Acidosis:
I be man, I be man, na so woman go dey use una head play ping pong. If you actually believe that a woman you just wedded (with no child) will give you her organ, then you're stup!d.

Acidosis:
I be man, I be man, na so woman go dey use una head play ping pong. If you actually believe that a woman you just wedded (with no child) will give you her organ, then you're stup!d.

naijacentric:
then u are mad if u keep defending rubbish women baskat

DonaTee:



Valid point. Some women Even with kids go still dey reluctant.
If he hid his health status from her then that May be the cause.

And If he passes on, she ll be scarred ofcourse she May need to remarry

Acidosis:


Relax bruv.

ednut1:
if this story is true. this a pointer that true love is a scam. many people are in relationships for material or societal gains

naijacentric:
really but dey lift women from poverty why cant our women do such for us pls think deep on dis

yeyeosoronga:


Hmmm, there are many women out there who are lifting their men out of poverty and supporting them financially. They cover their shame before the world. The feed and clothe their men. They give their men their car keys and trek about, they pay the rent and school fees and nobody knows.
I know so many who go into debt to support their men. They take loans everywhere, just to support their partners. As they're doing this, they are still maintaining the homefront, looking after the children.
What more do you people want? Their lives?
You guys should stop talking as if Nigerian women are not out there hustling and working hard. Not all give out their yansh for money. Even if they enter into marriage without a job because they're just finishing school, they eventually find their feet if they're driven enough, and not get caught up with raising children.

greenmonk:

who is more selfish?
The man who hid his health problem until 8 weeks after wedding or the woman who is afraid to embark on life or death mission.
It is only in movies that you send six able bodied soldiers to rescue a prisoner of war whose condition is not ascertained in the enemy camp.
We should be realistic. There are instances where donors develop complications and die for ordinary blood donation.

Belafonte:


I love your comment in bold. Let love and blood lead. Tomorrow when the man makes his siblings his next of kin, they will say he doesn’t know what marriage is. Hypocrisy

Kapeter:
i have been saying this and i will continue saying it. You'd hardly find love in marriages these days, marriage these days is all about two people who are either ready willingly or under pressure to settle down and find themselves compatible enough.

As for the op, your cousin is free to japa, it's her life, it's not mandated she donates. For better for worse is just a mere words like ones we've been saying since birth (in these days marriages sha).

And if the husband family love their son enough, they should stop expecting much from the wife, they should go find a way to save their son.

FromZeroToHero:
oil dey your head. Nice one

naijacentric:
i think naija women should be banned from marriage u guys don't love unconditionally just look at d nonsense u just spewed

Acidosis:
Your cousin should first and foremost consider any effects donation might have on her overall health. Confirming that your cousin is a biological match means some steps already have been taken. Further 'light' tests should be considered to be sure there are no medical challenges (diabetes, HBP, etc.). Presence of health challenges automatically nullifies chances of donating to her husband. In my opinion, it's better to decline by dwelling on the aforementioned challenges.

Where there are no underlying health issues, no one should pressure her into giving her organ. Organ donation is more of sacrifice and selflessness than romantic and sexual love. It takes a special kind of love to give an organ to a spouse, sister, brother, parents or child, etc. What if she loves her husband but just can't trust the medical procedure? Some people don't trust medical doctors and surgical procedures. It's just what it is.

The mother of the man in context can also come forward and donate to her son. After all, people have made us believe that the love a mother has towards her son exceeds all forms of love. Let her come and prove that love.

meobizy:
It’s her marriage. She can do whatever the bleep she wants. OP, mind your business and stop airing her dirty laundry to strangers who don’t care to begin with.

niaralandtopuser:
more reason to believe that marriage is only for better if you didn't cook the story.

in this world, only delude individuals love unconditionally

My cousin who got married this year July is actually thinking of leaving the marriage because the husband was diagnosed of Kidney failure and needs a transplant. The summary of the story is that the family of the man is expecting the newly married wife to donate one of her kidney to the man because my cousin is biological match to the husband, she and her family has said LAI LIA O, that his their child and they should find a way to go about it. After dragging this issues for some months na, my cousin family are pushing her to file for a divorce

a. would it be considered wickedness on her part considering, his not only the husband but PARTLY trained her in school too?

The marriage is less than a year no much money to even look for a seller, Aunty want to japa and leave the man

What do you think?

victorian:







Don't mind the men, as if, if they were the one they will give their kidneys.

Most Nigerians are so hypocritical .


For me? I ain't giving shit!

What kind of wedding present is that?

Alot of. Men will jakpa! They won't even divorce. They simply disappear into thing air, while their families will tell the ailing wife to go meet her own family, she can't come and destroy their son for them.

Is it not men again? And naija families?

Let's stop deceiving ourselves.

greenmonk:

With two kidney my body come dey do me like dis na him una wan ask make I remove one. To donate kidney no be for young females oo.
The best person to donate organs are parents or siblings to reduce risk of rejection.

gidob:

What are you even saying...after writing so much, you made no point

IcraveLove:


At the bolded, so true.

Anyway, you can live a perfectly normal life with one kidney. It doesn't affect giving birth.

Let her do what she wants to do. It is not by force to give him her kidney
Also, isn't it difficult to carry a pregnancy with just one kidney in future?

Chubhie:
Endtime wife.....

Martinez39:
This is nonsense and unrelated to our discussion. People who pray instead of going to the doctors are just being foolish and are blinded by faith. It has nothing to do with love. It's just an immense confidence in one's god. A human being can run fine on one kidney. There is no reason to deny your good husband of a kidney, let's just admit that she doesn't love her good husband and is willing to run when sh!t hits the fan. Let's say it as it is and stop giving excuses.

I don't have a girlfriend and would never have one.

DaBogu:
Wawuuuu men are not only marrying for free emotional and domestic labour they’ve also started marrying for organs as well. There’s no way he’s just now finding out now that he’s sick 2 months after marrying her.
Awon organ harvesters. God safe us.

sunnitus:
true love which lead to marriage is all about sacrifice, as we all know not all marriages are built on true love. if she truly love her husband let her sacrifice for him regardless of what her family members are saying..but if she don't love him let her do as she pleases, but let her also know that if anything should happen to that man because of the action she want to take, she will forever live with that guilt....let her think well before she act

zeestone99:


Haha he wouldn't have known the wife is a match. So he didn't marry her for organ

ednut1:
if this story is true. this a pointer that true love is a scam. many people are in relationships for material or societal gains