Its quite difficult to strengthen long distance relationship in this our time. if it were about 3 decades ago, it would have been possible.anyway, Money could go a short way. throw away all these honesty, perseverance, and what have you. it doesn't work

Communication (Voice)

kheme:

well, here's my take on the matter,

in a normal relationship, for some, sex strengthens it, or money or just romance, stuff, attention, etc,  it could be anything. when two people come together, i'm sure there's something they both want/need from each other. and so long as that need/want is being met, the relationship continues. that being said, not all relationships are meant to work. it's sad but its true.

The bold statements are true. As soon as d need is filled, u may have no passion in the r/ship anymore. . .be it one meter or one million km r/ship

All d people dat said TRUST failed to include BLIND. BLIND TRUST is more apt but u can trust a cheat just because he/she lies perfectly, telling u what u always want to hear. That doesn't in any way help d r/ship cos u're living your life for your partner while he/she is living for another person. . .in a nutshell, u're a very big MUGU. But u trusted and communicated with him/her. What a pity!

To me, a relationship needs principle on both sides. . .d ability to stand firm in the midst of temptations. The ability to manage your spiritual konji very well cos as soon as u give another man/woman a chance in your life, your faraway partner or your r/ship surfers big time. if u have a good r/ship with your principles and conscience, u'll hardly err. To that i will add communications. . .always reaffirm how dearly u love the person.

communication, trust, honesty

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Distance relationship is waste of time, it never works.

i used constant communication,honesty to win her trust,a little bit romantic.And never let go mentality.Right now,she is with me ,i got her job in Abuja and we are doing very well. Poster, i wish u well,just be prayerful and if u can believe me, sow a dangerous seed on her head, u know what i mean?And she became yours permanently; more info email me

it doesnot work,whether communciation,trust sex or whatever it does not work

Donmeca:

The bold statements are true. As soon as d need is filled, u may have no passion in the r/ship anymore. . .be it one meter or one million km r/ship

All d people dat said TRUST failed to include BLIND. BLIND TRUST is more apt but u can trust a cheat just because he/she lies perfectly, telling u what u always want to hear. That doesn't in any way help d r/ship cos u're living your life for your partner while he/she is living for another person. . .in a nutshell, u're a very big MUGU. But u trusted and communicated with him/her. What a pity!

To me, a relationship needs principle on both sides. . .d ability to stand firm in the midst of temptations. The ability to manage your spiritual konji very well cos as soon as u give another man/woman a chance in your life, your faraway partner or your r/ship surfers big time. if u have a good r/ship with your principles and conscience, u'll hardly err. To that i will add communications. . .always reaffirm how dearly u love the person.

you said what i am thinking

@ OP

Either a very very very very very very very long penis, or very cheap affordable plane tickets. Otherwise the relationship is doomed.

Try to do things together, watch the same movies and discuss it, pray over the phone, read similar books, etc,

5000 Kilometers!!!!

@post

Nothing is more risky than keeping a long distance relationship.

Had one sometimes ago, we called regularly and speaks all through the night sometimes, talking about anything and everything, but alas, it went the way of others before it: BREAK-UP.

I don't fancy it, but if it is working for U, you are lucky.

Olumogun:

@post

Nothing is more risky than keeping a long distance relationship.

Had one sometimes ago, we called regularly and speaks all through the night sometimes, talking about anything and everything, but alas, it went the way of others before it: BREAK-UP.

I don't fancy it, but if it is working for U, you are lucky.

If it begets open relationships until marriage no worries.

Myne White:

Try to do things together, watch the same movies and discuss it, pray over the phone, read similar books, etc,

Dis one na heavy career!

its only if there is genue love from both,that is where communication,trust and others can works,but if there is no true love between both parties pls forget it, there are many types of relationship,eg conditional,unconditional etc,but most thing is true love from both.

sham stories about urself

anyhow sex - including one chance sex

talk bullshit for hours.

Absolute nothing,Must especially when u dont have plans for one another1.When only one side does all the calling all the time2.[b][i][/i][color=#990000][/color]

collective committment by both parties involved by way of constant communication, and occassional visits.

for people talking about trust, that is typical delusion, beliv it only 5 out out of 100 can actually be trusted. am seeing how people are cheatin in nodistance relationship, not to talk of a distance one. only if ur partner genuingly love u, he/she definately remain for u. donmeca said it all, u can trust a cheat cos he/she lies perfectly.

i'm in a distance r/ship, my girl doesnt communicate with me. i mean she neva calls me. i do call her, she doesnt even pick all the time i call. i love this girl, Do i quit?

^^ ask her wats her mind concerning u,if she is or no longer interested in the relationship she shud tell u than to be playin wition ur emotions, if she said she is still intereted, her attitude should convince u that she is into u.

My people, no be small thing oh!
Bottom line is both parties must see themselves as being special/unique.
I'm in Canada, and if my gf wasn't exceptional I would have shifted base long time.

NOt that there are no hot chicks here, its just that I'm convinced my chick is extra-special.
We've been through serious drama--there are many hungry wolves in Lagos, btw-- but we've survived.
Largely because I trust her deep down- I'm taking a risk because she's human, anyway.
But its a risk worth taking.

Good thing for us is we dated for like 2 years before I travelled, so we've got good memories of us being together.
We text, bbm and talk frequently, any other ideas folks?

Communication,commitment and discipline

If it's a decent couple, then constant communication and trust is the case. When you know your partner is decently keeping herself/himself over there, you feel encouraged to do the same. Calling as much as possible, and also, encouraging the partner with words of steadfast love does the trick. But for a wayward couple, nothing you can do, long distance is a killer .

People saying it dosent work are just bunch of negative people, sometimes it dosent and sometimes it does, all depends on the foundation of the relationship from the begining. I am in one, and i am fine and happy about it till we can start living together, we will keep doing what we are doing cuz its working out.

At poster. Trust and communication is the big one.

Telepathy! [color=#000099][/color]

brillant contributns frm evrybody.all factors works BUT with GOD bin d determinant factor.

Pls stop decieving urselfs. Nothing can strenghten a long distant relationship. Both parties will kip decieving themselves till d relationship dies a natural death. Rubbish!

Myne White:

Try to do things together, watch the same movies and discuss it, pray over the phone, read similar books, etc,

one of the best response on this thread.

koolguy88:

i'm in a distance r/ship, my girl doesnt communicate with me. i mean she neva calls me. i do call her, she doesnt even pick all the time i call. i love this girl, Do i quit?

oga bone dat side ur chic no too dey interested, im in an opposite situation dis gal call me, txt me like say 2moro no dey bt i mostly ignore her not coz of the distance but coz im not too keen on her, if gal no dey give u attention ma brother no waste ur time >>>>>>>on to the next one.

@190, didnt know u were this much a wacko
OMG, had me up in stitches!