DanDeeBoss:
Everyone is single until married Abi??

XhosaNostra:
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chenzen:
until u both agree to get married there s entirely no reason to get worked up.

chenzen:
yea. if u think otherwise, then state ur reasons why.

chenzen:
yea. if u think otherwise, then state ur reasons why.

chenzen:
until u both agree to get married there s entirely no reason to get worked up.

Blackivy27:
you dont mind your gf cheating?? :/

LilMissFavvy:
If one does not learn to be faithful while dating, is it when married that he or she will be able to adjust to being faithful automatically? It can never work.

XhosaNostra:


Every relationship has terms & conditions, depending on the people involved. I don't expect to find myself in an open relationship, when I didn't sign up for one. So of course, I'm not just going to get angry, but very angry if someone cheats on me despite what we have agreed upon. A marriage is supposed to be a binding, long-term contract between two people, to pledge their undying love & fidelity to each other. But there also exists other type of contracts, these on a more temporary basis or for as long as you're together, where you both make promises never to stray. Not all of us are built for uncertain & willy-nilly relationships with no terms or conditions.

chenzen:
there are no such things as terms and conditions unless the lady in question clearly stated her terms before agreeing to date a guy if he agrees to it.

XhosaNostra:


Exactly, so what are you disputing?

chenzen:
what I am saying is... ladies initially gives no conditions neither does the guy... they just kickstart the relationship with high hopes that he/she will not Express themselves intimately with someone else.... and so if that happens no one should have any reason to be sad or feel bad.

XhosaNostra:


If that happens, yes. But that doesn't happen in every relationship. Some of us communicate these expectations at the very beginning, to ensure these kind of issues don't come to haunt us later on.

chenzen:
true. the sole aim of every relationship should be marriage. But for so many it's just for fun and adventure. I see no reason why a lady good and matured enough to be married, will waste just waste away sticking to one guy for so long hoping that he will propose when there are guys on the side waiting to pounce on that opportunity to spend a lifetime with her as a life partner. I dont blame ladies when they leave all their options open. the real problem are we the guys. we like wasting time.... and when we see her getting along with a serious guy, we get angry...


pls ladies, cheat in peace. dont mind us.

XhosaNostra:



Hmmmm...

chenzen:
I m tryin' to make a serious point..
imagine a guy who is unserious and doesn't even have any plans about getting married to a lady he's been dating for 5 years, he gets mad when he perceives her cheating... now imagine if she chooses to be faithful as a good woman that she is... he gets tired of her after using her, dumps her and gets married to a fresh virgin after dating her for 6 weeks.


huh

XhosaNostra:


No, I see your point & I agree with it. I'm just not an advocate of cheating. If a relationship or person doesn't serve a purpose, cut it loose, is more my take on it.