I need advice from you as I
don't know what to do at the
moment.
I have been having an issue
with my girl friend over the
years and this has kept me in a
dilemma.I have been dating
her for over three years,but
the problem with her is that
she doesn't call me but I do
call her.I always let her realise
how I feel about what she
does but she always give me
flimsy excuses that calling
does not mean love but I
always disagree with her.I love
her but I dont know if she
loves me(because she doesn't
call me)but she always claim
to be.
Though I have never met any
guy challenging me at her
resident.I don't just know what to
do as I love this girl but people
say calling is important in a
relationship.I need your advice.

I need ur reply plz,

I guess she doesn't love you that much.She's just pretending to be in love with you.

if the girl really loves u she will call u and always want to hear ur voice. except she doesnt ve d means or money to call u.

if she loves u she will call u no matter what,ever if she had no money she can borrow to call u if she want to hear you voice and know how you are faring,in this case this girl is fooling you man

Am sorry to say she is not really into you.Or it is her nature if you have been battling with it for 3yrs now.What are her excuses for not calling?Is she working or schooling?Does she work in a bank or where?
Quite unfortunate, while you see some ladies that complain that their guys dont call them, here is a guy having issue with his girl not calling.

@ Poster ditch the black woman.

sorry man find some one else

@Poster,I dey pity, E bi like say you wan use cutlass cut hair, You wan enter BRT go Abuja, You know no say na Redeem camp bi its like bus stop, Na half away you reach,you better come down for that girls bus since she has blind you for 3 yrs,

Its obvious she dnt love you the way
you do love her.
so you should be prepared for her any move
it might not be pleasing, but if you are prepared
it will help you alot.

dont call her for like a week and see if she will call u. If she does more than once that means she's still into u all u need do is just work a lil extra hard on her, if she doesn't at all, then ur time's up u need to walk away asap. If she calls u just once or twice within that 1week, that means she's hasn't made up her mind on u, so the decision is urs to  either work on her, see why she's contemplating on her love for u, or u simple take the easy way out and get better girl that will love u unconditionally

how intimately do u guys relate, what and what do u think she wud miss if u're not there and how is the sex like?

Her other area of life life is ok except d calling issue.There was a day i let her realise her action she pleaded with me that i need2understand her nature.Thats why am still in dilemma about her

would her sending a call back suffice as a mean of letting you know she's thinking of you. Give her recharge cards and money to call you, do you.

I agree with Mobo444 and Kely XY and Omolola1.

So becauseshe dosen't call you you are her crying? Mccccchew!

Joblesness!

^^^^how u dey madam

She could flash, or send a call me back sms. There is no justifiable reason why she does not call back except the truth that she is not in love with you. If she claims its her nature then why can't she bend a little to satisfy the desire of the one who cares for her especially if you have sacrificed to make her happy. No need to beat about the bush the young lady does not care enough for you.

UjuJoan was right about your call me attitude. It is childish for you to be overly concerned about whether you are called back or not, if you feel you are not getting what you want in a relationship talk it out with the other person and if there is no compromise its best to go your seperate ways.

Thanks@all.am still expecting more replies

My dear ask yourself this questions?
1)Does she have a phone?
2)If she does,does she buy recharge card?

3)If yes then she's obviously calling other people. I'm not saying she's calling other men but other pple she considers IMPORTANT.

Pally, dont call her for a few days and see if she calls u back

dont leave her cos back then there was nothing like phone calls or better still buy her a phone and send her recharge card.u kno wat?keep callin if u love her

Three years, she must love you, so don't listen to the posters that try to plant seeds of doubt in your head.

Relationships should be loving and supportive. You have an issue and regardless of how unimportant it is to her, it is important to you. She should take you serious because you brought the calling thing to the relationship for support. She is not supporting her end of the relationship, probably because like most people she is does not know about what a loving supportive relationship is.

I consider it emotional abuse if your in a relationship and your not getting your support. Don't play the game of doing it back to her, because then you are being like her and become the abuser. The only real solution is to remove yourself from the abusive situation. So this is what I have done in the past it usually works:

Bring up the issue to her and tell her you feel that you are being neglected. If she refuses or invalidates your feelings by saying something like,"calling don't mean love." Tell her you are bringing a problem to the relationship and it needs to be dealt with. If she refuses, then tell her that you consider it neglect and abusive and you must remove yourself from that environment, and tell her good bye on the phone. Let her know you love her, but she needs to come to terms with addressing the issue. Next convo, bring it up and see if she responds by being more supportive. If not then do the solution. It take about three to four times of doing this for people to get the point so be patient with her.

hmnn

u need 2 stop calin her 4 a wile n wait 2 see her nxt action. after a week if she doesn't miss ur voice or come lukin 4u witin dat week den go find sumbody who's crazy abt u.

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what kind of love is that why wont someone who claims she loves you never for once made an attempt to call you?Do you guy see eachother everyday or perhaps stays in the same house, street, or whatever? even if that should be the case its still her right to be calling you.just be wise.

@poster,relationships are a 2 way traffic-give and take!!u have on for 3 years and phone calls is an issue!!dat pretty tough,
i candid advice is for 2 hav a heart 2 heart talk with her,let no how if affects u and the relationship in general, communication is an essential ingredient in a relationship.
always remember u deserve the best,dont ever settle for less.
if shes still indefirrent,d best tin 2 do is take a break off d relationship.

luap:

Three years, she must love you, so don't listen to the posters that try to plant seeds of doubt in your head.

Relationships should be loving and supportive. You have an issue and regardless of how unimportant it is to her, it is important to you. She should take you serious because you brought the calling thing to the relationship for support. She is not supporting her end of the relationship, probably because like most people she is does not know about what a loving supportive relationship is.

I consider it emotional abuse if your in a relationship and your not getting your support. Don't play the game of doing it back to her, because then you are being like her and become the abuser. The only real solution is to remove yourself from the abusive situation. So this is what I have done in the past it usually works:

Bring up the issue to her and tell her you feel that you are being neglected. If she refuses or invalidates your feelings by saying something like,"calling don't mean love." Tell her you are bringing a problem to the relationship and it needs to be dealt with. If she refuses, then tell her that you consider it neglect and abusive and you must remove yourself from that environment, and tell her good bye on the phone. Let her know you love her, but she needs to come to terms with addressing the issue. Next convo, bring it up and see if she responds by being more supportive. If not then do the solution. It take about three to four times of doing this for people to get the point so be patient with her.

Well said.
@ Poster pls still work on ur relationship, ur girl might not be the comminicating type but u can work on her, one thin dat is permanent is change.
if i may ask, does she work or schl? can she aford card for calls,wat kind of thins does she spend most of her time doin? and mostly her personality type.
if after doin all u can and u are not gettin ur happiness, then u wont hav a cos to be blame if u take a leave.
Gudlck.