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Re: My Fiancée Has Stopped Picking My Calls, Please Advise Me On What To Do by rottennaija(m): 4:24pm On Feb 07, 2020 |
Davash222: My brother, I wonder oooooo. We just the copy everything to weigh ourselves to death. |
Re: My Fiancée Has Stopped Picking My Calls, Please Advise Me On What To Do by LordShiva97(m): 4:24pm On Feb 07, 2020 |
safarigirl: Lol, calm down tigress |
Re: My Fiancée Has Stopped Picking My Calls, Please Advise Me On What To Do by bluejeff(m): 4:25pm On Feb 07, 2020 |
Where do you people copy these fables from? � This story was discussed yesterday evening on Okey Bakassi's show on Lagos Talk FM...� |
Re: My Fiancée Has Stopped Picking My Calls, Please Advise Me On What To Do by obowunmi(m): 4:26pm On Feb 07, 2020 |
Ishilove: I think its her choice. Is it society ? At least she gets good dick. |
Re: My Fiancée Has Stopped Picking My Calls, Please Advise Me On What To Do by 1x2x3: 4:26pm On Feb 07, 2020 |
ireneidiva: You see why I don't argue with people who can't reason critically. If the husband pays the maid it means the man is paying the maid to do his part of chores while he goes making money for the family. What half are you now talking about or the woman should be totally useless? 3 Likes |
Re: My Fiancée Has Stopped Picking My Calls, Please Advise Me On What To Do by Joejonah(m): 4:27pm On Feb 07, 2020 |
This is not African. Same a feminism. We are not equal. |
Re: My Fiancée Has Stopped Picking My Calls, Please Advise Me On What To Do by byinks(f): 4:27pm On Feb 07, 2020 |
kunleweb: Please don't blame the young man. Blame Seun. |
Re: My Fiancée Has Stopped Picking My Calls, Please Advise Me On What To Do by Samakus(m): 4:27pm On Feb 07, 2020 |
Davash222: You always make sense. I have noticed it. May your days be long |
Re: My Fiancée Has Stopped Picking My Calls, Please Advise Me On What To Do by Nobody: 4:28pm On Feb 07, 2020 |
You too stop Calling her |
Re: My Fiancée Has Stopped Picking My Calls, Please Advise Me On What To Do by Tonyspecial(m): 4:28pm On Feb 07, 2020 |
Davash222:Android ladies won't like this ur comment bro |
Re: My Fiancée Has Stopped Picking My Calls, Please Advise Me On What To Do by LordShiva97(m): 4:28pm On Feb 07, 2020 |
safarigirl: Assuming this is true (it's not), she'll rather spend money on kids that haven't arrived yet than on her own wedding? |
Re: My Fiancée Has Stopped Picking My Calls, Please Advise Me On What To Do by freshvine(f): 4:29pm On Feb 07, 2020 |
Next time use your brain. Most Ibo ladies are taught that men pick wedding bills I don't know the tribe of your woman. But for you to assert some sense of worth, you should foot the wedding bills intoto. Except she willing decide to help. What you should've done is to ask her to lend you money that you'd pay back after the wedding. That's it...no be to give monkey bananas be issue,na to collect the peel. 1 Like |
Re: My Fiancée Has Stopped Picking My Calls, Please Advise Me On What To Do by Samakus(m): 4:29pm On Feb 07, 2020 |
donstan18: Another sensible man on NL. Bless you son |
Re: My Fiancée Has Stopped Picking My Calls, Please Advise Me On What To Do by Dayshow001: 4:33pm On Feb 07, 2020 |
[quote author=donstan18 post=86449408]Traditionally, a man is the chief sponsor of any wedding ceremony while the woman supports in a way she can. Reason, it's expected a man goes into marriage when financially stable and ready. Allocating 50% to her passed a message that you'll be a type of husband who will be after the statistics of the wife's earning and spending. You sure wouldn't have done what you did if you hadn't any knowledge of her earning, you acted because you know her earning and that's a red flag for Nigerian ladies, because they don't like dragging and equal responsibilities in a home. You don't go direct when you want a woman to contribute financially to something. You go Tactically[Not imposing, but asking how and where she can take care of, she'll choose, no matter the percentage of her choice, you lock up, keep the planning going, pretend like you are cool and then sketch out a personal plan of how to act worried and restless before her, she'll wanna know the problem, act like you wanna hide it from her, she'll be worried and pissed that you are hiding things from her, then you'll come up with a story and open up that you are facing financial crisis and don't know how to sort some things out concerning the wedding, she'll willingly help with pity without seeing you as a stingy or mean person] No be everything dem dey form mancho, you go dey use your head. You've spent on traditional wedding and for that not to be a total waste, kindly go and meet her, reason with her and go tactical, not directly with authority. Happy married life in advanceforum It have tey somebody have sense like this on this forum |
Re: My Fiancée Has Stopped Picking My Calls, Please Advise Me On What To Do by Germi9: 4:33pm On Feb 07, 2020 |
....she is already your wife and not your fiancee,in as much as you have paid and done the traditional rite...the white wedding is just an addition which most women want by all means fool. 2 Likes |
Re: My Fiancée Has Stopped Picking My Calls, Please Advise Me On What To Do by Hcqmela: 4:33pm On Feb 07, 2020 |
tiredoflife:LOO 1 Like |
Re: My Fiancée Has Stopped Picking My Calls, Please Advise Me On What To Do by victorian(f): 4:34pm On Feb 07, 2020 |
obowunmi: Some Men are that lucky and so arrogant at home. Honestly I don't envy such women at all and I don't pray to be in their shoes. Me that I have a soft body system and I don't like stress. Any little stress like this my bp Don rise up. That's another reason I'm still single. I don't have the strength, they have to take care of a grown man financially and kids join, na death I dey for nah lol and I don't even have mother to bring from village sef. That's why Im cool and calm like ice water towards marriage. Or else I will die young with all the wahala and bills I can't come and die on top I must marry. Your cousin is really trying, she's a strong woman. She's indeed strong. 1 Like |
Re: My Fiancée Has Stopped Picking My Calls, Please Advise Me On What To Do by pedroiyke: 4:34pm On Feb 07, 2020 |
Women and money. Like 5&6 |
Re: My Fiancée Has Stopped Picking My Calls, Please Advise Me On What To Do by Deoboss(m): 4:38pm On Feb 07, 2020 |
deesquarediddy:This does not apply always. I respect women a lot but am sorry to say that a large percentage of ladies are self centered. If you spend all your money buying all her wedding stuffs thinking she will buy your own stuffs after exhausting funds, you are 100% on your own |
Re: My Fiancée Has Stopped Picking My Calls, Please Advise Me On What To Do by faithfull18(f): 4:40pm On Feb 07, 2020 |
SmartyPants:In Nigeria, the wedding rites isn't complete until you have done the white wedding |
Re: My Fiancée Has Stopped Picking My Calls, Please Advise Me On What To Do by Aammee77: 4:40pm On Feb 07, 2020 |
sylvestersamuel:I'll be direct, she isn't the kind of woman you can spend the rest of your life with. She lacks exposure. You just have to try to change her way of thinking which is always difficult with adults or manage her like that. Ignoring your calls is totally unnecessary if she doesn't like something she should discuss it right away rather than leave your place. Did you guys date at all? 1 Like |
Re: My Fiancée Has Stopped Picking My Calls, Please Advise Me On What To Do by udemzyudex(m): 4:40pm On Feb 07, 2020 |
She's crazy and have no one to tell her. OP say na like this Una go dey ? You're already married to her, forget about the we have not done white wedding sh1t. If she's ignoring your calls, messages just because of that little thing both of you could have solve amicably without any issue then I wonder what you saw in her. I hate it when someone feels entitled or people can't do without them. I always distance myself from those kind of people. If she doesn't pick your call or reply your msg,just let her be, when she's back to her senses she will call you. 3 Likes |
Re: My Fiancée Has Stopped Picking My Calls, Please Advise Me On What To Do by Ishilove: 4:42pm On Feb 07, 2020 |
obowunmi:And gets to bear 'M-R-S' join. 2 Likes |
Re: My Fiancée Has Stopped Picking My Calls, Please Advise Me On What To Do by safarigirl(f): 4:42pm On Feb 07, 2020 |
LordShiva97:yes, actually, yes But Nowhere was it said the woman isn't willing to spend. Maybe not up to 50% is all And really, I reiterate, they are both stupid for not discussing earlier. You don't just drop financial obligations on anyone before telling them, people make budgets for a lot of things, and many get upset when things unplanned for, are brought up. |
Re: My Fiancée Has Stopped Picking My Calls, Please Advise Me On What To Do by deesquarediddy(m): 4:42pm On Feb 07, 2020 |
Deoboss: I added, if she loves you.... Its works anytime, except she don't have that money. |
Re: My Fiancée Has Stopped Picking My Calls, Please Advise Me On What To Do by victorian(f): 4:45pm On Feb 07, 2020 |
Pusyiter: Lol what will u then do? Remember uv paid her dowry and handled the traditional marriage all by yourself. So what will u do, Mr handsome ? |
Re: My Fiancée Has Stopped Picking My Calls, Please Advise Me On What To Do by skondo09(m): 4:45pm On Feb 07, 2020 |
donstan18: Respect to your experience..... |
Re: My Fiancée Has Stopped Picking My Calls, Please Advise Me On What To Do by SmartyPants(m): 4:45pm On Feb 07, 2020 |
faithfull18: The point is, if he has already spent so much and is only now asking her to come in, then it's not 50:50 is it? The total expenses would be along the lines of 75:25 |
Re: My Fiancée Has Stopped Picking My Calls, Please Advise Me On What To Do by midnighter(f): 4:47pm On Feb 07, 2020 |
ahiboilandgas: Hahaha you are very smart |
Re: My Fiancée Has Stopped Picking My Calls, Please Advise Me On What To Do by cybug: 4:49pm On Feb 07, 2020 |
Young man, Why are you calling her your fianceè. You guys are already married. She's your wife as long as you have paid her dowry. Do your church wedding. Nobody will crucify you if you don't do reception |
Re: My Fiancée Has Stopped Picking My Calls, Please Advise Me On What To Do by Funtobewith: 4:50pm On Feb 07, 2020 |
Were u forced to marry her or she imposed herself on u? Mr Man u have no right to bill 50% of the charges on her That's her own decisions to make, whether she wants to assist or not is all hers to decide Then later we start hearing things like " I married u with my hard earned money" meanwhile she contributed vehemently If u say it to her reasonable and make her reason from ur perspective she may agree but if u dare force it on her Sorry u are OYO u are calling ur traditionally married wife fiancee Are u ok |
Re: My Fiancée Has Stopped Picking My Calls, Please Advise Me On What To Do by Alwaysachick: 4:50pm On Feb 07, 2020 |
OiOi: This is what happens when a man marries a woman because of what he can get from her earnings. Sadly, they always get disappointed. 1 Like |
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