Eggshells:
Hello my fellow nairalanders...
Ive been an ardent follower of this forum for quite some time now and only joined yesterday to share something that has been bothering me for some time now.

My fiance and I were in the same state Enugu, nmaku precisely before I relocated to Lagos to work with my uncle. This was in September last year.
Initially we were communicating like everyday but as time went on, work became very tedious that I reduced to like once in three days.to which he saw reasons and understood.

Problem now is, he called early Feb to tell me to either quit my uncles job or forget about our relationship... I was shocked and didn't know what to say. so I told him to give me some time to give him feedback. But now, I don't know what to tell him cos I need the job and we have come a long way and he called me last week saying this first week of March is the dead line...
Please what should I do? I'm in a fix now.

Thanks in advance for your responses.
Insults are not welcomed please.

SavageBoy:


What will happen after you quit?

will he give you another job?

Have you tried discussing things with him to know why he's asking you to quit?Is it because of the distance,or is there something else?

True love should be understanding, selfless and patient.

If the love he has for you is genuine and the reason for your working with your uncle is also serious and genuine, he'll try working things out.

If he still insists on you leaving the job without any tangible reason and has refused to work things out,and he's still insists on you choosing between the relationship and the job.Then you had better leave the relationship jejely

Or else you'll end up losing at both ends.
That's my own 1cent

chatinent:
Can he pay you monthly salaries at equilibrium to what you earn? If he can't, ignore that judas who wants to ruin your life using marriage as subterfuge.

Owiii:
This is a dilemma. Are you willing to let go of the relationship because of the job or you are willing to let go of the job because of the relationship? Besides what kind of job will keep you away not to speak with him for two days if you love him as claimed? Choose wisely!!!!

chatinent:
Can he pay you monthly salaries at equilibrium to what you earn? If he can't, ignore that judas who wants to ruin your life using marriage as subterfuge.

Eggshells:
Hello my fellow nairalanders...
Ive been an ardent follower of this forum for quite some time now and only joined yesterday to share something that has been bothering me for some time now.

My fiance and I were in the same state Enugu, nmaku precisely before I relocated to Lagos to work with my uncle. This was in September last year.
Initially we were communicating like everyday but as time went on, work became very tedious that I reduced to like once in three days.to which he saw reasons and understood.

Problem now is, he called early Feb to tell me to either quit my uncles job or forget about our relationship... I was shocked and didn't know what to say. so I told him to give me some time to give him feedback. But now, I don't know what to tell him cos I need the job and we have come a long way and he called me last week saying this first week of March is the dead line...
Please what should I do? I'm in a fix now.

Thanks in advance for your responses.
Insults are not welcomed please.

GAZZUZZ:


Define uncle.

Eggshells:
Hello my fellow nairalanders...
Ive been an ardent follower of this forum for quite some time now and only joined yesterday to share something that has been bothering me for some time now.

My fiance and I were in the same state Enugu, nmaku precisely before I relocated to Lagos to work with my uncle. This was in September last year.
Initially we were communicating like everyday but as time went on, work became very tedious that I reduced to like once in three days.to which he saw reasons and understood.

Problem now is, he called early Feb to tell me to either quit my uncles job or forget about our relationship... I was shocked and didn't know what to say. so I told him to give me some time to give him feedback. But now, I don't know what to tell him cos I need the job and we have come a long way and he called me last week saying this first week of March is the dead line...
Please what should I do? I'm in a fix now.

Thanks in advance for your responses.
Insults are not welcomed please.

Rita5:


Hmmm...

I can't really advice you as I am not in your shoes. I don't have the same level of emotional attachment you share for the guy. So my only advice as a result will be to stick with your job.

But since you're the one with the shoes, you have to decide which is more important to you. You job or the guy? Nothing wrong with which ever decision you make just make sure you seriously analyse things.

Even if you go back to him don't make the mistake of depending on him. Find another job, find your feet again. Try to be independent as much as possible.

I don't know why he wants you back so eagerly. Maybe he is scared of losing you or maybe he wants you closer for more intimate encounters. But be smart am sure you have plans and goals you want to achieve don't abandon them because a man asked you to. Many ladies are regretting that decision till today. But don't be too focus on your goals that you miss out on a really great guy.

Can't a compromise be reached? Say you go see him and vice versa once a month or once every two weeks? Can both of you try to get jobs closer to each other if possible in the same state? Honestly relationship isn't an authoritarian something. It takes two, so if he can't be flexible now on this. Can he be flexible about other things?

Best of luck really. I believe what ever decision you will make will be the right one.

Eggshells:
Hello my fellow nairalanders...
Ive been an ardent follower of this forum for quite some time now and only joined yesterday to share something that has been bothering me for some time now.

My fiance and I were in the same state Enugu, nmaku precisely before I relocated to Lagos to work with my uncle. This was in September last year.
Initially we were communicating like everyday but as time went on, work became very tedious that I reduced to like once in three days.to which he saw reasons and understood.

Problem now is, he called early Feb to tell me to either quit my uncles job or forget about our relationship... I was shocked and didn't know what to say. so I told him to give me some time to give him feedback. But now, I don't know what to tell him cos I need the job and we have come a long way and he called me last week saying this first week of March is the dead line...
Please what should I do? I'm in a fix now.

Thanks in advance for your responses.
Insults are not welcomed please.

Eggshells:
Thanks to everyone who commented with their beautiful advice. I appreciate.

He's my fiance. I think I'll try and tell him some of the things I picked from here and then watch him. There's no way im leaving my job for a man. Though I know distance would be a barrier but it can be worked out.

Thanks all. I appreciate you guys.

Idontgiveafuck2:
CONCORTED STORY FROM THE ATTENTION SEEKER.ASHIRAWEALTHY.ARDENT FOLLOWER INDEED. JUST TELLS US YOUR BOO FOUND OUT YOU WERE TRYING TO FOLLOW A NAIRALANDER AFTER TASTING HIS GBOLA AND ASK YOU TO DEACTIVATE YOUR ACCOUNT OR LOSE HIM.

Eggshells:



Come who are you? Why are you going about saying all this?
Oh... I think I saw you in one thread trying to abuse a girl and I stood in for her. I remember now.
Well say whatever you want, it all up to you.