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Re: Advice Me On The Best Ways To Deal With A Disobedience Wife by Mixfeeling: 10:43pm On Feb 11, 2020 |
she is someone that doesn't like to be corrected at all, she will always raised her voice whenever you try to correct her no matter the gentle approach you use solite3: |
Re: Advice Me On The Best Ways To Deal With A Disobedience Wife by Mixfeeling: 10:54pm On Feb 11, 2020 |
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Re: Advice Me On The Best Ways To Deal With A Disobedience Wife by Mixfeeling: 11:01pm On Feb 11, 2020 |
ques you means the part i told her why she refused to tell me ahead as she use to do before now, i know it is because i corrected her in a subdue manner yesterday that she did not well pleased. it is for this reason i told her i have no hand in it... i then told her she can go tomorrow zeb04: |
Re: Advice Me On The Best Ways To Deal With A Disobedience Wife by Mixfeeling: 11:06pm On Feb 11, 2020 |
This is someone that will not spent a dime of her money on anything at hom, all bills is being taking care by me. i am the one that rent and furnish the said shop for her without her having a dime in it armyofone: |
Re: Advice Me On The Best Ways To Deal With A Disobedience Wife by Mixfeeling: 11:15pm On Feb 11, 2020 |
It is a pity you are or about be marry to someone, is it crime to response without throwing jabs? if it how you being behave to your husband at home,it is better you keep it to your home pls LadySarah: 4 Likes |
Re: Advice Me On The Best Ways To Deal With A Disobedience Wife by ZIMDRILL(m): 12:54am On Feb 12, 2020 |
Mixfeeling: 1st the word deal is wrong for me it means you will stamp your authourity which in most cases its a hash decision against the other person 1 One has to accept that whatever they did was wrong in the eyes of the other person . 2 The so called wrong person has to explain, how they end upbmaking whatever decision, they have to explain in there own way of thinking and reasoning, the wronged person shouldnt interject, but listen and try to understand where there are coming from 3 Then wronged should by now know how the other person understood and decided the decision that made the conflict 4 The wronged person then also explain his/her understanding and decision on the conflict the will help the other person to understand your thinking 5 By now you should be able to understand your thinking and understand individual solving or decision making skills eg does one think as an individual or think of the other half ? 5 From all above should have a clue how to function as unity |
Re: Advice Me On The Best Ways To Deal With A Disobedience Wife by mrblessed(m): 6:04am On Feb 12, 2020 |
Lamanii22:You relish picking out grammatical errors, without explaining how not to repeat such errors in the future. It doesn't make sense to just point out errors and leave it hanging without some form of analysis. I think you will make a very bad teacher. 2 Likes |
Re: Advice Me On The Best Ways To Deal With A Disobedience Wife by nams77: 6:29am On Feb 12, 2020 |
Ginaz:I like this lady already |
Re: Advice Me On The Best Ways To Deal With A Disobedience Wife by Belafonte(m): 8:26am On Feb 12, 2020 |
Mixfeeling: Hahahaha |
Re: Advice Me On The Best Ways To Deal With A Disobedience Wife by izzygoing(f): 8:43am On Feb 12, 2020 |
she pick up her phone and call her dad that his husband has started that they should warn me bla bla bla and cut off the phone conversation, i call her after some hours to know if she thoroughly went ahead with the journey, i found out she was already in Lagos. That means you both have been having a problem before now Try to have a good conversation to know why she is behaving in this manner. I'm sure there is the behaviour you have been putting up that she is not comfortable with. good luck |
Re: Advice Me On The Best Ways To Deal With A Disobedience Wife by izzygoing(f): 8:44am On Feb 12, 2020 |
TheArchangel: she pick up her phone and call her dad that his husband has started that they should warn me bla bla bla and cut off the phone conversation, i call her after some hours to know if she thoroughly went ahead with the journey, i found out she was already in Lagos. That means you both have been having a problem before now Try to have a good conversation to know why she is behaving in this manner. I'm sure there is the behavior you have been putting up that she is not comfortable with. good luck |
Re: Advice Me On The Best Ways To Deal With A Disobedience Wife by Boliboli760: 11:05am On Feb 12, 2020 |
I wish the OP and all the men like him all the best that life can offer. - Women are adult just like you, NOT your kids, NOT your younger sister or Adugbo sister. They are Adult female who know their right from their left most of the times. And make mistake and do any errors just like adult men do. - Marriage to a woman is NOT for you to have control over her. NOT AT ALL. It is for you to have a companion who does her own thing and you support her. You do your own thing and she supports you. Two adults who get the opportunity to SHARE their lives together, Emphasis on the word SHARE. Marriage is not a license for you to dominate or choke your partner. - A lot of men are getting it wrong and I blame we parents for not teaching our boys, Especially mothers who go through the same horrific experience with their husbands and fail to point out to their boys that the way your father is behaving towards me is not LOVE. It is Ego, Controlling and Inexcusable, NO man should treat a woman the way your father is behaving towards me. If this woman that OP is complaining about , divorces him tomorrow. He will come back here and open a new account to explain how the woman he supposedly loved, opened shop for and paid all her bills left him. He will never mention how he sucked the life out of her, how bad his self entitlement was, how he felt being humble is for a weak man and how he never gave LOVE a chance but instead he was fighting for the position of head of the house. Fighting for a position of First place ,that no body is struggling with HIM. - You seat your behind on the chair or bed, while your LOVE struggle to dress up the kids ,feed them and prepare for school. And she still struggles to go to the market to sort out her business ,with customers on her neck. And with your own judgemental wahala to deal with. And all you are LOOKING for is HOW to deal with your LOVE. The HALF of you. NOT LOOKING for how to support her, how to make sure the home is okay for her to continue business and take care of the family. BUT you come here to find out how to DEAL with her. I just want to ask WHAT THE Bleep IS THIS THING CALLED LOVE? My question is to Nigerian MEN. Because I am not understanding, I am not impressed with men at all. Since I was a little girl and I am an adult now and the SHIT is getting worse. LIKE WHAT THE ACTUAL Bleep DO THESE MEN THINK WE ARE,THEIR PUPPET. Saying bullshit like ,IF I HAD MONEY YOU WILL OBEY ME MORE. No Bruv, if you have money I will obey the Money not you. Because I want your money. Respect is reciprocal .SIMPLE 12 Likes |
Re: Advice Me On The Best Ways To Deal With A Disobedience Wife by Oyiboman69: 12:34pm On Feb 12, 2020 |
I think some slap will do the magic lol, but not continuous beating oo,we are Africans, don't forget that, |
Re: Advice Me On The Best Ways To Deal With A Disobedience Wife by Lamanii22(f): 1:19pm On Feb 12, 2020 |
mrblessed: I just didn't want to be too forward... I only pointed that out so the OP can modify/edit it... Pardon me... P.S I'm not a bad teacher... Some people are just unteachable ... |
Re: Advice Me On The Best Ways To Deal With A Disobedience Wife by Originalsly: 2:08pm On Feb 12, 2020 |
Bro.... she left without discussion... it means it doesn't matter what you say or think... she will do what she wants to do. She has no respect for you. That cannot be regained by force. My advice... whenever she returns... treat her like a stranger. Make no inquiry about her trip... show no anger nor frustration... just go about your business as if she doesn't exist. She cooks... you should never notice... when you're leaving the house... say nothing... just leave.. and return whenever. Let her cry a river to her family... should they call you... and they will.... let them know two roosters can't live in one pen. Click. 2 Likes |
Re: Advice Me On The Best Ways To Deal With A Disobedience Wife by mrblessed(m): 2:09pm On Feb 12, 2020 |
Lamanii22:Forward but not too forward, is a clever way to deflect attention from your grammar nitpicking hobby. It wouldnt have mattered if not that the elders have been watching with keen interest. DearTeachable Lamanii22, you seem to be in love with ellipsis. However, your flagrant abuse of that punctuation mark casts a doubt on the veracity of your professed love. Note: It is just for your reading pleasure, alone. |
Re: Advice Me On The Best Ways To Deal With A Disobedience Wife by travelland(f): 2:19pm On Feb 12, 2020 |
Na so marriage hard? you haven't given any reason why you didn't want her to go and buy goods for her shop |
Re: Advice Me On The Best Ways To Deal With A Disobedience Wife by We4all: 3:21pm On Feb 12, 2020 |
Boliboli760:This got to be the best comment so far. You just said it as it is. 1 Like |
Re: Advice Me On The Best Ways To Deal With A Disobedience Wife by We4all: 3:23pm On Feb 12, 2020 |
Oyiboman69: Yeah, just like your papa did to your momma right? 3 Likes |
Re: Advice Me On The Best Ways To Deal With A Disobedience Wife by We4all: 3:27pm On Feb 12, 2020 |
travelland: African men(especially Nigerians) make marriage look like the wife is in prison. Imagine the use of words such as 'disobedience' and 'deal'. Some of these men think their wives are their daughters. 5 Likes |
Re: Advice Me On The Best Ways To Deal With A Disobedience Wife by Oyiboman69: 3:40pm On Feb 12, 2020 |
We4all:Says the orphan
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Re: Advice Me On The Best Ways To Deal With A Disobedience Wife by We4all: 4:27pm On Feb 12, 2020 |
Oyiboman69: Orphans are humans you know, and they all had parents at some point. |
Re: Advice Me On The Best Ways To Deal With A Disobedience Wife by Bigblessed: 6:18pm On Feb 12, 2020 |
Cut off her neck, do her burial, go and marry one witch that has been praying for the death of two of you and how to wipe away your generation; then come and thank me with an apology letter to your God. Good man! |
Re: Advice Me On The Best Ways To Deal With A Disobedience Wife by Lamanii22(f): 6:40pm On Feb 12, 2020 |
mrblessed: Okay, lol thank you Mr blessed. |
Re: Advice Me On The Best Ways To Deal With A Disobedience Wife by oluwadamilolah(f): 11:25pm On Feb 12, 2020 |
Goodplace:you too 1 Like |
Re: Advice Me On The Best Ways To Deal With A Disobedience Wife by ImaIma1(f): 8:09am On Feb 13, 2020 |
zeb04: My thoughts exactly. Some men act this way. When there's a misunderstanding, they try to exercise their authority and act as stumbling block in their wives' ways. Plus a man might know that he has offended his wife but pride won't let him resolve it and apologize. Instead, he puts all her action under a magnifying glass and count everything she does so that he can wriggle his way out of admitting his fault and apologising. OP where do you fall? 1 Like |
Re: Advice Me On The Best Ways To Deal With A Disobedience Wife by Nobody: 9:49am On Feb 13, 2020 |
She doesn't respect you, simple! 1. Ignore her and live unhappy if you are the faithful type 2. Ignore her and live happily with fling 3. Tell her to get a divorce letter if she so much desire to leave 4. Her parent supports every dime she's doing... some in-laws are just ungodly 5. She is not happy in the marriage... That's the truth! 6. Don't be surprise if she has a 'friend' that make her smile just at the mention of his name I'm talking from experience oooo When they asked us to pray before we choose we would say Na Lie joor... It's very much important to look well before you leap. Especially those of us that was a super bachelor. God will help us all.... They are only LOYAL to money and not YOU |
Re: Advice Me On The Best Ways To Deal With A Disobedience Wife by LadySarah: 10:00am On Feb 13, 2020 |
Mixfeeling: Hahahha Come and pay me for the data wasted in replying you. Marriage is a partnership. Get that into ur head. 2 Likes |
Re: Advice Me On The Best Ways To Deal With A Disobedience Wife by grafixdon: 10:17pm On Feb 14, 2020 |
LadySarah:Respect this man, isn't your mate. I'm sure you're not married yet 1 Like |
Re: Advice Me On The Best Ways To Deal With A Disobedience Wife by LadySarah: 11:30pm On Feb 14, 2020 |
grafixdon: K |
Re: Advice Me On The Best Ways To Deal With A Disobedience Wife by TonyeBarcanista(m): 11:52pm On Feb 14, 2020 |
Mixfeeling:Honestly, you are at fault sir! You are obviously not in charge of your home for your wife to not only disrespect you also had the guts to 'report' you to her father My Advice: Take charge of your home, SIMPLE! |
Re: Advice Me On The Best Ways To Deal With A Disobedience Wife by TonyeBarcanista(m): 11:54pm On Feb 14, 2020 |
Ginaz:He is clearly not in charge of his home. That is why he even rush online to seek popular opinion. I don’t see your wife apologizing to you one bit for her disobedient act so don’t bother to confront rather be calm and try to find a way to make this not happen again.Who apologises and submit to a weakling? As the head of house , your authority is very important . There can’t be two captains in a boat. Tell her in a calm and cold manner to never repeat such acts or she will face the consequences or see the stuff you’re made of as the man of the house.Her father is the head of the house not OP Men , you guys don’t know this . Authority won’t have any effect when it’s gotten through force or punishments . When you give an order as the head of house , be calm while saying it, walk away , go chill and relax.You watch telemundo too much lol |
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