Victoronah1:
lol. I am so rich that I will still spend and it doesn't even look like I removed 5 naira from my account and will stiff Bleep the girl. . But ubunjs is wrong. A woman's heart is not her pussy, if it was we won't have runs girls and love peddlers. A woman's heart lies same in her wallet. Who ever invests more in any relationship money wise will always be the looser and not sex.

smiliyB:
please can you drop some information on this. I'm building myself to be an independent woman but I'm already feeling like a loser kinda scary like this particular write up is an eye opener for me.

ubunja:
money is not the only valuable thing in the world. Time is also money. Haven't you heard a woman complain, "But I gave you my best years and you betrayed me"? Time and looks are also an investment. Treasure is not always finances. Remember when women came up with "Waste his time 2018"? That's to show you not only money can be wasted.

ubunja:
independent women are losers. That's first and foremost. They are the cheapest women around because they pay for their own way through life. That's why most men love independent women because what's better than a woman who let's you as a man pay only for your half while she pays for her own half all in the name of 50-50? It's like dealing with another guy. When a woman goes 50-50 with a man it just means the man is getting sex for free.

Victoronah1:
but sex is not all in a relationship. Sex is a two sided things. The woman also enjoys it. Haven't you met a woman who haves sex with a guy and it ends. If the guy meets her she will say," we had sex and I enjoyed myself and I am done". Also from your write up time is also a part. So the lady can waist his time and get married to someone else. From same comment you quoted me.

Victoronah1:
then we can now say money is not the only thing in a man's world. If he has the money and spends it. It wouldn't hurt him then. From your write up came this assumption.

alpontif:
Ubunja the Great!

May your well of wisdom never run dry, I thought I was the only one who have figured this out....alas, you know too, and more importantly you are spreading the knowledge.

Kudos.

ubunja:
sex is the only power a woman will always have over a man. If you give sex up, no matter how much you enjoy it, you have lost all power. What else can a man look forward to after sex? Your cooking? Your cleaning? You are done.

Gold Diggers know as a rule that they never sleep with their target, or atleast delay it until its absolutely impossible to delay it any longer.

If you love sex, find a guy you don't want anything from, then give him. But the man whose money and ring you want, you never give him sex. If you do, you have given him the one thing he wanted and there's no reason or incentive for him to give you the things that YOU want. That's why trophy wives ration sex for rich hubby while freely giving it to the pool boy. Because in love, sex is a weapon. Outside of love, sex is nothing and any guy can get it.

If a girl is freely having sex with a guy, the moment the guy tells the girl he loves her, that's the moment his access to sex becomes controlled. Because as soon as love enters the picture, sex becomes a tool.

ubunja:
independent women are losers. That's first and foremost. They are the cheapest women around because they pay for their own way through life. That's why most men love independent women because what's better than a woman who let's you as a man pay only for your half while she pays for her own half all in the name of 50-50? It's like dealing with another guy. When a woman goes 50-50 with a man it just means the man is getting sex for free.

smiliyB:
The guys are not smiling again Please more of this women's thread, I'm seeing something seriously serious.Lol

Endeavour to write for both genders, let's be enlighten together and choose whatever we wanna choose n learn from it.

ubunja:
I don't think I can write more content for women because there was virtually no feedback from women. Only one lady got back with anything constructive and even she has since deactivated. I see no point in writing for mutes. A big part of the Miseducations is the feedback guys give. It puts the writeup into context for others to understand. But women didn't comment with their own experiences even though the writeup was for them so it was effort wasted as far as I see it.

Omar09:
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That is their entitlement speaking. They feel you should continue to write and they are not obligated to give feedbacks.

ubunja:
I don't think I can write more content for women because there was virtually no feedback from women. Only one lady got back with anything constructive and even she has since deactivated. I see no point in writing for mutes. A big part of the Miseducations is the feedback guys give. It puts the writeup into context for others to understand. But women didn't comment with their own experiences even though the writeup was for them so it was effort wasted as far as I see it.

Michellekabod2:

How many bothered to read it ?you have gotten the reputation for being a woman-hater(from ladies perspective ) so they don't bother reading your threads contents because they expects it is the usual pro-man talk.


I did send you a message on whatsapp concerning the miseducation. I did give feedback. Except you mean feedback on Nairaland

Victoronah1:
but sex is not all in a relationship. Sex is a two sided things. The woman also enjoys it. Haven't you met a woman who haves sex with a guy and it ends. If the guy meets her she will say," we had sex and I enjoyed myself and I am done". Also from your write up time is also a part. So the lady can waist his time and get married to someone else. From same comment you quoted me.

Blessedchild24:

happy new year in advance bro have you learn forex now

Victoronah1:
same to you. No I she not. People seem to advice me not to invest claiming I will loose money.

pansophist:


Because ''niceness'' is a subset of morality, and the planet doesn't care about morality. lion doesn't care to know if killing is bad, he will kill to stay alive. Look around you, from tobacco companies to soda companies, all these are bad to your health, but they have to convince you to buy it for them to thrive. All the politicians that raped Nigeria for long are living lavishly, enjoying the fruit of their immorality, and create laws for the pleb to abide by, while they merry on top of the food chain and the mass suffers. The whites that plundered Africa's wealth for five centuries are living good, by us being nice are living badly. Got it?

Out of all species, it is only human that evolved to be conscious of morality, to be civilized and created laws and conduct., but at the very base, if you eliminate morality, you are more likely to survive, hence, bad boys are more attractive. To survive, it is about what works, and not morality, or being nice, or any other subset. Same with romance.

My girlfriend left me earlier this month
She goes out and comes back late at night during her outing I call and she doesn't pick, she doesn't even inform me she is going out.
This faithful day when she went out and came back we argued and I asked her where she was coming from. She said the next community and I asked her thereafter who she went there to meet and her purpose she said she has no answer to the question.
I was angry I slapped her I wanted to continue but I couldn't hit her more, I wasn't the woman beating type and that was my first time.
My mum scolded me that I shouldn't try such act again,since i haven't married her. Although I took her seriously and I cared for her to my capacity though my pay isn't enough but I tried my best.
I sometimes sacrifice myself just to make her happy. The next day after our argument she went to the same place and still didn't call me to inform me of her whereabouts...I called her and told her to see me since I had it in mind I wanted to apologize for the previous day although she was wrong she told me she went outing and can't come back early.
We continued like this throughout the week and by Sunday she told me she was seeing someone who was talking to her about marriage and of course my girlfriend is so desperate to marry and she is just 27+. She said I am too jealous, I should spare her, I am treating her like she is betrothed to me, that I can't let her live her life. It worried me because she wasn't like this when we started 10 months ago.
Having heard her, I told her things were over between us but my heart wasn't settled because I loved her so deep that I couldn't even cheat on her or make her unhappy.
I went back to beg her after all her acts and misbehavior, i called her she insulted me, but I still loved her.
I planned my life around her and it's hard now for me to move on...my life is stalled.
I can't eat, I think about killing myself like I am a failure, i never treated her bad. But she chose someone else over me when she was my priority. She knew I lived for her. Everyone around us know this. I am confused what should I do ���

Martinez39:
This miseducation for ladies is better than all the boring female miseducation jargons ever written by Sandra8, Missghosted, Eyeness and others. Kudos to Ubunja.

I have always known this that's why I always told boys to stop spending. If any one had read my previous posts, you will observe where I pointed out financial investment in a relationship as the main reason for Nigerian boys committing suicide by sniper during a break up. They've have invested so much money and time and even gone into debt because they want to make their girlfriends happy. Having invested all these, it's not surprising to see them doing all they can to maintain the relationship. They even endure toxicity and disrespect from the girl; they accept all her rules and are willing to bow to her like a fool; they readily forgive her when she cheats and lie; etc. Why are they going through all this? Because they have heavily invested in the relationship and seeing the dissolution of the relationship would mean their investment and sacrifices were all for nothing and had been a waste.

Spending, investing, and sacrificing heavily in a relationship that lasted for quite a long time but end and didn't amount to anything is like wasting part of your life all for nothing. It's even clear, which makes it more painful, that those energy, time, and investment could have been channelled to other things. The more the investment, the greater the hurt during break up. Some really invested so so much (and even went into debt or sacrificed huge parts of their career or business plan just to see that the girl is alright) that they become depressed and suicidal during a break up. They are terrible drained, saddened, and hurt that a great part of their lives had all been for nothing (and have incurred debt and passed on good opportunities all for nothing).

okikiosibodu:

So apt. I was a victim of this. I understand better, thanks to Ubunja. I wish to get the male version of this write up
I have learnt that to change the direction of the heart, one needs to change the allocation of the treasure

babyoy:
I am a woman and I really enjoyed this your writeup, infact I even sent a copy to a friend of mine (of course d writer of d info was mentioned too), please keep it up

ubunja:
you mean how to get women invested in you or how to avoid being invested in women?

ubunja:

Well we will see if the Misedu-cash-ins can become a regular feature.
Have a nice one.

ubunja:
[b]#LevelUp
#SecureTheBag

Victoronah1:
then we can now say money is not the only thing in a man's world. If he has the money and spends it. It wouldn't hurt him then. From your write up came this assumption.