Good morning everyone. I had to create a new account just to post this to stay anonymous. Forgive any grammatical error pls.


I have this gf of over 6 years.(note: there has been breakups between this period and even one that lasted for two years but we always come back) We started dating since my 200 level in school and there has been ups and downs between us. Quarrels, fights over all little things. She’s 24while I’m 28. Well towards final year we broke up because of a lot of things that happened. I want to be brief as possible.

I must say she’s a loving, supportive gf through out my university days but threw in the towel towards final year and started dating someone else because she couldn’t cope with my brokenness anymore. Well a lot contributed to that too. I was hurt and bitter for weeks but I didn’t blame her because she tried staying up to that moment. Even my friends where surprised becos she’s a beautiful girl. Al those period she never cheated. But to be frank, I have never seen an insecured, controlling, immature, obsessive, nagging gf all my life. I know I also had my shortcomings but this girl is worse. All our fights we had was not because I cheated but because she always assume I do. She always suspect. She’s too fast to conclude even when I’m so pure to the heart.

Fast forward to months later when things became well for me, for the fact she never cheated on me, and she really helped me during school days tho never stayed still the end. Well she was still young and immature. Being so kind and grateful, I rekindled the love we had becos we actually do love our selves. I don’t know if I was stupid doing that or just being grateful for all what we went through but one thing I know is I never regretted my decision.

Time has come and gone and we are still dating and also dealing with her nagging attitude and sometimes very rude when she’s angry. ( after school she went back to Lagos where she is based while I’m based in Warri) so I fell distance contributes too. But honestly I do ask my self if this is the girl I really want to wife because I actually love her and wants to wife her because she’s a good girl. But she nags a lot, too rude, verbally abusive, wants to be controlling. Because of this girl I never had any female friends in school because we where living together after some point. Well mostly because I couldn’t afford my own rent in full so we had to team up and rent a house. I was also isolated from my male friends.

I’m really in a big dilemma to be frank. Sometimes I’m scared if I can’t get a good girl that can be faithful and loyal as her because girls of nowadays are something else. Or I’m just stucked with her. I have actually not tried having a real gf durin our breakups because I wasn’t just ready for something new so I really don’t know. I’m confused as hell. . This girl don’t give me peace of mind sometimes. This moment she’s cool then next minute she’s something else. One incident that happened. I was on a video cal with her and an urgent call came in. I told her baby give me a few Sec to pick the call. After picking that call this girl flamed up and started giving me attitude. That I was supposed to finish that video cal with her before picking any call without even asking me who was calling. Well I’m just stating that to give you guys the kind of silly attitudes she exhibits.

The one that happened just of recent. Just last night. We didn’t speak the whole of Friday because we where avoiding each other so Saturday I called her but she gave me attitude. I left her. Later in the evening I said let me hangout with my friend. A female friend tho Out of the blues her calls came in and I picked. She asked me where I was I told her I went out. She said with who. I said must I go with someone if I want to go out like I can’t I go out alone. She started nagging and requested for a video call. I picked the call and showed her around to tell her I was alone but she never believed anything. She kept on nagging. Kept calling me repeatedly oo. See me case. Someone that didn’t have my time earlier. Well it got to a point I never picked her calls nor video calls anymore partly because the place was very noisy and because it’s embarrassing shouting on the phone and explaining to a gf in present of people. Well I have said enough.

Guys I need advice. I feel like breaking up with this girl. I don’t know if I’m just being selfish or making the right decision. I might look stupid to some people right now but all critics is allowed. I will share screenshots of the messages she sent me when I wasn’t picking her calls

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I like girls like this.

Serious matter

Charleys:
I like girls like this.

Why

Am I missing something? Are you not cheating? You want a faithful girl but you aren't faithful.

Tell her whatever you've written here and move on.

Indeed u are not a man, just see as this cunt the control ur life, u should be tired of this relationship by now but here u are still being gullible with she hasn't cheated and all that

na so Kwame take enter one chance marriage


There are still good girls out there...leave the clingy cunt and move on with ur life...marry such person at ur own Peril


no de stress ur self cos of one woman, she no even get respect for u

You should quit the relationship.

You have a side chick and you obviously can't expect your girlfriend to stay mute.

You are actually stupid like you rightly opined (apologies for reminding you). It could be because you want to compensate her for feeding you while you were broke.
You don't need an advice. I won't be surprised if you have already paid her bride Price. Go on and do what you want, but remember to come here and show us the hot water that was poured on you for calling your mum.

Mehn!!! You are in trouble.....she ain't done with you....she want you to come and beg in person....have you slept with her before? If yes, I think you need to fvck her for like 1hr so that she can get factory resetting of her brain...she still love you oooo but insecurity is a disease in her body so deal with it bro.....I think you always act like sissy to her that's why she is trying to control you.....

Be a man and please if you are gonna break up with her, stay clear of her cuz she ain't done with you.

No Advice for you,advice your self

The girl is a normal naija girl in love...

You are the child here and you are not ready...

Please let her go and meet a real man.

You went out with another lady and got caught, and you are quick to term her a nag? Like seriously?

I will rather sit this out and pretend I didn’t read sheet

Proceed with caution bro

You guys are mad �

That girl loves you with every bit of her life. That amount of love comes with a price and that's what you are paying with her constant attention. Give her your attention 120% and she would ask for more sef

You have two options with this girl.
1 Work on her attitude and she will remain yours for Life.
2 Break up with her but try and compensate her for her efforts, then avoid her because she can harm you.
The choice is yours

Nobody is perfect...look beyond her flaws
And be with her...

Sometimes distance can drive somebody crazy
I can say fr sure she loves u..
But if u guys continue like this she will cheat
Cause she has trust issues...

All the best. .
Try and make her trust u more.

I wish i had such babe......

It's like her puna is too sweet for you... That's why your sense was deactivated.

DOMINO001:
You are actually stupid like you rightly opined (apologies for reminding you). It could be because you want to compensate her for feeding you while you were broke.
You don't need an advice. I won't be surprised if you have already paid her bride Price. Go on and do what you want, but remember to come here and show us the hot water that was poured on you for calling your mum.

I get your point but trust me this girl has her good sides I have known Naija girls to be very promiscuous, and do a lot of things. This girl is contented, honest, she’s not even demanding, she’s just so reserved. Aside her attitude trust me she’s a girl I want to wife that’s why I said I’m confused as hell.

drips8:
You should quit the relationship.

You have a side chick and you obviously can't expect your girlfriend to stay mute.

lol you can’t conclude I have a side chick. Trust me there’s more to this. Even when I’m honest she nags. Always feel I’m with someone

That girl is controlling you,she's using your emotions and love for her to blackmail you. All I see is a Guy,trying to be a Man but couldn't. Use your head and deal with the facts that the girl is abusive,repulsive,has a bad character and highly volatile. Control yourself first b4 u try to control her.


You need to be Miseducated on women matters for Sense to locate you


Peace

AstroG1:
That girl is control you,she's using your emotions and love for her to blackmail you. All I see is a Guy,trying to be a Man but couldn't. Use your head and deal with the facts that the girl is abusive,repulsive,has a bad character and highly volatile. Control yourself first b4 u try to control her.


You need to be Miseducated on women matters for Sense to locate you


Peace

honestly you are so right. I’m just sick but confused. Will I get a better girl that’s the question that keep popping on my brain. I have had quite some girls in the past but non can be compared to her. Talking about control. She tries hard to but I don’t give her that chance. I’m the hardest person you can deal with when it comes to women things because I don’t take shit from girls. But when she flames up like this. She says a lot of things that just make me sick and reconsider my plans for marriage. Is this what I will go through in marriage? It’s really a lot man I just wish I could type all. I love her so much but I hardly show it cos it not my nature to be acting al lovey lovey. But she always thinks I take her as an option. I really don’t know mern. I don’t pick call problem, I off phone problem, it’s either I’m with a woman or something

Selfkontrol:
honestly you are so right. I’m just sick but confused. Will I get a better girl that’s the question that keep popping on my brain. I have had quite some few girls in the past but non can be compared to her. Talking about control. She tries hard to but I don’t give her that chance. I’m the hardest person you can deal with when it comes to women things because I don’t take shit from girls. But when she flames up like this. She says a lot of things that just make me sick and reconsider my plans for marriage. Is this what I will go through in marriage? It’s really a lot man I just wish I could type all. I love her so much but I hardly show it cos it not my nature to be acting al lovey lovey. But she always thinks I take her as an option. I really don’t know mern. I don’t pick call problem, I off phone problem, it’s either I’m with a woman or something

For her to use the word 'Fxck you' constantly without remorse,shows she's not worth ur stress

Selfkontrol:
Good morning everyone. I had to create a new account just to post this to stay anonymous. Forgive any grammatical error pls.


I have this gf of over 6 years.(note: there has been breakups between this period and even one that lasted for two years but we always come back) We started dating since my 200 level in school and there has been ups and downs between us. Quarrels, fights over all little things. She’s 24while I’m 28. Well towards final year we broke up because of a lot of things that happened. I want to be brief as possible.

I must say she’s a loving, supportive gf through out my university days but threw in the towel towards final year and started dating someone else because she couldn’t cope with my brokenness anymore. Well a lot contributed to that too. I was hurt and bitter for weeks but I didn’t blame her because she tried staying up to that moment. Even my friends where surprised becos she’s a beautiful girl. Al those period she never cheated. But to be frank, I have never seen an insecured, controlling, immature, obsessive, nagging gf all my life. I know I also had my shortcomings but this girl is worse. All our fights we had was not because I cheated but because she always assume I do. She always suspect. She’s too fast to conclude even when I’m so pure to the heart.

Fast forward to months later when things became well for me, for the fact she never cheated on me, and she really helped me during school days tho never stayed still the end. Well she was still young and immature. Being so kind and grateful, I rekindled the love we had becos we actually do love our selves. I don’t know if I was stupid doing that or just being grateful for all what we went through but one thing I know is I never regretted my decision.

Time has come and gone and we are still dating and also dealing with her nagging attitude and sometimes very rude when she’s angry. ( after school she went back to Lagos where she is based while I’m based in Warri) so I fell distance contributes too. But honestly I do ask my self if this is the girl I really want to wife because I actually love her and wants to wife her because she’s a good girl. But she nags a lot, too rude, verbally abusive, wants to be controlling. Because of this girl I never had any female friends in school because we where living together after some point. Well mostly because I couldn’t afford my own rent in full so we had to team up and rent a house. I was also isolated from my male friends.

I’m really in a big dilemma to be frank. Sometimes I’m scared if I can’t get a good girl that can be faithful and loyal as her because girls of nowadays are something else. Or I’m just stucked with her. I have actually not tried having a real gf durin our breakups because I wasn’t just ready for something new so I really don’t know. I’m confused as hell. . This girl don’t give me peace of mind sometimes. This moment she’s cool then next minute she’s something else. One incident that happened. I was on a video cal with her and an urgent call came in. I told her baby give me a few Sec to pick the call. After picking that call this girl flamed up and started giving me attitude. That I was supposed to finish that video cal with her before picking any call without even asking me who was calling. Well I’m just stating that to give you guys the kind of silly attitudes she exhibits.

The one that happened just of recent. Just last night. We didn’t speak the whole of Friday because we where avoiding each other so Saturday I called her but she gave me attitude. I left her. Later in the evening I said let me hangout with my friend. A female friend tho Out of the blues her calls came in and I picked. She asked me where I was I told her I went out. She said with who. I said must I go with someone if I want to go out like I can’t I go out alone. She started nagging and requested for a video call. I picked the call and showed her around to tell her I was alone but she never believed anything. She kept on nagging. Kept calling me repeatedly oo. See me case. Someone that didn’t have my time earlier. Well it got to a point I never picked her calls nor video calls anymore partly because the place was very noisy and because it’s embarrassing shouting on the phone and explaining to a gf in present of people. Well I have said enough.

Guys I need advice. I feel like breaking up with this girl. I don’t know if I’m just being selfish or making the right decision. I might look stupid to some people right now but all critics is allowed. I will share screenshots of the messages she sent me when I wasn’t picking her calls

First, I want to commend your written English. It shows your school fees wasn't paid in vain.

Secondly, I like your girl. I like the way she uses the 'F' word like it's nothing. Believe me such girls are rare.

It's good thing you know she's the nagging type.
She does love you n don't say she has never cheated on you, you just haven't caught her. What you should know is this, y'all have to sit down n bare you differences so you two can understand each other.

N for the part of walking out of the relationship n not meeting someone as good as her, that's a lie. In fact the beauty of this taking your pride n leaving is you don't know whom you are gonna meet next, n if she doesn't fit your standard, one thing is sure, you will still walk out of the relationship n meet another. Till you get your type. Don't be delusional about not meeting someone as good as she, you know why?

You'd meet someone better.

The girl cheats bro

Well,this is how I see it

First,she's truly very rude,on NO account should your spouse insult you,all these Bleep you,i regret the day i met you,you are stupid and all other insult when you are angry is not nice at all.

Secondly op is a cheat,he has cheated on her before or still cheating,you can't deny it.


Finally, i think you guys should break up,it's obviously not working,she's losing her sanity,you are losing your patience so best you could do and save yourselves heartache is break up..

RESPECT matters alot in a relationship,stay away from a man who doesn't respect you,same goes to men.

carzola:
Nobody is perfect...look beyond her flaws
And be with her...

Sometimes distance can drive somebody crazy
I can say fr sure she loves u..
But if u guys continue like this she will cheat
Cause she has trust issues...

All the best. .
Try and make her trust u more.

theres nothing I I haven’t done or say to make her trust me. Even considering the distance I still give her attention but she’s never satisfied. Her life is just so lonely, she absolutely got no friends. I’m like her best friend and bf she tells everything. She’s quiet and don’t even like to seek for advice. She’s not someone that can discuss things like this to seek for advice. She believes in her own judgment and think she’s right. No elder sister to advice her no good friend. I really feel sorry for her to be frank becos I try as much as i can to be a loving bf. She have had bfs in the past but non worked and I think it’s this same salty attitude. Sometimes I neglect somethings out of pity because trust me her life is somehow. Sometimes when she explains to me I just feel sorry for her. To the point she wants to rush me into marriage cos she’s tired lol. A girl of 23 tired of staying in parents house. Tired already she hasn’t gotten a job. Wants to use marriage as an escape route. It’s sad

Simplep:
Well,this is how I see it

First,she's truly very rude,on NO account should your spouse insult you,all these Bleep you,i regret the day i met you,you are stupid and all other insult when you are angry is not nice at all.

Secondly op is a cheat,he has cheated on her before or still cheating,you can't deny it.


Finally, i think you guys should break up,it's obviously not working,she's losing her sanity,you are losing your patience so best you could do and save yourselves heartache is break up..

RESPECT matters alot in a relationship,stay away from a man who doesn't respect you,same goes to men.

you are not wrong saying she’s rude and lack respect sometimes but saying I cheat lol. Yes I might have but never in anyway has she ever caught me or seen me or have I rubbed it on her face. I’m too smart for that. All she does is suspect and assumes even when I’m doing nothing. You may feel she has caught me in the past but noo she has never. I have remained faithful to an extent. She’s just naturally jealous and insecured

Selfkontrol:
I get your point but trust me this girl has her good sides I have known Naija girls to be very promiscuous, and do a lot of things. This girl is contented, honest, she’s not even demanding, she’s just so reserved. Aside her attitude trust me she’s a girl I want to wife that’s why I said I’m confused as hell.

You should make a choice, I personally will call it quits, there are some things in this world that are good but kills in the long term.
I don't believe in quiting without a fight, but I will only fight if there is a fighting chance.

Your gf has passed the stage that she can change, these are the kind of people that will love their house so much, but will set it on fire and cry a river when it starts burning.

She needs serious help from a therapist, unless you can afford this it's best you sever your lose and take a bow - yeah, it will hurt, but you will be fine eventually with time.

Selfkontrol:
you are not wrong saying she’s rude and lack respect sometimes but saying I cheat lol. Yes I might have but never in anyway has she ever caught me or seen me or have I rubbed it on her face. I’m too smart for that. All she does is suspect and assumes even when I’m doing nothing. You may feel she has caught me in the past but noo she has never. I have remained faithful to an extent. She’s just naturally jealous and insecured

You are not as smart as you think,trust me.

Guy Waka �️ dere, see as she dey rain insult like snow on top ur head,no matter how u love me if u disrespect me this much mehn am done,see as she dey use ''fvck u'' as if she dey release ep
Better to stay silly than stay with a nagging woman at home