hurthubby:


Your language is rude and crude. You are married for 7 years only. Wait till you get to over 19 years of marriage with teen children before you know that it is another kettle of fish. Thanks anyway

missjo:

Is a cheating wife even worth this much violence
I never really understood why anyone would fight or physically harm a cheating partner. To what end?

GreatDad19:
My wife has put me through hell in just such a short time. I understand what this man is going through, it takes the grace of God to leave these olosho women we call wives. My wife will get the shock of her life in December, I’ve already furnished my new apartment and I will be moving there leaving my wife to suffer on her own. I will sell that house that she’s living in, let her go and collect money from her customers to take care of her. Bros I will advise you to get your finances up and leave her ASAP. Got no time for these useless parasites that will come and ruin your life.

LadySarah:
When did You notice this behavior first?What was ur immediate rxn?What did She give As excuse;small p..is,unsatisfactory sex,low libido on ur side,weight gain?
All these yrs what have You done to improve Where She complained?


Watch warroom movie .That is what they tell the women who complain here so You can find out If it Will Work for you.

Work on yourself ,ok?

rosy1992:
This is absolutely ridiculous, how did you cope all these years, As a Christian I won't suggest divorce, rather you need to have an open minded discussion with her, to tell her how you feel.

Or you both need to see a marriage counselor , it seems there is something wrong somewhere. You both need to find the missing puzzle.

Then concentrate on establishing yourself, and taking care of yourself and your children. If she continues with her immorality, then you can decide to give yourselves some space till you figure out what next to do. Divorce is not an option.

larryking540:


and those good wife's are rear to come by, go to ur street, ur church or ur working place and confidently count those good women who work and still respect their husband and his laws, and I will tell u those women are not more than ur finger tips, ,

LilMissFavvy:
Husband and ''inlaws''? ...... I never mentioned in-laws in my message. If you think you can find a successful woman who subjects to you and also becomes a slave to in-laws then you are a big joke. If you are a mature man you will know that in-laws breed different problems, I don't know why a good husband should allow unnecessary interferences between his wife and in-laws. Did she marry the inlaws ?

larryking540:

I have gone Tru ur comments more than twice and I still don't understand, just try make it more clear, I never mentioned in-laws in any of my quote

LilMissFavvy:
Go back to the first comment you sent to me and read the 4th line.

tiswell:
Just stfu

pocohantas:
Forgive her.

Women are polygamous in nature.

Don't allow those men win, she is your wife...they are the intruders.

Just focus on your children, she'll definitely get tired and come back to you. They always do... I wish you strength.

LadySarah:
When did You notice this behavior first?What was ur immediate rxn?What did She give As excuse;small p..is,unsatisfactory sex,low libido on ur side,weight gain?
All these yrs what have You done to improve Where She complained?


Watch warroom movie .That is what they tell the women who complain here so You can find out If it Will Work for you.

Work on yourself ,ok?

rosy1992:
This is absolutely ridiculous, how did you cope all these years, As a Christian I won't suggest divorce, rather you need to have an open minded discussion with her, to tell her how you feel.

Or you both need to see a marriage counselor , it seems there is something wrong somewhere. You both need to find the missing puzzle.

Then concentrate on establishing yourself, and taking care of yourself and your children. If she continues with her immorality, then you can decide to give yourselves some space till you figure out what next to do. Divorce is not an option.

LadySarah:


because of the loose vagina?

GreatDad19:
My wife has put me through hell in just such a short time. I understand what this man is going through, it takes the grace of God to leave these olosho women we call wives. My wife will get the shock of her life in December, I’ve already furnished my new apartment and I will be moving there leaving my wife to suffer on her own. I will sell that house that she’s living in, let her go and collect money from her customers to take care of her. Bros I will advise you to get your finances up and leave her ASAP. Got no time for these useless parasites that will come and ruin your life.

hurthubby:
My story is too long but let me try to summarize everything.
(I have been a member of Nairaland since 2009, but i just created this account to hide my identity)

I got married in the year 2000 and wedded in Dec 2001. Before the actual wedding, my wife got a job in Abuja, where she stayed for one year before our wedding and her joining me in Ibadan. During the cause of that year, i have a friend who stays in Abuja that knows my wife very well, who reported about my wife's infidelity to me then, though i ignored it.
In the year 2005, my wife confessed to me that she committed adultery after our wedding. (She was actually about 2 months pregnant in Feb 2002 when she sought my permission to visit her sister in Lagos. I never knew that she actually visited one of her old boy friends and spent 2 days with him). I was down cast for some days when i heard her confession before i got back myself and forgave and forgot everything.
She later got a job which made her travel often, sometimes spending weeks outside but i never suspected anything even though her boss, (A lady) called me several times to complain about my wife's behavior, which is contrary to that of a married woman but i didn't take her serious because my wife always complained of the harshness of the woman. She later lost the job and joined me in my business, but always going to Lagos to buy jewelry, which she sells in Ibadan.
In the year 2014, i got some texts from a concerned fellow about how my wife have been sleeping with his neighbor for over 2 years in Lagos. It happens that the fellow knows us very well and didn't want to cause any problem in our marriage but the the acts became too much, he had to let me know. When i confronted my wife with all the evidence and some dates, she owned up and pleaded for forgiveness. She confessed that the affair started when she was working for the lady i mentioned earlier and anytime she travels to Lagos for her jewelry business, she always go and sleep with the man. She promised to turn a new leaf. In the year 2018, i discovered that she had been communicating with the same man, to the extent that he even knew that my wife traveled to Owerri for a wedding. I discovered that they had reconnected back and chats always. When i confronted my wife, she said that they have nothing, just chats, which i made her to stop (I don't know if they actually stopped). Before i married her, a man actually dumped her and married her friend, 6 years earlier. The next boy friend left her and traveled abroad for over 2 years, without any communication (before i met and married her) but unfortunately, it didn't work out for him and he came back and discovered that shes married. He started pestering her,pretending that he wanted to marry her, that he traveled to make money for both of them, but been that shes already married, she introduced the man to her cousin and he married the cousin.
Now the issue is that my wife is flirting with her former boyfriends, sending pornographic pictures and nude pictures with dirty chats. I used to monitor her chat but to save myself from HIGH BLOOD PRESSURE, i stopped checking her phone. My wife even told the one that dumped her for her friend that she still loves him so much. She also tells the one that married her cousin the same thing and regrets that distance is so much between them. (The one that married the cousin is based in Kano while the one that married her friend is based in Abuja) Whenever i confront her, she will deny anything serious but when she sees my evidence, she will beg for forgiveness. My business is down and she provides about 70% of the house up keep (She is a teacher). We have 4 children, the eldest being 17. I have been trying to sell my house or land to reestablish my business but it has not been easy. My wife now does as she like, even having male friends here in Ibadan and keeps too much secret? What should i do.
I know this is long, but its just a summary. Forgive any typo.

Olorunnim:
This same you would advise to divorce their husband if genders were switched, your double standards irritates me What kind of creature are you how do you sleep at night?

pocohantas:


Sweetie, don't be angry like this. That must have been in the past, now I am very anti-divorce. He should fight for his marriage.

How do you want the kids to sleep at night knowing their mum is an adulteress and was divorced for that? He should do this for those innocent children.

pocohantas:


Sweetie, don't be angry like this. That must have been in the past, now I am very anti-divorce. He should fight for his marriage.

How do you want the kids to sleep at night knowing their mum is an adulteress and was divorced for that? He should do this for those innocent children.

zeb04:
A lot of men will never open up to tell you their partner has cheated on them because of what society will say but it happens.

zeb04:
leave, leave and go to where? to marry another instagram Thot or what?

The young girl you want him to marry how do you know she is not a bigger cheat?

I will advise you report to her parents and call a meeting

keepingmum:


This is what happens when a man has a small blokos and rather than the women in his life tell him the truth about the size of his blokos, they boost his ego by "praising his mandingo" and then men dem now start feeling like king kong and wants to demand a "farrgin" sized ponyor even after child birth

Oga if you like sell your house and pack to a new continent, the next lady would still tell you of your dinky winky because thats the truth about your anatomy

GreatDad19:
My wife has put me through hell in just such a short time. I understand what this man is going through, it takes the grace of God to leave these olosho women we call wives. My wife will get the shock of her life in December, I’ve already furnished my new apartment and I will be moving there leaving my wife to suffer on her own. I will sell that house that she’s living in, let her go and collect money from her customers to take care of her. Bros I will advise you to get your finances up and leave her ASAP. Got no time for these useless parasites that will come and ruin your life.

hurthubby:


I am 48 while she is 45

GreatDad19:
My wife has put me through hell in just such a short time. I understand what this man is going through, it takes the grace of God to leave these olosho women we call wives. My wife will get the shock of her life in December, I’ve already furnished my new apartment and I will be moving there leaving my wife to suffer on her own. I will sell that house that she’s living in, let her go and collect money from her customers to take care of her. Bros I will advise you to get your finances up and leave her ASAP. Got no time for these useless parasites that will come and ruin your life.