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Re: Should I Keep Enduring In This Supposed Marriage? by Iyawe247: 10:23am On Dec 19, 2019 |
shugaboy6102: Pls I want to confirm if this is a true life story or make-up?...I want to know what to comment. |
Re: Should I Keep Enduring In This Supposed Marriage? by obaaderemi: 10:36am On Dec 19, 2019 |
theoilguy:What marriage? He is not married. He got someone pregnant and they started cohabiting. 1 Like |
Re: Should I Keep Enduring In This Supposed Marriage? by efficiencie(m): 10:43am On Dec 19, 2019 |
Dude you are not ready for a marriage yet. You were not responsible enough to decide not to get the lady pregnant before really knowing her. If you had given the relationship time and not jumped into sexual intimacy you would have by now discovered the incompatibility between you two and would have easily left the relationship without breaking a sweat. In your current state you cannot manage a marriage because even the most saintly of ladies will argue with you. You need to get mentoring from people with successful marriages, study about marriage and parenting, set your goals and aspirations, identify your strengths and weaknesses and clearly spell out your assets and liabilities...it is after sorting out all these that you can search for a lady that has a good understanding of marriage and what it entails, someone whose goals and aspirations line up with yours, someone whose strengths and weaknesses match yours, someone whose assets can adequately cater for your liabilities and whose liabilities your assets can adequately manage... You had better continue with your boyfriend-girlfriend runz if you are not really ready for marriage... |
Re: Should I Keep Enduring In This Supposed Marriage? by 1234IKECHhukwu: 10:43am On Dec 19, 2019 |
Burggerxbabe:what kind of personality will marry her,a single man,or a divorce like her with up to 4 or 5 like her,u guys just be complicating issues without knowing. |
Re: Should I Keep Enduring In This Supposed Marriage? by Fairview1(f): 11:05am On Dec 19, 2019 |
LadySarah: Okay, thanks. |
Re: Should I Keep Enduring In This Supposed Marriage? by justphillips(m): 12:16pm On Dec 19, 2019 |
shugaboy6102:
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Re: Should I Keep Enduring In This Supposed Marriage? by Charly68: 12:21pm On Dec 19, 2019 |
I think there is a fundamental issue here; haven't done all you need to do on her head as per the traditional marriage could open up the marriage to spiritual attack .Check her family marital line and yours to find out if there is any history of separation or divorce ..from this you will know if your marital battle is spiritual or otherwise . If it is spiritual ,getting another woman won't solve but complicate the matter .Please take your time so as not to jump from fry pan to fire . |
Re: Should I Keep Enduring In This Supposed Marriage? by cookiejar99(f): 12:40pm On Dec 19, 2019 |
Oversabi will not injure you...he doesnt jge to b married in church or court for that wedding to b legal..he is a married msn as far as i am concerned...he needs time out not settling for a new woman 24kmagic: |
Re: Should I Keep Enduring In This Supposed Marriage? by cookiejar99(f): 12:42pm On Dec 19, 2019 |
Cos you need sumbodi to support your rubbish idea...if not you would understand marriage is about putting your spouses happiness before yours shugaboy6102: |
Re: Should I Keep Enduring In This Supposed Marriage? by cookiejar99(f): 12:42pm On Dec 19, 2019 |
Exactly LadySarah: |
Re: Should I Keep Enduring In This Supposed Marriage? by Bigblessed: 1:06pm On Dec 19, 2019 |
If this marriage does not work, another one might not work. Be patient and seek the face of God together. The accuser of the brethren uses marriage to disintegrate the whole family of God especially when he sees two great people who love themselves so that they will not unite and achieve the plan of God for them. The canal minded will not understand this because only the fool says that there is no God. You don't need to go to anywhere rather if you are still willing to have a peaceful marriage and live a happy life, I will introduce you to watch and pray with Temple TV on Strong Decoder. God frowns at not only divorce, but breakage of martial vows and promises especially after seeing the unclothedness of you both and bringing forth children. Please note that non-payment of a woman's bride price while living with her attracts curses, problems and calamity. The evil one will fight you to the last. I pray God to come into your life and restore you. Because your marriage didn't work does not make God the institutor of marriage a liar. He that finds a wife, finds a good thing and obtains favour ... You found a wife, were you patient enough to do and complete what those who find wives do before consuming it? When we fail in our own part of the agreement, we begin to apportion blame. God can not liar or change because of us. The principles are laid down already, when we observe them, we eat the dividends. I know of a male school mate whose father married for when we were in primary six because his own dad married for him at same age (he believes that the boy is his late father that came back to him). My point here is that the boy and the girl still live peacefully till today with children. Note that the father did not give him the girl to impregnate, he MARRIED her fully for him. Non marriage before cohabitation is one faulty foundation that chestises couple all round. Two of you should go on your knees to your father in heaven, He loves you and will still forgive, wipe away your tears, restore and take you back. Peace bro, peace! |
Re: Should I Keep Enduring In This Supposed Marriage? by trutht828: 1:24pm On Dec 19, 2019 |
Gracealone: Looks like both of them have agreed. |
Re: Should I Keep Enduring In This Supposed Marriage? by Matanegba1: 1:25pm On Dec 19, 2019 |
Age may be a factor. You are unhappy she too must be. I have questions... Have you tried sitting calmly to discuss about these problems. Are you kind and loving towards her. Are friendly carrying her along in your daily life activities? Hope she works too. Contributing in the family finances? |
Re: Should I Keep Enduring In This Supposed Marriage? by golddare: 1:44pm On Dec 19, 2019 |
Just giving a dog a bad name cos you want to hang it. |
Re: Should I Keep Enduring In This Supposed Marriage? by Happyjollie: 1:46pm On Dec 19, 2019 |
What makes you think the girl ur seeing now will not do same? I will advice you talk to ur wife and make things work. Both of u lack communication and understanding. |
Re: Should I Keep Enduring In This Supposed Marriage? by shugaboy6102(m): 2:28pm On Dec 19, 2019 |
dalass:hmmm thanks a lot for ur advice 1 Like |
Re: Should I Keep Enduring In This Supposed Marriage? by shugaboy6102(m): 2:30pm On Dec 19, 2019 |
Iyawe247:it is my story and it is real. This is not some nollywood film |
Re: Should I Keep Enduring In This Supposed Marriage? by shugaboy6102(m): 2:39pm On Dec 19, 2019 |
clemzo101:thanks I appreciate ur advice |
Re: Should I Keep Enduring In This Supposed Marriage? by shugaboy6102(m): 2:43pm On Dec 19, 2019 |
Josh44s:yes thank you. Am really thinking twice |
Re: Should I Keep Enduring In This Supposed Marriage? by shugaboy6102(m): 3:08pm On Dec 19, 2019 |
livebyday:why do you choose to throw insult @ me. All I ask is your advice and not your insult please I beg of you. |
Re: Should I Keep Enduring In This Supposed Marriage? by lovchalice(f): 3:37pm On Dec 19, 2019 |
Dextre:he should sit her down and talk to her. From what I read she doesn't want out. She wants stability. We all do |
Re: Should I Keep Enduring In This Supposed Marriage? by lovchalice(f): 3:39pm On Dec 19, 2019 |
DenreleDave: |
Re: Should I Keep Enduring In This Supposed Marriage? by Dextre(m): 4:00pm On Dec 19, 2019 |
lovchalice: How did u decipher instability from the text. But then,you might be right. However,this guy is clearly done with this marriage, he is unhappy and frustrated. This is not a what she want thing anymore from what he has written here. So why exactly should he stay in the marriage? because of the kid? |
Re: Should I Keep Enduring In This Supposed Marriage? by Ikpeohiri(m): 4:01pm On Dec 19, 2019 |
I want you to know that marriage is understanding one another. At what age did you put her in a family way and did that interupt her education? If it does, have you sent her back to school? Is she a graduate too? You must try to appreciate her, pray together and chart as best friends rather than ordering one another. Also, try and get her engage with a job if she had required qualification or a business . Cheers! |
Re: Should I Keep Enduring In This Supposed Marriage? by Ikpeohiri(m): 4:08pm On Dec 19, 2019 |
Please no one should deceive you. She's your wife for the fact that you had done some traditional commitment on her. Note that Angel don't live in hell but in heaven. Therefore, make her a heaven in your home no matter her behavior. With your good life style as the husband, she will reciprocate. |
Re: Should I Keep Enduring In This Supposed Marriage? by citadels(f): 4:21pm On Dec 19, 2019 |
Eyah. U will advice that people shouldn't marry cos of pity. Marriage should be based on love of God, not sex u see if u had keep ur prick one place u won't have entered hell. Sex does not equate love in boyfriend and girlfriend matter. It will lead u to destruction as it has done to likes of op. 2 Likes |
Re: Should I Keep Enduring In This Supposed Marriage? by livebyday(m): 4:32pm On Dec 19, 2019 |
shugaboy6102: No where did I insult you, I merely pointed out that you are not to be trusted Cheers |
Re: Should I Keep Enduring In This Supposed Marriage? by Kfed4ril(m): 5:28pm On Dec 19, 2019 |
shugaboy6102: Traditionally you are half married Legally you are not married Religiously you are not married So where de divorce wan from follow come when una no first marry? |
Re: Should I Keep Enduring In This Supposed Marriage? by Nobody: 6:14pm On Dec 19, 2019 |
Mindfulness: 249 likes for this comment? What is there to like about it? Nonsense. |
Re: Should I Keep Enduring In This Supposed Marriage? by david290(m): 6:34pm On Dec 19, 2019 |
Key highlights as obtained from comments tread 1 to 12: 1. Men who don't marry ALL end up lonely at old age. 2. Broken marriage is the reason children from broken homes end up the way they do. 3. People who moved from their toxic and chaotic relationships ALL ended up with even more terrible partners. Op, I don't have any advice for you, seeing I'm not married. I just hope those negative stereotypes and evil manipulations up there don't leave you worse off. |
Re: Should I Keep Enduring In This Supposed Marriage? by Allsingles: 6:42pm On Dec 19, 2019 |
shugaboy6102: I have always said that Marriage is a world of it's own and a life of it's own. Is entirely different from Relationship and courtship. She is wrong for telling you to looking for someone else. Again, there's no trust between you guys and that's bad. I will not encourage you to divorce her and I will not encourage you to stay in a Marriage with someone you are wishing you didn't get married to because am happy in my own Union. Visit https://allsinglesandmarried..com To prepare yourself for a happy marriage or Relationship Or Download MINDSET FOR HAPPY MARRIAGE AND RELATIONSHIP https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=mindset.forhappymarriagerelationship Before going into a new Union. |
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