One of the most castigated and criticized are the SINGLE mothers, the society is so hostile to them that some parents forbid their children from being friends with them, growing up in Nigeria, i was very guilty of this same offence, in fact i always swear i will and can never marry an AFTER 1, like we call them, I dated 2 just for curiosity sake, they were both extremely nice and over protective,they were TOO caring and INSECURE! I can say they were desperate! I opted out on both occassions, thinking that 'This one wan trap me' In all honesty there wasn't much difference in term of sexual intercourse, I had this Childish believe that, once a lady give birth, the p***Y is slacked, widened, loose etc! but that was a wrong assumption, i have been there and can say confidently that some ladies that are yet to give birth are even worse than the Single mothers! These set of people are suffering from the sins committed by 2 parties! we forgot that they NEVER made themselves pregnant, but we judge them and condemn them while the men walk away freely, get married and come back for 'HIS' kid later in the future afer the lady must have been to hell and back! However after being out of the Country for over 5 years, and been to different countries including Africa Countries, i realised we are not being fair to our sisters, our friends just because they give life, just because they bring joy to the world and just because they committed sins we all do commit! If Men can be pregnant,i'm sure we will have been worse,given the Poligamous nature of us and given the very fact that we cheat the most in every relationships! Over the years i realised i have really committed sins and only God can forgive, the same sins most of our youths are still committing just because of societal treatment and unwarranted criticism! The high rate of ABORTION was as a result of the fear, an average Nigerian lady must have carried out one or two ABORTIONS before the age of 25 just because of the fear of being called a SINGLE mum! i was also guilty! This message might not change your mind, but i won't you to know that being a SINGLE mum doesn't mean a lady is a BITCH or LOOSE! some ladies have aborted 6-10 times before you meet them, and you glorify her for not being a careless BITCH! Infact having a kid should encourage us! it shows the lady is FERTILE! Let's stop the intimidation and unwarrated castigation of our SISTERS! nobody holy pass, Do not judge anyone because they sin differently

Better leave dem to carry their cross..

We all av ours to carry too.

You made some points.

However, life isn't that fair. Would never even be. So, these stereotypes will continue to exist.

well u can't find single mothers among our hausa ppl, I like thay

go and marry single mother and let us rest abegi



so the society should keep praising them so the trend can greatly increase? do you know how tough it is being the child of a single parent even in the west? child of such situations go through a lot of things and the best way we can end it or keep it on the low is by not being open to single motherhood

Foolish thread.
So make we dey clap for them abi wetin?

Why you no marry the ones you dey with