I have been broken up with my ex for a month and a half and in between those months, he has been calling me just cheking upon me, telling me what has been going on with him, basically work and staying home, his family etc. He has even said more than twice, he misses me and still calls me by the pet names he gave me.

It's been over a month plus now and i feel it's time i need to know what to do. we have agreed to meet up. Some people are telling me not to bring up anything about the break up but have fun. How can i have fun when i want to find out what the situation is. According to him, he is hanging out casually. What can i say when we meet up. Can I ask him once and for all about the relationship and why he's giving me mixed signals?

Would appreciate responses. Thanks

Who initiated the breakup and what was the reason for the breakup?And there are two things to this situation
1) Your boyfi actually misses you.
2) Your boyfi misses the sex, is currently roasting and wants to shine your conga again no strings attached (This is the more likely situaition)

sevule:

Who initiated the breakup and what was the reason for the breakup?And there are two things to this situation
1) Your boyfi actually misses you.
2) Your boyfi misses the sex, is currently roasting and wants to shine your conga again no strings attached (This is the more likely situaition)

He initiated the break up and unfortunately you are very wrong in the sex part. I know him too well and he has every opportunity. Sex is the last thing.
Reason for the break up was he felt i was enjoying the attention of too many men and was not ready to commit to him.

iice:

What are your own thoughts about the situation? Meaning. . .do you want to get back together? Do you want to remain friends? Are not sure what you want yet? If so, if anything should happen (sexually or emotionally), would you regret it or not? When you are set with yourself, then you will know what to ask and what to do (well for the most part)

^^^ excellent questions cant wait for the posters answer

iice:

What are your own thoughts about the situation? Meaning. . .do you want to get back together? Do you want to remain friends? Are not sure what you want yet? If so, if anything should happen (sexually or emotionally), would you regret it or not? When you are set with yourself, then you will know what to ask and what to do (well for the most part)

i already know what I want. I want to get back together and fix it but if it's impossible, I cannot remain friends.

since you want to get back with him i would advice when you meet up do not bring up the issue of where the rship stands.i think its too early cos u actually wnt him back.
In situations like this you need to be relaxed about it and treat it casually,let him see you are having a great time without him,dnt talk about any other man/men make him knw without saying it that he means a lot to you,he"ll wnt to see you again.just dont rush things.

andromida:

since you want to get back with him i would advice when you meet up do not bring up the issue of where the rship stands.i think its too early cos u actually wnt him back.
In situations like this you need to be relaxed about it and treat it casually,let him see you are having a great time without him,dnt talk about any other man/men make him knw without saying it that he means a lot to you,he"ll wnt to see you again.just dont rush things.

2 months is too early?

iice:

Ok. Then i think you should give him time (for the first half of the get together) to see if he'll say anything about the relationship.
But before you leave, you guys have to come to an understanding. Just my opinion though. Some people can let it play out for days or weeks to see if it does go back to being in a relationship. Me on the other hand, cannot handle the stress. I like to know whats up so i can deal with it. Either way, goodluck.

That's exactly what I want to do, It's been 2months and people are still telling me to be calm about it, relax, for how much longer?

patience my friend, patience give it a few wks more or is this the only time you think you will be seeing him again?

andromida:

patience my friend, patience give it a few wks more or is this the only time you think you will be seeing him again?

2 months??

I knw how you feel i have been in alot of shitty situations in the course of dating have some xperience.dats y i say give it a few more wks,but you know what when it comes to issues of the heart there is no standard precription that cures it what works for a may not work for b.

seems you cnt take it anymore you need to knw so go with your gut feeling and ask him.somehow i think you have made up your mind on what to do.anyways goodluck and yes 2mths is long but patience in this case is a virtue.

tell him it was all a joke