Read this article and thought I'd share with you and for all the MEN to react and be objective, This does not call for any bashing, just an objective analysis.

Enjoy!

You see as a man, and an African man at that, the idea that we have is that women are to remain passive regarding affairs of sexual activity. Yes, I know that the women in the West have been liberated sexually for years but we aren’t in the West now, are we? The way it works around here is that a guy spots a woman that he finds attractive then toasts her. Whether or not he is really interested in going into a relationship with her or not, is moot when sex is involved because as we do know having sex and being in a relationship with that person we’re sleeping with is not always mutually inclusive. Now the truth is most guys wouldn’t mind if they can have all the sex they want without the added strings of a serious commitment. It is seen as a normal thing, right guys? But why do we find it difficult to grasp that the same can apply to women? Picture this, women behaving like men and sowing their wild oats about! Shudder! Shudder or not, this is something that has been going on surreptitiously for years in our society. While the guys reading this might be in denial, I know the women know what I’m talking about. Guys foolishly think that they hold all the cards when it comes to getting it on. For real mates, do you think that booty call, friends-with-benefits classmate, or neighbour or colleague is just sitting around twiddling her thumbs, waiting for you to cycle back to her? Yeah, perhaps if you are doing the job properly, and as often as she wants it; if not, dude, she’s getting it on with one or two other guys.

It is not the intention of this article to highlight the promiscuity of women o! Far from it. I only intend to bring to light the fact that women now make their own choices as regards sexual encounters and escapades. Allow me to illustrate. Once upon a time, many years ago when yours truly was just out of secondary school, and was at the University of House, there was this neighbour that would come and help about the house.

You see, I was the only one at home at the time and we did not have a house-help and so she volunteered/was co-opted by my mum to come clean the house, fetch water etc. Now I was still largely a very good boy then and it took me a while to notice how lovely looking this girl was. Never mind that she was exotic and was older than I was, the girl was what I have now learnt to describe as voluptuous. I’d wake up and walk to the kitchen where she would be doing one thing or the other and just scope her until she either noticed me or I broke the silence. We began to chat and I generally used to keep her company and make her laugh while she was doing her chores. Before long I started making moves, trying to get a kiss here and there etc. Her initial reaction was to discourage me but I was having none of it; I was bored out of my mind and it was rather exciting to seduce a woman. With time she’d kiss me back and all that but she never let things go beyond that, try as I may. This went on, on and off for about three months and I had already given up the idea of getting any when one Sunday evening (I was home alone of course) I heard a knock on the door. I opened it and there she was with a smile on her face. She asked if anyone else was home and she came in. However, I was not in the mood to get turned again so I invited her to sit while I went ahead to finish my movie. I offered her something to drink but she was not interested. Every now and again I’d look back at her and she would smile and give me a look. Then I noticed her sitting position and that sent a clear message that things were going to be different this time round. And they were! It baffled me for months after that as to why the day she chose to get down I didn’t have to psych, persuade, or trick her into it; she did it because she wanted to and not because of my seduction skills. Period.

Come on guys! Do you remember how in school you thought you were the bad guy, the one making all the moves, toasting, macking and seducing women left, right and centre? It might come as a shock to you but maybe you weren’t as bad as you think you were; maybe the women wanted it just as much as you did! It was very easy for us to think of the girls as passive creatures waiting to be blocked by us, and then toasted over a few weeks, then invited over to the our place and then due to our Art of Seduction skills, she yields to us. Wrong! Haven’t you figured it out yet that the occurrence of sex is all down to the woman? She chooses the time, the place and how often it occurs. Ask married men, they will tell you.

The issue of frequency depends on how good you are at it, because if it was not good for her, then you would probably never see her again (except she’s run out of options of course!). Dudes, didn’t you ever have that female friend who would just turn up at your place uninvited, or who would call you out of the blues knowing full well that eventually one of you was going to get invited over, even across state lines?! Hope you are getting the picture now? Yup, you were the booty call not her! (Note: if you were that good, over time you would not have to work so had to get her to come around or get invited over. You feel me?) Guys are highly predictable and girls have used this to their advantage for years, not bothering to correct the erroneous notion that men call the shots. Men need to realize that women are creatures of discretion. They cloak their sexual activeness behind a veil of discretion, which dresses them up as innocent damsels caught in the wily snares of debauched men.

Even in areas of sexual specifics, women dominate, they tell us what they want, how they want it and in our aim to please we obey them. The men that can’t get with the programme get moved over for more obedient and willing participants. Women have broken up with boyfriends, changed their minds about their life partners, cheated on their partners and even gotten divorced on account of this. I know too many examples. Women today have no patience for such sexual ineptitudes.

Thus, is the sexual revolution and liberation that has been going on behind the scenes for years. Women are in charge, whether they come off as passive or aggressive in such matters. It may come as a shock if you are a traditional African man. Guys, my advice to you is to get with the programme; it might be more of a benefit than a cultural anomaly at the end of the day.

This article was written by TJ O'Karo

OP.
I enjoyed reading your treatise ,Very impressing and most points re very right . . .I thank you for cutting me into the facts!

Poster, ve u considered the reason why a girl chooses to give in amidst ur amorous gestures or sexual lurings?simple,its cos u made her do it or even ignited d thought in her to do the do! As a man,is a task or responsibility to always ask or seek for it{at least ladies believe that},notwithstanding the rear occurence girls tend to switch roles with boys and play d 'seeker game', i think the concept of saying what d girls really want is what she'll do is kinda incorrect ,cos they think u as a man ve to make em want it,that be comfortable to express their wants,inother word,their resolutions to our proposal{or toastin,flirtin,or watever},is based on our expressional power,desires etc,so tell me how it is'int on us the MEN'.you r a man,u ve no choice but to believe it like that,and many women believe that way, so c'mon cut me some mind slack' and rule cos its ur world as a man!!!

, its normal! i have observed this fact years ago.

@switdick (m)---------Trust me buddy,it's not what you tell a woman that makes her want or desire you.Before you even see or think towards that,she already knows if you are the kind of man she wants to roll with and for what reasons.So dude,they are always in control and in charge.And what they want,they get.And how they want it,is how you give it to them, That's what men are for, to be used by women.It's only a woman who has never discovered her powers that will not control, which woman hasn't.They know what they are doing and men are far from holding them down.

I HAVE A PHOBIA FOR LONG ESSAYS @ switdick, hey bro?

That's great news. Now all I have to do is stay home while she brings home the dough, and the babies.

You have very valid points all over! The smart one's among the babes have devised ways of getting things done themselves and making it appear as if you're still calling the shots! Lovely intelligent thread. Long but not boring at all. Got funny stories in regards but can't seem to write these days. I'm bookmarking this!

zionmmv:

@switdick (m)---------Trust me buddy,it's not what you tell a woman that makes her want or desire you.Before you even see or think towards that,she already knows if you are the kind of man she wants to roll with and for what reasons.So dude,they are always in control and in charge.And what they want,they get.And how they want it,is how you give it to them, That's what men are for, to be used by women.It's only a woman who has never discovered her powers that will not control, which woman hasn't.They know what they are doing and men are far from holding them down.

its not wat u tell a girl that makes her desire u(correct),she already knws(u dnt knw that), and to cut it short,u said she already knws if she' d woman for u,but it still doesnt change d fact that its a rear occurence she 'll switch roles wit u and toast u,and even if she does,u still will cal d 'shot' wheather ur insterested or nt, the fact is as a man,u tend to believe ur in control and d woman also believes she's in control too, but me i want smth and i ask4 it,she gives probably cos she wants it too,then its a win win situation nau!!!!!!

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iyatrustee:

I HAVE A PHOBIA FOR LONG ESSAYS @ switdick,    hey bro?

hey gurl!! sup??

@switdick (m), It's a win-win situation if that is the picture she wants you to see.Trust me,never underestimate the power of a woman.The whole purpose of your existence is to make her happy.Your Phd,your MBA,your swagger,your switdick,whatever it is that you have laboured all your life to achieve,the purpose is to make her happy.Nations have gone to war because of a woman,Pastors,so called hard men,have all fallen because of the power of a woman.Forget this your male bravado/chauvinism that you are exhibiting.As long as you are born of a woman,you are under her spell.The fact that you lied to a woman just to get in between her legs does not make you the man, She already knew that she wanted it even before you delivered all your manifesto.So dude,be loyal,work hard for at the end of the day,the purpose for your existence is simply to make her happy, and trust me,she knows what she wants and how to achieve it. Whether she looses out at the of the day or not is a different issue, BTW,have you ever wondered what goes on in her mind when you are NAKED  in front of her?

^^^^^^^^VE U also wondered wt she wonders is in ur mindand speaking of d power of a woman,nobody's doubting that!!thats a wholenew diff jist right now,R U 4REAL??we were talking abt the wants of individuals of same and opposite gender haba!!!give ur slf some credit for being a man,cos she does that for u, U R A MAN" jeeeez, dnt show her ur weakness of flattering her eg0 psycologically,the power and pride of a man should not be underestimated too!!!am gonna ve to stop here CHRIST!!!!!!

@switdick (m), Define a MAN for me?It is that ego/pride of yours that is your weakness, which of course they are smart enough to exploit, by making you feel as if you are in control while you are not.The moment you are N.A.K.E.D in front of a woman,every pride that you have is gone.That is always their aim, to lay you bare and have Your life in their hands.
Being loyal and recognizing that they are stronger doesn't make you weak,rather it puts you on the side of strength which if you are smart enough,will keep you alive from High Blood Pressure/depression and stroke which is what you will suffer when you drag power with them.Your relationship with the opposite sex IS LIKE A GAME OF CHASE.'I am the man' doesn't work,as you are subconsciously and constantly giving your powers to her.
I don't know how old or how read you are,but experience will show you as you grow older.If you doubt it,go ask your mam,she knows how to get your dad.

Fine! Pls tell me wr d pride of a woman lies?and r u also a woman? to start wit this,if u so mch knw all these things in a womans mind,hw cum u ve d physical features of a man? My point exactly! Dnt tlk for her,do ur own thing as a man, G0D made both male nd female' i dnt knw which gender rules,bt i can only believe d wise'st thing to do,is to defend ur respective intimacy.U tlk abt men that ve fallen cos of women! Shld they nt fall b4?these so calld men wr 'yes' men of great virtue nd blah blah blah,but yet they fell cos they let their weakness cloud their honour{its simply their indiscretions},however MEN falling to or under women only signifies that can fall,not that women r mord powerfull! Dnt they also ve cases of d contrary? Look mehn,its a mind thing,dnt give in to such mythical phase! Let me ask you ve u ever thought of why women tend to wanna bring u down? Is cos they also embrace such mythical reason Men r superior,gods on earth,this nd that,nd they feel like wat they think u r wen they eventually succeed, lol no offence to the individuals of d opposite intimacy ooo! Like i said,i can only say wat i fèél pardon me peeps*smiles*

zionmmv:

@switdick (m), Define a MAN for me?It is that ego/pride of yours that is your weakness, which of course they are smart enough to exploit, by making you feel as if you are in control while you are not.The moment you are N.A.K.E.D in front of a woman,every pride that you have is gone.That is always their aim, to lay you bare and have Your life in their hands.
Being loyal and recognizing that they are stronger doesn't make you weak,rather it puts you on the side of strength which if you are smart enough,will keep you alive from High Blood Pressure/depression and stroke which is what you will suffer when you drag power with them.Your relationship with the opposite gender IS LIKE A GAME OF CHASE.'I am the man' doesn't work,as you are subconsciously and constantly giving your powers to her.
I don't know how old or how read you are,but experience will show you as you grow older.If you doubt it,go ask your mam,she knows how to get your dad.

MAN I AGREE WITH THAT PART.

That is why you see SMALL GIRLS, bring down PROFESSORS, GENERALS, POWERFUL MEN OF GOD e.t.c

But a man still have the power to dictate his role, if he shows high level integrity in relationship.

Its how a man plays his game that determines everything.
Women have deep desire to control a man because once they achieve that, they get anything from him but here's the trick. Once a man becomes too caring, loving he becomes weak!

You must be hard on your woman. Cus you're the head and nature has made it so. By so doing she honors and respect you but never fail to play your role as a man or you loose your pride

poster, satisfyin ur woman on bed doesn't mean you're weak rather her respect for you strengthens because she seen a real man in you and pls next time u want to share an article, share positive one's with us like HOW TO BE A REAL MAN YOU ARE.
HOW TO EARN YOUR RESPECT AS A MAN
HOW TO MAKE YOUR WOMAN SUBMISSIVE e.t.c

Another tip. Submissive women are wife materials. The stubborn ones never find peace in their homes.

^^^thank you oo jare!

I honestly have interest in this topic.
no doubt woment have power but a man over the years needs self confidence and control to be able to take charge. Women no only use their a$$ to manipulate, they also work on your ego, making you to bring out the man in you to protect her and in the end put in your life.you can never be a real man if you are an a$$ worshipper or always feel manly for your women, you will die both of high BP and unwarranted death. many men has killed their fellow men because of false alarm women raised.self control and confidence will always help review all situations and take decision of your own. note if a woman want to give you a$$ she will, not because of your swaggering masculinity.