tabithababy:
Op, I beg you , forget the guy

Or prepare to feed him, his kids, his family and side chicks from your own money

He keeps seeing you as a fo'ool.... Am very sure you are giving him free sex, money, food and even calling him with your money

Loove ooooo

Arsenate:

Bro, no disrespect, but you are dating Funmistiqueen which means you have an extremely poor taste in women and hence you are in no position to call another man half a man.

Just take several seats and stfu.

BluntTheApostle:


That you have been through it does not count at all. Many guys have been dumped by girls that they spent heavily on. Does it mean that every girl that a man spends on would end up jilting him?

For instance, the guy's supposed stinginess can be as a result of many factors:

1. He might be spending on someone else as you said.

2. He might be stingy as the OP suspects.

3. He might be merely prudent. Maybe there was a time in his life when he spent money anyhow, and so he has taken charge of his finances more prudently. This happened to me. My mom's death made me realize that you can't afford to spend money anyhow.

4. His take-home pay may be half of his salary.

5. The 5k loan may not all be his money. Maybe it is even a debt that he owes someone.

edoboy74:



She is not worth any penny from that guy, if she really love him like how she made us feel, she won’t bring this topic or report her bf to this forum... she is a gold digger

pocohantas:


Naso. I have a dream...



The mistresses’s bf shouldn’t come to disturb is when he finds out she is cheating. It is all for the brotherhood.

grandstar:


Your guy may be the natural stingy type. . He won't change. He probably boasts to his friends that he has this 1 girlfriend that does not ask him for money.

Next time he's coming, ask him to buy you a meatpie.

We are generous to people we love because it makes them happy. We want to see them happy.
It also makes the giver happy.

Stinginess isn't a good trait as it will make you miserable. One of the joys of a marriage is each party spoiling the other. You give him a meal treat whenever he comes, that makes him happy. It won't be bad if he brings a Shoprite loaf of bread or 2kg of turkey wings.

Such thoughtfulness lights up a marriage.

mharyamikeola92:
Pls help me move this to front page.

I am a working class lady and I hardly demand things from whosoever I love.

There is this guy that I ave been dating for years now. I don’t know what to call his behavior, whether it is stinginess or the other way round.

I noticed that whenever he comes visiting, he doesn’t bring anything and I get to cook and takecare of him. I was forced to talk 1 day.

The last time he came visiting, he brought bread and other stuffs along which he ended up eating all by himself. I decided not to cook or do anything but I couldn't take it so we went out to buy stuffs. I needed to use POS and I forgot my phone at home. So I begged him to transfer 5k to the lady and that I was going to transfer back to him when we get home. We ended up using the money to get chicken, pepper and other stuffs.

On getting home I demanded for his account details in order to transfer the money back and to my surprise, he gave me and I transferred the money.

My major concern is that this guy has never given me common N10 and he is working. I don’t know if he's worth settling down with cos I fear for my future. Will he be able to give if he has more? This is the guy that is already telling me to come meet his mum cos she wants to see me.

Pls no insults, just advice.

yettymuse:
You are dating a dusty. Dusty loves independent women. My sister, run it will end in tears

mharyamikeola92:


I really don’t lyk going out..But I don’t know how some1 will travel from Lagos to Osun without buying common bread

bonnyhope:


You are a very unique girl

I have never come across a lady like you.

A lady who doesn't demand and the same time is also ready to spend her own even on her guy

You are entirely different from other naija girls

emmansus:
Madam you already have one piss off of why the relationship is not the type you want and intend spending the rest of you with,so why ask question before you quite.my dear am a lady too,it is obvious there is one side of the relationship you are still enjoying which you are not telling us.madam no dey manage relationship what you can not treat with your spouse during courtship and dealth with it,it as good as quit.shikena.

samwash:
A working class guy dating a girl & can't even spend on her. This is not a test to kwn if the girl actually loves him & can stay with him when suitation occurs.
What is love in a relationship without giving.
Some pple thinks dating or relationship is all abt sex, it comes with responsibilities.
What is that lady is in a financial mess , the boy friend can't even bail her out,not to talk abt one of her family member needs financial help, what will the BF now do in such suitation.
Lady, the signs are clear, the hand writing is bold enough, make ur choice , you destiny is in your hands .

Ogediluv:
All the men here won't tell u the truth, they will support their fellow man. That is how one visited me last year and spend one week in my house, he came with just bread and ate the rest of the things on his way coming. I feed him well, and of course the other side too. But after one week when he was leaving, he didn't drop a kobo for me, knowing fully well that I wasn't doing anything serious then just a salary of 20k a month, and he is working in a very reputable company with a good pay. So I confronted him after he left and told him what he did I never like, guess what? He begins to lament that I love money, that I'm abusing him coz I gave him food whereas I didn't, he said all manner things. My dear, I ran for my dear life. How a man treat u in a relationship is definitely how he will treat u in marriage.

mharyamikeola92:
Pls help me move this to front page.

I am a working class lady and I hardly demand things from whosoever I love.

There is this guy that I ave been dating for years now. I don’t know what to call his behavior, whether it is stinginess or the other way round.

I noticed that whenever he comes visiting, he doesn’t bring anything and I get to cook and takecare of him. I was forced to talk 1 day.

The last time he came visiting, he brought bread and other stuffs along which he ended up eating all by himself. I decided not to cook or do anything but I couldn't take it so we went out to buy stuffs. I needed to use POS and I forgot my phone at home. So I begged him to transfer 5k to the lady and that I was going to transfer back to him when we get home. We ended up using the money to get chicken, pepper and other stuffs.

On getting home I demanded for his account details in order to transfer the money back and to my surprise, he gave me and I transferred the money.

My major concern is that this guy has never given me common N10 and he is working. I don’t know if he's worth settling down with cos I fear for my future. Will he be able to give if he has more? This is the guy that is already telling me to come meet his mum cos she wants to see me.

Pls no insults, just advice.

Vega100:


It is because of people like you I now pay every lady I f*uck, and now see all like sex workers, na still because of people like you to see wife done hard me, despite how hard I try!!!
E no go better for all the women like you when don make every girl look like common prostitutes, e no go better for all of una one bit, the God i serve go punish all of una finish and make it also hard for you to see any good thing in this life.

Amen!!!

james6381:
No man is a stingy. Every man is a giver. For the fact that he did not give you money doesn't mean he is a stingy man. It could be that he's trying you or your patience as a wife to be. Please be wise not to loose your chances. Because you are his girl friend doesn't mean he can't give you money or support. Wait until you becomes his wife and see the difference between girlfriend and wife. Maybe that's his own strategy for a good woman. Men a looking for a wife material with different testing actions towards a lady. If the lady is not the patience type she will loose one of the best husband that could be hers to another lady. If you love him be patience and humble. If do not love him, find your way.

OrestesDante:
bros back don touch ground tire na, check her highlights RELATIONSHIP FOR YEARS




∆


That's a real OG. The real hackagon.

Na sense and overwisdom go kill that guy.

In case of separation, no one get used. So it is a win-win situation from the scratch. No one loses.
I hope your back never dey ground.

∆

pocohantas:

No vex, but my own done finish. Someone else can see this and come through.

BluntBlunt:


My advice is for you to dump him. Quietly distance yourself. It's in a mans nature to care for his woman. He is probably spending his money elsewhere.

Jaubdu:
. That half of a man is using you. Love is not dumb don't be a fool. If he is not working then I can understand. If you can cope with him the future,you are OYO

mharyamikeola92:


I ave my own job and a well paying job..I don’t need a man to b dere financially but is there a big deal in a man buying gifts for some1 he claims to love not necessarily money

mharyamikeola92:


I really don’t lyk going out..But I don’t know how some1 will travel from Lagos to Osun without buying common bread

grandstar:


Your guy may be the natural stingy type. . He won't change. He probably boasts to his friends that he has this 1 girlfriend that does not ask him for money.

Next time he's coming, ask him to buy you a meatpie.

We are generous to people we love because it makes them happy. We want to see them happy.
It also makes the giver happy.

Stinginess isn't a good trait as it will make you miserable. One of the joys of a marriage is each party spoiling the other. You give him a meal treat whenever he comes, that makes him happy. It won't be bad if he brings a Shoprite loaf of bread or 2kg of turkey wings.

Such thoughtfulness lights up a marriage.

RisenPhoenix:


He's half a man because he doesn't pay for sex? Would you also say that a woman is half a woman if she doesn't pay for sex?