got to do with it?

To: Opensoul:
It’s good to keep it moving but money is not everything.

To Outlaw:

Money is definately not everything. And I have a track record to prove that. I'm just at the point in my life, that if a guy can't be on the level he needs to survive, then I'll give him time to work on it. But does that mean I should wait forever, while my life and other opportunites pass me by?

I agree.

Depends on how long he has not been 'ready' for. I'd be inclined to walk and find someone after the same things as me. There's only so long you can wait.

As for money, I can't marry anyone who can't match up to me financially. I've carried people's load in the past and I don't have time for it now. It's a depressing way to live and would make me lose respect for him

Money is not everything! if i love him deeply and he loves me too, makes me feel very special and happy, i will stay.

it's one thing the guy to be ready for marriage and broke, and another for him to be broke and not ready for marriage.

money definitely is not everything but then,ladies want to live a comfortable live,no lady want to get married and start suffering.If he's waiting because he wants to be financially alryt,thens its cool,he wants a comfortable life for you i think,so you can always wait.

I would stay , as long as he is trying to better himself .

Those that would stay sounds like they got into the relationship not because of money. The guy may not be ready for marriage and broke. What about you, are you not ready and broke too? If he is broke and you are rich because of your parents or your hard work, then money is not an issue.

Ladies, your situation also plays a part.

hello guys,
interesting topic, i am into a relationship of such, the guy is some yrs older than me and pre-nysc candidate . i have finshed my own nysc since 2005 and working in an establishment. i do help him the little i could. initially i had cold feet for it but when i saw the seriousness and genuinety, i played along.
we are both working towards settling down at least ending of next year because his brother is planning to send him abroad for his 2 degree.
pls chicks look for real love and follow your heart as in making a right choice.if you fall into a category of" all red made" men thank god for it but if you find a love from who has a brighter future plan together . God will fulfill your heart desire and there will be a respect from both the guy and his family.