What brings two people together and creates a lasting connection filled with love, passion and excitement? And what is it that can ultimately extinguish that spark? How is it that people who once felt such a deep love and attraction can find themselves feeling alone, misunderstood, even dead inside, because the passion has been replaced with pain?
Relationship stress comes in many forms, but it doesn’t have to signal an ending. The key to avoiding these pitfalls is to understand the common stressors that negatively impact your relationships and how each source of relationship stress can ultimately devastate your connection if not addressed. It’s also essential to establish clear lines of communication with your partner so that you both focus on fulfilling each other’s deepest desires and needs, instead of ignoring these needs and contributing to greater relationship stress.
Loss of Attraction
The only difference between a romantic relationship and a friendship is intimacy. When that desire, that deeper connection, begins to wane, then the passion in your relationship begins to fade, leaving you with something closer to friendship.
Why does attraction diminish? This may come as a surprise, but it’s not a physical issue. Loss of attraction is often caused by something psychological and emotional called depolarization. Depolarization takes place when partners no longer have the play of masculine and feminine energies between them. The person with feminine energy feels too insecure to relax into their feminine core, and the partner with masculine energy is bent out of shape and loses their masculine core. Many couples spend years this way and get used to the loss of passion. However, attraction can shift in a matter of seconds – one partner could go from tight and controlling to free and radiant once their significant other makes them feel appreciated, needed and loved.

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