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Re: She Wants A Maid I Don't Like by Nobody: 5:25pm On Dec 21, 2010 |
emmatok: I am NOT crucifying him oh. Why would I? Like you said, I'm no saint. But when I do something wrong, I admit to it and not expect a pat on the back. True, attraction is NOT a choice, but acting on it. The man doesn't want the girl around because he won't be able to control his urges against her. Abeg how is that a good thing? |
Re: She Wants A Maid I Don't Like by damipaul(m): 5:35pm On Dec 21, 2010 |
ping pong: @op - I dont understand the language you wrote there but I hope you were not hard on CC and Uju. We learn everyday. Its good it turned out well for you. Wish your wife safe delivery. I wasn't hard on them. Really want to thank the guys that contributed on this thread, was expecting bashings and insults as expected of Nairalanders, got some though, but they were fair enough, all the arguments here have been creative. Cc was very right when she said what works for A might not work for B and that was the msg behind my 'nko tio ye yi poju nto yeyi lo'. @Uju, tell us honestly what goes thru ur mind when u'r in a car with ur Bf and one hot blonde crosses the road and u behold ur bf gazing longingly at the blonde as she crosses? U really need to understand how men are wired, a lady is a lady, be it a mech,maid,secretary etc. No matter the satisfaction we get from our wives, parners, we're bound to 'look out' and the way u guy's dress makes matters worse! David, a man after God's heart, Married, Saw a babe bathing, the image hunted him till he did 'it'. It's grace my dear, not discipline! |
Re: She Wants A Maid I Don't Like by breathless(m): 5:37pm On Dec 21, 2010 |
Bros Poster, hold ground enter ground. No bulge o. Let her bone u 4 as long as she can. Na u know ursef. No gree. Better b called names here n collect insult than cos ya sef monumental & humonguous yawa l8r. All d best |
Re: She Wants A Maid I Don't Like by invisible2(m): 5:45pm On Dec 21, 2010 |
Ujujoan: You didnt answer Dayokanu's question; If your husband gets a security man, a young male, hansome and well mannered, a hunk of a guy, with well shaped lips, the type that can munch your privates with serious alacrity, and your Gspot gets ticklish each time he passes, worse still he licks his lips as he stares at your cleavage during the introduction. Do you tell your husby how wet you get when he passes or just ask him to get another security man? |
Re: She Wants A Maid I Don't Like by tpia1: 5:46pm On Dec 21, 2010 |
You husband might not be messing around with your help but that doesn't mean that your help isn't doing things like walking around half clothed or in a wrapper or towel in front of oga when madam is out. very correct. it's called opportunity. why knowingly subject the guy to such torture. how many men can stand being teased like that every other day. urges arent always under our conscious control. and nowadays when every girl has a low cut top that exposes her full frontal assets. Haba!!! make oga just dey watch free video outside of cable. |
Re: She Wants A Maid I Don't Like by dayokanu(m): 5:52pm On Dec 21, 2010 |
Ujujoan: Acting on attraction is not 100% voluntary either. If a guy wants to quit smoking, Should he go and sit in the midst of smokers?. The guy admitted that this is a 18yr old pretty girl and he did the right thing which is to avoid her coming near. Ujujoan: How has he failed his wife? By being attracted to another girl? So if you are attracted to another man you have failed your boyfriend/Husband? Help me understand. The issue for me is 'is he right by being attracted to a teenager or not? To the extent that he can't control himself'? I don't think he is and the only way to redeem himself is to ask himself why a little girl can threathen his marriage because that is NOT normal. His poor wife on the other hand needs to know that her husband is lusting after little girls. She deserves to know that her marriage is in trouble! Is he right to be attracted to a female apart from his wife YES, Is he right to avoid the scenario from degenerating ABSOLUTELY YES. Uju, If you are attracted to another man aside your boyfriend, have you commited a sin? I dont think so. If you dont try to avoid the likelihood of committing the sin and end up doing IT, Then you are wrong But even if he's too ashamed to tell her, I think she deserves more than an insensitive 'I don't like her'! Give suggestions on possible explanation that your BF can give to you in such instance that would suffice. |
Re: She Wants A Maid I Don't Like by Claus(m): 6:02pm On Dec 21, 2010 |
pslm23: Any guy intending to remain faithful to his wife might as well give up now. It turns out we only have a 1% chance of success! |
Re: She Wants A Maid I Don't Like by Ranoscky(m): 6:13pm On Dec 21, 2010 |
Strait:It's DEFFINITLY not what you think, and your theory is way OFF the topic! Ujujoan:No doubt, some pipu thinks that 1's som1 says "I DO" in front of the alter, he or she is nomore humaned by blood. So, are you tryin to tell me that your boyfriend doesn't feel lust when he sees other attractive and sexy gals passin by? My dear, the below is the best answer, not by power nor might! dami_paul: Nothin more than that! |
Re: She Wants A Maid I Don't Like by Nobody: 6:28pm On Dec 21, 2010 |
You guys I'm using my fone so I can't really quote. @ Dayo Why are acting like the man has absolutely no choice. Is it because it's a prospective HH and he can refuse to hire her? What it were his colleague in the office, will he resign? If it were his neighbour's daughter will he relocate? I'm not to sure I get you people's argument. That a married man living in a house with a hot chick is justified if he sleeps with her? Are you guys saying you are animals and have absolutely no control over ur sexual urges You know my BF and I belong to this social club. Actually, he was a member before we started dating and I just recently joined. I noticed that one of the waitresses at the bar has a crush on him. And he kind of favours her too (if you know what I mean). Now I know she's pretty and lots of the club members want to sleep with her, but I trust my bf enough to know that he can't stoop that low. Do you know why? Because he didn't even bother denying it when I accused him of 'liking' her. He said to me, 'of course I find her attractive, she's pretty '! Am I supposed to ban him from visiting the club? I'm just saying that sometimes, telling the truth is not a bad thing. I keep saying that he failed his wife because in his mind, this girl is now so improtant that he can't even admit to a mere attraction to his wife. But of cos, the attraction is not 'mere'. @ invincible such a scenario can NEVER happen to me. But if it did, I'll jokingly tell my husband that his driver is cute and might be difficult to resist. If that doesn't do the trick, I'll lie and tell him that the guy was 'cutting eye for me' during the interviw! if that still doesn't do it, I'll find a way to keep my libido in check. I wont let my husband loose someone he truly likes because I'm an ashewo! |
Re: She Wants A Maid I Don't Like by dayokanu(m): 6:43pm On Dec 21, 2010 |
A HH is much more easier than a colleague at work, What are the chances that you would see your colleague at work in towels or what are the chances of him seeing his neighbours daughter on the couch sleeping with thighs open?. Moreover a colleague at work can decline your overtures but how many HH can decline? A married man living in the same house with a hot chic most likely would be tempted, And its best for him to avoid the scene than try to fight the temptation. Ujujoan: Why has he failed his wife, Some women here have even admitted that they would feel bad if their husband should admit something like that. The man knows his wife might be someone like that and he can predict her reaction. Find example of a female post below where she said she would react in the way the man predicted his wife would. Abekeade08 (f) Some wife wont even see anything bad in their husband telling them he branched at an Ashi joint just before coming home while a lot would raise HELL. Shebi some people have open marriages because both spouses can deal with it, The man knows his wife cant deal with such revelation without repeating it over and over @ invincible We know Uju is superhuman But if it did, I'll jokingly tell my husband that his driver is cute and might be difficult to resist. If that doesn't do the trick, I'll lie and tell him that the guy was 'cutting eye for me' during the interviw! if that still doesn't do it, I'll find a way to keep my libido in check. I wont let my husband loose someone he truly likes because I'm an ashewo! We know you are superhuman, We are actually talking about mere mortals who can fall into temptations like most of us. |
Re: She Wants A Maid I Don't Like by Claus(m): 7:07pm On Dec 21, 2010 |
Ujujoan Picture your bf as your husband Picture the barmaid as your housegirl Picture a day when you're at work and your husband couldn't go to work so it's just him and pretty lady with mutual attraction at home. It's possible nothing will happen, but, |
Re: She Wants A Maid I Don't Like by Busybody2(f): 7:09pm On Dec 21, 2010 |
Welcome to the family section and its two-faced contributors. It is a man's World, especially in Nigeria, so If I was this same decent OP, I would not bother myself, and would employ that girl and let the wifey deal with the consequences, or why did she bother enlisting your help only to start sulking and stop talking to you because you didn't like her choice Pssssffft This same people criticising the man for having no self-control and lambasting and berrating him for not telling his wife, are the same people, whom if the wife came to open a thread saying her hubby is having or attempting to start an affair, will tell her to be more submissive and start wearing sexy lingerie and start seducing and start cooking and start praying and not allow the devil to destroy her marriage, etc. Na wa oh I am deffo coming as a Naija man next time Seems they have all the fun @ OP If you are not man enough to put your foot down, then spin her some cock and bull story about how you prefer elderly women with kids who would be able to impart some of the hands-on experience and real life experience they have garnered on your children, and not a wet behind the ears 18 year old You should be commended for putting your hands up jare, and acknowledging your own weakness Here is what your wifey is setting up for herself: culled from here: https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-414603.0.html#msg5807300 Fi ori ejo/oka ho imu Lit Trans: Using the head of snake/cobra/mamba to scratch/pick the nose Meaning: Playing/trivilaizing something very dangerous/serious/deadly. Fi ina si orule sun Lit Trans: Setting the roof ablaze and going to bed (of same house) Meaning: Being nonchalant/careless about something that can easily get out of hand or cause great harm. |
Re: She Wants A Maid I Don't Like by pingpong1: 7:13pm On Dec 21, 2010 |
Are you guys saying you are animals and have absolutely no control over your sexual urges Yes, Yes and yes for the 100th time |
Re: She Wants A Maid I Don't Like by dayokanu(m): 7:17pm On Dec 21, 2010 |
Busy_body: Come and spend the holidays with me so I can teach you/make you a Naija man |
Re: She Wants A Maid I Don't Like by harakiri(m): 7:22pm On Dec 21, 2010 |
@Ujujoan I bump into your posts on NL every now and then and i enjoy reading stuff from you but from my view point, you're being way over your head with this one. . . I am not married (fortunately) but if i were to be married tomorrow and intend remaining faithful to my wife, the last thing i need is unnecessary "temptations". The poster in question intends keeping it 100 with his wife and is doing everything within his power to keep it so. He is a human being and not a block of wood. All this "it's a crying shame he can't keep it in his pants" talk you're spewing all over here is monumental crap (excuse my language but i've read a lil too much from you on this thread). We are all human beings and like a lady (like yourself) said earlier on this thread, being married doesn't make anyone blind.And mind you, the poster indicated that his wife is 34 weeks pregnant! ! ! Picture the guys condition for one sec. . . All this "21st century/We should all be secure and mature" talk is arrant nonsense. Behind all the "civil facade" we all try to put up, we are all total ANIMALS deep down, so please. . . cut the crap talk! ! ! Okay? Thanks. Merry Xmas! |
Re: She Wants A Maid I Don't Like by Busybody2(f): 7:26pm On Dec 21, 2010 |
James 1:14 enjoins one to recognize one's tendency toward sin, tempted by our own fleshly desires. 1 Corinthians 10:13. enjoins one to run away from the temptation. You are doing both, so you are on the right path. |
Re: She Wants A Maid I Don't Like by tpia1: 7:27pm On Dec 21, 2010 |
That a married or unmarried man living in a house with a hot chick little correction. key words to be noted here are: man living in a house everything else is by the way. |
Re: She Wants A Maid I Don't Like by armyofone(m): 7:35pm On Dec 21, 2010 |
BB, don carry bible lol, how are you |
Re: She Wants A Maid I Don't Like by Ranoscky(m): 8:16pm On Dec 21, 2010 |
Ujujoan: Kudos to your boyfriend for not stoopin so low in liein to you, but, now, imagine that waitress being your HM, and your boyfriend was at home (day off) and such crush occurs accidentaly while you were out for work, what do you think would happen next? . . .Just like I said before, kudos to your boyfriend for not 'stoopin so low' in liein to you, but, do you think after juicin the waitress/HM, he would stil be stoopin high? . . .How are you sure that he (your bf) is not busy somewhere juicin another gal? And you said 'such scenario can NEVER happen to you'. Ya, I know, b'cos, it's ACID that runs thru your vain! Tell you what, it's your type that goes out with cheaters, and you'll think you goin out with a responsible guy! |
Re: She Wants A Maid I Don't Like by Busybody2(f): 8:18pm On Dec 21, 2010 |
dayokanu: Er . . .hope I have not put my foot in it . . . er . . . no harm in still trying, so here goes . . . er . . . can we postpone that part where i become a man until i land in yankee . . . as for now i still be Naija woman so you need to send me money for airfare, hotels, money for kabukabu to MMA, money to get my hair done as I nor want make dem think say i be JJC as well as some coins to buy some winter gear please And then its game, set and match Ha i can't wait, and finally I will hear the last of all those false derogatory talks about naija women's love for money and stop chopping insults for our longthroat and grab grab mentality And ladies hide your daughters too cos I intend living life to the full as a man, i must revenge and conquer armyofone: Lol i dey kampe jare Hauwa, I dey jealous you though, infact envy nor dey let me sleep All those sinewy, rippled, toned, tanned, muscled. . . ojigbijigbi God is good But i know there is no point as I would fail all the fitness tests and even if put through would be discharged within weeks for oogling and flirting and shamelessly pursuing all the men See there is this Pastor Agu Ironsi of Jesus House, a Redeem Church, who was preaching one day about the congregation needing to pray for them due to all the temptations they face from jezebel ladies. He said they use to have problems with some female who visit the office wearing the tightest and miniest of the minis and then proceed to sit down whilst spreading their legs with everything on show to seduce him and make him fall. . . Numerous pleas for these ladies to comport themselves fell on deaf ears and the Church decided to always have someone else in the room to chaperone him and curtail these girls' excesses. This na big time Pastor who recognises that he is flesh oh, talkless of mere mortals. |
Re: She Wants A Maid I Don't Like by Busybody2(f): 8:24pm On Dec 21, 2010 |
***rubbing eyes furiously, i must be hallucinating to think I saw LadyT's comment on this thread*** Ranoscky: Nah, she couldn't have meant "her boyfriend wouldn't stoop low to lie", its either "her boyfriend wouldn't stoop low to cheat on her at all" or "her boyfriend wouldn't stoop low to date that mere waitress inspite of her bangable body and pretty face with come to bed eyes", yeah thats it |
Re: She Wants A Maid I Don't Like by rasputinn(m): 8:58pm On Dec 21, 2010 |
So many responses but rome's on page 1 happens to be the most useless IMO |
Re: She Wants A Maid I Don't Like by Nobody: 10:19pm On Dec 21, 2010 |
Well, didn't mean it like that, but the truth be told, is there any man born of woman that can boast of having a perfect control of his AP? Learning to control your circumstance, not putting urself in very tempting environment/situation is the best way to control the AP, which is what I do and I'm doing in this situation. i can truly respect that. you are honest with yourself, which is great. i think your wife should be able to respect that, too. i would tell her. |
Re: She Wants A Maid I Don't Like by Nobody: 10:46pm On Dec 21, 2010 |
@CC n all single ladies in her line of thought, 'nkan ti o ye yi poju eyi to ye yi lo'. Like someone said on this thread, we'll wait til u guys get married, u'll know then that Marriage is not big grammar, it's not just all words. Been monitoring the thread and I'd like to tell u all that we've reached a compromise. My wife's reason for earlier insisting I took the maid was not because of her distrust n not just because of my straight 'No'answer, her mum satified the maid, her aunt also told my wife that the maid was the best they could get, saying she's (the aunt)known the maid from childhood. My wife's challenge was going back to her parents without a cogent reason for the maid's rejection. The mum called me on the matter and I still told her the same thing I told my wife (that I don't want the maid). I personally don't know her family's interest, I do know they want our good sha, that's why I've told them to keep searching. For the record, my wife's not lazy, she's 34weeks preg, you know how it is with preg women. ah, didn't know she was pregnant. then you made the right call. |
Re: She Wants A Maid I Don't Like by LadyT(f): 10:55pm On Dec 21, 2010 |
invisible!: WOW! LMAO |
Re: She Wants A Maid I Don't Like by tpia1: 4:14am On Dec 22, 2010 |
^you no go remove your eyes from that post? better do so before you jump on your SO because of this thread nah. @ topic i can imagine the wife singing "we're both in this togeether, yeah" meanwhile the man is looking sideways at the maid and going "what's love got to do with it", or "I want it thaat way". |
Re: She Wants A Maid I Don't Like by roymary: 5:13am On Dec 22, 2010 |
Oh Nigga please!!! What will you tell your wife That the maid set well well? That will be ridiculous because the poor woman will feel the maid is more appealing than she is. Na wa o! I never saw a sexy maid. We always buy clothes and deodorants for ours. Never found any appealing even when tipsy. I just pass. |
Re: She Wants A Maid I Don't Like by roymary: 5:17am On Dec 22, 2010 |
invisible!: Your hubby is in trouble. Can't afford to be myopic. You deserve serious spanking at this moment. |
Re: She Wants A Maid I Don't Like by Ranoscky(m): 6:06am On Dec 22, 2010 |
Busy_body:Any guy that can be able to recommend a gal with the statement below: Ujujoan:Pls, tell me what would happen if givin a slight opportunity? Now imagine Ujujoan and her husband wakin up in the mornin and met their housemaid soo damn sexy and Ujujoan jokinly accused her husband of findin the housemaid attractive, and her husband replied; "ofcourse I find her attractive, she's pretty!" And they both laughed off the matter (while Ujujoan was on her way to work). Immediately she leaves, what do you think would happen next? |
Re: She Wants A Maid I Don't Like by chika98: 6:33am On Dec 22, 2010 |
This is one of those topics that is rather difficult to say this is right or wrong. Both sides have a valid point. At the end of the day the OP knows the sort of wife he has at home and the truths she can handle. Let's all agree to disagree on this one. Each marriage varies and people see things differently. I however under no circumstances will employ a good looking young woman to come and live with me. If I were married I'd know my husband will have self constraint but I rather not bring temptation home with me. |
Re: She Wants A Maid I Don't Like by dayokanu(m): 6:36am On Dec 22, 2010 |
HMM Chika, WHere have you been all these while? |
Re: She Wants A Maid I Don't Like by chika98: 6:38am On Dec 22, 2010 |
Dayo! How na? Merry Xmas to you o! I have been MIA for a while. I pop in every now and then |
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