Chi59:

You're on point. This incessant clamour for virgin wives just shows how fragile a lot of men's egos are in this country.
If you're not a virgin, then you don't deserve to marry one, except you just get lucky.

Then realise your deficiencies as a non virgin and quit drawing up unrealistic list of qualities your man must posess. Virginity signifies a sublime level of dignity and grace. Those bogus checklists might be tolerated from virgins but not from some.grossly damaged and defiled ladies.

Reverse Psychology.








This is like someone who rides a very rustic 4th hand car berating those who buy new cars (tear rubber) as been insecured and inexperienced in riding cars.

MrBrownJay1:


sadly i understand these men... they are so insecure that they need someone who is so clueless in the bedroom, that anything they will do to/with her, would be "marvelous". they are so insecure that they couldnt be with a woman that has already been with a man (that could possibly be better than them in the bedroom), they couldnt handle a woman who actually knows her way around in the bedroom and who knows what she wanted sexually. thats TOO MUCH of a woman for these cheap low self esteem insecure men.

You analogy is wrong and syllogically defective.


1) Being a virgin and having good characters are NOT mutually exclusive.

As a matter of fact, virgins these days are resilient ladies who can withstand peer pressure, greediness of most women and are likely to be more faithful.

2) The decision to chose a life partner is about SELF INTEREST.

I am surprised that you don't understand this.

Everybody consider their self interests first.

For some ladies, it's rich, handsome single men, even if such ladies are ugly and broke ladies.

It's the same reasons that even a single mother will still be hoping for an unmarried ,rich, educated and tall guys and will quickly turn down marriage proposals to be the third wives of some fifty year old Alhajis or butchers.

It's also the same reason why even bad people also desire good things to happen to them.

3) Non-virgin are not necessarily bad but they don't have the specification that some men want.

4) Non-virgins can NOT give you the once in a lifetime experience of defloweing your bride on your wedding day and beat your chest with pride before your friends and family that ' no man has ever known my wife before me'

MrBrownJay1:


you see, as this is NL, we would instead prefer that you gave us SOUND EXPLANATION/INFORMATION as to why a man would rather seek for a virgin than a woman with good character... OR why a man would be fukcing around for years but when it is time to get married, he would solely seek for a virgin OR what is so scary about a non virgin OR BETTER YET whats better about a virgin that non virgin do not possess?!?!?!

this is what NL is all about.... bring your valid intelligent point to this discussion.

Many men get annoyed and become embittered simply because their preferred women don't acceed to their requests for marriage because they didn't meet the women's specifications.

Arthur21s:

Why should ladies be pained by guy's spec? If they can trumpet out their spec without caring of how others will feel while should men be mute?

Yes I know those are horrible places to live but we're not talking about living there. I was merely pointing out the fact that in those societies they curb fornication in both genders. Not like hypocritical Nigeria where fornication is bad only when it's a girl that does it as if the men are fvcking themselves.

I've read articles on them in the past especially Saudi and Afghanistan but I can't place my hands on any now but if you search you'll surely find them.

Gerrard59:


As much as I applaud their chastity, those are among some of the horrible places to live. Why should fornicators be dealt with? Is it against the law to have pre-marital sex?

PS: It is not nice when you mention figures without supporting evidence. Where did you get the bold from? Which paper? Journal?

If you don't hold the same sentiments towards the men who do same then you my dear are a specimen of abysmally low IQ.

Amumaigwe:


Then realise your deficiencies as a non virgin and quit drawing up unrealistic list of qualities your man must posess. Virginity signifies a sublime level of dignity and grace. Those bogus checklists might be tolerated from virgins but not from some.grossly damaged and defiled ladies.

Chi59:

You're on point. This incessant clamour for virgin wives just shows how fragile a lot of men's egos are in this country.
If you're not a virgin, then you don't deserve to marry one, except you just get lucky.

Lol i laugh at this one. Virgins brides must be trophy-like which one has to deserve to marry or get lucky to marry. Either way a man who thinks highly of himself you know, like a king is who goes for the virgin bride.

kestolove95:
D kind shakara wey I dey use my virginity do en, its for my future husband nd I never meet am sef

are you sure?, HYMEN INTACT VIRGIN?

XhosaNostra:


For where? Not true at all. They're the biggest perverts who not only sleep around but watch mujra all day.

I bet you didn't know about the "other" side of Pakistani culture.

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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yiU3ZiuvbC0]

Porn exists everywhere.
It still doesn't stop the conservative culture of Pakistanis. There are perverts amongst them and paedophiles but they usually do so with foreign women/ children and not their own women/children.
Of course, there can't be an all or non thing, but majority respect their culture especially within their country.

eyinjuege:


Porn exists everywhere.
It still doesn't stop the conservative culture of Pakistanis. There are perverts amongst them and paedophiles but they usually do so with foreign women/ children and not their own women/children.
Of course, there can't be an all or non thing, but majority respect their culture especially within their country.

Then you don't know much about them.

Ryan03:
everyone is entitled to their opinion, you want a virgin, go for her. But on the long run if you can't find one, pls dont marry a nonvirgin then start frustrating her with your excuse of "she doesn't deserve loyalty" because you didn't marry her as a virgin.

the Lord and Allah said remain chaste till you marry but you say no.

I have nothing against anyone who chose to be wayward, and I understand you perfectly but I'm one of those who value good morals to a fault.

in an event that I married a non virgin, who's gonna train my young daughters the right way when the mother is already messed up and rotten at an early age??

Petyprincess:
I never got worked up because it's their choice! Bt i wonder why guys get worked up when we prefer rich guys?

Because you will still want something else after getting the rich guy.

MrBrownJay1:


sadly, many are quick to want virgins after they have gone and bedded the whole neighborhood. lol, how funny!
these insecure men have no basis for demanding for virgins... and thats probably why the majority end up with virgin village girls.

She used the word deserve. That means she (and you if you support her statement) value virginity in someway.

this is in contrast to your earlier statement shaming someone for thinking a virgin is better than a non virgin.

One's values and priorities are one's business.

I remember some time ago, I only wanted to marry a virgin because I was a virgin myself.
but with all the kind of Girls I have come into contact with over 200 girls. I have come to a conclusion; they are all stupid.
well everyone is stupid, the question is who exposed your stupidity?

Gerrard59:
And BTW, I don't see anything wrong with a man desiring a virgin as I cringe when I imagine people irrespective of genders having several sexual intercourses with different people. What I find odd and hypocritical is when the person who wants a virgin lady has a community pen!s and doesn't have money.

Nawa o. This is too harsh.

Amberon11:
If you don't hold the same sentiments towards the men who do same then you my dear are a specimen of abysmally low IQ.

Ndi abyssmal. Advise the ladies to drop the unrealistic expectations from would-be suitors. Our demand for virgins-only relationship stemmed from the ladies' inordinate checklist. As long as you are looking for 9 inches di*k/ 1hr minimum performance, 6 packs, 7 figure paycheck and good height, then our own very modest response to those bogus demands will remain virgin brides only. If you imply that finding virgin brides is unrealistic, then finding a man with all those avalanche of qualities bandied about by ladies is just as unrealistic.

oyatz:
You analogy is wrong and syllogically defective.
1) Being a virgin and having good characters are NOT mutually exclusive.As a matter of fact, virgins these days are resilient ladies who can withstand peer pressure, greediness of most women and are likely to be more faithful.

your 1st mistake on this issue is to believe that virgins are likely to be more faithful. just because a woman is a virgin does not relate in any way whatsoever on her character as a faithful person. many virgins out there have 3/4/5 boyfriends and just because they reserve their coochie to the one willing to go all the way and marry them, certainly NOT make them faithful people.

2) The decision to chose a life partner is about SELF INTEREST. I am surprised that you don't understand this. Everybody consider their self interests first. For some ladies, it's rich, handsome single men, even if such ladies are ugly and broke ladies.It's the same reasons that even a single mother will still be hoping for an unmarried ,rich, educated and tall guys and will quickly turn down marriage proposals to be the third wives of some fifty year old Alhajis or butchers.It's also the same reason why even bad people also desire good things to happen to them.

you 2nd mistake is to believe that self interest are ALL THE SAME. sadly, some people's interest for a partner could be greed, while others could be LOW SELF ESTEEM and INSECURITY.

3) Non-virgin are not necessarily bad but they don't have the specification that some men want.

your 3rd mistake is to believe that i am looking down on people's specs. again, thats not the issue... as i said earlier: many men seek virgins for different reason, and the majority is due to low self esteem/insecurity that will automatically make them see non virgins as lacking in some ways. go figure!

4) Non-virgins can NOT give you the once in a lifetime experience of defloweing your bride on your wedding day and beat your chest with pride before your friends and family that ' no man has ever known my wife before me'

your last mistake is to describe exactly what i have been talking about all through this thread: LOW SELF ESTEEM/INSECURITY. bwaaaaaaah! if any man needs to beat his chest with pride (to whomever) that no man has ever known the woman that you supposedly love and want to share the rest of your life with, then LOW SELF ESTEEM/INSECURE man you are. duh!

monex:
She used the word deserve. That means she (and you if you support her statement) value virginity in someway.

this is in contrast to your earlier statement shaming someone for thinking a virgin is better than a non virgin.

One's values and priorities are one's business.

and she is right...if you are not a virgin you dont deserve to be seeking for virgin.. as you dont abide by such way of life. so you are sexually reckless but then believe you deserve to be with women who aint?!?!?

oyatz:
Reverse Psychology.
This is like someone who rides a very rustic 4th hand car berating those who buy new cars (tear rubber) as been insecured and inexperienced in riding cars.

a better analogy would have been to say: this is like someone having fukced all your daughters and now claiming that they aint no good because they are not virgins.... and now seeking for virgins to marry, as if they are any better than your daughters.

Nairaboi:

I beg to disagree with this myopic opinion of "low self esteem", and it also portrays you support the moral decay in the society. How can a woman who God created a virgin decide to become a public farmtool. How do you know a male virgin, and how is the female virgin identified? Our mothers were married as virgins and they knew no man till they met their husbands.
You can expect us to be swayed by women who have collected different sizes of dicks both from their Vagina's and annals and some even suck diccks like their life depends on it. Modern ladies who are pornstars without a movie. . .

i am not in support on anything here but common sense. we are not here to judge anybody who want to have sex before marriage (stop trying to turn this thread in some religious gibberish nonsense), but we are just saying that: if anyone believes that there is nothing wrong with premarital sex (and fukcs virgins left right and center) then that person has absolutely NO BUSINESS looking for virgins to marry.

oyatz:
A chronic womanizer stand a better chance to marry a virgin bride than a good/responsible gentleman.

A bad guy/womanizer by dating so many women in the past has become an expert in women affairs (equivalent to a professor in the Universities or a General in the Army). He knows what women want to hear (mostly lies), feel and like.

Such men can easily find their ways to the pants of lawyers, policewomen, doctors, wives of Kings, Governors or even President if they have the opportunities.

... and your pointt is?! any man who knows anything about women would understand that you have more chances in finding a gem with a woman who knows herself sexually than taking a gamble and marrying a possible wood plank (aka sexually incompatible person) that doesnt know herself sexually.

PerfectMaster:
An insecure man wants a Lady that is more experienced then he is, to cover for is inadequacy.
As a man I dont need a woman's sexual experience, it is useless to me. I am not saying non virgins should be totally discarded but All things being equal a virgin should be the first choice of any sane man.

the above in bold shows your low self esteem/insecurity.... the above in RED pinpoints exactly how lost you are if you believe that virginity should be above the character of any woman you choose in life. i guess in your world, you'd rather be with the wrong woman so long as she is a virgin than the RIGHT non virgin woman. sad indeed!

PerfectMaster:
All things being equal a virgin is more preferable because she can easily be pleased by her man.

ARRANT NONSENSE MISCONCEPTION NUMBER ONE
the fact that you believe that you INABILITIES in the bedroom can be hidden thanks to the fact that a woman is a virgin, is your 1st mistake of the day and show your LOW SELF ESTEEM/INSECURITIES. the same way you need to satisfy a non virgins, thats what you will need to do with the virgins. yes, the 1st day you will feel like you have the biggest cokc and/or bedroom game on earth but unless you step up your game, you are fukced in the long run. some women become nymphos the minute they taste dikc, other have unusual desire the minute you penetrate them, and no matter how long you try to keep them away from it, the more foolish you are. most women know what time it is in the bedroom, whether virgin or not.

A non virgin are likely to be more unfaithful than a virgin.

ARRANT NONSENSE MISCONCEPTION NUMBER TWO
so you actually believe that a virgin who has 5 boyfriends will suddenly become faithful the day you are the lucky one who proposes marriage to her? really?! your LOW SELF ESTEEM/INSECURITIES makes you believe that because a woman has tasted a dikc before, she will cheat on you if you cant perform in the bedroom. how sad!!!!! educate yourself on SEXUAL SATISFACTION or grow a pair kiddo!

HRHQueenPhil:
U sound like a virgin
I av never met one. virgin man..so funny

Frankly I'm one

Any man who desires to marry a virgin is a hypocrite, especially if he's a community preeq. You can't be drilling someone's future wife without remorse and expect to have a happy marriage just because you married a virgin. Karma always has a way of dealing with people who think they are too smart.

Sixfeetbelle:
Any man who desires to marry a virgin is a hypocrite, especially if he's a community preeq. You can't be drilling someone's future wife without remorse and expect to have a happy marriage just because you married a virgin. Karma always has a way of dealing with people who think they are too smart.

marrying a virgin has alot of advantages and on the contrary, marrying a non virgin is so so risky with unpredictable consequences

Au79:

marrying a virgin has alot of advantages and on the contrary, marrying a non virgin is so so risky with unpredictable consequences

Men who are community preeqs don't deserve virgins. Karma will find them eventually.

Sixfeetbelle:


Men who are community preeqs don't deserve virgins. Karma will find them eventually.

well you are not incorrect but unfortunately, life doesnt work that way as its the community preeqs that most times end up marrying virgins

Au79:

well you are not incorrect but unfortunately, life doesnt work that way as its the community preeqs that most times end up marrying virgins

Life do work that way. Do you know any of them that have a peaceful marriage now?

Thing is a community preeq will not enjoy being tied to one woman, especially one that isn't as orientated as his usual, so he will most definitely cheat on her. A virgin can't be one forever. Surely, she'll started hearing sexual things that she's never tried before and may wish to experience it. She won't tell her husband cause she's supposed to be 'holy'. Eventually, another guy might taste her honeypot.

Don't mind people that think virgins are the best thing after heaven. Most of them don't deserve it and will end up ruining a girl's life because of their selfishness.

Chi59:

honestly the way these virgin hunters on nairaland keep emphasising in virgin, you'd think they have some ulterior motive. In this era of money rituals, one gat to shine eyes wella. Virgin ko, Virginia ni.

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pocohantas:


Nawa o. This is too harsh.

I find it ironic when nairaland mistress of evil shows empathy for harsh words said to men.

From my observations you've said more harsh words to men here than the person you quoted.

Anyways, I'll take your post as a sarcastic one.

kestolove95:
D kind shakara wey I dey use my virginity do en, its for my future husband nd I never meet am sef

See this pregnant woman

See what I meant? Why are they disturbed because some men prefer Virgins? Maybe because of envy

21cents:


the Lord and Allah said remain chaste till you marry but you say no.

I have nothing against anyone who chose to be wayward, and I understand you perfectly but I'm one of those who value good morals to a fault.

in an event that I married a non virgin, who's gonna train my young daughters the right way when the mother is already messed up and rotten at an early age??

probably you didn't understood what I typed. Shalom

Why the king archetypes of men should marry virgins. Simping men can go for whatever they want, that's non of the king's businesss.

Be shouting low self esteem there.

PerfectMaster:
They want a tall man, they want a well to do man, they want a fair or dark man etc they all have their spec but when a man says he want a virgin they rant and begin to curse.

If a virgin man should marry a virgin woman then a tall woman should marry a tall guy same goes for anyother expectations.

Inconclusion, everyone has their preference and their choice should be respected. As a guy I prefer a virgin for various reason and I dont need to be a virgin, same for a woman. If she prefers a virgin man even when she is not a virgin, it is her choice.

Any man who prefers a virgin should also be one.