tydi:


You know nothing dear.. White women don't put their loving on a bargain scale, when they love, they do that for real.

cerpvad:
Damn! That is horrific.

bluefilm:


I like my freedom and Marriage sounds like prison to me.

There's nothing you can do within marriage that you cannot do outside marriage.

Marriage gives outsiders the "right" to have some say in how you run your own personal life.

I don't want any woman to feel like she and her damn family is rightfully entitled to my earnings.

I don't want to be accused of cheating on any bitch.

I don't have time to be listening to women and their nonsense stories about nonsense things.

Neither do I have the time or wish to be in a position to be dealing with women and their ever unending insecurities and jealousies.

I like making and taking decisions by myself without necessarily consulting anyone else so I don't really need to put myself in a position where I will always have to be considering and/or consulting someone else before making those decisions.

So as you can see, marriage is definitely not for me at all!!!

MoonandStar:


When someone is not their member nko, one can't just walked in there na for marriage na.

cerpvad:
See this Oga. By the time you are 65 -70 years of age, you will come back here and change this your story. By that time it would be too late and you would regret not knowing the value of building companionship with a woman who has known you for years. By that time , the freedom you so cherish today will turn to a prison which you are running from now.

Better get your ass up and go out there to look for a good woman with true love and build your future.

cerpvad:
What if you are no yet dead by then? Or are telling us that you have a concrete plan to die by 65-70?

It is true that life does not have a map when it comes to the issue of death. Nobody knows when his/her death will come. However, one deserves to live a better life at old age and the companionship offered by marriage is one of those major things that spice up your old age life. If you look around you today, you will see many old people who are lonely in their old age because they refused to plan for old age companionship.

cerpvad:
Sorry to hear this bruh. What is your experience? Can you share it here to enable us learn and avoid falling into the same trap in the future?

mrchineke:


My Guy!

Life sweet die without that marriage nonsense!

oodua1stson:
long story, bro. The most important thing is that I'm better now than when I was married.



But if you need advice I'd say this; enjoy your youth like I did and be very comfortable b4 marriage( I wasn't really comfortable financially when I got married).

robosky02:
How to get married legally in Nigeria

Civil marriage in Nigeria is very important because it is recognized by the law and also serves as an evidence of a marriage contract between a couple.

Civil marriage in Nigeria is very important because it is recognized by the law and also serves as an evidence of a marriage contract between a couple.

Before having a civil wedding, there are some vital things you need to know that will prepare you for the process and guide your decisions on it.

This legal marriage is protected under the Marriage Act, Chapter 218 of Laws of the Federation of Nigeria 1990. There are two main marriage registries in Nigeria which are:

1. Federal Marriage Registries:

LAGOS – Ikoyi Registry (covers all those resident in Lagos, South-South, South East and South West)
ABUJA – Wuse 2 (covers all those resident in the Northern region)
2. All States have various Registries at the State and Local Government level.

Whichever kind of marriage registry you choose, the process involved in having a civil wedding follows the same guidelines which have been summarized below:

Filing of marriage notice:

Once you have decided to have a civil wedding, the intending bride or groom will obtain a form from their registry of choice to indicate their intention to marry. The form is a
You will also need to submit two coloured passport photographs.
The form is then posted on the
After the expiration of the notice and payment of the Prescribed Fee (this differs at each registry), the Registrar would issue a Form C after the following criteria has been met and satisfied:

That one of the parties has been resident within the district in which the marriage is intended to be celebrated.
That each of the parties to the intended marriage (not being a widower or widow) is twenty-one years old, and if under that age, the consent hereinafter made requisite has been obtained in writing and is annexed to such affidavit (meaning you have to get written permission/consent from the bride-to-be's parent or legal guardian).
That there is not any impediment of kindred or affinity, or any other lawful hindrance to the marriage
That neither of the parties to the intended marriage is married by customary law to any person other than the person with whom such marriage is proposed to be contracted.
Once the requirements mentioned above have been confirmed, the couple would swear an affidavit before the registrar or recognized minister of religion. During the sworn affidavit, the registrar would reiterate the above Prohibitive degrees and also explain the penalties involved.

Failure to disclose a breach in any of the above makes the defaulter liable to two years imprisonment.

Thereafter, the Registrar signs a declaration/affidavit to show that the couple understands the implications under the law and have met and satisfied all that has been required of them.

Upon proof that there is no lawful impediment to the proposed marriage, and that the necessary consent, if any, to such marriage has been obtained, the Minister will dispense with the giving of notice, issue the certificate, and grant his/her license, known as Form D, authorizing the celebration of a marriage between the parties named in such license.

The couple then selects a date for the wedding, usually within three months from the date the notice was placed with the registry.

On the wedding day, the couple alongside their family members and friends would go to the registry to finalize the marriage proceedings. There would be other couples that will also show up for their own celebration, and as such each couple is given a specific time that must be adhered to.

The ceremony is usually not longer than 30 minutes. During the proceedings, the Registrar would print the marriage certificates in duplicate and with counterfoils as in the FORM E. The officiating minister will fill up in duplicate a marriage certificate with the particulars required by Form E, and enter in the counterfoil the number of the certificate, the date of the marriage, names of the parties, and the names of the witnesses.

The certificate will then be signed in duplicate by the officiating minister, by the parties, and by two or more witnesses to the marriage. The minister having also signed his name to the counterfoil will deliver one certificate to the parties, and within seven days, thereafter file the same in his office.

Every Registrar will then register the marriage in a book called the Marriage Register Book, every certificate of marriage filed in his office according to the FORM F... and viola! You're married!

The civil wedding is by far the cheapest among the other types of marriage ceremonies in Nigeria, though it has got a longer process and all criteria must be met.

Tell your friends

https://www.pulse.ng/lifestyle/relationships-weddings/civil-wedding-how-to-get-married-legally-in-nigeria/t0p2y69

DavidEsq:
OP, some vital points u raised here are not consistent with the position of the law.
You stated that there are two types of marriage registries in Nigeria, namely Federal and state/local government marriage registries.
This is flawed because as u rightly stated:
"A legal marriage is protected under the Marriage Act, Chapter 218 of Laws of the Federation of Nigeria 1990".
Take notice of the phrase, "Marriage Act", which means that marriage is strictly withing the powers of the federal government of Nigeria, courtesy of the National Assembly, to regulate or make laws thereon. So it would be flawed to suggest that local governments should have marriage registries which issue certificates of marriage, when they have no powers to do so. Marriage is regulated by the ministry of interior, which is a federal government agency and it is only the marriage certificates issued on the authority of this ministry, that is valid. Any other marriage certificate issued without this authority is null and void and an empty valueless piece of paper. This is why in a recent judgement of the high court sitting at Lagos State, such marriage certificates issued by the local governments were declared to have been done without the authority of the ministry of interior and as such, null and void. That certificate of marriage is called Form E, which is contained in the Marriage Act and any certificate of marriage inconsistent with this Form E, is invalid. However, following the recent announcement by the ministry of interior on this issue, coupled with the judgment of the high court, any marriage done prior to this pronouncements are deemed valid because the parties themselves have committed no deliberate wrong. Hence they have to get a recertification of their marriage certificate, but several court decisions show that this is not mandatory to validate a marriage. Therefore, it is not every marriage registry that is a valid place of marriage, with the attendant powers to issue valid marriage certificates.
There are other factors to be considered in determining how to go about a valid marriage. Hola at me via my mail.
Cheers, OP.

rOsy247:


How about the process of divorce?

GoTV:



You will be mercilessly scammed. Shebi na him papa be Canadian ambassador to Nigeria. Canada easy na him he dey nairaland dey hunt for mugun like you. Person wey go give you cloth suppose no dey waka naked.

robosky02:



I don't personally encourage divorce




Look and look well before you marry



And after that close your eye's

cerpvad:
Thanks bruh. You said you were not really financially comfortable. I will like to ask, were you more financially comfortable than her or she was more financially ok than you?
Does she have your physical specs and were you two attracted to each other sexually?

Why I ask these is because my recent findings reveal that couple who are not financially and sexually compatible more than often have challenges in their marriage. Financial incompatibility exists when one of the party in the marriage earns more than the other and use that as emotion blackmailing of the other party. When it comes to finances, couple should see each other as equal party no matter who earns what.
Sexual incompatibility is absolutely when couple do not find each other sexually attractive after the marriage.

Teespice:


Shut up.

Jestin:
Illegal cohabitating and baby mama saga is the order of the day. For more information, contact Airforce1

Authoreety:


Shut up to ur husband if u have one or ur father! Anu ofia

NaijadrivaCars:


If you like, do a 20 million Naira traditional marriage and *white* wedding (except maybe you wedded in Catholic or Anglican), without a government recognised marriage, you aren't married before the law.


They will tell you not to contract any marriage after that, without ending the first legal one.

Some men do not like it because the woman benefits from such arrangement. You can't send the women away just like that without settling her, save maybe in case of adultery.


But we don't get married only to have irreconcilable differences or part.

collinometricx:
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Long time

optional1:


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