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I Think I’m Right About My Decision by Imuno(m): 5:43pm On Feb 17, 2020
Good evening House. Trust you had a great day
I want to know if I’m right about this


I’m dating a girl for about 4 months now. We’ve had issues in the past over age differences. She’s a year older than me. But we’ve settled and continue dating. We love each other so much. Recently we had a little misunderstanding where I was joking that I would break up with her. She took it up and I begged her that I’m joking that i would leave her. She just said we should give each other space and I told her giving each other space might lead to break up truly. Cuz we might not be communicating like before anymore which might lead to our love decreasing and might eventually break up. I told her I’m having depression and I’m really battling with it.


I humbled myself so much telling her that I won’t Say such again or break her heart. She kept on telling me we should give ourselves time, she wants to be single for now
P.S she has been chatting with my close friend all this while asking him about me, how I’m doing and he dint tell me. He’s supporting her on the decision she took and he dint tell me anything. Everything I told her, she was already telling my guy in details and both of them were making jest of me. So I noticed that whenever I’m with my guy , if my girl messages him, he wouldn’t want me to know they are talking meanwhile she hasn’t talk to me since our last issue. She would check on him everytime neglecting me like she doesn’t remember me anymore


Now I’ve made up my mind that whenever she says she want to come back, I would tell her it’s over finally between us because I can’t bear it anymore. The trust is broken both from my friend who did not tell me anything and also from my girlfriend. Is it the right choice I’m making?
Re: I Think I’m Right About My Decision by Nobody: 5:51pm On Feb 17, 2020
FTC

Bro that ur frnd don 4uk up,carry him tell am say u knw w8n dae sup btw dm 2.
distance urself 4rom two of them 4 now,if na me be u,me and dat guy no fit be pal again.walahi
Re: I Think I’m Right About My Decision by IamD18: 5:53pm On Feb 17, 2020
Stop dating women older than you.

It's not advisable atall.

Stop it!
Re: I Think I’m Right About My Decision by LOGOBELT: 5:54pm On Feb 17, 2020
Imuno:
Good evening House. Trust you had a great day
I want to know if I’m right about this


I’m dating a girl for about 4 months now. We’ve had issues in the past over age differences. She’s a year older than me. But we’ve settled and continue dating. We love each other so much. Recently we had a little misunderstanding where I was joking that I would break up with her. She took it up and I begged her that I’m joking that i would leave her. She just said we should give each other space and I told her giving each other space might lead to break up truly. Cuz we might not be communicating like before anymore which might lead to our love decreasing and might eventually break up. I told her I’m having depression and I’m really battling with it.


I humbled myself so much telling her that I won’t Say such again or break her heart. She kept on telling me we should give ourselves time, she wants to be single for now
P.S she has been chatting with my close friend all this while asking him about me, how I’m doing and he dint tell me. He’s supporting her on the decision she took and he dint tell me anything. Everything I told her, she was already telling my guy in details and both of them were making jest of me. So I noticed that whenever I’m with my guy , if my girl messages him, he wouldn’t want me to know they are talking meanwhile she hasn’t talk to me since our last issue. She would check on him everytime neglecting me like she doesn’t remember me anymore


Now I’ve made up my mind that whenever she says she want to come back, I would tell her it’s over finally between us because I can’t bear it anymore. The trust is broken both from my friend who did not tell me anything and also from my girlfriend. Is it the right choice I’m making?

You are RIGHT! That guy is not a friend, he definitely wants to take out of the cake. You see me ooo, I don't joke with my babe when it comes to my friends. I rather not allow her communicate with them. Just "Our Wife" and that's all. Anyway, if you are a man enough and love hasn't washed 80% of your brain, lay low! Don't ignore her, still chat her up, like use brief words such as "Hi, hope you are good? Just checking up on you" keep it simple. Then when she wants to return, do little shakara, before you take her back, that's if you want her back ooo

And when she return, make sure you ask her what went on when she was away.... make e no be say she go lamba another guy, perhaps that your friend.

Whenever she return, be very very careful. If possible do not have sex with her before she go and 1month after she return.

I use to do bye bye sex before, but I don't anymore the moment it almost finished me.
Re: I Think I’m Right About My Decision by Nobody: 6:09pm On Feb 17, 2020
Son, how far have you gone in life? How much have you achieved?

How capable are you in all the required areas to start a family? Financially, morally, mentally... Are you capable enough to head a home and be a husband?

If not, please continue chasing your goals in life...the most important of which is pleasing your Lord and more important ones include making money and striving to make an impact in the world.

Then when you are capable enough to start a family, look for a good woman to marry. A woman whom you would have examined and scrutinized and you are sure she's the kind of woman who can complement or support your goals in life, who will make a good wife to you and a good mother to your children and with whom you can scale through the pleasures and difficulties of life.

This is the way of real men.

All these lovey lovey pre marital issues are most of the time scam and time wasting. Many have passed through that stage and it brought them pain and emotional suffering.

The world has been deceived into thinking you cannot decide if a person will make a good spouse to you if you do not date her and do all kinds of things with her but that theory is fallible.

Olden days marriages were not fashioned like that and they lasted very much longer than those of today.

It's not that you won't study the prospective spouse and you'll just settle down with any girl. Rather, you must. But there are more honourable and strategic ways to do that.

Stop wasting your time and energy chasing transient love and pleasure of a girl with whom you are not sure what the future holds for both of you.

Channel your energy to your dreams, become capable and look for a good woman to marry and settle down with her so she can journey with you into a brighter future.

Be wise son. Be wise!
Re: I Think I’m Right About My Decision by LOGOBELT: 6:20pm On Feb 17, 2020
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Re: I Think I’m Right About My Decision by Tolani1122(m): 6:25pm On Feb 17, 2020
Bro, u took wright decision oo,lover boy, guy dont expect loyalty from babes , humans generally , cos we are not reliable that is why we are human okay , ,
Re: I Think I’m Right About My Decision by Stevyne: 6:34pm On Feb 17, 2020
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Re: I Think I’m Right About My Decision by MrBrownJay1(m): 6:41pm On Feb 17, 2020
1) stop dating immature women
2) get better friends

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Re: I Think I’m Right About My Decision by A305: 7:22pm On Feb 17, 2020
Dating women older than him isn't the issue. First of all, we need to commend him for his emotional intelligence for NOT lowering his self esteem to make the relationship work and able to make the decision to tell her off if she thinks of coming back.

He could bare his friend being decieitful but shouldn't stand his girlfriend being disloyal regardless of age difference.

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Re: I Think I’m Right About My Decision by Imuno(m): 7:28pm On Feb 17, 2020
Thank you very much sirs
For all your advices
I will strictly adhere to all of them
Thank you and God bless you

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Re: I Think I’m Right About My Decision by WhiZTiM(m): 7:46pm On Feb 17, 2020
LOGOBELT:

....
I use to do bye bye sex before, but I don't anymore the moment it almost finished me.

Mind sharing how it almost finished you?
Thank you

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