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Re: Why Does Sex Slowly Die Off In A Marriage After 10+ Years?? by AreaFada2: 4:54am On Jan 03, 2020
mysticwarrior:
White couples remain sexually active until they die, Oyibo no dey play with sex even 90 years old couples still dey enjoy themselves with the thing jare.
Dude, not the way you think o. Frequency of sex is not high among many oyinbo to begin with. On the average oyinbo live longer and many live the last 15 to 20 years together without sex at all. Even in this Viagra era.

Sex drive goes down for many reasons:

Growing kids mean a quickie in the sofa or kitchen is out of the question.

More responsibilities at work means more stress.

Age too. If you married at 36, in ten years you are 46. You are well and truly in middle age. Some ladies will be approaching or in some cases even in menopause.

If you dated for 5 or 10 years before marriage, then you have been at it for 15 to 20 years already. Though married for only 10.

After 10 years dreams may not have been fulfilled. Worries about finances and the future. The marriage may not be quite as great as it promised to be starting out.

These are not situations that promote sex drive.

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Re: Why Does Sex Slowly Die Off In A Marriage After 10+ Years?? by Dnockeror333(m): 5:09am On Jan 03, 2020
donbachi:
New year lie...mine is 12,feels like its yesterday.
12?

Any difference?

It's just within the approximative gap!
Re: Why Does Sex Slowly Die Off In A Marriage After 10+ Years?? by Dnockeror333(m): 5:14am On Jan 03, 2020
I think, we men need exchange the "borners" who ate set off into their 'oldage 50s' every 9 years for a great sexhood!
Man no dey carry last! �
Re: Why Does Sex Slowly Die Off In A Marriage After 10+ Years?? by AroOkigbo(m): 6:25am On Jan 03, 2020
darlenese:
thank God mine hasn't reduced .
our sexual life is as good as new .
How old is your marriage? And the frequency of having sex hasn't reduced?
Re: Why Does Sex Slowly Die Off In A Marriage After 10+ Years?? by MENTORCH(m): 6:31am On Jan 03, 2020
CopaMike:
Ten years is much considering the fact that diminishing return sets in within one year of sticking to one partner. No matter how much am attracted to a girl at the initial moment, once I start having sex with her, within a month I get tired of her and desire another girl. I do wonder how I will be able to remain faithful to my future wife...

I thought I was the only one, I’m 32 now Everyone is disturbing me about marriage. I’m just thinking won’t I get tired of my wife so fast, what will happen next after that. It’s not easy to be with one woman for the rest of your life. God help us.

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Re: Why Does Sex Slowly Die Off In A Marriage After 10+ Years?? by sindan: 6:44am On Jan 03, 2020
EcoBrick:


I'm sorry but this isn't making sense to me. undecided

There's nothing to be sorry about, you're not alone.
Re: Why Does Sex Slowly Die Off In A Marriage After 10+ Years?? by oooook: 6:59am On Jan 03, 2020
It's not been easy eating just one
Kinda meal for years.

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Re: Why Does Sex Slowly Die Off In A Marriage After 10+ Years?? by socialmediaman: 7:39am On Jan 03, 2020
CopaMike:
Ten years is much considering the fact that diminishing return sets in within one year of sticking to one partner. No matter how much am attracted to a girl at the initial moment, once I start having sex with her, within a month I get tired of her and desire another girl. I do wonder how I will be able to remain faithful to my future wife...

Just like some kids wonder why their parents “hate” them when they’re punished for wrongdoing

Responsibility sets in at some point
Re: Why Does Sex Slowly Die Off In A Marriage After 10+ Years?? by Nobody: 7:47am On Jan 03, 2020
age , stress of married life, infidelity.

sleeping with the same person for 10 years is dumb, need to port elswhere, sex didnt die in the marriage, just went somewhere.
Re: Why Does Sex Slowly Die Off In A Marriage After 10+ Years?? by Nobody: 7:49am On Jan 03, 2020
donbachi:
New year lie...mine is 12,feels like its yesterday.

telling a white lie, but keep telling we were listening.
Re: Why Does Sex Slowly Die Off In A Marriage After 10+ Years?? by Nobody: 7:51am On Jan 03, 2020
Thegeneralqueen:
I think the question should be why do men stop having sex with their wives after ten years of marriage only to be sleep with call girls.......In this new era marry a Nigerian man at your own risk

very inaccurate statement
Re: Why Does Sex Slowly Die Off In A Marriage After 10+ Years?? by middlebelter(m): 8:51am On Jan 03, 2020
samteebiz3:


No sir! In marriagomatics, it is called Diminishing Coitus Value. Simple! No comase dey form wetin you no know!


Yes sir! grin grin grin

I have learnt a new vocabulary on marriage on Naira land. Marriagomatics!
Re: Why Does Sex Slowly Die Off In A Marriage After 10+ Years?? by Nobody: 8:55am On Jan 03, 2020
richPHAROAH:
well maybe the topic should be , that why do broke couple get tired of sex after a few years.
all those things you mentioned will never occupy our brain that much. not even in the next 100 years, that is if we live till more 100 years lol.
You might be right but the truth is, as we grow in marriage, we also grow in capacity and career. Even if you do not wish to be self-employed after serving some employers and garnered the necessary experience to stand alone, you would still be subject to responsibilities at work if still under employment, meetings upon meetings, both home and abroad, staff responsibilities and ensuring they follow through. As a matter of fact, that riches you mentioned could not have been achieved if hardwork was not infused into your effort in the first place. All these and more tend to occupy our brains more than sex. You have a container coming and customers are complaining that they are not getting their goods on time. Equipment are breaking down on site due to technical and maintenance issues. All these reduce sex drive. We men carry most of( if not all) the responsibilities...

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Re: Why Does Sex Slowly Die Off In A Marriage After 10+ Years?? by tck2000(m): 9:36am On Jan 03, 2020
thorpido:
Economists call it the law of diminishing returns.
Re: Why Does Sex Slowly Die Off In A Marriage After 10+ Years?? by samteebiz3: 9:42am On Jan 03, 2020
middlebelter:



Yes sir! grin grin grin

I have learnt a new vocabulary on marriage on Naira land. Marriagomatics!


My papa money no go waste na. You think say to go the kind school I go learn the thing dey easy?

Nay bro....


I never licence you to dey use am o!

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Re: Why Does Sex Slowly Die Off In A Marriage After 10+ Years?? by lucky4west: 9:44am On Jan 03, 2020
well until then...for now its hot and spicy!!!
Re: Why Does Sex Slowly Die Off In A Marriage After 10+ Years?? by Nobody: 9:56am On Jan 03, 2020
flexyrule:
One of the teachings of Ubunja

It is a teaching of intergender dynamics and life.
Re: Why Does Sex Slowly Die Off In A Marriage After 10+ Years?? by IyaTola: 10:57am On Jan 03, 2020
HMMMMMMMMMM
WeRblessed:


Talk for yourself. Some marriages of over 30 years are still kicking it frequently.

May be, those who married without being in love with their partners. But when you are married for love, no matter how situation bends them, they will still have feelings for each other. They will still have time to make love.

My things is, whatever you are doing to look sexy before you get married, make sure you maintain that after you are married. Workout, eat healthy, look sexy for your man/woman. Even after child birth( woman), please hit the gym and eat healthy foods. Women/Men should not have a protruding bellies. Spend money on lingerie and sexy boxers, smell good at all time. Women, wash your hair/weaves at least once a week please! Living with a sexy partner is a plus. It put you in the mood.

Women, be driven in life. Support your husband financially. In other words, your husband should not be the only provider in the family in case of any unforeseen circumstances. Your husband should bring in at least 60% and you should bring in 40% to alleviate family burdens from both of you. If you are not educated to work a white-collar job have him help you get into petty trading or learn a hand work.

Husband, help your wife with house chores. Your manhood will not deteriorate if you help her out with cleaning the house, taking the trash out, doing laundry, and making sure that your kids are okay. As a matter of fact, doing this with her once in a while will make her love you forever. This would make her give you sex whenever and however you want it.

Women above all, remember that no matter how sexy, educated, and hard working you seem, men crave respect more than food and your body. So, worship the ground that he walks and he would love you forever.
Re: Why Does Sex Slowly Die Off In A Marriage After 10+ Years?? by Rozaytee: 11:01am On Jan 03, 2020
CopaMike:
Ten years is much considering the fact that diminishing return sets in within one year of sticking to one partner. No matter how much am attracted to a girl at the initial moment, once I start having sex with her, within a month I get tired of her and desire another girl. I do wonder how I will be able to remain faithful to my future wife...
and u think women don't get tired of d same preeq all d time

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Re: Why Does Sex Slowly Die Off In A Marriage After 10+ Years?? by IyaTola: 11:02am On Jan 03, 2020
grin grin grin grin
Rozaytee:
and u think women don't get tired of d same preeq all d time

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Re: Why Does Sex Slowly Die Off In A Marriage After 10+ Years?? by PAQ(m): 11:14am On Jan 03, 2020
Many factors makes sex die down after 10 years;
. Partners start getting out of shape and loose physical
attraction.
. sex started out & remained a chore rather than a tool for
pleasure & bonding.
. Partners become sexually boring because they maintain a
sexual pattern/style refusing to explore their bodies and
other ways of making sex fun.
. Change in lifestyle, jobs, health and age are also factors. But in Nigeria i feel my first point is the major one.

I thank God that after almost 10 yrs of marriage, we are still on fire.

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Re: Why Does Sex Slowly Die Off In A Marriage After 10+ Years?? by Onucs(m): 1:13pm On Jan 03, 2020
Thegeneralqueen:
I think the question should be why do men stop having sex with their wives after ten years of marriage only to be sleep with call girls.......In this new era marry a Nigerian man at your own risk

is your father not a Nigerian?
Re: Why Does Sex Slowly Die Off In A Marriage After 10+ Years?? by DexterousOne(m): 2:34pm On Jan 03, 2020
THUNDER4real:
Sex sex sex, u cannot com and kill yourself ......This is the reason you should marry your friend, friendship don't die off....Marriage is not all about sex, u will get tired one day no matter your libido level..

Exactly

There has to be much more to your relationship than sex
Re: Why Does Sex Slowly Die Off In A Marriage After 10+ Years?? by DexterousOne(m): 2:37pm On Jan 03, 2020
mysticwarrior:
White couples remain sexually active until they die, Oyibo no dey play with sex even 90 years old couples still dey enjoy themselves with the thing jare.

Those ones sef

Grand ma sef will be looking for kondo Oloopa to collect
Re: Why Does Sex Slowly Die Off In A Marriage After 10+ Years?? by DexterousOne(m): 2:42pm On Jan 03, 2020
Kekereekun123:
younger girls are sweeter deal with it. U dont expect a 39 year old fat mama to give u mindblowing sex. But a 21 year old unilag b1tch would

You never jam
Re: Why Does Sex Slowly Die Off In A Marriage After 10+ Years?? by DexterousOne(m): 2:43pm On Jan 03, 2020
Biodun1929:


That's how a man is naturally wired. The way to handle that is to marry your friend, so that you can last longer after the sexual desire for her dies off.

Exactly

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Re: Why Does Sex Slowly Die Off In A Marriage After 10+ Years?? by richPHAROAH: 2:44pm On Jan 03, 2020
fairfora:
You might be right but the truth is, as we grow in marriage, we also grow in capacity and career. Even if you do not wish to be self-employed after serving some employers and garnered the necessary experience to stand alone, you would still be subject to responsibilities at work if still under employment, meetings upon meetings, both home and abroad, staff responsibilities and ensuring they follow through. As a matter of fact, that riches you mentioned could not have been achieved if hardwork was not infused into your effort in the first place. All these and more tend to occupy our brains more than sex. You have a container coming and customers are complaining that they are not getting their goods on time. Equipment are breaking down on site due to technical and maintenance issues. All these reduce sex drive. We men carry most of( if not all) the responsibilities...
well you are right. but some of us just try not to take life too serious smiley

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Re: Why Does Sex Slowly Die Off In A Marriage After 10+ Years?? by DexterousOne(m): 2:44pm On Jan 03, 2020
grossintel:
10 years is too much. Give it 5 years, you'll become siblings. You'll sleep together naked every night cuddling and still won't have the urge. Sex is just overrated, the lies porn sold to us!

True
Re: Why Does Sex Slowly Die Off In A Marriage After 10+ Years?? by gwama: 3:21pm On Jan 03, 2020
Daily life together kills couples' sexuality. You fart in front of your spouse, you poop in front of him, you burp and eat anyhow, ... etc, all these factors are "kill love". cool cool cool cool cool
Re: Why Does Sex Slowly Die Off In A Marriage After 10+ Years?? by Hadiza1mumscare: 6:35pm On Jan 03, 2020
Because both parties think they have had enough and need something else.
Re: Why Does Sex Slowly Die Off In A Marriage After 10+ Years?? by Ayobami7(m): 7:23pm On Jan 03, 2020
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