. She said her mum scolded her and feels we are rude to engage in lovemaking knowing fully well that she is in the adjoining room.

WoundedLamb:
I understand the awkwardness of having sex knowing your mum can hear everything. Eww...!

It's easy for you to say "this is my home! Let your mother go if she doesn't like it". But if you think of it deeply, you'd realize it's not really a solution but a recipe for disaster. The only message you'd be sending is "it's all about what I want and not what we want. I'm not empathetic to your situation". You might have your way after that but such subtle messages stick forever.

Sex is beautiful when the two parties want it. It's not something you command. You'll have to convince your wife or find a way around the situation. It's easy for us to tell you "go and be a man!" But the truth is, we don't really care if the roof falls on your head afterwards. We'd forget about you once we leave this thread. So do what is best for your family, rub minds with your wife to get a solution.

FanOfMyself:

I like you, no caps. You want to know why?

WoundedLamb:


Of course I want to know why!

FanOfMyself:

You are always unbiased in your comments here. I think you are a genuine person.
Plus you're a programmer, I have a thing for female coders. Btw i'm a developer too (JavaScript, full stack). We've chatted here one time if you are wondering how I arrived at my conclusion.
If you don't mind, let's connect...who knows

Hehe... this was so funny.

WoundedLamb:


Lol... I don't even know where to start. Sorry bro, I'm not a lady. Hopefully, you get to find a female programmer some day.

_{Hehe... this was so funny.}

WoundedLamb:
I understand the awkwardness of having sex knowing your mum can hear everything. Eww...!

It's easy for you to say "this is my home! Let your mother go if she doesn't like it". But if you think of it deeply, you'd realize it's not really a solution but a recipe for disaster. The only message you'd be sending is "it's all about what I want and not what we want. I'm not empathetic to your situation". You might have your way after that but such subtle messages stick forever.

Sex is beautiful when the two parties want it. It's not something you command. You'll have to convince your wife or find a way around the situation. It's easy for us to tell you "go and be a man!" But the truth is, we don't really care if the roof falls on your head afterwards. We'd forget about you once we leave this thread. So do what is best for your family, rub minds with your wife to get a solution.

Oyindamolah:
MARTIAL BED.

My wife says no sex until her mother leaves our house.
FROM A MY COUSIN:

I'm happily married with two young kids ages 2 and 4. We stay in a 2-bedroom apartment and usually leave the connecting door ajar so that if the kids wake up during the night they may have access to our room to seek comfort, which is very frequent especially during these noisy thunder storms.

My problem started with the arrival of my mother-in-law, less than a week ago to spend 2 months. Of course, she sleeps with her grand kids in their room.

This doesn’t stop them from frequenting our room during the night, so the door is still left ajar. Much to my amazement, my wife has now told me that she will no longer allow us to copulate during the time her mother is with us. She said her mum scolded her and feels we are rude to engage in lovemaking knowing fully well that she is in the adjoining room.

My wife has always feared her mum so it is impossible for me to convince her that this is her house, not her mum’s. I don’t see myself going one week without sex, talk less of 2 months! Is it my fault that the bed creaks or that my wife has to make noise at her height of ecstasy?

I feel that my mother-in-law is being very intrusive and insensitive and I’m prepared to talk to her and ask her to leave if she insists on tormenting my wife, but I know that my wife won’t find it funny at all.

What should I do?

eyinjuege:
This is a recycled story, I believe
Close your door at night, and do it on the floor if your bed creaks (or put the mattress in the floor if you have enough space on the floor) Tape your mouths too
Be creative man!
It's actually very uncomfortable for your guests to hear you quaffing.
People of the older generation will find it rude and insensitive even though it's your own house.
Or dey go hotel once in a while and leave mama with the kids overnight.

234GT:
Why on earth would your mother inlaw come and spend 2 months in your house. I can't take that. I will send her away firmly ni. I don't care whether or not my wife gives me sex after she had gone.
I cherish my privacy.

drnoel:


This is a non issue. Take madam outside house setting for the weekend and get Ur groove. MIL can take care of the children in those days U are away.
Verily Verily I say unto you. MIL would understand the jerk and run to her own house. Talking from experience, cos same advise I gave my cousin

Richy4:


Are You insinuating that you cannot allow your own mum to come for medical checkup if the situation warrants it for 2 months because you cherish your privacy? just a harmless question

234GT:


My mum does not go about her children's homes. She is very happy with my dad and they are inseparable. There is no medical check up she can't get in the city she lives.

The mum in the case here is not there on medical trip. The op did not say that. She just chose to come and spend 2 months in her daughters house ni.

Don't marry a lady whose parents are not in good terms if you cherish your privacy, because the mother of the lady will see your house as escape ground from her marital issues.

I won't allow my wife to go and spend 2 months in my child's home for any reason when the time comes.

There are many reasons why one finds themselves in an inlaw's home buddy.... The fact that she was there does not mean she was not happy with her husband...

Now, a situation where a couple resides in Abuja and their parent resides in the East or West for example... They got a disturbing message that one of their parent were sick.... and the couple brought that parent to Abuja... After he/she was discharged, the doctor recommend that he/she should be coming to the hospital 2 to 3 weeks for medical checkup and observation for 3 months...

If you were in such situation, will u ask your parent or her parent to be shuttling from the West or East to Abuja every 2 weeks for the duration of the 3 months as the doctor recommended because you cherish your privacy so much or will you accommodate her for that period?