A relationship takes work.

Everyone knows this, everyone mentions it.
You see it everywhere, on every relationship quote by every relationship Instagram account.

But do you know that Being single actually takes work too?

Here are a couple of areas where Being single takes work.

1. Maintaining your single Status.
If you are an attractive person then you must several admirers that are giving your attention or greenlight.
Some of them are attractive as well and their personalities go so well with yours that you know that the relationship will be filled with so much fire, love and romance!
But you just have to control yourself and keep them in the friendzone.

Some days you will miss the 'I love you texts", the cuddling, the sweet words, the mind-blowing fornication, the holding hands, the showing off. All the things that couples enjoy and you have to remember why you chose to be single in the first place. That takes work.

You also have to control yourself when it appears that all your friends are in loving relationships and you keep seeing cute couples pictures everywhere on social media or even worse, they start a couples trend on Nigeria twitter.
And you keep seeing what you are missing being rubbed in your face everywhere.

That takes work too. It is definitely not easy.

2. Doing Personal Evaluation.
Looking at your dating history and considering the different factors why they failed, evaluating your behaviors in those relationships, where you might have contributed to the breakup and finding behaviors that you need to fix is very hard work.

A lot of people avoid doing it because of its difficulty. Instead, they find it easier to keep jumping from one relationship to the other, increasing their body count and fragmenting their soul.
They never see themselves as having any fault in the ending of those relationships, it is always the other person.

Some others deceive themselves and say that there is no use in looking at the past, just forge ahead. Then they forge ahead and keep repeating the same mistakes over and over.

Personal Evaluation is the key to becoming a better person and having successful relationships in the future. Personal Evaluation is hard work and personal Evaluation is best done when one is single.

3. Working on your goals and dreams.
Being in a relationship splits your focus, you are constantly worried about the way your partner is feeling and keeping up with obligations (such as phone calls, dates etcetera) that are necessary for the survival of your relationships. This eats your time and is one of the benefits of being single; not having to do all that.

However you might not be in a relationship and your time is consumed with other things such as going out on dates with members of the opposite sex that you wish to have sex with, Staying focused while single is also hard enough even though admittedly it is far easier to do than when you are in a relationship (except you are in a relationship with a like-minded hustler).