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Re: Why The Rampant Cases Of Divorce? Married Folks Please Share Your Experience. by Fhemmmy: 3:48pm On Nov 25, 2019 |
frozen70: We are not being realistic . . . What is being selfish in this, let's break it down: Man and the woman get married at say late 20s and they are both professionals - Is that selfish? They now have kids and meaning, their life just got busier - is that selfish They have to hire helps like nanny or house help who practically plays Dad and Mom to the kids because papa and mama are back from work late after the kids have gone to bed - Is that being selfish or they don't have to provide for their family? It is natural for the woman to pay more attention to the kids because they need attention and by so doing, the man is finding solace in other stuff that isn't even bad stuff - Is that being selfish The man and the woman hardly know each other because they need to provide and both hardly home all because of providing for the home - Is that being selfish? Now the kids are all grown and married and left the house The Dada and mama are not retired - Then WHAT? This has nothing to do with being selfish, it has to do with NOT knowing how to deal with what life brings while we are all busy, but we need to raise the awareness that man and woman needs to be careful to keep dating each other even with kids in the equation, the man needs to NOT think it is all about the money as well as the wife, the wife needs to keep doing those things that attracted the man. , , , All i am saying is divorce can be prevented but takes cautious effort as long as life isn't involved |
Re: Why The Rampant Cases Of Divorce? Married Folks Please Share Your Experience. by Fhemmmy: 3:49pm On Nov 25, 2019 |
LewsTherin: Refer to my last post where i analyzed it |
Re: Why The Rampant Cases Of Divorce? Married Folks Please Share Your Experience. by Lonelypacifist6: 3:50pm On Nov 25, 2019 |
Fhemmmy:Lots of factors can aid divorce, Human nature is Unpredictable and seeks change, You can actually get tired of people just like you get tired of an environment a car a phone or the likes. 1 Like |
Re: Why The Rampant Cases Of Divorce? Married Folks Please Share Your Experience. by Fhemmmy: 4:04pm On Nov 25, 2019 |
Lonelypacifist6: Yes, i totally agree sir/ma BUT i am only mentioning the area that we have NEVER focused on but always come to us as a shock |
Re: Why The Rampant Cases Of Divorce? Married Folks Please Share Your Experience. by Lonelypacifist6: 4:06pm On Nov 25, 2019 |
Fhemmmy:Sir, Totally agree, spouses should be friends even after marriage it goes s long way. |
Re: Why The Rampant Cases Of Divorce? Married Folks Please Share Your Experience. by Fhemmmy: 4:08pm On Nov 25, 2019 |
Lonelypacifist6: Nothing better than that sir/ma |
Re: Why The Rampant Cases Of Divorce? Married Folks Please Share Your Experience. by LewsTherin: 7:16pm On Nov 25, 2019 |
Fhemmmy: Ok. I thought it was an actual story. A real experience. |
Re: Why The Rampant Cases Of Divorce? Married Folks Please Share Your Experience. by Fhemmmy: 7:16pm On Nov 25, 2019 |
LewsTherin: No it wasn't was just a scenario |
Re: Why The Rampant Cases Of Divorce? Married Folks Please Share Your Experience. by Nobody: 7:20pm On Nov 25, 2019 |
Lack of communication, sacrife and external influence |
Re: Why The Rampant Cases Of Divorce? Married Folks Please Share Your Experience. by LewsTherin: 7:42pm On Nov 25, 2019 |
Fhemmmy: Well, that is what I am asking for. I want to understand what happened. |
Re: Why The Rampant Cases Of Divorce? Married Folks Please Share Your Experience. by Fhemmmy: 8:17pm On Nov 25, 2019 |
LewsTherin: Oh my apologies Sir/ma . . .But what i am saying is that there are so many divorce at the later years of marriages because of the reasons i mentioned |
Re: Why The Rampant Cases Of Divorce? Married Folks Please Share Your Experience. by zed7: 9:25pm On Nov 25, 2019 |
If the man and woman can ask these questions and give honest answers, they will be no divorce. 1. Why do I want to get married? 2. Is this person the one I really really want to spend my life with forever? 3. If answer to 2 is yes, then why? 4. Am I ready to go the whole 9 yards for this person? Truthful and honest answers will set most people free. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Why The Rampant Cases Of Divorce? Married Folks Please Share Your Experience. by LewsTherin: 6:05am On Nov 26, 2019 |
Fhemmmy: So you are giving a hypothetical situation and do not actually have a case in point. |
Re: Why The Rampant Cases Of Divorce? Married Folks Please Share Your Experience. by Fhemmmy: 4:04pm On Nov 26, 2019 |
LewsTherin: I can tell you of many couples that grew apart . . . . BUT since you are NOT seeing it, i rest my case sir/ma |
Re: Why The Rampant Cases Of Divorce? Married Folks Please Share Your Experience. by LewsTherin: 6:06pm On Nov 26, 2019 |
Fhemmmy: Of course I am not seeing it. You aren't giving it! I need a case study to fit in with what you just said. Otherwise, it is only your opinion. |
Re: Why The Rampant Cases Of Divorce? Married Folks Please Share Your Experience. by Fhemmmy: 8:48pm On Nov 26, 2019 |
LewsTherin: OK Bros, you won! By the way, are you married yet? |
Re: Why The Rampant Cases Of Divorce? Married Folks Please Share Your Experience. by Nobody: 9:38pm On Dec 08, 2019 |
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Re: Why The Rampant Cases Of Divorce? Married Folks Please Share Your Experience. by Lonelypacifist6: 9:48pm On Dec 08, 2019 |
Breaststroke:What abandon alcohol that's strange no one has ever warned me against it except my ex-wife, what happens to the ones at home? What about my friends that now see it as a tradition to send me drinks Thank for the suggestion, I'll think about it when I finish the bottle with me, besides Wtf is a 17 year old doing with alcohol? his parents need to be queried. Have a nice week ahead thanks again. |
Re: Why The Rampant Cases Of Divorce? Married Folks Please Share Your Experience. by bukatyne(f): 9:54pm On Dec 08, 2019 |
crackhaus: I will modify to say they loved someone else and for a myraid of reasons, did not marry them. So they are stuck with someone else for convenience and soon enough, the center no longer holds. There w is a difference because someone who has never loved and just picked any partner with someone in love once, never resolved or got closure and marrying someone else. They forever subconsciously pine for what only their lover can give. 1 Like |
Re: Why The Rampant Cases Of Divorce? Married Folks Please Share Your Experience. by KanwuliaExtra: 10:34pm On Dec 08, 2019 |
Na by force to stay married? If it is time to say 'I DON'T' for whatever reason. . . .please, feel freeeeeeeeeeeeeee. When you venture out of your marriage, you can either find greener pastures or a swamp. If you no waka, how you go know? Bottom line, live with your decisions. As for affecting the children, or the 'insignificant others'? Better to have one dysfunctional parent than TWO under one roof! They children will learn to find their own ways. Nor be by force abeg! 4 Likes |
Re: Why The Rampant Cases Of Divorce? Married Folks Please Share Your Experience. by Nobody: 10:42pm On Dec 08, 2019 |
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Re: Why The Rampant Cases Of Divorce? Married Folks Please Share Your Experience. by Nobody: 10:43pm On Dec 08, 2019 |
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Re: Why The Rampant Cases Of Divorce? Married Folks Please Share Your Experience. by KanwuliaExtra: 10:46pm On Dec 08, 2019 |
Breaststroke: Oh yes o. . . . was so busy putting my house in order. Remodeling tins and getting rid of LOTS OF JUNK!!! I don settle well well na. 1 Like |
Re: Why The Rampant Cases Of Divorce? Married Folks Please Share Your Experience. by Nobody: 10:50pm On Dec 08, 2019 |
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Re: Why The Rampant Cases Of Divorce? Married Folks Please Share Your Experience. by djon78(m): 10:53pm On Dec 08, 2019 |
I think it has more to do with ending up with the wrong partner. Nowadays people just marry the available option, and most times there is no deep connection. So when the challenges, problems and difficulties associated with marriage comes up, the couples can't stand it and the whole thing collapses. In addition, people should prepare themselves for marriage, especially there mindset. Know that you are in this for life, no clause to opt out. It then makes the couples to put in the work and sacrifice to make it work. And truly a lasting marriage requires putting in the work and sacrifice, if nor, the marriage will just be parching up. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Why The Rampant Cases Of Divorce? Married Folks Please Share Your Experience. by KanwuliaExtra: 11:04pm On Dec 08, 2019 |
Breaststroke: Thanks. Feels good to be back like old times. Sleep dey cassssssh me for work. . . . this is a gooood way to pass the next 2 and a half hours till I close. Catching up on re-cycled family issues. |
Re: Why The Rampant Cases Of Divorce? Married Folks Please Share Your Experience. by Lonelypacifist6: 11:07pm On Dec 08, 2019 |
Breaststroke:Sorry, I'm even having a migraine sef. |
Re: Why The Rampant Cases Of Divorce? Married Folks Please Share Your Experience. by emmaodet: 11:56pm On Dec 08, 2019 |
Lonelypacifist6: Can you tell us a little about it pls? So as to learn one or two things from you |
Re: Why The Rampant Cases Of Divorce? Married Folks Please Share Your Experience. by emmaodet: 12:22am On Dec 09, 2019 |
RisenPhoenix: You have said it all bro. Too much expectations from the women because of the lifestyles they lived at school. Imagine a lady going out with sugar daddies at school, receiving 20-50k per week with all the treatments of good foods, drinks, nice hotel, flight etc and you expect such person to settle down and not see marriage as burden or cage were the hubby may be giving her 50k per month for family feeding. It's a crazy world approaching us bro 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Why The Rampant Cases Of Divorce? Married Folks Please Share Your Experience. by Nobody: 12:35am On Dec 09, 2019 |
emmaodet: It's only crazy because we men who are supposed to be the rational leaders and movers actually support this irrational behaviour just because we want to have sex. Any woman can be easily moulded; all it takes is a strong willed man who doesn't think with his genitals and doesn't 'fall in love' like a dumb teenager. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Why The Rampant Cases Of Divorce? Married Folks Please Share Your Experience. by crackhaus: 6:08am On Dec 09, 2019 |
bukatyne:This is another reason altogether, but not a modification of my statement. Even among those who married the person of their dreams, the person whom they always wanted to be with, love in its most raw expression is something that is so rare to find these days. 3 Likes |
Re: Why The Rampant Cases Of Divorce? Married Folks Please Share Your Experience. by emmaodet: 10:50am On Dec 09, 2019 |
bukatyne: Buka believe me, even if everybody marries who they love, a lot of marriages will still have issues or crash today because as grow older, our taste and wants changes. That man/woman you think you love and want may turn out to be your nightmare when realities of paying bills, flirting etc sets in. I know of friends who married the person they love(some even virgins) but not finding it easy today. 1 Like |
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