So he shouldn't leave you if you cheat? Nigerian marriage is funny.

Cheating is not a mistake.

RockHard:


I get where you are coming from but you have to realize that life is not in black and white, some mistakes do occur for different reasons. Nothing wrong in giving someone a second chance if he's sorry. Of all the good things/sides of the man, why pick on that one mistake especially if he's remorseful?

dewaskillz:

This is just silly from you. That's how we just run away at any slightest obstacle

Why wouldn't men cheat when women think like the OP?! It's a clear confirmation that, whatever hubby does, his desperate wife would forgive him and stay by his side regardless.... thus fucking the maid, beat her black and blue etc

RockHard:

I get where you are coming from but you have to realize that life is not in black and white, some mistakes do occur for different reasons. Nothing wrong in giving someone a second chance if he's sorry. Of all the good things/sides of the man, why pick on that one mistake especially if he's remorseful?

The issue is not really about forgiving anyone who is remorseful...it's about a low self esteem woman who is accepting failure before it even happens.

The above you wrote also sends a wrong message out there: just do what evil rubbish you want in marriage, then just say you are sorry, and your desperate low self esteem wife will forgive any act.

Toks2008:

You are so ignorant.

Love you too my brotha...

Omowunmi you are very correct, stay with him,every men has instinct of plenty ladies,some will go and get chief tittle just to get more,but remember that you can see man that get married to one to three wife s but you can,t see woman that get married to two husband,even the oyinbo,before they got to 70 yrs of age they have divorce more than three wife s,and they will come to Niga and form young men,pls be wise,don,t gabble with your owner,if not your son age with make mock of you when you are out of married.

Her life, her choices, her tears, her laughs
Her whatever there is!


Bye!

Toks2008:


You are so ignorant.

That your opinion with his doesn't align doesn't make him ignorant. Why not educate us?

Is she trying to say 'if my husband cheats, I might cheat too'?

Toks2008:


You are so ignorant.

old papa youngie go marry

MrBrownJay1:
Low self esteem African women...doing what they do best to stay married at ANY cost

You seem to believe Americans and others have the right and best attitude to life. They have the largest share of mental and emotional sickness and suicide rate even with all the support system available to them. It is degrading to call anyone low self-esteem for her choice. Don't wear people African garment to curse them out.

Let me give you an instant of difference in cultural attitude: There are many western women who bring younger lovers to bed while their husbands watch. or even pertake. I bet you don't say anything about low-self esteem there.

Adepet222:
I won't too, because I won't allow any slay mama to take over my house.

Like one mummy wa

martowskin1:

Staying the marriage does not mean u accept his rubbish, and leaving doesn't mean u didn't accept..

Been able to sort out differences when they occur in marriage is a sign of maturity ...

Even in the western world, women don't just quit their marriage because their husband cheat, they try to rescue the situation and if they can't and is obvious the man refuse to change then they consider quitting

The above is what you do WHEN/IF whatever differences occurs. .. but I am sorry to say that, if you already forgives a man before he has done the actual wrongful act, then the problem is in that person' brain ... aka her desire to stay married at ANY cost.

There is nothing mature about someone ready and willing to accept any rubbish from their partner...thats called LOW SELF ESTEEM in my world.

[quote author=Adepet222 post=81308682]I won't too, because I won't allow any slay mama to take over my house.[/quote GOD BLESS U JARE, BUT IT WILL NOT HAPPEN TO U, IJN

Toks2008:


A man wey wan cheat go cheat.

Nothing fit stop am. Just that a reasonable man will never cheat on his wife with impunity.

aka cheat, but don't get caught.......

This one na automatic license to cheat.


Congratulations in advance Mr Omawunmi.

RockHard:


I get where you are coming from but you have to realize that life is not in black and white, some mistakes do occur for different reasons. Nothing wrong in giving someone a second chance if he's sorry. Of all the good things/sides of the man, why pick on that one mistake especially if he's remorseful?

If something like cheating occurs once and ends there, only then could that be called a mistake. It's pardonable if he's remorseful and of course, the circumstances surrounding it would establish that, but if it becomes a habit, then you can't call that a mistake. It's intentional.

I care less about Omowumi's stand. Perhaps, she's one of those women who could tolerate such men, but y'all should quite making it seem like that should be a standard. This generation of men have lost it. Sleeping around like animals just 'cause some women are so dependent on these men.

For you young men,there is parable in my place said that no matter how women is disrespectful do not divorce her,because is better than an empty house,also remember that the devil you know is more better than the ANGEL you never know,that mean an animal that escape from trap and yet still in the forest very sure that another trap is waiting to get him or her.

Toks2008:


A man wey wan cheat go cheat.

Nothing fit stop am. Just that a reasonable man will never cheat on his wife with impunity.

Lol

Whish one be cheating with impunity and cheating without impunity?

MrBrownJay1:


The above is what you do WHEN/IF whatever differences occurs. .. but I am sorry to say that, if you already forgives a man before he has done the actual wrongful act, then the problem is in that person' brain ... aka her desire to stay married at ANY cost.

There is nothing mature about someone ready and willing to accept any rubbish from their partner...thats called LOW SELF ESTEEM in my world.

The article didn't mention any where she talked about accepting cheating, at least I read the whole article not just caption.....

martowskin1:


Staying the marriage does not mean u accept his rubbish, and leaving doesn't mean u didn't accept..

Been able to sort out differences when they occur in marriage is a sign of maturity ...

Even in the western world, women don't just quit their marriage because their husband cheat, they try to rescue the situation and if they can't and is obvious the man refuse to change then they consider quitting

U make sense die.

God bless u sis, if u leave your marriage coz of say your man cheat na oturugbeke u be coz every richmen out there is a cheater you haven’t seen him yet doesn’t mean he doesn’t cheat. Only 95% are faithful.

Na poor man be faithful man just try get money first and see if you won’t cheat

Mayflowa:

You seem to believe Americans and others have the right and best attitude to life. They have the largest share of mental and emotional sickness and suicide rate even with all the support system available to them. It is degrading to call anyone low self-esteem for her choice. Don't wear people African garment to curse them out.

What on earth does what I wrote got to do with Americans or anyone having the best life?! The only sickness I see are women willing to be stepped on and used/abused because they are so desperate to be called "Mrs"... thats my opinion about a woman willing to stay with a cheating partner. Take it or leave it.

Let me give you an instant of difference in cultural attitude: There are many western women who brings younger lovers to bed while their husbands watch. or even pertake. I bet you don't say anything about low-self esteem there.

Stick to the issue at hand... or create another thread about swingers and I will gladly give you my view on the issue.

Please,my brothers and sisters that is the simple truth,and the most stubborn spirit in the whole world is the truth,truth never hurry,but at the end you will see it,no need to speak too much English,some APROKO no that they will not received monthly salary but ready to destroy homes ,pls don,t too fast don,t too slow.

[quote author=MrBrownJay1 post=81308447]Low self esteem African women...doing what they do best to stay married at ANY cost[/quote

You are still a child]

RockHard:


I get where you are coming from but you have to realize that life is not in black and white, some mistakes do occur for different reasons. Nothing wrong in giving someone a second chance if he's sorry. Of all the good things/sides of the man, why pick on that one mistake especially if he's remorseful?

What makes you think they are remorseful ?

There is nothing like rubbish in married,call it mistake,

Frankyboy1:
You are still a child

Nanop1:

Please check your skull your brain Don leak finish

That's all you got, really....?!

Mayflowa:



You seem to believe Americans and others have the right and best attitude to life. They have the largest share of mental and emotional sickness and suicide rate even with all the support system available to them. It is degrading to call anyone low self-esteem for her choice. Don't wear people African garment to curse them out.

Let me give you an instant of difference in cultural attitude: There are many western women who brings younger lovers to bed while their husbands watch. or even pertake. I bet you don't say anything about low-self esteem there.

@ The bold

For real? Could this be true?

[quote author=MrBrownJay1 post=81308447]Low self esteem African women...doing what they do best to stay m

she is right, you expect her to leave? That is call forgiveness not low self esteem.

MrBrownJay1:


What on earth does what I wrote got to do with Americans or anyone having the best life?! The only sickness I see are women willing to be stepped on and used/abused because they are so desperate to be called "Mrs"... thats my opinion about a woman willing to stay with a cheating partner. Take it or leave it.



Stick to the issue at hand... or create another thread about swingers and I will gladly give you my view on the issue.

MrBrownJay1, I have known you on nairaland for more than 10 years. We are both intelligent. I know exactly what you are inferring immediately you mention African women. I wanted you to see the other side of reasons.

African women have ties to their husbands and find it strange to leave them. It is cultural. Don't tie it to esteem or economic woes.

MrBrownJay1:
Low self esteem African women...doing what they do best to stay married at ANY cost

don't mind it until she catches HIV from his promiscuity ABI if it was the other way around do you think your so called husband will see your adultery as JUST MISTAKE?

Anyway we know her type.nigerian celebrities are always in the habit of saying things they know they can't practice just to get more followers on Twitter and Instagram.all na just for attention and show BUISNESS.i know omawunmi as a musician and omawunmi as an individual

Adams12345:

she is right, you expect her to leave? That is call forgiveness not low self esteem.

I expect her to have a bit more respect for herself, even if hubby has none

I expect her to deal with such issues as it comes along, instead of accepting such lack of respect before it even happens. What if he cheats with her mother/sister would she feel the same way?! What if he brings the biatch to their home while she is present, Would she also accept it?

If she forgives cheating beforehand, what else would this low self esteem desperate woman accept? Beating? Raping her? Bring wh0res to their bed?

[quote author=Adams12345 post=81317540][/quote] would the husband be talking about forgiveness and reconciliation if it was the other way round?

Aunty agbaya todagba tiodanu