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Re: How The Phrase ‘my Dear’ Can Put You In Trouble by evilive: 7:34pm On Jun 09
If words determine how you act, you aren't different from robots with pre-installed instructions.

Words become powerless and useless if I chose not to respond or act.

Learn to ignore and overlook, you will discover that calling a crocodile 'lizard' changes nothing.
Re: How The Phrase ‘my Dear’ Can Put You In Trouble by eleko1: 7:35pm On Jun 09
sad sad sad sad Nonsense/unnecessary provocation. That's Satan @ work.Ondo pipu (Ondo town) Elderly people usually greet either married/none with that MY DEAR, kenti, Ale mi etc a d dey never kee themselves on top..If u dnt want to be greeted with MY DESR then stop greeting ur neighbours too
Re: How The Phrase ‘my Dear’ Can Put You In Trouble by MaNyEsq(m): 7:36pm On Jun 09
First of all, we need to understand the meaning of the word "dear" before doing any analysis on who is right or wrong in this instance. As a noun, "dear" is used as an affectionate or friendly form of address and as an adjective, it connotes deep affection and used when cherished by someone. "My dear" is usually used for and by people who are closer. It is a term of endearment - someone who is dear to you.

Now, if the greeter [woman] felt slighted because she felt that she was not that close to the man to elicit such an endearing response, that would be a different issue. I can see her point, although I do not agree with her dramatic reaction to such minutiae. However, if her overreaction was simply based on the fact that she's of the belief that the word is used to address someone that you feel is below you like in some parts of Nigeria-as alluded to by the writer- then that's arrant nonsense.

The word "my dear" means what it means regardless of what meaning different parts of the country try to assign to it. So, for the woman to react in the manner that she did was just over the top. In my opinion, there are some underlying issues here that would make a reasonable person react in like manner. Her best cause of action would have been after she requested that the man either change or correct his response, [which I think is too damn silly] is to make it a point not to greet him again from then onward.

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Re: How The Phrase ‘my Dear’ Can Put You In Trouble by alimohammedibn(m): 7:41pm On Jun 09
Wonderful
Re: How The Phrase ‘my Dear’ Can Put You In Trouble by Belial06: 7:42pm On Jun 09
dfrost:


With that pocohantas face, I'll bet my last card that I won't be calling her 'my dear' anytime soon.

shocked

Re: How The Phrase ‘my Dear’ Can Put You In Trouble by Tobesky1: 7:48pm On Jun 09
My dear,you too can become a Chartered Accountant..

Re: How The Phrase ‘my Dear’ Can Put You In Trouble by franklynn(m): 7:50pm On Jun 09
VillagePipu:
Poverty stricken neighbours in a poor neighbourhood.

Make money and nonsense would stop. You would tell your neighbour's wife 'how are you my dear' in the presence of her husband and he would be the one to answer "We are fine sir".

Money stops nonsense.

Bro truer words have never been spoken I doff ma hat give u
Re: How The Phrase ‘my Dear’ Can Put You In Trouble by Nowenuse: 7:56pm On Jun 09
Reference:
The safest way in life is to mind your business and face your issues. Just learn to live a peaceable life. You should not act if you need only speak. You should not speak when a smile is all that is necessary. You need not smile when a courteous nod will do. Be a mystery to people. Be an unopened book longing to be read.

This post of yours has made my day. Nice.
People usually take you for granted only when they have sized you up. You can never be sized up by people when you are mysterious to them.
Re: How The Phrase ‘my Dear’ Can Put You In Trouble by enemyofprogress: 7:58pm On Jun 09
Several times I had warned dominique, ajepako, ishilove, vickyrotex, lankybabby, folake4u and fatymore to stop calling me my dear
Re: How The Phrase ‘my Dear’ Can Put You In Trouble by EricSmallz(m): 8:05pm On Jun 09
What now lead to the conviction ? No Judge in his right senses will imprison somebody because his misuse of words. Was it Defamatory or what exactly?
Re: How The Phrase ‘my Dear’ Can Put You In Trouble by Fanbee: 8:12pm On Jun 09
pocohantas:
I agree with the writer, most times people use it to address someone they feel is beneath them. By age or whatever category they deem fit.

How many of the supposed educated people would respond to our MDs with "my dear". I bet none. That part of your brain that is wired to say dear will switch off and use Sir/Madam.

I really do not take it seriously, but I have issues with people using unnecessary endearments for me. Especially people of the opposite sex who I share no BOND with. I had this one that kept calling me sweetness. Who is your sweetness? undecided

At work, I tell the junior staff, don't call me aunty, sister...call me by my first name. Feel free to add a Miss if you want.

I address people by their first names. Except my shugar...


So you get sugar all this while and u didnt tell me? When I had already planned our trad outfit and my wedding suit..Mscheww.
Re: How The Phrase ‘my Dear’ Can Put You In Trouble by sunkoye: 8:14pm On Jun 09
The woman is sure spoiling for a fight before. This is more than meet the eyes fight. She craftly used the greeting as platform to start issues.
Re: How The Phrase ‘my Dear’ Can Put You In Trouble by Deicide: 8:22pm On Jun 09
pocohantas:

I really do not take it seriously, but I have issues with people using unnecessary endearments for me. Especially people of the opposite sex who I share no BOND with. I had this one that kept calling me sweetness. Who is your sweetness? undecided
Make i look for trouble small.....my sweetheart kiss tongue
Re: How The Phrase ‘my Dear’ Can Put You In Trouble by femi4: 8:49pm On Jun 09
pocohantas:
I agree with the writer, most times people use it to address someone they feel is beneath them. By age or whatever category they deem fit.

How many of the supposed educated people would respond to our MDs with "my dear". I bet none. That part of your brain that is wired to say dear will switch off and use Sir/Madam.

I really do not take it seriously, but I have issues with people using unnecessary endearments for me. Especially people of the opposite sex who I share no BOND with. I had this one that kept calling me sweetness. Who is your sweetness? undecided

At work, I tell the junior staff, don't call me aunty, sister...call me by my first name. Feel free to add a Miss if you want.

I address people by their first names. Except my shugar...
you have spoken well my dear grin
Re: How The Phrase ‘my Dear’ Can Put You In Trouble by fermlad: 8:56pm On Jun 09
Re: How The Phrase ‘my Dear’ Can Put You In Trouble by PeacenLove2: 9:10pm On Jun 09
Op, I feel you o. People have batsrardized the endearment "dear" or "my dear". They basically use it for people they feel is beneath them except of course if friends mutually use it.

A woman once told me she greeted another woman politely with a good afternoon and the other woman responded with good afternoon, dear. Something about that didn't sit well with her but she swallowed it. On her way out, she said she deliberately said goodbye, dear. And the woman seemed so shocked and disrespected. So I think it's better to save the word for your loved ones.

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Re: How The Phrase ‘my Dear’ Can Put You In Trouble by stasius: 9:42pm On Jun 09
USELESS MENTALITY
Re: How The Phrase ‘my Dear’ Can Put You In Trouble by stasius: 9:43pm On Jun 09
Archaic people full this country
Re: How The Phrase ‘my Dear’ Can Put You In Trouble by lefulefu(m): 10:17pm On Jun 09
just replying a simple gud mornin or gud afternoon back at d married woman would have saved him all those drama.guys should be very tactful when it comes to a married woman.
Re: How The Phrase ‘my Dear’ Can Put You In Trouble by incogni2o: 10:24pm On Jun 09
AmazonTopaz:

I have known the meaning of the word dear since I was a child so do not try to insult me.
It is one of the words I am very familliar with and I tend to use it often with no strings attached to it.
Whoever chooses to misinterpret definitely has issues that word can never put me in trouble.If you don't like my usage of the word to you just tell me simple and I would stopcalling you that.

Same thing as telling someone You are a crazy dude

Crazy passes different connotations to different people.

Me feeling offended in the word is due to my understanding of it.

In summary You calling someone "my Sweetheart " means different things. Its up to you to look before you leap.
Re: How The Phrase ‘my Dear’ Can Put You In Trouble by ajepako(f): 10:26pm On Jun 09
enemyofprogress:
Several times I had warned dominique, ajepako, ishilove, vickyrotex, lankybabby, folake4u and fatymore to stop calling me my dear

Sule
Re: How The Phrase ‘my Dear’ Can Put You In Trouble by TemmyT002(m): 10:41pm On Jun 09
Nawa o
Re: How The Phrase ‘my Dear’ Can Put You In Trouble by MzTunechi(f): 11:24pm On Jun 09
Re: How The Phrase ‘my Dear’ Can Put You In Trouble by Mylovelife: 11:36pm On Jun 09
Truth be told

Most ladies use the term "my dear" to belittle" others. At least I have asked them.

You use "my dear" for me and won't use it for my younger sister that is richer than both of us.
Can you use "my dear" for your boss,? Hell no

Well, to stop that rubbish, I started using "my dear" for her too.

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Re: How The Phrase ‘my Dear’ Can Put You In Trouble by Uwatt(m): 11:40pm On Jun 09
VillagePipu:
Poverty stricken neighbours in a poor neighbourhood.

Make money and nonsense would stop. You would tell your neighbour's wife 'how are you my dear' in the presence of her husband and he would be the one to answer "We are fine sir".

Money stops nonsense.

sense weee not kill u
heheheheheehehekikikikikikikikikikiikki
Re: How The Phrase ‘my Dear’ Can Put You In Trouble by Kylce042(m): 12:17am On Jun 10
ijustdey:







https://thenationonlineng.net/how-the-phrase-my-dear-can-put-you-in-trouble/





I don't see anything wrong with the dear word.
I use it often too. The said woman had no right to restrict the man's movement it is against the law. 9ja pipu get issues sha
Re: How The Phrase ‘my Dear’ Can Put You In Trouble by Kylce042(m): 12:21am On Jun 10
OK my dear is kinda wrong but the woman geh wahala period
Re: How The Phrase ‘my Dear’ Can Put You In Trouble by boban007: 12:24am On Jun 10
SOMETIMES IT'S A SUBTLE WAY OF FLIRTING BEFORE CONSOLIDATING.
Re: How The Phrase ‘my Dear’ Can Put You In Trouble by tintingz(m): 1:05am On Jun 10
incogni2o:


Dear means something Dear to you.
"My Dear" means someone Dear to you.

Common, even whites dont use it otherwise.
The word "dear" is a polite word tho.

https://www.vocabulary.com/dictionary/dear

Some people can interpret "my dear" into another thing, some a way of belittling them like "take this my dear boy". Well to avoid unnecessary hullabaloo, one should not use it for someone he/she is not close to.

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Re: How The Phrase ‘my Dear’ Can Put You In Trouble by tintingz(m): 1:07am On Jun 10
Kylce042:
OK my dear is kinda wrong but the woman geh wahala period

"My dear" is not wrong word, maybe you should check your dictionary. It just depends on who and how one address it.

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Re: How The Phrase ‘my Dear’ Can Put You In Trouble by kullozone(m): 7:47am On Jun 10
Fvck! So secondary school was a scam We were taught to use "dear" when writing letters.

Me I go collect my money back oh!
Wahala untop "my dear".... Naija jus get folo come fault.
Useless wife and police husband by the waysmiley
Re: How The Phrase ‘my Dear’ Can Put You In Trouble by Duggedised12(f): 8:01am On Jun 10
boban007:
SOMETIMES IT'S A SUBTLE WAY OF FLIRTING BEFORE CONSOLIDATING.
exactly what I was waiting to see. Most guys use it as a subtle way of flirting.

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