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Re: My Wife Is A Cheat. I Need Advice by GodWrites: 9:26pm On Aug 14
I got goosebumps after reading op's plight. My brother, how do you sleep at night knowing that another man might be dicking your wife?

How can your business flourish when you are carrying an issue that is so draining and depressing?

Take a look at your kids, I'm sure they don't resemble you in any way. Am I wrong?

If you wish to die old, you need to take a step that pains. A step that requires enormous strength. Please, DIVORCE that hoe before she end you.

If your wife can't respect you, the kids won't. It's obvious you have failed as a husband, do you want to fail as a father too? Yes, you failed as a husband cause those signs came earlier on, you neglected them because of what the society will think.

Divorce her, then think of buffing your finance. Don't wait till finance is okay before you take that step. It is a trap!

I hope you act like a man for once in your life.

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Re: My Wife Is A Cheat. I Need Advice by sweetilicious(f): 9:27pm On Aug 14
Its not advisable to give your body to a cheating partner ever again. Its dangerous.

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Re: My Wife Is A Cheat. I Need Advice by LilMissFavvy(f): 9:38pm On Aug 14
So you believe that? She's totally wrong, there are good women who earn more than their husbands, but still respect him.
franchasng:
Please can you increase the volume more so that people at the back can hear it well grin

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Re: My Wife Is A Cheat. I Need Advice by franchasng(m): 9:42pm On Aug 14
LilMissFavvy:
So you believe that? She's totally wrong, there are good women who earn more than their husbands, but still respect him.
why are you reducing the volume na, please tune it up so more people can hear it, especially those at the back, DJ increase the volume more please, after party we can discuss further grin
Re: My Wife Is A Cheat. I Need Advice by missjo: 9:44pm On Aug 14
pocohantas:


No. He obviously doesn't want to leave. What will anyone say here that he doesn't know already?

So, he should keep forgiving her.
You were most definitely being funnycheesy
Re: My Wife Is A Cheat. I Need Advice by LilMissFavvy(f): 9:45pm On Aug 14
cheesy cheesy........hmm, let me just switch it off.
franchasng:
why are you reducing the volume na, please tune it up so more people can hear it, especially those at the back, DJ increase the volume more please, after party we can discuss further grin
Re: My Wife Is A Cheat. I Need Advice by franchasng(m): 9:47pm On Aug 14
LilMissFavvy:
cheesy cheesy........hmm, let me just switch it off.
I deliver you from every spirit of stubbornness, I say out now!! shocked

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Re: My Wife Is A Cheat. I Need Advice by jimyjames(m): 9:47pm On Aug 14
LilMissFavvy:
Truth is, your children's life will never be the same again if you divorce your wife, that's a clear fact. You have lived a good percentage of your life, while your kids are just starting. What do you think will become of your pre-adolescent/adolescent kids? Hold on to your marriage, work on yourself, because something is definitely wrong somewhere (with you)......so pls work on it, ask your wife, she will tell you. Hardly would a woman of 45 flirt around if she has a loving husband who can play his bedroom game, even if it means using sexual enhancers, no one is perfect, just work on it. Also, report her to your pastor only if he's a good one. Your wife needs prayers, stand in the gap and save your marriage, dont give the devil a chance. Even if you divorce her, I don't know if you will be able to fight for custody of all your kids, especially since she is financially strong.

1) and what will become of the kids if the wife contacts a deadly disease and infect the man with it, or the man develops high blood pressure and dies eventually cause of having a cheating wife

2) The lady has been flirting around even during the early stage of their marriage

3) using sexual enhancer to satisfy your wife all the time is a bad idea cause the side effects are there, I don't even think she's cheating cause the husband can't satisfy her

Put yourself in the man's shoes I don't think you will do that which you have advised him to do undecided

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Re: My Wife Is A Cheat. I Need Advice by rosy1992(f): 9:50pm On Aug 14
This is absolutely ridiculous, how did you cope all these years, As a Christian I won't suggest divorce, rather you need to have an open minded discussion with her, to tell her how you feel.

Or you both need to see a marriage counselor , it seems there is something wrong somewhere. You both need to find the missing puzzle.

Then concentrate on establishing yourself, and taking care of yourself and your children. If she continues with her immorality, then you can decide to give yourselves some space till you figure out what next to do. Divorce is not an option.
Re: My Wife Is A Cheat. I Need Advice by drmikeadams(m): 9:52pm On Aug 14
grin grin when ur homie advise u about à LovePeddler grin and u sef décidé to ignore ur homies advice concerning à LovePeddler,even with the red flag blowing lik nigerian police siren grin

Love will clear and reality sets in grin you cant even go back to ur homies to complain grin
Las las u carry ur cross alone

Then gnashing of teeth and wailing like bob marley and the wailers sets in grin
Then dépression sets in..

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Re: My Wife Is A Cheat. I Need Advice by LilMissFavvy(f): 9:57pm On Aug 14
I didn't want to type a long message, otherwise I would have included that he should have quit the marriage earlier.

You talk about contracting diseases? I have read somewhere in the post that he cheats as well.

He won't use it all the time, mature couples don't have sex all the time. He is 48, she is 45. Kindly drop your advice, forget mine, okay? I wouldn't want to drop another response on this thread.
jimyjames:


1) and what will become of the kids if the wife contacts a deadly disease and infect the man with it, or the man develops high blood pressure and dies eventually cause of having a cheating wife

2) The lady has been flirting around even during the early stage of their marriage

3) using sexual enhancer to satisfy your wife all the time is a bad idea cause the side effects are there, I don't even think she's cheating cause the husband can't satisfy her

Put yourself in the man's shoes I don't think you will do that which you have advised him to do undecided
Re: My Wife Is A Cheat. I Need Advice by yeyeosoronga: 10:01pm On Aug 14
The only reason that marriage of 18years is still standing is simply because of what your wife brings to the table financially, otherwise I know you would have ended the union.
Your wife is probably also sleeping around for financial gain.
That marriage is more or less over. You guys are just flatmates.
Either continue to live with it, or choose the more dignifying path of parting ways.
Last las, you will all be alrighg

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Re: My Wife Is A Cheat. I Need Advice by crackhouse(m): 10:04pm On Aug 14
Continue till she infect you with a disease and devil punish u if it's HIV then by that time u will have sense and act like a man.

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Re: My Wife Is A Cheat. I Need Advice by jimyjames(m): 10:08pm On Aug 14
LilMissFavvy:
I didn't want to type a long message, otherwise I would have included that he should have quit the marriage earlier.

You talk about contracting diseases? I have read somewhere in the post that he cheats as well.

He won't use it all the time, mature couples don't have sex all the time. He is 48, she is 45. Kindly drop your advice, forget mine, okay? I wouldn't want to drop another response on this thread.

Hmm anyway let me just leave it, I asked those questions cause I know how strict you are, your advice could have been different if the story was the other way round

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Re: My Wife Is A Cheat. I Need Advice by drmikeadams(m): 10:08pm On Aug 14
GreatDad19:
My wife has put me through hell in just such a short time. I understand what this man is going through, it takes the grace of God to leave these olosho women we call wives. My wife will get the shock of her life in December, I’ve already furnished my new apartment and I will be moving there leaving my wife to suffer on her own. I will sell that house that she’s living in, let her go and collect money from her customers to take care of her. Bros I will advise you to get your finances up and leave her ASAP. Got no time for these useless parasites that will come and ruin your life.
grin grin


Yes i support u grin. grin
Yes à brother has been liberated
Yes these hoes cometh like thieves to kill,destroy,and wreck brother men
Yes they wrecked adam,samson,etc
Yes its time fellow brothers wake up

Y all brothers should stop sleeping on bicycle with tooth pick




And bro what about à your kids?

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Re: My Wife Is A Cheat. I Need Advice by crackhouse(m): 10:10pm On Aug 14
If I catch my wife cheating I will simply design her with cutlass and push her back to her father's house to nurse her wounds if she survives it.

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Re: My Wife Is A Cheat. I Need Advice by sisisioge: 10:14pm On Aug 14
hurthubby:


I am 48 while she is 45

Wowzerful! She must be super hot to be cheating at 45yrs! Wow!

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Re: My Wife Is A Cheat. I Need Advice by Safitu(f): 10:18pm On Aug 14
As a Christian Matthew 19 v 9 states that ‘I tell you, then, that any man who divorces his wife for any cause other than her unfaithfulness, commits adultery if he marries some other woman’

Meaning God permits divorce if one partner is unfaithful as it attracts all manners of spiritual and evil atrocities into your marital home. His wife has been unfaithful for 20 years, so you want him to die before his time? 1,2 or even 4 times can be overlooked. 20 years of constant cheating is a death sentence. As Christians we should look at situations religiously as well as logically. Do not lead this brother to an early death, pleaseee!!!!!
rosy1992:
This is absolutely ridiculous, how did you cope all these years, As a Christian I won't suggest divorce, rather you need to have an open minded discussion with her, to tell her how you feel.

Or you both need to see a marriage counselor , it seems there is something wrong somewhere. You both need to find the missing puzzle.

Then concentrate on establishing yourself, and taking care of yourself and your children. If she continues with her immorality, then you can decide to give yourselves some space till you figure out what next to do. Divorce is not an option.

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Re: My Wife Is A Cheat. I Need Advice by Safitu(f): 10:26pm On Aug 14
Men will sleep with anything, trust me lol.
sisisioge:


Wowzerful! She must be super hot to be cheating at 45yrs! Wow!

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Re: My Wife Is A Cheat. I Need Advice by PatrickOkunima(m): 10:28pm On Aug 14
Safitu:
As a Christian Matthew 19 v 9 states that ‘I tell you, then, that any man who divorces his wife for any cause other than her unfaithfulness, commits adultery if he marries some other woman’

Meaning God permits divorce if one partner is unfaithful as it attracts all manners of spiritual and evil atrocities into your marital home. His wife has been unfaithful for 20 years, so you want him to die before his time? 1,2 or even 4 times can be overlooked. 20 years of constant cheating is a death sentence. As Christians we should to look at situations religiously as well as logically. Do not lead this brother to an early death, pleaseee!!!!!

No mind them, people wey dey read bible up side down.

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Re: My Wife Is A Cheat. I Need Advice by Coolabbie: 10:29pm On Aug 14
pocohantas:
Forgive her.

Women are polygamous in nature.

Just focus on your children, she'll definitely get tired and come back to you. They always do...

smiley
In addition to this advise op, please don't allow thinking finish you.

Take care of yourself. Be clean. Join a gym and grow muscles. Don't wear the same boxers for two days. Look sexy for her.


But most importantly, watch War Room.
Cry to God and he will change her heart.

God bless you

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Re: My Wife Is A Cheat. I Need Advice by sisisioge: 10:32pm On Aug 14
Safitu:
Men will sleep with anything, trust me lol.

grin grin grin

Na...I'm seeing Gabrielle Union here...she's just about that age group, right?
Re: My Wife Is A Cheat. I Need Advice by Homeboiy: 11:21pm On Aug 14
Oh they say I get hot temper

dead body go surplus

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Re: My Wife Is A Cheat. I Need Advice by missjo: 11:39pm On Aug 14
crackhouse:
If I catch my wife cheating I will simply design her with cutlass and push her back to her father's house to nurse her wounds if she survives it.
Is a cheating wife even worth this much violencecheesy
I never really understood why anyone would fight or physically harm a cheating partner. To what end?

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Re: My Wife Is A Cheat. I Need Advice by Nobody: 11:51pm On Aug 14
How hard is it for you to know that a cheating wife is the reason for husband's financial and general woes.

Once you are in love you are entangled.

She is the reason for your financial woes.

Denounce her and see your fortune change.

Sit your Elderly kid down and tell them what is going on and move on.

Change your mind and everything changes.

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Re: My Wife Is A Cheat. I Need Advice by Michelle55(f): 11:52pm On Aug 14
So women has taken over the mantle of leadership from the men when it comes to cheating? smileyWonderful! Oga, channel your energy into something else biko( she's not worth the stress) figure out a way to resurrect your business, take care of yourself and your kids.. When she's tired of hoeing around.. Her eyes go clear and she go kaput for one place. Worry less sir!

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Re: My Wife Is A Cheat. I Need Advice by SendAbroad: 12:50am On Aug 15
hurthubby:
My story is too long but let me try to summarize everything.
(I have been a member of Nairaland since 2009, but i just created this account to hide my identity)
friends here in Ibadan and keeps too much secret? What should i do.
I know this is long, but its just a summary. Forgive any typo.

Your wife has turned you to a Doormat that can be used to wipe her feet as she likes.

One of the grounds for divorce is adultery and this you should have done many years ago before it became your wife's habit...now your wife sees herself as having the upper hand since she is taking care of 70% of the House upkeep.

Your wife has now turned you to hold this cloth, I dey come as you have given her your power.



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Re: My Wife Is A Cheat. I Need Advice by naijacentric(m): 1:53am On Aug 15
Safitu:
That is the reality of life. Women do not respect men that they are taking care of financially. You really need to try and work on yourself and do everything possible to gain that financial power back into your life. From there you will gain that self confidence back and you will have the strength to leave if possible. But you must start making steps today. Start saving money every penny counts, read upon good investments to make. Never give up on your job search. Talk to friends, even here on nairaland they’re millionaires browsing this site every day. Network with people especially in the cars and business section. You never know who might help you and last but not least pray. Just start visualising the life you want for yourself and you will eventully have it. It’s not easy, but you must make a constant effort to see results. Good luck.
i guess nigerian women most foreign women respect their men even when down financially.

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Re: My Wife Is A Cheat. I Need Advice by onyekabe(m): 3:15am On Aug 15
Please leave the marriage and save your life. You can never succeed in anything as long as you are still with her.
I am facing similar problem until I summoned courage to leave the marriage. If you value your self leave that marriage

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Re: My Wife Is A Cheat. I Need Advice by genq(m): 6:03am On Aug 15
CsRockefeller:


An unintelligent comment.

Zeb04 is clearly a child

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Re: My Wife Is A Cheat. I Need Advice by larryking540: 6:23am On Aug 15
LilMissFavvy:
So you believe that? She's totally wrong, there are good women who earn more than their husbands, but still respect him.

and those good wife's are rear to come by, go to ur street, ur church or ur working place and confidently count those good women who work and still respect their husband and his laws, and I will tell u those women are not more than ur finger tips, ,

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