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Re: My Wicked Wife Didn't Buy Christmas Clothes For Our House Help by Excel70: 9:17pm On Dec 20, 2019 |
Yusluv13:Nawao go and beg for someone to treat her own relative right why? Help me understand 1 Like |
Re: My Wicked Wife Didn't Buy Christmas Clothes For Our House Help by Blindersoff: 9:17pm On Dec 20, 2019 |
Excel70: The gains for the man in the home (head of the home) are 1) Growth emotionally and as a family unit 2) Success as a joint effort 3) Deep understanding and maturity 4) Freedom in Peace You see you need to understand that the man has a lot of emotional, spiritual and social work to do in the home. He is the head and thus the leader. No leader is a good leader only when he enforces. A good leader should know when to lead by example. Do as i do and not do as i say. Remember that the woman is his 2nd in command and should be able to fill in for him in the home whenever he is not around so he has to be patient and dedicated enough to deposit a lot of who he is into his bride. This way he can be assured that she would act like him, defend like him even when he is not there and can beat his chest knowing what she is capable of even when he did not witness it. The man is not getting married so he can rest. He is getting married so he can work out a new and better generation than his own. So it is all about ensuring he deposits huge nuggets of POSITIVE VALUES into everyone but largely into his wife because the Children would observe both of them and look up to them for guidance mostly in deed and not so much in words. The satisfaction that comes from being fulfilled in what i listed above is more than having millions in the bank. That is the mark of a real man 3 Likes |
Re: My Wicked Wife Didn't Buy Christmas Clothes For Our House Help by bereto(m): 9:18pm On Dec 20, 2019 |
TonyeBarcanista: I get your point but she suspected and didn't say anything to her husband, he gave her money for clothes with instructions to include the girl, she didn't object only to come back and say nonsense. That's wickedness. If you have a problem say it from the start let the parties involved don't suffer not scheming an evil plan because of your suspicions. 2 Likes |
Re: My Wicked Wife Didn't Buy Christmas Clothes For Our House Help by may320: 9:19pm On Dec 20, 2019 |
Though I've not read all the comments, but I wonder why someone is not looking at this story from the point of view of the wife. What if she's already suspecting the Op or she has caught him in 'unholy' look of the girl. Some Men are fast becoming something else nowadays. Did we expect the op to agreeing to the allegation or to mention that he did it in the first place? Anyway, @Op when your wife refused to buy the cloth, you should have carried your face if this was her first time of doing it and use wisdom to ask her the reason for her action. You actually put yourself in suspicious arena with that act alone. You didn't handle the situation well at all. |
Re: My Wicked Wife Didn't Buy Christmas Clothes For Our House Help by Sky82slim: 9:20pm On Dec 20, 2019 |
TonyeBarcanista: May God have mercy on your soul for suggesting such rubbish...most women are evil...what's wrong in treating your maid as your child? What if she drops dead tomorrow ? Another will treat her kids same way.. So disappointed at your comment. 2 Likes |
Re: My Wicked Wife Didn't Buy Christmas Clothes For Our House Help by fabienjoe: 9:22pm On Dec 20, 2019 |
Graxie: That's rather harsh. In civilized nations, being an au pair is seen as employment and should only be for adults. But you must understand our peculiarities. Many poor people give birth to children they can't cater for. Going to work as house helps could be the only chance these children may have for education and focused life. Government as we know cares for no child here. The family may have meant well in bringing the child to stay with them. 1 Like |
Re: My Wicked Wife Didn't Buy Christmas Clothes For Our House Help by DexterousOne(m): 9:27pm On Dec 20, 2019 |
Unique357: You did not do wrong You did what a man should |
Re: My Wicked Wife Didn't Buy Christmas Clothes For Our House Help by DexterousOne(m): 9:27pm On Dec 20, 2019 |
fabienjoe: True that The Nigerian situation is peculiar 1 Like |
Re: My Wicked Wife Didn't Buy Christmas Clothes For Our House Help by DexterousOne(m): 9:29pm On Dec 20, 2019 |
Yusluv13:Did you say beg? If after everything The woman is still adamant Then something is wrong He better be a man and take charge Because if this is not handled decisively The man becomes a caricature |
Re: My Wicked Wife Didn't Buy Christmas Clothes For Our House Help by Blindersoff: 9:30pm On Dec 20, 2019 |
THMT: bless you bro. There is always room for friends than enemies |
Re: My Wicked Wife Didn't Buy Christmas Clothes For Our House Help by fotadmowmend(m): 9:31pm On Dec 20, 2019 |
My opinion.. Send the girl back to her parents, you can help her from there if u want to. Having house help is inhuman, it is in contrast with our dignity as humans. Let your wife and children be responsible for all chores at home and you should help also . |
Re: My Wicked Wife Didn't Buy Christmas Clothes For Our House Help by Excel70: 9:34pm On Dec 20, 2019 |
Blindersoff:Ok despite all the patience and tolerance from the man the children will grow up to appreciat e the mother more |
Re: My Wicked Wife Didn't Buy Christmas Clothes For Our House Help by Nobody: 9:34pm On Dec 20, 2019 |
Unique357:God bless you.sir... Your wife need to grow up ..she is the one that we apologize not you |
Re: My Wicked Wife Didn't Buy Christmas Clothes For Our House Help by franchasng: 9:35pm On Dec 20, 2019 |
99.99% of black women are naturally wicked and selfish. Black women are naturally wicked to people who aren't their blood relative or husband. They hate: 1.) Mother-in-laws and in-laws for no reason 2.) Their house helps and domestic staffs 3.) Black women hate any other person not related to them by blood and not offering them monetary favours 4.) Black women hate anybody that doesn't give them money constantly, black women hate such person or persons naturally. So op, don't be surprised, it is the nature of majority of black women, only very few black women treat their house helps, domestic staffs and those below them financially and economically with respect and dignity. 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Wicked Wife Didn't Buy Christmas Clothes For Our House Help by daviddelly(m): 9:36pm On Dec 20, 2019 |
I was once a house boy I knew how painful it is to be left out doing Xmas shopping, I vowed never to allow anybody staying with me to undergo the same punishment. if my wife try this shit our marriage is over,when a boy/girl start staying with you ,you automatically be comes his father and mother. don't treat a kid differently because he is not your child simple. 2 Likes |
Re: My Wicked Wife Didn't Buy Christmas Clothes For Our House Help by franchasng: 9:38pm On Dec 20, 2019 |
daviddelly:Black women, especially Nigerian women will never listen to what you are saying, they are naturally wicked to house helps and anybody that is not their blood relative staying with them or working under them, sadly 2 Likes |
Re: My Wicked Wife Didn't Buy Christmas Clothes For Our House Help by tightpussy156: 9:39pm On Dec 20, 2019 |
stupid woman ur wife is wicked.treat another person child the way urs should be treated.she want to be in control.she dies not want to take ur orders.give her serious warning if she misbehave put were she belongs.you are the man of the house.stop been a coward. wake up. |
Re: My Wicked Wife Didn't Buy Christmas Clothes For Our House Help by daviddelly(m): 9:41pm On Dec 20, 2019 |
franchasng:that Man's wife is a devil simple |
Re: My Wicked Wife Didn't Buy Christmas Clothes For Our House Help by armyofone(m): 9:42pm On Dec 20, 2019 |
I do see African husband and wife using house girl/boy/maids as lazy man and woman! Op, you allowed the use of a maid equal lazy man ! Send that girl back to her parents. If you want to help with her education, then see it as such but you and your wife should not call her house help. The running of your home is on you and your wife!! Smh |
Re: My Wicked Wife Didn't Buy Christmas Clothes For Our House Help by slimderek(m): 9:42pm On Dec 20, 2019 |
TonyeBarcanista:If you actually settled down and read the post and the subject, You would see “My wicked Wife” |
Re: My Wicked Wife Didn't Buy Christmas Clothes For Our House Help by cococandy(f): 9:45pm On Dec 20, 2019 |
Teespice: What box? |
Re: My Wicked Wife Didn't Buy Christmas Clothes For Our House Help by DexterousOne(m): 9:45pm On Dec 20, 2019 |
ogawisdom: If he is a man Such will not happen My grand pa of blessed memory used to say that men this generation are not as strong With a firm grip She will fall in line This is one of the down sides of liberalism even tho I consider myself liberal Things like this happen when women take men for joke |
Re: My Wicked Wife Didn't Buy Christmas Clothes For Our House Help by Blindersoff: 9:47pm On Dec 20, 2019 |
Excel70: Emotionally yes they would but they would appreciate the father more as a pillar to the home. There are levels of appreciation. The warmth of the mother makes the children emotionally drawn to her while the firmness of the father makes the children drawn to him when it comes to making or taking life changing decisions or when they desire a firm hand to guide their thoughts. Females are emotional in nature and a girl child who is already emotionally designed does not really require the extra emotional attachment to her mom. She would rather seek that which balances her which is her father for counsel or a husband. While for boys they would also seek their opposite in the mothers or their wives. Notice that a lot of female children prefer their fathers' company than their mother? Everything balances itself out. Don't worry too much about it 1 Like |
Re: My Wicked Wife Didn't Buy Christmas Clothes For Our House Help by shekauvsbuhari: 9:47pm On Dec 20, 2019 |
TonyeBarcanista:Who do you this? I been think say U get sense. See ur nonsence logic. |
Re: My Wicked Wife Didn't Buy Christmas Clothes For Our House Help by DexterousOne(m): 9:47pm On Dec 20, 2019 |
Ewedegubbler: Those are strong words Desist from calling women that Esp black women 1 Like |
Re: My Wicked Wife Didn't Buy Christmas Clothes For Our House Help by maasoap(m): 9:49pm On Dec 20, 2019 |
TonyeBarcanista: When the husband said that the househelp is like the second mother, believe me, he didn't say the truth. That was an understatement, househelps are always like the first mother. And secondly, the woman didn't behave well like a good Christian in this case. They want to celebrate Christmas and she couldn't behave christ-like. What a shame! I don't understand the kind of apology you are demanding on her behalf at all. What she didn't understand is that circumstances can change at any time. We've seen the kids of rich couples who ended up being shared among the poor relatives just because the parents died untimely death. I don't wish such for op or anyone of us but it's part of reality 3 Likes |
Re: My Wicked Wife Didn't Buy Christmas Clothes For Our House Help by franchasng: 9:51pm On Dec 20, 2019 |
daviddelly:Wait until you get married sir. I repeat, majority of black ladies are wicked to others, especially to their domestic staffs and those working under them. It is their nature, only very few ladies are different and those ones may have grew among guys and learned how to treat everybody around them with respect and dignity. 2 Likes |
Re: My Wicked Wife Didn't Buy Christmas Clothes For Our House Help by Enemyofpeace: 9:52pm On Dec 20, 2019 |
Please go back and beat the he'll out of her, also collect from her her Christmas clothes and those of her children and don't give them back until she carries out your instructions. You are her husband and the head of the family not her. I ate nonsense and dominique knows that |
Re: My Wicked Wife Didn't Buy Christmas Clothes For Our House Help by Nobody: 9:52pm On Dec 20, 2019 |
Please Bro, I would personally like to buy Christmas clothes for that girl, how do we work this out? 2 Likes |
Re: My Wicked Wife Didn't Buy Christmas Clothes For Our House Help by Amiee99(f): 9:53pm On Dec 20, 2019 |
You can apologize for your harsh words....but stand firm on your words. Let your wife know that you're the head of the house and your decision stands. Also make her get the clothes for the girl. The little girl shouldn't be excluded from whatever goes on in your house. It's a sure thing that your wife's niece would definitely feel bad even though she might hide it. Your wife might find it difficult to apologize to the little girl, but getting the clothes for her would atone for that and put the little girl at ease. Which means you've got to explain all this to you wife, guilt trip her if necessary. But watch out for signs of maltreatment and try to get the girl to always open up to you. That way you can curb anything that's bound to happen negatively..... 1 Like |
Re: My Wicked Wife Didn't Buy Christmas Clothes For Our House Help by Enemyofpeace: 9:53pm On Dec 20, 2019 |
franchasng:come buy me Christmas clothes and gold circle condoms |
Re: My Wicked Wife Didn't Buy Christmas Clothes For Our House Help by maasoap(m): 9:53pm On Dec 20, 2019 |
Unique357: That was too much. I don't think I can recover from this kind of accusation coming from my wife. I can never forgive her, and that is just beginning. |
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