Acidosis:
If you're single, you feed yourself and have a roof over your head, then you can marry. There are no special bills or taxes for married people. Your stomach and portion of food do not get bigger with marriage. Your electricity or water bill do not increase because you're married. Same electricity, same cable TV, same quantity of water, same rent, etc.

In fact, it is easier for two WORKING and sensible people because they're able to put resources together to achieve a better result. E.g. If you've being paying rent alone, you can share bills (not necessarily in equal proportions).

The only thing that makes a difference is pregnancy & child upkeep, and to the best of my knowledge, this is optional. After all, single men and women have more sex than married people, without fear of pregnancy.

To blame finance for being single is lack of SENSE and understanding. It is perpetual failure of the brain to think MARRIAGE between two people will drain finance faster than the single folks. It is like living alone to bear all cost Vs. living and sharing bills with a room mate.

Think.

to marry na free

barinedan:
And why do unemployed men keep girlfriends if they don't have money to cater for the needs of the girls. If you can take care of a girlfriend then taking care of wife should equally not be a problem

... You just try it, after about six months your eyes go clear, you'll now know that what is after six is more than seven. Yeye dey smell

The issue is that people lack wisdom. The fact it worked for mr A, it may not be same with Mr B, so don't always put urself in other people's shoe cos all feet are not the same size. But in case u want to make a trial, ensure the Lady is not jobless, else ur suffering with her will be aluta continua.

Micholawoye:


Thank you sir. Please can you explain further?

they tell you things that are not biblical and when you fall into trouble they would tell you is because you are not praying for example if you want to feed or have money you must work, it is a must but they would tell you that if you pray 7 times and sow seed, miracle money would drop.

healthserve:
Op he's correct. If you've tried and nothing works, get married to a good woman even on credit. Your stars will combine and break the opening you need financially. It works. Or rather has been a principle from old.

Has this happened to you or someone you know? Emphasis on "someone you know". Pls don't lie to protect your stance. God does not need defending. He's not a man.

AwkaetitiBabe:
Wanna dust my cv naw

You're honest

soleexx:
He who finds a wife finds a Good thing... Bible quote... But actually it's doesn't work for everyone...

How does one even "find a wife?" a wife is someone who's married right? so for one to "find a wife" then the so-called wife would've been married to someone else

John Horne Tooke was told to "take a wife" to which he replied "with all my heart, whose wife shall it be?"

AwkaetitiBabe:
So, are u married now

No, I'm not.

ehinmowo:



Has this happened to you or someone you know? Emphasis on "someone you know". Pls don't lie to protect your stance. God does not need defending. He's not a man.

You have issues.

emmaodet:


What if the woman is jobless?

It's the man's responsibility to groom his bride and make her dutiful and enterprising.

Single unemployed guy should not take to this man Advice..He doesn't know what he was typing...we all dealing with lives from different angle.

hopefulLandlord:


How does one even "find a wife?" a wife is someone who's married right? so for one to "find a wife" then the so-called wife would've been married to someone else

John Horne Tooke was told to "take a wife" to which he replied "with all my heart, whose wife shall it be"

Don't knw wot to say sir

ngwababe:


You ain't Nigerian bro. Imagine you exempting in-laws and friends from bills?

but marriage does not increase one's responsibility to family and friends nah.

healthserve:


You have issues.

Obviously you are dumb! I asked you simple question you are saying trash.

Grundig:

I sincerely hope nobody takes this advice.

Yes, if you currently live under your parent's roof and depend on them for upkeep.

Roland17:


Please tell me you are joking because your 1st paragraph and to some extent the entirety of your post is far from the truth and misleading.

Has DSTV increased your bill because you wear a wedding band? Did any Doctor confirmed an increment in the size of your stomach since you got married?

Micholawoye:
Good morning Nairaland family. I have noticed that some pastors will tell unemployed single men to marry and that when they get married and start having kids, that things will begin to get easier for them in life.

Sometimes they say things Luke when you get married, the star of the woman and yours work together to make things easier and give you better things in life.

I used to laugh at this until about a month ago and a pastor I know told me the same thing.
Please how true is this? I need advice from people with such experiences. Pardon my English please.

Thank you and God bless.

Women marry all the time without having a job. Why are standards different?

Hoephase:


I am not sure where you live or where you got your math lessons.

In a sane clime, if on the average it takes you 5 liters of water to bath a day. When you the number of your house hold increases by 1 at least your water usage will double.

For cooking if you alone consumes 3 cups of rice a week and say it cost you 100 naira. When you the size of your household increases by 1 at least your expensive on rice on the minimum will be 150 naira based on the assumption that your wife consumes half as much as you do.

Well you may keep this roof but when your family size grows and the living space per individual decreases beyond the required minimum living space for an individual, stress sets in, diseases and other psychological issues creeps in. These alone reduces not only the quality of life the members of the household but it also depletes the family resources: low productivity from stress, use resources that would have been put aside for investment for treating communicable disease etc.

Wives don't eat or bath before marriage?

Acidosis:
If you're single, you feed yourself and have a roof over your head, then you can marry. There are no special bills or taxes for married people. Your stomach and portion of food do not get bigger with marriage. Your electricity or water bill do not increase because you're married. Same electricity, same cable TV, same quantity of water, same rent, etc.

In fact, it is easier for two WORKING and sensible people because they're able to put resources together to achieve a better result. E.g. If you've being paying rent alone, you can share bills (not necessarily in equal proportions).

The only thing that makes a difference is pregnancy & child upkeep, and to the best of my knowledge, this is optional. After all, single men and women have more sex than married people, without fear of pregnancy.

To blame finance for being single is lack of SENSE and understanding. It is perpetual failure of the brain to think MARRIAGE between two people will drain finance faster than the single folks. It is like living alone to bear all cost Vs. living and sharing bills with a room mate.

Think.

what if the woman nio get job and to worsen matter she come born twins for the guy .dat neans their suffering will be tripled.my brother his course mate in school got married very early and the bros dey do porter job for these night motels.the guy used to be handsome but if u see the guy now he has lost all his looks.stress wan finish am and to worsen matter na the clothes wey im papa wear in the early 70s and mid 70s na im dey wear cos the dude cant even afford buying clothes for his wife.all the little stipends he makes from his porter work he uses to pay school fees and maintain his young wife plus the guy will always be bothering u to borrow him money.u dont have to be a millioniare to be married but u have to have a good source of livelihood to get married cos in most cases ur wife might be unemployed or if working u can expect her to sustain the family with the hairdressing or tailor work wey she dey do.

midnighter:


How do single and married people use the same amount of water, electricity or food...

That's one of the strangest statements I've ever read

Two single people (man and woman) and two married people (man and woman) consume the same amount of water and food.

Two single people under a different roof (roof A & roof B) consume higher electricity than two married people under same roof (roof C).


What's strange about that? How can 1 be greater than 2?

ogianyo:
This is a very simplistic way of viewing marriage finances. I dont need to be told that you have clearly never been married.
There are very many spending that a bachelor can successfully avoid which a married man cant. When you marry in Africa you are taking on responsibility for some spending for both your family and inlaw folks. A wife is additional mouth to feed not insomnia. She falls sick, needs clothing and a lot of stuff that only married men here can relate with. This is not to suggest that you must be rich to marry. You however need to have a reasonable and regular income.

especially those men married to women who dont work and are not ready to work .the woman own na to watch nollywood from morning till night and maybe gossip with some of her friends and when the man return from im hustle she will still nag him of coming late .some marriages in naija worse pass the pains of hellfire .

lefulefu:
what if the woman nio get job and to worsen matter she come born twins for the guy .dat neans their suffering will be tripled.my brother his course mate in school got married very early and the bros dey do porter job for these night motels.the guy used to be handsome but if u see the guy now he has lost all his looks.stress wan finish am and to worsen matter na the clothes wey im papa wear in the early 70s and mid 70s na im dey wear cos the dude cant even afford buying clothes for his wife.all the little stipends he makes from his porter work he uses to pay school fees and maintain his young wife plus the guy will always be bothering u to borrow him money.u dont have to be a millioniare to be married but u have to have a good source of livelihood to get married cos in most cases ur wife might be unemployed or if working u can expect her to sustain the family with the hairdressing or tailor work wey she dey do.

LMAO I understand you sha

Because they are unemployed too�

Acidosis:


LMAO I understand you sha

overseas college students(university) can get married or get get married as soon as they graduate because the conditions are much different there compared to naija in the sense that jobs are readily available or they can do jobs while still in sch and cater for their needs but in naija na different scenario .even the guys with well paying jobs are shying away from marriage cos to take care of woman for naija is very expensive plus u come add children join.everything is very expensive in naija .the time when the guy go get the desire to get married is when his back account don get reasonable strenght .

dohyinsohlah:
Because they are unemployed too�

someone wearing expensive gucci suit and shoes is what u call unemployed? do u know hw many of them own private jets?

barinedan:
And why do unemployed men keep girlfriends if they don't have money to cater for the needs of the girls. If you can take care of a girlfriend then taking care of wife should equally not be a problem

only in nigeria do guys give money to girls and call it girlfriend allowance .naija na funny place .the last time i made some statement about girlfriend allowance one canadian girl sitting next to me wanted to know what it was all about .i kept my mouth shut cos i no wan fall naija babes hands .

Acidosis:
If you're single, you feed yourself and have a roof over your head, then you can marry. There are no special bills or taxes for married people. Your stomach and portion of food do not get bigger with marriage. Your electricity or water bill do not increase because you're married. Same electricity, same cable TV, same quantity of water, same rent, etc.

In fact, it is easier for two WORKING and sensible people because they're able to put resources together to achieve a better result. E.g. If you've being paying rent alone, you can share bills (not necessarily in equal proportions).

The only thing that makes a difference is pregnancy & child upkeep, and to the best of my knowledge, this is optional. After all, single men and women have more sex than married people, without fear of pregnancy.

To blame finance for being single is lack of SENSE and understanding. It is perpetual failure of the brain to think MARRIAGE between two people will drain finance faster than the single folks. It is like living alone to bear all cost Vs. living and sharing bills with a room mate.

Think.

if Na person wey show mask just to get into the person house how do one handle that

I love Ur analysis it simplified things..

but this dude I know after 3yrs discovered her wife cnt actually keep a business or work,school she no gree finish..All the show she put b4 marriage is to enter man house.

The rate this guy borrow money from me and people around make me fear the marriage thing I swear,.so much deception and covering of truth in this marriage thing

I don dey send food weekly for 1 girl wey I dey toast and she still no send me

lefulefu:
only in nigeria do guys give money to girls and call it girlfriend allowance .naija na funny place .the last time i made some statement about girlfriend allowance one canadian girl sitting next to me wanted to know what it was all about .i kept my mouth shut cos i no wan fall naija babes hands .

Micholawoye:
Good morning Nairaland family. I have noticed that some pastors will tell unemployed single men to marry and that when they get married and start having kids, that things will begin to get easier for them in life.

Sometimes they say things Luke when you get married, the star of the woman and yours work together to make things easier and give you better things in life.

I used to laugh at this until about a month ago and a pastor I know told me the same thing.
Please how true is this? I need advice from people with such experiences. Pardon my English please.

Thank you and God bless.

Only religious id*iots take marriage advice from pastors, especially, from Nigerian pastors! Nigerian pastors have ruined many marriages!

You probably have better morals than these so-called "men of God"!

CaptainMitch:
I don dey send food weekly for 1 girl wey I dey toast and she still no send me

food ke ...maybe u need to upgrade like paying her house rent or schools.if u do that maybe she go go appreciate .u know wen dem dey very young dem dey get plenty toasters .

She dey very erratic, I dey always try to provoke girls and see their reaction, that way you go know who dey homely among them, she's very young and pretty so e dey enter her head I want her to like me then I go run away

lefulefu:
food ke ...maybe u need to upgrade like paying her house rent or schools.if u do that maybe she go go appreciate .u know wen dem dey very young dem dey get plenty toasters .