I have tattoos, I have very dark skin with a ruggedly goodlooking face. I bounce when I walk, and have obvious confidence

pocohantas:


One person?

Badboibipo:
Mine is very harshly. I have tattoos, I have very dark skin with a ruggedly goodlooking face. I bounce when I walk, and have obvious confidence.
People are fucking mean to me with their facial expressions, it's either someone is looking at me like they want to poison me or someone is looking at me with lust. But most of the time everyone is looking at me. I have learned to live with my stereotype, funny enough I'm very kind hearted but people judge my whole burna boy vibe very harshly before getting to even know me. Anyway enough about me, let's have a fun discuss.

What's your stereotype and how do society treat u at first impressions?

missjo:
Depends on my location.
In Nigeria, I'm stereotyped based on my mixed race xteristics which translates into people staring, also being nice, formal, & helpful.mostly positive. And guys always feel they have to take a shot.
In SA, I'm stereotyped as neither black nor white,almost confusing. Too light to be black,not white enough to be white. This translates into indifference mostly from people. They look,acknowledge my presence and then turn away.
Outside Africa, I'm completely invisible no one even sees or looks at me directly, but if they have to talk, it's usually courteous.

mhizv:
Lazy,ugly and unwilling. Just cos I'm on d fat side/chubby whichever.

XhosaNostra:


The bolded though is due to the fact that some Coloured people think they're better than blacks, hence nobody is too eager to embrace them. A baseless superiority complex is after all very offputting & people also have their own big egos that stand in the way of bridging the gap. I'm saying this because I know Coloured people very well & before you think I'm being biased. I have a Coloured mother, who thankfully, wasn't like the kind you normally find in Cape Town, for instance, even though that's where she's originally from. She spoke fluent Xhosa, like most Coloureds in the East London area. I also attended a Coloured high school, so I know how some be feeling like something special even when they barely have hair They're full of prejudice even to their darker counterparts. Not to say blacks don't have their own prejudice against Coloureds because they do. Just speaking as someone that understands both sides of the fence.

With that said, please tell me more about your visits to Nigeria. What brought you there & how was it?

missjo:

Eishhhhh,oh how i feel being referred to as coloured, whites coined that word & its downgrading but i forgive you. But hey i guess that means I am paying for the sins of others despite me having no airs about me,lol

Nigerians are friendly with foreigners,just be sure to have someone taking you around. If it's Lagos u plan to be tho,it's safe as there is a fair number of foreigners living,working, & moving freely tho i noticed they're concentrated in certain areas. I & my girls did a trip on our own just to get a feel of the Nigerian experience cos my mom is Nigerian but i have spent more time in Nigeria than she ever did,she doesn't even seem to care & i keep taunting her with this.

XhosaNostra:


So what do you prefer being called? Because that's the often used word, even by Coloureds themselves. Is there a new term I'm not aware of?
You sound like a cool girl, so I'm sure once people get to know you, they warm up.

Hmmmm...sounds very interesting. Do you consider yourself a South African or a Nigerian? Do you have a Nigerian sweetheart? That's the vibe I'm getting

missjo:

Lol,I'm black. And if that seems too odd due to my skin tone,then biracial is fine. My preference is black tho.
You know that coloured can't be used in places like America and England right? Its considered a racial slur that evokes memories of slavery so i guess that's where my irritation of the word comes from. Even in SA, it should evoke the memories of apartheid so i don't get why its used still so casually.

Until recently, I had not considered myself either Nigerian or South African as both my parents were not born in Africa,my nana on mom's side is white British, dad had an Afrikaans father. Given my genealogy, I'm clearly more South African than Nigerian although i seem to gravitate towards Nigerians and yes that vibe you're gettin is accurate.

XhosaNostra:


Oh ok, I see

@bolded, I knew it! What do you have to say about Nigerian men? Is there a notable difference, in your opinion, between Nigerian men of different ethnicity? For research purposes of course

missjo:

Er you see, naija men are cool generally, but if i had not met a few before reading things they type here,i would be weary cos its scary what i read on this site.
I am not ethnic conscious and can not accurately differentiate them along ethnic lines,but generally they are cool although its my personal observation they behave much better with foreign women than with their own women so you would be in good hands if this was for more than just research purposes

XhosaNostra:


Interesting.

Not planning to, I'm just curious


Ok, let me be more precise, what ethnicity is your man? Because it's one thing not putting much focus on that & general observation. You might marry the guy some day, if you haven't already, so I'm sure you have done your own research in that regard, yanno, to get things right

missjo:

Er you see, naija men are cool generally, but if i had not met a few before reading things they type here,i would be weary cos its scary what i read on this site.
I am not ethnic conscious and can not accurately differentiate them along ethnic lines,but generally they are cool although its my personal observation they behave much better with foreign women than with their own women, so you would be in good hands if this was for more than just research purposes

missjo:

He's Edo

XhosaNostra:


Nice Have you learnt the culture?

Any wedding bells in the near future?

missjo:

Hahaha,does he even know his own culture. But we are learning,i particularly love the traditional attire of the women makes a normal girl like me feel a princess

Done with that last December.

XhosaNostra:


@bolded, funny enough, I feel the same way. I like it on the men though, not for myself. Looks itchy

Congrats, Edo princess May you have many happy years together.

missjo:

Lol,I'm black. And if that seems too odd due to my skin tone,then biracial is fine. My preference is black tho.
You know that coloured can't be used in places like America and England right? Its considered a racial slur that evokes memories of slavery so i guess that's where my irritation of the word comes from. Even in SA, it should evoke the memories of apartheid so i don't get why its used still so casually.

Until recently, I had not considered myself either Nigerian or South African as both my parents were not born in Africa,my nana on mom's side is white British, dad had an Afrikaans father. Given my genealogy, I'm clearly more South African than Nigerian although i seem to gravitate towards Nigerians and yes that vibe you're gettin is accurate.

mhizv:
Lazy,ugly and unwilling. Just cos I'm on d fat side/chubby whichever.

funmisticqueen:
be honest, your preference is black because it is better to be the head of a dog than the tail of a dragon.please claim your white side or be biracial. You are not black.

Dudeweedlmao:


Don't be to hard on yourself, Choji.

Fidelismaria:
That I have an innocent look and therefore harmless

Meanwhile I wouldn't mind blowing up Nigeria with an atomic bomb

That's how wrong they are

mhizv:




Lol of all the characters,you choose to call me choji!!