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Ease Of Moving On After Separation /divorce. by Peachbloom(f): 8:29am On Aug 29, 2019 |
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Re: Ease Of Moving On After Separation /divorce. by keepingmum: 8:53am On Aug 29, 2019 |
I am pleased you posted this because lots of african women have been brainwashed to believe "all men are the same"....especially when they are in toxic relationships/marriage. This is an example of there is light ahead of the tunnel. You CAN walk away and start a new and healthy relationship where you treated with love and respect. Dont stay because you have children: dont stay because you ttc and you dont want to leave because you have "nothing" to show for it, dont stay because of what "people would say", dont stay because you have dated each other fot 10 years", dont stay because you want him to see how much you have endured from him and hope that that would make him change, dont stay because uour inlaws/pastors said they would speak to him. You should love yourself sooooooooo much that anyone , man/woman who comes into your life knows what you can and cannot accept. Thank God she walked away and found her happy place. There is no timeline for when one moves on from a bad situation. As long as you are mentally strong to handle a new relationship and have healed then move on but choose your next partner wisely. If shes from such a "bad and fetish" home as her ex spouse said, shouldnt he be glad that she is out of his life and now someone else's "problem"?? Hes bitter because he never thought she would move on, he never thought any onr would desire her and now he can't let go off his bitterness and jealousy.....let the lady's new family warn the ex from visiting their premises. 11 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Ease Of Moving On After Separation /divorce. by musabayokanu: 9:07am On Aug 29, 2019 |
Adviser wamagbe 1. you didn't say how long they married. 2. What is the major cause of the quarrel/beating? 3. how long between when they separated, when she met the new guy, and when she got pregnant. 4. who Is she to you (relationship)? 5. are you single or married? With this I will decipher and elucidate the role you played vis-a-vis your advice and the possible effect of your advice on the union. Since you are celebrating the separation, divorce and twin pregnancy. Answer my question pls....thank you |
Re: Ease Of Moving On After Separation /divorce. by Peachbloom(f): 9:34am On Aug 29, 2019 |
musabayokanu: 20 Likes 4 Shares |
Re: Ease Of Moving On After Separation /divorce. by Peachbloom(f): 9:35am On Aug 29, 2019 |
musabayokanu: Also for the time duration, go back and read again. |
Re: Ease Of Moving On After Separation /divorce. by musabayokanu: 9:51am On Aug 29, 2019 |
Peachbloom: I have read carefully..... Honestly i don't support I'll treatment of women in marriage for what so ever reason. But when it comes to marrige issues I believe in crossing all the available dots to know the root cause. Look well they can never be smoke without a fire. |
Re: Ease Of Moving On After Separation /divorce. by Graxie(f): 9:51am On Aug 29, 2019 |
I am happy for her, the man is mad. So many Nigerian women tolerating Mad Men in the name of marriage. I have been married for 10years, I can't imagine shaking before my husband to express my self. In fact I married my mate, my mother in law calmed when she visited, she even shook me as in, you are doing well. The thing is how you guys started, whatever you can't take don't start. Meanwhile, no time limit to move on. I am truly happy for her, my friend left abusive man. He dumped her in the hospital after beating her, she had miscarriage and her parents brought her back. Today she is married to one of the richest guy in my neighborhood, he adores her. She doesn't even use cheap hospital for delivery, they spend close to 1m because she delivers through cs, her husband changes car for her anyhow. Everytime she talks about her husband, you will see the joy in her. Until you take a bold step to say enough is enough, you will never know what you are capable of achieving. In as much as marriage have it's own challenges, nobody should be in bondage. 12 Likes |
Re: Ease Of Moving On After Separation /divorce. by Peachbloom(f): 10:06am On Aug 29, 2019 |
musabayokanu: Irrespective, it's all violence. You don't want her again, somebody else took her, and you're busy fighting up and down. I think he does have temper and behavioral issues basically which needs to be addressed. 3 Likes |
Re: Ease Of Moving On After Separation /divorce. by musabayokanu: 10:21am On Aug 29, 2019 |
Peachbloom: For the guy to ask for seperation and divorce and come back to fight the lady or the man, it shows the man is an enemy of progress. Fine they are seperated nd the lady has moved on for good, im happy for her, you asked a question and you tabled her story for discuss, slot of people will also learn from it. But my point is you need to scratch the issue deeper and dig deep into the the root cause so men and women will learn from it while some will answer your question. As it is now the table has been opened for feminist them. 1 Like |
Re: Ease Of Moving On After Separation /divorce. by Peachbloom(f): 10:40am On Aug 29, 2019 |
musabayokanu: 1 Like |
Re: Ease Of Moving On After Separation /divorce. by bukatyne(f): 11:29am On Aug 29, 2019 |
musabayokanu: Very funny. You are not happy she moved on well? 1 Like |
Re: Ease Of Moving On After Separation /divorce. by bukatyne(f): 11:34am On Aug 29, 2019 |
@peachbloom Let the wife get a restraining order and face her new home. Except she has something to hide. The ex's behavior is normal. When people throw away good relationships, they are always bitter. Especially when the discarded ex does way better than them. Their reactions are dependent on their personalities. 1 Like |
Re: Ease Of Moving On After Separation /divorce. by musabayokanu: 12:05pm On Aug 29, 2019 |
Becareful the advice you take from people. keepingmum: 1 Like
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Re: Ease Of Moving On After Separation /divorce. by musabayokanu: 12:06pm On Aug 29, 2019 |
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Re: Ease Of Moving On After Separation /divorce. by Peachbloom(f): 12:26pm On Aug 29, 2019 |
musabayokanu: May I ask, to what end are all these pictures? She never in anyway attacked your opinion, she only gave hers and moved on. I'm quite disappointed you had to go and dig up her past posts on her own life. We all have our tipping point, and she had hers which made her make her choices. I asked a question on time frame, she gave her opinion, and that is about it. All these pictures weren't necessary. This is very lowly of you. 12 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Ease Of Moving On After Separation /divorce. by Gloriagee(f): 12:43pm On Aug 29, 2019 |
Lunaatic alert! The guy get am for body? ogini? Peachbloom: 1 Like |
Re: Ease Of Moving On After Separation /divorce. by Peachbloom(f): 12:45pm On Aug 29, 2019 |
musabayokanu: From all these you have posted, and from your replies to me, I see that you are a man who will like to eat your cake and have it! Roles reversed, can you take half of what I stated happened to the lady? No, you can't. I don't subscribe to staying when things are abusive. Many women have lost their lives. I also don't subscribe to divorces either, which is why I tell the people involved, what is your heart telling you to do? Whatever it is, you will be fine. Marriages aren't rosy agreed. However, some are from the deeper pits of hell, so why stay when you can't go on. In this lady's case, the following were quite obtainable (kindly note that this is with medical proofs) : Physical torture and abuse. Emotional bullying. His family also started bullying her family (which I am a part of) She was made to quit 2 jobs in the space of one and a half years all in the name of "why is your wife richer than you." by his family. Who doesn't pray that his or her child be successful whether male or female?. He turned her into a shadow of herself. Through all these, she was loyal. Now things have got better you want to ruin it again?. Her new mother in law has been so so supportive and prayerful, and the backing is beyond what I expected. I am happy for her, but your comments are quite disturbing. 4 Likes |
Re: Ease Of Moving On After Separation /divorce. by Gloriagee(f): 12:45pm On Aug 29, 2019 |
End her life ke? Success is the best revenge! Tell her to end nothing and keep peppering dem. Na today? Peachbloom: 1 Like |
Re: Ease Of Moving On After Separation /divorce. by bukatyne(f): 3:47pm On Aug 29, 2019 |
Peachbloom: Are you sure that is not the ex? |
Re: Ease Of Moving On After Separation /divorce. by ImaIma1(f): 4:15pm On Aug 29, 2019 |
Peachbloom: The way he or she attacked your comment initially; asking if you were married and all sorts already showed the mindset and bias 5 Likes |
Re: Ease Of Moving On After Separation /divorce. by hify9935(f): 10:50am On Aug 31, 2019 |
bukatyne:Maybe... he's pained, lol. 2 Likes |
Re: Ease Of Moving On After Separation /divorce. by SirVintageCock: 11:09am On Aug 31, 2019 |
musabayokanu:. What are we supposed to do with this? You want to shut her up after 8 years of posting her pains and moving on with her life? You are just like this woman's husband, an emotional wreck with the mindset of a raving lunatic who never believed anybody will have a good life without them in it? Distasteful 8 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Ease Of Moving On After Separation /divorce. by sisisioge: 11:15am On Aug 31, 2019 |
No to your question. Lucky lady she is! Hugs and kisses to her...may God bless her new family. Shame onto the weak sperm shooter ex horssleband! Arindin banza oshi! 2 Likes |
Re: Ease Of Moving On After Separation /divorce. by sisisioge: 11:24am On Aug 31, 2019 |
musabayokanu: Oga, May God deliver you from the spirit of hate and bitterness. Forrking live and let others live...no one care about your forrrking truth! You are such dutchbag! Whew! I am sorry fa, but your kind is a menace to dear earth. 5 Likes |
Re: Ease Of Moving On After Separation /divorce. by yeyeosoronga: 5:11am On Sep 01, 2019 |
Peachbloom: Many naturally jealous people out here in cyberspace who even get bitter and jealous about the lives of people they have never met or will never meet. Always wishing for the downfall of others. The guy you quoted sadly falls into that category. |
Re: Ease Of Moving On After Separation /divorce. by ahnie: 12:03pm On Sep 01, 2019 |
Peachbloom: This z the reason why people shy away from discussing deep personal issues...because pained and aggrive people would always look for something to mock with. 1 Like |
Re: Ease Of Moving On After Separation /divorce. by LilMissFavvy(f): 2:28pm On Sep 01, 2019 |
Wow.....this is great. Thank God she ran from such marriage before the wicked hubby killed her. Who knows, the former husband must have been the impotent one. She had better keep the new marriage safe, I wonder how the former husband knows her new home. |
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