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Pregnant 20 Year Old In A Polyamorous Relationship: To Raise Baby With 4 Dads by ScottDM1: 1:31pm On Dec 06, 2019
A pregnant 20-year-old lady who is in a polyamorous relationship with four men is planning to raise her baby with all her lovers.

Tory Ojeda who lives with her partners in Jacksonville, Florida, began the polyamorous relationship three years ago.

The mum-to-be who is seven- months pregnant met one of her partners Marc, 18, in high school and then got into a relationship with Travis, 23, two months later.

Back in July, she announced her engagement to Travis before falling in love with their long-term mutual friend Ethan, 22, and Christopher, 22, who is the baby's father.

Speaking to Barcroft TV, she said: “Chris is the biological father. We just know that because of timing and when the approximate conception date was.



“Based off of the approximate conception day, we had been on vacation. So it was only us.

“But as far as I guess, socially goes, we're all raising the baby together, so everyone's dad.

“We’re all very, very excited to be raising a baby together.”

During the interview, she also said her boyfriends are “welcome” to pursue other people if they wish to.

“Honestly, I would love it if somebody found a second partner.



“Dividing time and figuring out schedules between all five people and making sure everyone feels included, it’s kind of difficult.

“I’d like to not be the only woman in the relationship. That would definitely be nice.”



On how they get intimate, she said they all have their own bedrooms but her partners “swap in and out” of her bed, each night, making sure each of them gets an “equal turn” in spending the night with her.

On the issue of jealousy, Ethan said: “There are a couple of healthy ways to deal with it. Primarily just talking to each other.”

She added: “There's always going to be like little moments of jealousy, it does take a certain amount of restraint and just getting relaxed. I will say it helps if you know the person.”

Reflecting on his own experiences in his current relationship, he said: “Seeing [Tory] with Ethan was a lot easier because I was friends with him.

“Her and Chris was a bit dicier at first, there was a lot more jealousy and I'll openly admit that. The same goes for Marc because I'd never interacted with them.”

When asked how he feels about sharing the responsibilities of being a father, Christopher said: “It’s definitely a little interesting.

“I grew up with the idea of you know, one dad, one mum. But there is a lot of support between all of us dads and it’s something we can tag team.



“We always joke about the idea of getting stack in an endless loop of go ask your dad.”

On what her family and friends think about her relationship, Tory said: “Most of my friends know all my partners and they love us and think that we’re cute and such. My family is kind of quiet about their disapproval.

“Polyamory is definitely an uncommon thing.

“A lot of people have grown up in monogamy culture of, you don't really love someone if you have eyes for somebody else.”

Christopher added: “My family is slowly coming around to the idea. The pregnancy has helped with that. But at the very beginning, I know my mother and father were hesitant about it.

“Her main concern was that she didn't like the idea of me having a partner who was not fulfilled with me alone.”

However, Ethan’s family are “very active” in their support, along with Tory’s older brother, Alistair.

Alistair said: “I will admit that since I'm her older brother, that I just have that tendency I suppose to be protective.

“I'm more so concerned that she's happy, that she is in a relationship where they both love each other mutually or in this case more people love each other mutually.

“I don’t see anything wrong with Tory’s relationship.”



On the reaction, she gets from people about the bizarre relationship, she said: “We definitely get weird looks”

“I’ve had people just say rude comments when we've just been hanging out at a fast food place.

“I've been called a hoe more than once.

“Maybe in our future, we might see it become a common thing where people don't bat an eye on it anymore at all. One can hope.”



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Re: Pregnant 20 Year Old In A Polyamorous Relationship: To Raise Baby With 4 Dads by ScottDM1: 1:32pm On Dec 06, 2019

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Re: Pregnant 20 Year Old In A Polyamorous Relationship: To Raise Baby With 4 Dads by Davash222(m): 1:36pm On Dec 06, 2019
Nawao
So this baby whale got herself 4 handsome dudes
You that is slim with flat stomach can’t even maintain a single boyfriend. Shame on you!!

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Re: Pregnant 20 Year Old In A Polyamorous Relationship: To Raise Baby With 4 Dads by Femeto: 1:58pm On Dec 06, 2019
Awon werey.

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Re: Pregnant 20 Year Old In A Polyamorous Relationship: To Raise Baby With 4 Dads by yanabasee(m): 1:58pm On Dec 06, 2019
I can imagine her p\/$$¥...

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Re: Pregnant 20 Year Old In A Polyamorous Relationship: To Raise Baby With 4 Dads by SEGLIZ: 2:04pm On Dec 06, 2019
INSIDE LIFE CREW pls come to the rescue.
END TIME CREW this beyond me.
my legs are shaking.

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Re: Pregnant 20 Year Old In A Polyamorous Relationship: To Raise Baby With 4 Dads by SEGLIZ: 2:05pm On Dec 06, 2019
ScottDM1:
This kind relationship no dey Naija oo

I don't pray it exist but with the help of the internet what do you expect by January.

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Re: Pregnant 20 Year Old In A Polyamorous Relationship: To Raise Baby With 4 Dads by Olukoso1: 2:27pm On Dec 06, 2019
This one is strong o
I thought this kind of relationship/marriage only exist in social studies textbooks.

Anyways, WHAT DO I KNOW...

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Re: Pregnant 20 Year Old In A Polyamorous Relationship: To Raise Baby With 4 Dads by ScottDM1: 3:52pm On Dec 06, 2019
Olukoso1:
This one is strong o
I thought this kind of relationship/marriage only exist in social studies textbooks.

Anyways, WHAT DO I KNOW...

grin grin grin

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Re: Pregnant 20 Year Old In A Polyamorous Relationship: To Raise Baby With 4 Dads by MANNABBQGRILLS: 3:55pm On Dec 06, 2019
Tory Ojeda who lives with her partners in Jacksonville, Florida, began the polyamorous relationship three years ago.
She actually lives inside the same house with 4 men.
And they all have sex with time at anytime?!
And she wants to have a baby for each of them?!
Inside life!!

Who says there is nothing new under the sun?!

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Re: Pregnant 20 Year Old In A Polyamorous Relationship: To Raise Baby With 4 Dads by FactBoyz: 3:56pm On Dec 06, 2019
Hmmn
Re: Pregnant 20 Year Old In A Polyamorous Relationship: To Raise Baby With 4 Dads by GeneralPula: 3:56pm On Dec 06, 2019
In Pasumaz voice;

Moh leh lah yah Pupo, Kosi ount’o buru;
T’obinrin bah loh ko meji... lipsrsealed

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Re: Pregnant 20 Year Old In A Polyamorous Relationship: To Raise Baby With 4 Dads by careytommy37(m): 3:57pm On Dec 06, 2019
Nice one. I like how the slut is open about her wantonness

Olukoso1:
This one is strong o
I thought this kind of relationship/marriage only exist in social studies textbooks.

Anyways, WHAT DO I KNOW...
grin grin grin grin

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Re: Pregnant 20 Year Old In A Polyamorous Relationship: To Raise Baby With 4 Dads by CapitalHYC(m): 3:57pm On Dec 06, 2019
Oyinbo and their Weird lifestyles gan self .... Las Las.. Each and everyone of them would still cheat on her engaging in online relationship or One night stands grin grin
Re: Pregnant 20 Year Old In A Polyamorous Relationship: To Raise Baby With 4 Dads by Promismike(m): 3:57pm On Dec 06, 2019
This people don't look OK na.

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Re: Pregnant 20 Year Old In A Polyamorous Relationship: To Raise Baby With 4 Dads by anochuko01(m): 3:57pm On Dec 06, 2019
5_some lipsrsealed
Re: Pregnant 20 Year Old In A Polyamorous Relationship: To Raise Baby With 4 Dads by Expert17: 3:58pm On Dec 06, 2019
Naija go soon start am.............
Re: Pregnant 20 Year Old In A Polyamorous Relationship: To Raise Baby With 4 Dads by classicfrank4u(m): 3:58pm On Dec 06, 2019
Nawaoo... Nothing Musa no go see for gate cry
Re: Pregnant 20 Year Old In A Polyamorous Relationship: To Raise Baby With 4 Dads by Nobody: 3:58pm On Dec 06, 2019
If men can be polygamous, women can be polygamous too. It's her choice andthe men are happy living with her. Who I am to judge them?



Meanwhile, to those saying this kind of relationship is not existing in Nigeria, let me remind you that our girls keep more than TEN BOYFRIENDS at once. It's the same.

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Re: Pregnant 20 Year Old In A Polyamorous Relationship: To Raise Baby With 4 Dads by Guyman02: 3:58pm On Dec 06, 2019
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She actually lives inside the same house with 4 men.
And they all have sex with time at anytime?!
And she wants to have a baby for each of them?!
Inside life!!

Who says there is nothing new under the sun?!

People born this way are always on Nairaland shouting Sai Baba Buhari cheesy

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Re: Pregnant 20 Year Old In A Polyamorous Relationship: To Raise Baby With 4 Dads by Nobody: 3:58pm On Dec 06, 2019
True feminist definition of what a man can do ......

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Re: Pregnant 20 Year Old In A Polyamorous Relationship: To Raise Baby With 4 Dads by Ladyhippolyta88(f): 3:58pm On Dec 06, 2019
And who says women cannot have more than one men.

I like this kind of relationship ooo grin

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Re: Pregnant 20 Year Old In A Polyamorous Relationship: To Raise Baby With 4 Dads by Okuda(m): 3:59pm On Dec 06, 2019
20yr old be like 38yrs old. this one body go spoil quick
dayum

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Re: Pregnant 20 Year Old In A Polyamorous Relationship: To Raise Baby With 4 Dads by Nobody: 3:59pm On Dec 06, 2019
Damn!
nikkypearl, pocohantas, Rekhina, obembet, come check out these four balless, pssy niggars. My alpha-male grandfather who had 30 wives, 15 concubines and 7.5 sidechicks would be furiously gnashing his teeth in anger in his grave at this shiit.

That first picture looks so ridiculous, they should be deployed to Sambisa forest to fight like men, so that they can start thinking the way men think.
White men have sissy chromosomes in their genes, that is why their women can die for rude black men.
Re: Pregnant 20 Year Old In A Polyamorous Relationship: To Raise Baby With 4 Dads by gentleemmy(m): 3:59pm On Dec 06, 2019
End time is NOW lipsrsealed

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