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Re: My 4-Year-Old Son Saw Me Washing My Underwear And Said It's Girl's That Wash by JONNYSPUTE(m): 2:18pm On Feb 11, 2020 |
Martinez39s:.. I can agree with on the issue of my wife or the nanny doing more of the washing,but anytime I'm in town,I usually do my laundries by myself. But I will start engaging him more once he clocks 4. |
Re: My 4-Year-Old Son Saw Me Washing My Underwear And Said It's Girl's That Wash by chrisifeanyi: 2:20pm On Feb 11, 2020 |
Get him a cartoon where men wash, cook, mob, scrub etc. His mindset will change |
Re: My 4-Year-Old Son Saw Me Washing My Underwear And Said It's Girl's That Wash by Adebowalay(m): 2:24pm On Feb 11, 2020 |
JONNYSPUTE:always make ur presence felt... |
Re: My 4-Year-Old Son Saw Me Washing My Underwear And Said It's Girl's That Wash by Martinez39s(m): 2:26pm On Feb 11, 2020 |
JONNYSPUTE:You can engage him but don't over engage him. Just put your mind at rest. Even without engaging him, he will outgrow that mentality. Na small pickin dey worry am. All you need to do is ensure that he learns to discipline himself to embrace a hygienic lifestyle and self-sufficiency skills. Starting gradually, do this and hammer on it when he is about 9. — Around 9, he must learn to consistently and properly brush his teeth morning and evening by himself without and failure shall incur hot lashes of cane. — When he is 12, he can start learning to properly sweep and tidy the whole sitting room and his room from time to time. @12, I believe he is strong enough and he can start taking responsibility for the cleanliness of his clothes and he must wash them by himself. — By 15-16, he should start learning how to cook certain foods and clear the dishes. As he keeps growing, you know, as a man, the responsibilities to add to ensure he is disciplined in the areas of hygiene and self-sufficiency. The joy of teaching him all these and ensuring he does these consistently is that it will become his second nature to the extent that he will start doing these without being told. If he doesn't learn, if he can't even wash his plates and clothes, and he makes it in life, a karishika can creep into his life playing "wife material" by doing these basic things. |
Re: My 4-Year-Old Son Saw Me Washing My Underwear And Said It's Girl's That Wash by 3kay945(m): 2:28pm On Feb 11, 2020 |
So this is a matter to discus ? Okay na, |
Re: My 4-Year-Old Son Saw Me Washing My Underwear And Said It's Girl's That Wash by aimuan(m): 2:28pm On Feb 11, 2020 |
JONNYSPUTE:change it for him..when a child is born into this world,he/she come with a blank slate.it means empty brain(hard drive) just like a formated computer..as the child grows,he start copying everything around and have them saved in the hard drive(brain),this process is called conditioning. We have virtual,audio and some other conditioning.. And this are what later become a blueprint that guards the child throughout his/her life time.. The good thing is,you can change it..is not going to be easy anyway. |
Re: My 4-Year-Old Son Saw Me Washing My Underwear And Said It's Girl's That Wash by biggie73(m): 2:31pm On Feb 11, 2020 |
JONNYSPUTE:.....your son just told you the cardinal truth. His mother supposed to help you out. My question to the mother is how will she feel when her son washes his underwear while his wife or girl watches? How? You definitely have a man in your baby, and a weakling in the father.... 3 Likes |
Re: My 4-Year-Old Son Saw Me Washing My Underwear And Said It's Girl's That Wash by bobowaja(m): 2:36pm On Feb 11, 2020 |
bukatyne:Lol. You guys really want to turn that young man into a sissy? 1 Like |
Re: My 4-Year-Old Son Saw Me Washing My Underwear And Said It's Girl's That Wash by Gordson: 2:37pm On Feb 11, 2020 |
Look at this one, na we go tell you how to train your 4 year old kid. If you cant mould your child into what you want at this stage. Blames on you Na wa ooo, all these social media parents shaa 1 Like |
Re: My 4-Year-Old Son Saw Me Washing My Underwear And Said It's Girl's That Wash by Gordson: 2:39pm On Feb 11, 2020 |
bobowaja:You've never washed your own clothes before! See this dummy! 5 Likes |
Re: My 4-Year-Old Son Saw Me Washing My Underwear And Said It's Girl's That Wash by esanmantruth: 2:41pm On Feb 11, 2020 |
Noting bad about his thought? Meaning you don’t check his home work from school. Even my daughters at age four they already know about it, that women wash and cook and clean the home while men provide the source of the cooking and all that. Check their English reader you will see when they said Simbi is cooking her mother is washing while her father is fetching the water and is also explained to them their position and roles they plan at home. So that is not a big deal. Like me I do tell my children as a God’s family we are all one. When you see dad or mum is tired of his or her daily work activities, it is your duty to assist her. In this case am assisting my wife. Make him understand the important of assisting your wife or partner when she is tired. 2 Likes |
Re: My 4-Year-Old Son Saw Me Washing My Underwear And Said It's Girl's That Wash by eclectic90: 2:43pm On Feb 11, 2020 |
Brazenbabe: Don't mind the 21st century slave. Men like him are the ones that hold on to such toxic masculine mentality, because they want to keep consoling themselves that they are not useless. The kind of weak men that see their wife's success as a threat because they know without the "providing for the family" role they pride themselves in, they are useless. 10 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My 4-Year-Old Son Saw Me Washing My Underwear And Said It's Girl's That Wash by ireneidiva(f): 2:43pm On Feb 11, 2020 |
youwanbanme:And what is wrong with washing his wife's undies along with his? Not doing chores makes someone a real man? You seriously need to change your mindset and raise better kids. Chores are things everyone should do. You didn't need to go to the university before you learnt to do all that. 5 Likes |
Re: My 4-Year-Old Son Saw Me Washing My Underwear And Said It's Girl's That Wash by Gordson: 2:45pm On Feb 11, 2020 |
3kay945:As in Very irritating |
Re: My 4-Year-Old Son Saw Me Washing My Underwear And Said It's Girl's That Wash by bobowaja(m): 2:45pm On Feb 11, 2020 |
Gordson:Ignored 1 Like |
Re: My 4-Year-Old Son Saw Me Washing My Underwear And Said It's Girl's That Wash by Chrisbeks: 2:49pm On Feb 11, 2020 |
Social studies |
Re: My 4-Year-Old Son Saw Me Washing My Underwear And Said It's Girl's That Wash by bobowaja(m): 2:49pm On Feb 11, 2020 |
NuissancePolice:That is how these men breed SIMPs just because they wanted to be seen as nice. 1 Like |
Re: My 4-Year-Old Son Saw Me Washing My Underwear And Said It's Girl's That Wash by Brazenbabe: 2:50pm On Feb 11, 2020 |
freecocoahubby: So I am married? Hehehehe I thought I was the typical single frustrated E-feminist. Una no go kill me for this Nairaland 5 Likes |
Re: My 4-Year-Old Son Saw Me Washing My Underwear And Said It's Girl's That Wash by ogene144(m): 2:53pm On Feb 11, 2020 |
JONNYSPUTE:Bro,why do u assist ur wife in laundry,they aint worthy the Oloriburuku that born 4 me was an Edo Auchi Ihivere tribe,I do help him to do the laundry nw She has turn Olosho in Mushin if u need am send me private message I wil gve u her number u go Bleep am.... |
Re: My 4-Year-Old Son Saw Me Washing My Underwear And Said It's Girl's That Wash by Difrent: 2:54pm On Feb 11, 2020 |
JONNYSPUTE: I feel you gave him that impression, he has not been seeing you wash or do other supposedly 'girls ' chores which he sees his mom do. He may also have learnt it from outside that certain roles are girls only like washing and cooking. But don't get so worried, thank God you have a sharp child and he got the right answer from his mom, with time let him start washing his pants and socks 1 Like |
Re: My 4-Year-Old Son Saw Me Washing My Underwear And Said It's Girl's That Wash by Bahddo(m): 2:55pm On Feb 11, 2020 |
JONNYSPUTE:a 4 year old is old enough to understand stuff. He asked his daddy, his mentor and hero, a question because he wanted you to answer. Instead of you to lovingly correct him immediately, you kept quiet and waited for your wife to save you. Now you are coming to ask Nairalanders JAMB questions. Mtscheeew. That's how you people raise kids that feel entitled because of their gender. 2 Likes |
Re: My 4-Year-Old Son Saw Me Washing My Underwear And Said It's Girl's That Wash by Starhearts: 2:55pm On Feb 11, 2020 |
Wetin concern with wetin wey no concern me |
Re: My 4-Year-Old Son Saw Me Washing My Underwear And Said It's Girl's That Wash by eclectic90: 3:03pm On Feb 11, 2020 |
biggie73:SMH. These are the kind of husbands that wives refer to as useless when they don't have money. Your type will never marry an intelligent woman. And of the woman come by mistake get sense inside the marriage, wahala will burst out because she'd begin to see she doesn't need you for anything once she can provide her needs. Men, learn and don't transfer this weak mentality to your male children. The women are getting more empowered now and are standing up for themselves. The narrative in the nearest future would be men who can keep their wife and not women who can keep their husbands. The men being the breadwinner of the family that made them feel like gods is beginning to phase out. Empower yourself outside of having money so you'd be more relevant to your family. 6 Likes |
Re: My 4-Year-Old Son Saw Me Washing My Underwear And Said It's Girl's That Wash by therajah: 3:06pm On Feb 11, 2020 |
RisenPhoenix:Doing the house chores is not only the woman's responsibility. 2 Likes |
Re: My 4-Year-Old Son Saw Me Washing My Underwear And Said It's Girl's That Wash by Greatfullheart: 3:07pm On Feb 11, 2020 |
[quote author=JONNYSPUTE post=86519672]How Do I Make My 4years Old Son Understand Or S He Still Too Young Happy Sunday my fellow Nairalanders. Sure we all are cool? Sorry to bother you all but I have been worried since what transpired between myself and my son who will be 4yrs by June this year. I was not able to go to church today due to the fact that I just came back from travel very late yesterday night. So I was asleep when my wife and my two sons left for service. I woke up around some minutes after 12 noon and decided to wash some of the undies I wore during my journey. As I was doing that, my wife and kids came back and my son rushed straight to my room shouting daddy daddy, when I answered from the bathroom and he came in and saw me washing, the question he asked me has been making me uncomfortable. He said "Daddy, why are you washing? Are you a girl? Before he could finish that my wife walked in and said to him, Don't worry, very soon you will start washing your clothes HMM
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Re: My 4-Year-Old Son Saw Me Washing My Underwear And Said It's Girl's That Wash by biggie73(m): 3:07pm On Feb 11, 2020 |
eclectic90:...too many meaningless concepts. Anyway, thanks. |
Re: My 4-Year-Old Son Saw Me Washing My Underwear And Said It's Girl's That Wash by Nobody: 3:10pm On Feb 11, 2020 |
bobowaja: Exactly. |
Re: My 4-Year-Old Son Saw Me Washing My Underwear And Said It's Girl's That Wash by Yankee101: 3:11pm On Feb 11, 2020 |
The most important question is why you no follow your family go church. You're supposed to correct him via examples, and you're already failing? |
Re: My 4-Year-Old Son Saw Me Washing My Underwear And Said It's Girl's That Wash by Nobody: 3:12pm On Feb 11, 2020 |
cococandy: I have been following your posts lately and I must say you show a lot of maturity and tact, even though lots of people say you are a feminist. Nice one 1 Like |
Re: My 4-Year-Old Son Saw Me Washing My Underwear And Said It's Girl's That Wash by mechanics(m): 3:13pm On Feb 11, 2020 |
Hahahah, he should start washing his own as soon as he's matured. 1 Like |
Re: My 4-Year-Old Son Saw Me Washing My Underwear And Said It's Girl's That Wash by nini007(m): 3:17pm On Feb 11, 2020 |
You better start educating him 1 Like |
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