Yeah u right more often than none they are lousy but ma argument is there are obviously some dangerous players out there and the distance obviously didn't help the poster.
Just thank your lucky stars you haven't met one and i'm sure you are probably wise not to do the long distance shitzo.

You giving these cheap players TOO MUCH CREDIT BOO,

A wise woman once told me that PLAYERS USUALLY GO FOR WOMEN that are vulnerable and desperate,

@ OP,
I think yoi have to use ya head n not ya heart.
he claims he,s leaving his wife cos she cheated on him n the very first opportunity he had to 2 see you live in naija he wanted to sleep with u! thank God you refused. himself and his wife deserve each other, stay clear n 4get about him.

u r inlove with his money and mansion. so stop saying love cos u aint love him.

@drious t anx bt hey, we aint quarrelin, l only askd 4 ur opinion, it's not by force and nt 4 you to insult me cos yo aint perfect. Is lik u had jst spoken ur best . Swagger monkey!

@GB102 t anx bt pls l dnt think l want his money or mansion cos at first l wasnt even interestd and l equally live in a mansion

You are just 24 and you think you can cope with a man with FOUR KIDS!!
And whose parents still heartily accept his ex-wife!!!?

OP,
I would advise u to not give this man any chance . .From what u have stated here ''The man said he's divorced his wife but she and children re still living inside his Mansion in ur Home town . .Pls wake up . . .This man might be looking for the second wife!

Maga don reach --- little girl don't fall prey to pedophiles.

Small girls no dey fear again dese dayz,fear no dey 4 una eyes kpatakpata! Let me ask u,if dis man no get money,no get mansion,u go love him? Not only dat d man is old,he has family wit kids and he wants 2 marry u and u said u luv him,comot here jare! Next thread! If say u bi my sister,i for beat u well well nah!

What the heck is a craddle roober ? How is p.e.dophile a bad term ?

@battery thank you, but l already developed this love for him before he started telling me about his marriage coz wen l asked him if his married or his married he will totally deny it and even become angry. but thanks for your advice

oh sweetie, save youself. The list of troubles you are in is too much. His wife, mother and children living in his house, he is still very married. If he didnt love her she would be gone. His teenage kids will never accept you and always blame you for splitting up their parents, thats how they will see it no matter what you do. His mother still loves her and they are all living happily/ Married men will say anything to keep their little bit on the side. Just cos you love him doesnt mean you should stay in this nightmare. Many people have had to walk away from someone they love cos it is a toxic situation, even me. So please turn your eyes away and get yourself right. There is a better life for you. You have to know that you deserve better than some guys bit on the side, no matter what he says. He will say whatever he thinks you want to hear to get into your pants and stay there. Please think!!!!!

@ tink-sh
ooh tanx for your advice am really getting it,

am so grateful, thanks everyone l'm really getting it!

^^I really hope so. I understand its so difficult for you but nothing is impossible. Short term pain to walk away for long term gain to re start your life. All the best.

Marry him. he has obviously gone thru experiences which made him a better lover. if u follow some stories here and want to discard him for a younger lover you might end up with a playa. but legalized every thing before moving in with him

Sweetie he is a liar. You can do so much better than him. He lied about something as serious as being married and his age. What else could he be hiding?Forget about him, hes twice your age and unserious, divorce my foot, he aint divorcing his wife. Just leave him alone.

For a relationship to work both parties must be present. The reason is so that you could take the time to ask those questions that elicit the responses that the other party might not be prepared for. (In this instance the relationship is lacking this ingredent). Though i am not one to question the ways of Love i still wonder why you will fall for "another country distance relationship" when there are guys around you who will treat you right? Or is there something else to this story?

My dear sister be very very careful. You do not know the guy well enough, what he really does for a living, whether he is married or not, whether he is independent or still dependent, whether he beats women, whether he is hot tempered, what his spiritual views are, whether he really does have children or likes children, whether he is still with his wife and whether he likes women or not or he is out to take advantage. Gosh!!! There are so many red flags ariound you. My dear sister let this one go it does not look like the real thing.

For a relationship to work both parties must be present. The reason is so that you could take the time to ask those questions that elicit the responses that the other party might not be prepared for. (In this instance the relationship is lacking this ingredent). Though i am not one to question the ways of Love i still wonder why you will fall for "another country distance relationship" when there are guys around you who will treat you right? Or is there something else to this story?

My dear sister be very very careful. You do not know the guy well enough, what he really does for a living, whether he is married or not, whether he is independent or still dependent, whether he beats women, whether he is hot tempered, what his spiritual views are, whether he really does have children or likes children, whether he is still with his wife and whether he likes women or not or he is out to take advantage. Gosh!!! There are so many red flags ariound you. My dear sister let this one go it does not look like the real thing.

Poster.

Wetin young girl like you wan go find with old man. Young men like me don finish for this world?

walk away,no time wasting!!

Annie15,

Please walk away from this mess. You deserve better. Let the man sort out his issues with his wife.

You may think you love him so much now to let go,but later you will realise you re saving your own life by leaving. Take a walk baby,Now!!

babygirl@poster walk away. very fast.

hi peoples, l really do read your posts, Thanks. St il here to read more

forget him

my dear sister, i wuld say pick ur shoes nd run, marriage is for life nd luv is just a part of it, dat guy has had his lyf in 5yrs he'll be 50 nd plss no man wuld test u wit such a thin. u r very young u wuld find someone else dats younger whom u'll be his first nd only wife. life can be beautiful if we choose d rite colors to paint it. tak car nd i pray dat God wuld giv u d strenght nd courage to walk away!!!

(The dog that will lost will never listen to the hunter's whistle). If u want to be lost go ahead, else FLEE (run away, kadanu) then break the bridge( delete his number, an his memory of u).

Actually you really need help because definitely you will surely die if you don't forget about that complicated man. you don't need him for any thing. if you love the God that forbids divorce you will never marry a divorcee for any reason. fear God and keep his commandments is the conclusion to the whole matter.

I'l advice you to just leave the guy and zero ur mind off that relationship. There's a lot to live for and ure way too young to become tied down. Use ur head hon.