The question I wanna have and answer to is - What is free help?

So you want to recharge your phone, and you ask a guy for help. Is the recharge free?
You want a new dress and you ask a guy for help, is the dress free?
You want to submit an application and you want a guy to drop it for you, is the transportation free?

Most ladies ask for and class things that require purchases or cost as free, basically because they look at it from the point that the guy can afford it. And they conveniently forget that the item or activity does come at a cost to the guy.

Now, would a lady kiss a guy for free? And this does not come at any cost! She would consider many things before she does give a kiss cos to her, 'kisses' are not trifles.

Maybe, its time ladies start qualifying what they term as "Help".

Akainzo:

The question I wanna have and answer to is - What is free help?

So you want to recharge your phone, and you ask a guy for help. Is the recharge free?
You want a new dress and you ask a guy for help, is the dress free?
You want to submit an application and you want a guy to drop it for you, is the transportation free?

Most ladies ask for and class things that require purchases or cost as free, basically because they look at it from the point that the guy can afford it. And they conveniently forget that the item or activity does come at a cost to the guy.

Now, would a lady kiss a guy for free? And this does not come at any cost! She would consider many things before she does give a kiss cos to her, 'kisses' are not trifles.

Maybe, its time ladies start qualifying what they term as "Help".

For a moment i was like, so i can't use your charger to charge my phone for free?

Anyway, abeg ask them ooo.

realdon:

I feel so disturbed the rate at which Nigerian girls look for help just to afford spending above their mean by buying clothes and other frivolous things; and most times they expect the so-called help from guys even if they(guys) have to give up some basic needs or steal

I noticed that it is not common for guys to open or even support a thread like this where people want to forcefully become "selfish parasites"

Nigerian girls, stop pushing our guys into crime just to satisfy your unreasonable/selfish wants

Donpuzo:

We guys are wise to some extend, the issue is how you present yourself to the guy, When you have a slotish and whorelish character, displayed to the guy, he takes advantage.

One who shows sign of intelligence and uprightness would never be invited to bed, simply because she asked for a recharge of her phone.

I for one have never had to behave in such way, a favor is a favor, and it is also an error on the part of the ladies thinking men that are generous are fools/maga. I think that makes us too want to play smart.

Akainzo:

The question I wanna have and answer to is - What is free help?

So you want to recharge your phone, and you ask a guy for help. Is the recharge free?
You want a new dress and you ask a guy for help, is the dress free?
You want to submit an application and you want a guy to drop it for you, is the transportation free?

Most ladies ask for and class things that require purchases or cost as free, basically because they look at it from the point that the guy can afford it. And they conveniently forget that the item or activity does come at a cost to the guy.

Ujujoan:

I think you all are getting the poster wrong and the topic on the home page is definitely misleading!

I don't think she's talking about an admirer . . .  she's referring to friends, male acquintances, friends of her family . . .  

What are friends for afterall if not to help when you are in need? You don't, because she's a girl, expect payment in 'kind'. People do things for each other ALL the time, why do women have to pay with their body for favours they should be getting from their friends?

You find out that when you need help from a 'supposed male friend' he'll realize there and then that he has always been 'in love' with you!  _{*rolllz eyez*}

A girl (especially a beautiful gril), is often stranded in time of need because most of her male friends who would have helped her won't do so without wanting to sleep with her!  Sometines even uncles!

One time, an uncle of mine came to the town where I was schooling and called us (myself and my brother) to come and see him. I couldn't go when my brother was going and when he came back, he told me the man (my uncle) gave him 10k and that I should go and 'collect my own'. On getting there, I was shocked when the man started trying to kiss me. I was like  'what the be intimate with'! I ended truning down his advances and leaving his hotel room without a dime. I didnt even get lunch!    

That was an eye opener for me. I realized it was a no win situation. No matter a what, men don't just do things for you . . .  even when they should!    

Hussain555:

Financial crisis!!! lol
but last time I visited Father Christmas, I paid gate fee of 500 before I got a ''gift''.


And again, if the money waz abundant and I lavishly spend on a girl, she'll make jest and call me 'mugu'.

Girls, boys are not smiling!!

ferdiii:

even with relatives, do not beg them. Do they beg you? Everybody has their own wants and needs.Na only u sabi come collect moni? Go to your Daddy and Mummy. That is why I say fewer children. And you can't call buying clothes and bags necessary things. If your brother gives away money to ladies with 'needs' like that, will u applaud him?

fellis:

The thread title is so misleading. Seun modify it. Thank you
A lot of women dont deserve free things. They are ungrateful swine that go behind their benefactor's back to insult him because he helped them( mugu, maga, mumu etc. . . .why?). I have personal experience with such a thing.

Beync:

get your fury backside of here, which nigerian girls depends on u for wat? thousands of Naigerian girls out there work and pays their bills, u shud be referin to your gf who parastes on u.

If you get everything for free then what do you ever want to "pay" for?

Now you know he is as old as your father, but when you were asking him for help you pictured him as a young chap shey?

Abeg give 'papa Akpomeirere" what he is asking for joh!

Afterall na you girls cause am, if someone does favours, you go around terming the person "maga / money miss road / suwegbe".

chinedumo:

let me ask @poster
when is history were thinks given for free
that u think the world is getting worse cos things are not given for free any more?

2) when last did u do thing for men for free expecting nothing in return?
3)how many times have u done thing for free for a male when he request for them for you?

Am not talking of just any destitute male
but especially a hot, handsome,intelligent, rich, drop-dead gorgeous male