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Re: When Inlaws Don't Want To Leave. by roaringlamb01(m): 2:38pm On Sep 07, 2019 |
apotek: Ahan... I choose to believe it is lie. |
Re: When Inlaws Don't Want To Leave. by apotek: 2:39pm On Sep 07, 2019 |
roaringlamb01: I lie on top your wife bah |
Re: When Inlaws Don't Want To Leave. by armyofone(m): 2:56pm On Sep 07, 2019 |
Exactly his parents should not stay longer than necessary-out of respect for his wife and children. Make sure they leave after their short visit. Nothing like na my pickin house syndrome. There presence might disrupt the peace you want in your home. Maybe I missed it, you didn't say your parents were coming in the first post. Breaststroke: |
Re: When Inlaws Don't Want To Leave. by Nobody: 3:04pm On Sep 07, 2019 |
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Re: When Inlaws Don't Want To Leave. by Nobody: 3:13pm On Sep 07, 2019 |
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Re: When Inlaws Don't Want To Leave. by elektra(f): 3:13pm On Sep 07, 2019 |
apotek: People that talk like this have never seen vagin.a before in their life 2 Likes |
Re: When Inlaws Don't Want To Leave. by frozen70(f): 3:21pm On Sep 07, 2019 |
roaringlamb01: I get your points, these guys don't want to understand that the economy is hard and they contribute nothing at home Even to sweep or clean the house, you have to even remind them to wash your car Seat your wife down and talk to her that the economy is too hard to keep people you have to feed If she is not cooperating, let her contribute a larger percentage of what it cost to run your home and let's see how far she goes 1 Like |
Re: When Inlaws Don't Want To Leave. by apotek: 3:24pm On Sep 07, 2019 |
elektra: If i coza you, I swear no amount of krest will save you. Nonsense and ingredient |
Re: When Inlaws Don't Want To Leave. by roaringlamb01(m): 3:44pm On Sep 07, 2019 |
armyofone: I am not sure that is she meant when she said "Whatever steps you take regarding your in-laws, from this point forward should be the same ones you apply when it's your own family involved so there's consistency and no bias." ... Parents and siblings can't be compared in this regard, from both sides. But even length of visit should be with discretion. I did say they were coming. And they are leaving already, my dad is a guy man o, very understanding. |
Re: When Inlaws Don't Want To Leave. by roaringlamb01(m): 3:46pm On Sep 07, 2019 |
Breaststroke: Just saw ur comment, I agree! 1 Like |
Re: When Inlaws Don't Want To Leave. by roaringlamb01(m): 3:50pm On Sep 07, 2019 |
frozen70: Lol. they did nothing through out... Don't see them when I leave for work, and return to see them glued to big brother. super annoying stuff. Ha! She's learnt o, when food started finishing (esp. since we don't eat in the afternoon since we are both at work). Na the maid I pity pass, washing more plates and serving their food. |
Re: When Inlaws Don't Want To Leave. by LewsTherin: 4:01pm On Sep 07, 2019 |
roaringlamb01: Now this doesn't bode well. For her parents to be asking if yiur parents have gone. They want to know if you hold your own family to thensame standards you held them to. That is the problem. Your in laws have a negative mindset towards you. Fortunately, it seems like your wife's got your back. My advice. Get your wife to gently warn them. "Why are you talking like this? Do you want my brothers to move into my marital home but don't want his parents to stay for long periods? Are you trying to bring issues into my marriage?" You know, that kind of thing. She should stress on how it all affects her marriage. That should cool things down somewhat. No parents not from hell want to strain their only daughter's marriage. 5 Likes |
Re: When Inlaws Don't Want To Leave. by Nobody: 4:27pm On Sep 07, 2019 |
Shallypop: Oh!!!! Hugs and kisses I remembered u at a point and wanted to ask how far but then again I don't want to be busy body. So happy all is well now. I appreciate darling. Thank you. As regards the topic, we can agree to disagree na 2 Likes |
Re: When Inlaws Don't Want To Leave. by Nobody: 4:34pm On Sep 07, 2019 |
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Re: When Inlaws Don't Want To Leave. by frozen70(f): 4:43pm On Sep 07, 2019 |
roaringlamb01: That's why women should be involved in family spending so that they will know how it feels 2 Likes |
Re: When Inlaws Don't Want To Leave. by dangervu(m): 5:40pm On Sep 07, 2019 |
Oga you did the right thing! Times are hard,when you have two grown up in laws you tend to wonder how everything you bought in the house get to finish ... Some in laws in most cases dont know boundaries ... 3 Likes |
Re: When Inlaws Don't Want To Leave. by jenifer007: 5:43pm On Sep 07, 2019 |
@Op I believe your in laws are already missing your comfortable home.They can't wait to come back and continue to watch their bb naija and eat and sleep like they like .That's why they wanna know if your parents are still around...Those guys are just lazy....once they come back,they won't want to leave this time around.To avoid unnecessary quarrel from them because they will confront you this time around if you ask them to leave.It is better you insist that they are not coming back because your wife's parents want them to be living permanently with you guys.Una go box each other if those guys come back...Guys wey go see you and not greet you....Abeg based on logistics guy bone them. 4 Likes |
Re: When Inlaws Don't Want To Leave. by roaringlamb01(m): 8:58pm On Sep 07, 2019 |
LewsTherin: Interestingly, someone mentioned something similar earlier "They want to know if you hold your own family to the same standards you held them to"... I didn't even think about it, I thought that maybe they just wanted the boys back. I doubt they are thinking that way though, I would like to think we have a good relationship. |
Re: When Inlaws Don't Want To Leave. by roaringlamb01(m): 9:02pm On Sep 07, 2019 |
jenifer007: lol... That bb naija ehn, never been a fan, and to have people watching it when I just want to chill with my family at night is just sad! |
Re: When Inlaws Don't Want To Leave. by roaringlamb01(m): 9:19pm On Sep 07, 2019 |
Breaststroke: I am as curious as you are... I expect they should reason that man go recover first, before even suggesting it. In fact, for the rest of this year, I don't wanna hear anything. They have, combined, spent close to 3months out of 12 this year na! |
Re: When Inlaws Don't Want To Leave. by Omojudy: 5:36am On Sep 08, 2019 |
roaringlamb01:Yes I have. It’s quite stressful and it always ends in a bad note. Suggestions for any breadwinner in such a situation next time is never increase feeding allowance for a time when visitors are around. If it was already a principle, the non bread winner for hear am and do the needful faster! http://astrongnigerianwoman.com/ 1 Like |
Re: When Inlaws Don't Want To Leave. by efighter: 9:58am On Sep 08, 2019 |
UjuJoan2: This poster does not work. He/She does not know what is cost to feed one extra mouth not to talk of two. |
Re: When Inlaws Don't Want To Leave. by VanillaIyce(f): 2:39pm On Sep 08, 2019 |
roaringlamb01: It's really not easy feeding extra mouths in times like this. |
Re: When Inlaws Don't Want To Leave. by Emioga: 9:08pm On Sep 08, 2019 |
Just wish I can do this to my in-laws but it's my husband's house not mine. It's been six years now. Wetin woman go do 1 Like |
Re: When Inlaws Don't Want To Leave. by BIXYBABE: 10:55pm On Sep 08, 2019 |
blank:They knw u might not allow them 2 cum at all if they tell u d exact period they want 2 use, dat is why they wil cum and be extending it small small |
Re: When Inlaws Don't Want To Leave. by roaringlamb01(m): 1:07am On Sep 10, 2019 |
BIXYBABE: Lesson learnt |
Re: When Inlaws Don't Want To Leave. by Boss13: 2:26am On Sep 10, 2019 |
Dont know what's wrong with some of the women on this forum. I have been reading and identifying similar monikers who feel they champion women's right. The OP has clarified the house been his own. He pays the entire Bill's and so he is not wrong. If any separation occurs, the female partner will leave with her items. However, if the wife contributes her own portion of the financial resources, she also lay claim to the house. Imagine, you no dey pay bills still wan claim house. OP you acted right. Before you know, the parents may even relocate to your apartment. I wonder why some in-laws are so selfish. Also, ignore these women right fighters. You owe them no explanation. In fact you owe no one any explanation how you run your family. Let them face their own family and focus on their responsibilities. .... 1 Like |
Re: When Inlaws Don't Want To Leave. by Boss13: 2:43am On Sep 10, 2019 |
roaringlamb01: In laws - this is how they create tension in marriages. Oga lay the ground rules immediately and it should apply to everybody. |
Re: When Inlaws Don't Want To Leave. by LoveDecay(m): 2:55am On Sep 10, 2019 |
mysticgal: Life hard this one .. gaan |
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