The kind of rejection some guys receive, "can block phone network". Very painful and abandoning rejection.

The best way to propose is to first make the lady all over you, need you so much, suggest marriage to you, before you ever propose. If a lady does not suggest or stylishly suggest marriage to you, do not propose at all. If you want to risk proposing at all cost, you can do it in your closet, instead of the public.

The best way to avoid it is not to do it in public. Period. That in itself is embarrassing. Attracting unnecessary attention & putting pressure on her, as well, because all eyes are on you guys. I bet some ladies say no because of that. You have to familiarize yourself with the kind of person she is before making a spectacle.

A number of these public proposals are just performances. They rehearsed before coming out to entertain us.


If you must propose, make sure she is deserving. Why? Cos you are actually doing her a favour by rescuing her from spinsterhood. You are giving her the respect that comes with bearing your name and bearing your children.

When you ask her to marry, I don’t think it is out of place for her to get down on her two knees to say thank you while accepting the ring. You are the benefactor here. Whatever you do, don’t kneel. You’re the man.

No offence.

AfroKnight:
A number of these public proposals are just performances. They rehearsed before coming out to entertain us.


If you must propose, make sure she is deserving. Why? Cos you are actually doing her a favour by rescuing her from spinsterhood. You are giving her the respect that comes with bearing your name and bearing your children.

When you ask her to marry, I don’t think it is out of place for her to get down on her two knees to say thank you while accepting the ring. You are the benefactor here. Whatever you do, don’t kneel. You’re the man.

Lol na wa o these your points no be here o.. But I believe that before a guy goes on to make a proposal he must have known it already that the lady is ready to marry him....

cassbeat:
Lol na wa o these your points no be here o.. But I believe that before a guy goes on to make a proposal he must have known it already that the lady is ready to marry him....

Lol. You are right. Don’t mind all these guys that think they can propose without informing and getting the consent of the girl. You and the girl must have been discussing room decorations and colours and even number of children before proposing. If she keeps avoiding such discussions, a reasonable guy should not propose. It will end in premium embarrassment.

XhosaNostra:
The best way to avoid it is not to do it in public. Period. That in itself is embarrassing. Attracting unnecessary attention & putting pressure on her, as well, because all eyes are on you guys. I bet some ladies say no because of that. You have to familiarize yourself with the kind of person she is before making a spectacle.

Let her do the proposing final

Crave for attention, social media hype and unnecessary ostentation has sucked the brain out of many. I can't imagine proposing to my woman in public and in full glare of people who we don't know Nd will end up posting our pictures online to people who we still don't know. Even if I'm certain she will accept, I never will try that foolishness. What exactly is the point.
Proposals should be private moments. God forbid I try that nonsense.

freedomest:
The kind of rejection some guys receive, "can block phone network". Very painful and abandoning rejection.

The best way to propose is to first make the lady all over you, need you so much, suggest marriage to you, before you ever propose. If a lady does not suggest or stylishly suggest marriage to you, do not propose at all. If you want to risk proposing at all cost, you can do it in your closet, instead of the public.

Is there any tangible reason why people choose public proposals? Do you know?

Mandelus:

Let her do the proposing final

Looooool.

AfroKnight:


Lol. You are right. Don’t mind all these guys that think they can propose without informing and getting the consent of the girl. You and the girl must have been discussing room decorations and colours and even number of children before proposing. If she keeps avoiding such discussions, a reasonable guy should not propose. It will end in premium embarrassment.

So true bro..

Oyinbos stupid lifestyle is the norm for Africans, we always copy everything they do including the wrong things they do

I cannot imagine the embrassment of girls rejecting engagement proposal. Why dating a guy you Know you cannot get married to?