oboy81:
Ok so why are you telling us this now?
You are feeling yourself? Starboy?
Girls be coming at you, it massages your ego it boosts your self your fragile self esteem?
Manufacturing fake Stories to Feel your sef
Noone gives a hoot!

Mypeople2:
Well, I don't have stories like yours Op .But I will gladly accept any presentable or well mannered lady that will be bold enough to say it or showing me enough green light .However, some ladies will be showing you the green light but when you start approaching them, that is when they will begin to pretend or "form" again

IsiahRashad:
Personally I don't see it as a big deal but the way she was behaving like it's a kind of abomination just made me wonder. She even said she'll prefer to keep quiet and let the "like" kill her than to make the first move. I don't know if it's a Nigerian girl thing

THEY ALL SAY THAT SAME THING. "GOD FORBID". "I'LL SHOW HIM SIGNS AND IF HE DOESN'T GET IT ANOTHER GUY WILL.

THEN...
— THEY START DROPPING HINTS (GREENLIGHT)
— IF YOU'RE NOT COOPERATING THEY START GIVING YOU BAD ATTITUDE
— IF YOU KEEP ON TRYING TO KEEP YOUR LIFE GOING BECAUSE YOU TRULY DON'T UNDERSTAND WHAT'S GOING ON, THEY START HATING YOU FOR NO REASON, AND FINALLY,
— THEY SWITCH TO CRYING, CURSING, AND ACCUSING YOU OF BEING JUST A PLAYER WHEN THEY FINALLY SEE YOU WITH SOMEONE ELSE.

ALL THIS INSTEAD OF SAYING WHAT THEY WANT.

femi4:
One thing I discover about girls that come to you first is that

1. They have manners

2. They respect and want you even with your flaws

3. They are not materialistic

4. They are quite intelligent.

abdeiz:
I have had three experiences.

The first was through a mutual friend who saw our picture together, she was immediately smitten. Decided to get my number and shoot her shot. I've never met a lady so direct, smart and knows what she want, no forming, no playing around. Tried to love her like she did but I couldn't. Had a mini emotional breakdown when I told her I couldn't give her what she wanted. Las las we still dey alright.

The second, I had her number for years but never made any move till one day we just clicked. I was wary of asking her out because of long distance and she's older though it doesn't show on her. She professed her love and I told her i felt same but I cannot marry her... another different story..... anyway she agreed and we've been cool ever since...no sex yet tho.

Third I was just on my own...gbam... friend request and she starts calling me her husband well I'm just playing her game for now... nothing to lose right?

IsiahRashad:


@ bolded, It's like they have this misconception that we must go through some cat and mouse chase if not they'll look "cheap"

ebonyggurl:


This is one of the major reasons I don't support girls who 'shoot their shot'...if the guy doesn't like her, he won't tell her straight up that he doesn't like her...he'll keep leading her on...nothing to lose you say? For her to have built up the courage to ask you out, she obviously likes you and you can't even be honest with her...you wanna hurt the poor girl instead...yall should kwantinue

IsiahRashad:
Today I met a girl and we got talking about different subjects, after a while she asked me what I thought about females coming on to guys they like and making the first move. Personally I don't see it as a big deal but the way she was behaving like it's a kind of abomination just made me wonder. She even said she'll prefer to keep quiet and let the "like" kill her than to make the first move. I don't know if it's a Nigerian girl thing because I watch foreign movies and see how ladies go after men they want. Most of our girls think it will somehow reduce their "value" in our eyes and make us not appreciate them, but it depends, it could also increase the value and make the guy respect your guts and determination. I tried to convince her that she could be creative about the method but she was adamant and asked me if it had ever happened to me before and how it turned out. I can easily recall two scenarios.

The first one was a couple of years ago, during my IT. There was this girl in the Quality Assessment department, fine as hell with fresh legs, we normally go through the eye contact routine and friendly chit chat but I was hesitating to take the next step. The first time was one day in the staff bus, the senior workers usually treat we IT students like junior level staff and after closing, the staff bus is always full, so we normally stand for a couple of bus stops till some of them get down, so I was standing with this my notorious friend and the girl was sitting down, next thing he told her to stand so he could sit and she'll sit on his laps. She said no that she wants me to sit instead. My eyes almost fell out of my face, lol. So she sat on my laps and I couldn't even ask for her number cos I was desperately trying to fight an erection, so as not to fall my hand. Then there was another morning I waited for the staff bus and it didn't show, so I took public transport and then entered bike to the company. When I arrived, I saw a crowd outside and the gate was locked. She was standing with one girl and they told me the workers were going on strike because of owed salaries. She then said, "I saw you standing at your stop when my bus passed, if only I had your number, I would have called you when I got here so you won't bother." She made this statement like three times and I knew that was the chance to get her number but all my mind was on the fact that I was freaking broke...I didn't have enough money to get me back home as I made a foolish gamble thinking there'd be work that day and I'll go back with the staff bus.
She then suggested we go back together that she wasn't even going to go home but go see her beastie who stays a couple of bus stops from my place.
I had to lie that I was going somewhere else because actually no money and I was thinking how I'll pay for our transport when I didn't even have enough.

Another case happened few weeks ago, I had an accident and was rushed to the hospital, there was this nurse always asking how I was feeling, when I was on drip...this and that. But I was on some serious painkillers and not really conscious, finally I was knocked out and when I woke up she was holding my hands and talking to me, paying me some kind of extra attention and my drug muddled brain was sort of confused if I was mistaking her professional courtesy for something else. I still complemented her that I was glad her face was the first I saw when I woke up. We actually gisted and after a while i thought she was trying to keep me awake and nothing more.

When I was about to be discharged, she came with her phone and collected my number. She kinda did it in a hurry, like she didn't want anyone to come in and see her getting it.
She messaged me the next day and we've been chatting since then and even set a date, under the guise of her coming to check up on me lol.

The funny thing was, the girl I was having this conversation with was still trying to shoot her shot indirectly.

We read some news although mostly twitter tales of how some women leave notes under the wiper of their crush's car, and are happily married today. Some are even extra creative that they'll make you ask them out without you knowing they did the asking.

Girls don't be afraid to shoot your shot, cos if you wait for some guys you could grow old.

So guys share your experience and how did it go

ebonyggurl:


This is one of the major reasons I don't support girls who 'shoot their shot'...if the guy doesn't like her, he won't tell her straight up that he doesn't like her...he'll keep leading her on...nothing to lose you say? For her to have built up the courage to ask you out, she obviously likes you and you can't even be honest with her...you wanna hurt the poor girl instead...yall should kwantinue

abdeiz:



Hey don't take it the wrong way, she's obviously catching fun with me probably because she's bored.when I notice she gets too serious with feelings and I still don't have any for her, I tell her and let her go

Mypeople2:
yeah you are correct .But do you know that is what you people do to us ?

tohyorsih2:
Okada abed drop me here!!!


*spreads mat*

ebonyggurl:


This is one of the major reasons I don't support girls who 'shoot their shot'...if the guy doesn't like her, he won't tell her straight up that he doesn't like her...he'll keep leading her on...nothing to lose you say? For her to have built up the courage to ask you out, she obviously likes you and you can't even be honest with her...you wanna hurt the poor girl instead...yall should kwantinue

desvi:


please, where do you have this picture from? it cracked me up. I can't stop laughing ooo ... my belle.
I was cooking ....

tohyorsih2:



i got it saw it on Tunde Ednut's page


She cooked for four years

KingTom:
Correct me if I'm wrong, but won't turning her down flat, lead to a gross reduction of her self esteem?