MrBrownJay1:


i am not dismissing the fact that women should know exactly what they want in life (and from men) in their late 20s early 30s, i have a problem when you believe that within 1,5yr they should know for certain if their man possesses it, and also that men should be dismissed if they havent shown it yet.

r/ship can be difficult to master, so men can take more time than others to open up, some men may need more time to make such drastic decisions... you make the whole dating process feel like work. how can it even feel natural? the babe would be on her calendar thinking that her man need to act a certain way by 18months, if not he will be deemed NO good. come on bro!

the above is what DESPERATE women would do....and we all know that desperation is a bad trait when thinking of r/ship

MadeINchenzen2:

Ladies: Mid/late 20's & U're Still Dating A Guy For 5 Yrs, U Are On Your Own!

On a more serious note. It dosent make any sense!

MadeINchenzen2:
usually I expect the smart ladies in this platform to know well enough that the start and definitive approach of a relationship is the beginning of that relationship.

He has to align with ur cravings... if he s looking for a side chick or a bed mate or a girlfriend but what u want is a companion and a life partner, You better run !!!

run for ur life!!!



typing...

XhosaNostra:


I agree with your assertion, however, commitment doesn't come easy for some ladies, as well. Fears may play into it.

A couple of days ago I was having a conversation with another lady, slightly younger than myself & a newlywed. During our discussion she was staring at me as if she's psycho analyzing me or something. This made me feel very uncomfortable. Anyway, out of the blue she said I'm going to have a "church wedding" & I'm going to be "very happy with the person". I just laughed it off because honestly, it's not an idea I've entertained very much. I still have a hard time imagining it because I'm a shy person, so any event where I'd be the center of attention would be out of my comfort zone. There're other reasons why it's a scary thought, but I don't wanna get into that.
About two hours later, I'm sitting at home, on my phone. Suddenly I felt this wave of anxiety. At 1st I couldn't place where it was coming from, so I'm sitting there going through my emotions, trying to figure out why I was feeling that way. It finally dawned on me that it's the marriage talk I had with her that was making me feel uneasy. It scared me shìtless It's not that I cannot be faithful, because I can. It's the fear of making a wrong choice (in a spouse) & of course, fear of the unknown. People can be deceitful.

MadeINchenzen2:
Hell yeah!!! people will always hide their dark sides, especially those who seeks to exploit!

I usually preach faithfulness in marriages and purposeful short, direct, decisive and definitive relationships.

trust and faithfulness are core ingredients found in the illusions of Romantic love.

And trust me!

ladies shouldn't place themselves in that bondage cos most of the time, chance are 75% gets hurt.

ubunja:
my sister scammed an old ex into marrying her after getting pregnant for another guy she lived with for years.
You can't last one day with her. She's a master. This thing runs in the family.

XhosaNostra:


Hmmmm...

What bondage are you speaking of?

MadeINchenzen2:
soul ties, sentiments which some may call LOVE.

When u get too attached, u let ur feelings fly sparingly... so therefore making a decision clearly with ur head always becomes difficult because u ll always have that sentimental feelings in ur way

XhosaNostra:


So what's your suggestion? That we conduct these things stoically without any emotion? Sounds weird & unfulfilling.

MadeINchenzen2:
PROTECT YOURSELF

This is very important.

Never ever, Never ever and never ever leave yourself hanging without an option.

Life is a risk, meaning there are no assurances... the signs can be good, he possibly could have told u how much he loves and wants to marry u... make no mistakes about that and do not be carried away by love(sentiment)... u av to connect ur brains with ur feeling...

@ ur early, mid or late 20s...Chances are, u have 5 guys asking u out every week... 2 is badly talking about marriage while 3 maybe talking about a relationship....

Now here s what u do!!!

Lead all 5 of them ON

dnt scare them away... let them all compete and kill themselves over u in the end u just have to pick the best out of the pack

MrBrownJay1:


so you mean to say that late 20s women in r/ship must have a clear picture of where they are going with a man, after 1-1.5yrs, even when we all know that all r/ships are not the same (aka some are slow and others are more difficult to figure out)?
what if they need more time to evaluate what they desire/need? what if they still dont know each other fully within 1.5yr? should they throw away what they have? you are making it seem like there is a timeline for dating, while any person in a r/ship fully well know there aint really any.

the reason why so many people are failing in marriage is because they rush into things they are not fully able to master.... the minute anyone puts a timeline on such issues, they've already failed. you should only marry someone if you are 110% sure that you want to spend the rest of your life with them...and if you are not sure about it after 1.5yr, then you should take all the time you need until you figure that out (instead of dismissing that person)

the sad part in what you wrote is that, you seem to believe that all men are so predictable....

MadeINchenzen2:
If a lady can take charge of her emotions rather than being a slave to it why not.

MadeINchenzen2:
If a lady can take charge of her emotions rather than being a slave to it why not.

funmisticqueen2:
what did you drink this week?
I need some

XhosaNostra:

I see your point lol.

MadeINchenzen2:
PROTECT YOURSELF

This is very important.

Never ever, Never ever and never ever leave yourself hanging without an option.

Life is a risk, meaning there are no assurances... the signs can be good, he possibly could have told u how much he loves and wants to marry u... make no mistakes about that and do not be carried away by love(sentiment)... u av to connect ur brains with ur feeling...

@ ur early, mid or late 20s...Chances are, u have 5 guys asking u out every week... 2 is badly talking about marriage while 3 maybe talking about a relationship....

Now here s what u do!!!

Lead all 5 of them ON

dnt scare them away... let them all compete and kill themselves over u in the end u just have to pick the best out of the pack

Abuventure:
that is the reason some women are not yet married. Life is too precious to gamble with.

chinchonglee:

Send her again to me na

Yxxx:


How do you trick especially for women who are i doing well and kind of find it difficult to ask?

ubunja:
you never ask a man for money. That will put off any man. Unless it's your father.

You finesse men.

If you really wanna know the gold diggers Game go to YouTube and find SheraSeven1 and Michaela Pink. They'll put you on your hustle. Especially Shera.

For The very basics read my writeup: "How Women Gold Dig You". It's for guys. But you'll get the idea of how other women are playing the game.

But you don't ask. You scam. But the scams will only work is the guy loves you more than you like him. He has to be besotted with you. And especially has to be older. Because older men are more trickable.

ubunja:
you never ask a man for money. That will put off any man. Unless it's your father.

You finesse men.

If you really wanna know the gold diggers Game go to YouTube and find SheraSeven1 and Michaela Pink. They'll put you on your hustle. Especially Shera.

For The very basics read my writeup: "How Women Gold Dig You". It's for guys. But you'll get the idea of how other women are playing the game.

But you don't ask. You scam. But the scams will only work is the guy loves you more than you like him. He has to be besotted with you. And especially has to be older. Because older men are more trickable.

Yxxx:

Thank you.

funmisticqueen2:
A man, who sees the woman of his dreams will not waste time. Forget all this stories that touch.

When a man is not rêtarded, why will it take him more than a year to decide that this is the woman I want to marry? It only takes a moment to make a decision.

Jacob saw Rachel and decided that he wanted her right away. if not for Laban's stipulations, he wouldn't have waited 14 years for her.

Ladies, if a man tells you, let's see where it goes, or let's take time to know each other, while his penis is only knowing your vagina and not your personality. Just delegate him to the last number on your list of toasters and give the more serious ones more of your time. Or better still friendzone him.

Your pussy is fuckboy free.

Michellekabod2:
I disagree,that is a woman knowing what she wants.
The problem with relationships is that people don't know what they want from it. They enter assuming their partner is in their mind to know their intentions. If a lady is decisive enough to know what she wants(marriage) how has she become desperate?
If a man has said nothing about marriage after 6-9 months then its best you move on with your life.

funmisticqueen2:
A man, who sees the woman of his dreams will not waste time. Forget all this stories that touch.

When a man is not rêtarded, why will it take him more than a year to decide that this is the woman I want to marry? It only takes a moment to make a decision.

Jacob saw Rachel and decided that he wanted her right away. if not for Laban's stipulations, he wouldn't have waited 14 years for her.

Ladies, if a man tells you, let's see where it goes, or let's take time to know each other, while his penis is only knowing your vagina and not your personality. Just delegate him to the last number on your list of toasters and give the more serious ones more of your time. Or better still friendzone him.

MrBrownJay1:


i guess in your world, a man's "woman of his dream" will be written on this babe's forehead, abi?
i guess in your world, a man's "woman of his dream" is so easy to find that men can just find such woman at every street corner, abi?
i guess in your world, a man's "woman of his dream" will be easy to stop all her quality/character (to confirm that she is indeed the woman of his dream) after a few good dates, abi?
i guess in your world, a man's "woman of his dream" keeps countless toasters on speed dial (as you claim below), abi?!



its not only foolish but also VERY DANGEROUS to claim that within a year, a man "must" make a decision as to whether he wants to marry someone or not. it will takes no less than a year for that woman to relax and be herself, with no pretense etc. it will take no less than a year to possibly see a true character, it will take no less than a year to probably see her true face (without make up and mop on her head, it will take him no less than a year to see the true nature of such woman....yet you expect men to make decision within that year when (by then) they are possibly still dating a stranger?! come on, you must be a comedian or very desperate. can you truly decide to marry a man you barely know (aka just 1year)... how desperate must one be to do such madness?!



biblical gibberish....



you 1st mistake here is to actually think that to get to know someone you MUST give away your vagina. by all means, if thats the only thing someone has to offer then fair enough, but there are many other ways to know/discover someone.
your 2nd mistake is to believe that keeping countless of toasters on speed dial is a great way to live, while instead it is the same reason that has the man in life doubt that you are a great woman to marry. this is surely one of the worst character/trait you can possess and the exact same reason as to why MEN NEED TIME TO DISCOVER WOMEN. i guess in your world, its not about the man but about marrying "any" donkey out there, thus the reason why you would keep toaster on speed dial and expect your BF to make decision to marry you. lol highly laughable.
your final mistake on this issue is to believe that women can act like good for nothing wh0res (having multiple men on speed dial)... and attract anything other than fukcboys.

Michellekabod2:
I disagree,that is a woman knowing what she wants.
The problem with relationships is that people don't know what they want from it. They enter assuming their partner is in their mind to know their intentions. If a lady is decisive enough to know what she wants(marriage) how has she become desperate?
If a man has said nothing about marriage after 6-9 months then its best you move on with your life.

MrBrownJay1:


i guess in your world, a man's "woman of his dream" will be written on this babe's forehead, abi?
i guess in your world, a man's "woman of his dream" is so easy to find that men can just find such woman at every street corner, abi?
i guess in your world, a man's "woman of his dream" will be easy to stop all her quality/character (to confirm that she is indeed the woman of his dream) after a few good dates, abi?
i guess in your world, a man's "woman of his dream" keeps countless toasters on speed dial (as you claim below), abi?!



its not only foolish but also VERY DANGEROUS to claim that within a year, a man "must" make a decision as to whether he wants to marry someone or not. it will takes no less than a year for that woman to relax and be herself, with no pretense etc. it will take no less than a year to possibly see a true character, it will take no less than a year to probably see her true face (without make up and mop on her head, it will take him no less than a year to see the true nature of such woman....yet you expect men to make decision within that year when (by then) they are possibly still dating a stranger?! come on, you must be a comedian or very desperate. can you truly decide to marry a man you barely know (aka just 1year)... how desperate must one be to do such madness?!



biblical gibberish....



you 1st mistake here is to actually think that to get to know someone you MUST give away your vagina. by all means, if thats the only thing someone has to offer then fair enough, but there are many other ways to know/discover someone.
your 2nd mistake is to believe that keeping countless of toasters on speed dial is a great way to live, while instead it is the same reason that has the man in life doubt that you are a great woman to marry. this is surely one of the worst character/trait you can possess and the exact same reason as to why MEN NEED TIME TO DISCOVER WOMEN. i guess in your world, its not about the man but about marrying "any" donkey out there, thus the reason why you would keep toaster on speed dial and expect your BF to make decision to marry you. lol highly laughable.
your final mistake on this issue is to believe that women can act like good for nothing wh0res (having multiple men on speed dial)... and attract anything other than fukcboys.

MadeINchenzen2:
PROTECT YOURSELF
This is very important.

Never ever, Never ever and never ever leave yourself hanging without an option.

Life is a risk, meaning there are no assurances... the signs can be good, he possibly could have told u how much he loves and wants to marry u... make no mistakes about that and do not be carried away by love(sentiment)... u av to connect ur brains with ur feeling...

@ ur early, mid or late 20s...Chances are, u have 5 guys asking u out every week... 2 is badly talking about marriage while 3 maybe talking about a relationship....

Now here s what u do!!!

Lead all 5 of them ON

dnt scare them away... let them all compete and kill themselves over u in the end u just have to pick the best out of the pack