MISCONCEPTIONS IN RELATIONSHIP AND MARRIAGE.

What I am about to address right now is why many relationships that are meant to be will never make it to the altar and also why there are many divorces in our society today.

Someone said this and I will love to make corrections to this.

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*You must be above your wife with THREE things.

*1. AGE
*2. KNOWLEDGE and
*3.CASH

*Your wife too must be above you with FIVE things.

*1. PATIENCE
*2.NEATNESS
*3.LOVE
*4.PLANNING and
*5.PRAYER

*And you should be equal on THREE things

*1.UNDERSTANDING
*2.TOLERANCE and
*3. RESPECT...
Your home will be perfect.

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It is because of this kinda rules that many relationships have failed. Someone just comes up with rules and laws that make you put pressure on your partner to be what they are not.

You must understand that every human being is unique in their own way. We grew up differently and are good with different things.

The truth about relationships is that everything in a relationship is meant to be done equally but due to the fact that we are wired differently as human beings, one might be greater in some areas more than another.

This is so because like I said we are human.

God knowing this made it in such a way that a good union is going to be between two people that understand their differences and are ready to support and complement their partner in any area of their shortcoming.

So the woman can be a firebrand but the man is into more of Bible study and revelation, that doesn't mean the woman in every other home should be the prayer warrior and that doesn't make the man less because he can't pray as much as the wife does. What needs to be done is to support each other and encourage themselves to grow in those areas.

Who said the woman can not have money more than the husband and they still have a happy home?

Even in most successful marriages the wives and more knowledgeable than the husband yet they are still happily married.

The one I don't even understand is that the woman has to keep herself neat more that the man, who says women love pigs? There is no law as who should be neater biko. Nobody loves dustbin.

This age matter self, I know many wives that are older than their husband and their marriage is heaven on earth.

There are some men that can plan like no other, so the wife should go hang herself because she can't match up? Kai.

Love? This one is even weak me. So no comment.

That the woman can pray more or that the man is older doesn't guarantee the success of their marriage or relationship.

Listen,
Learn to meet your partner at the level they are and grow together. This is the only rule you need, be flexible, be teachable, be understanding, be open-minded and make efforts to ensure that in those areas of shortcomings that you are growing together.

The man is the head of the home but that doesn't mean he should be the prayer band leader at home, if you as the wife is stronger in that area, help him up.

If your wife is poor with planning and you are good, teach her, meet her at her level and bring her up.

Don't go and put pressure on your partner, that they are meant to be greater than you in an area. If that area is your specialty then carry it with all pleasure and let him or she play the supporting role as they grows to meet up.

Insightful !

true words.

Op you always on point!!

Petyprincess:
Op you always on point!!

Petyprincess:
Op you always on point!!

lavylilly:

You got it all wrong from one perception, "
It is because of this kinda rules that many relationships have failed. Someone just comes up with rules and laws that make you put pressure on your partner to be what they are not."
Relationship don't fail because of rules or regulations rather it failed because spouses see themselves above d law, any r/ship with two captains must surely capsids. imagine a world without rules & law enforcement agencies 4 how long wil peace & stability last. simple law such as women respect ur husband cos she as a bsc. or wateva aunty feels equal n justify herself as "feminist" .. same as men becos money dey, a rule such as love ur wife becomes a hard nut to crack yet someone thinks rules/laws is what is wrong with world .. dear naa humans!
Personalities and human nature are quiet different, asking one party to becum say as other party sounds lame, instead why can't both parties find a common ground, leave there respective ends to meet in d middle,
Bottomline if humans are left to react or behave how dey want & feel like ... the world will be side up down.

Expository!